Bad as it gets Childress

This is the worst attachment pathology possible. Think about it, what’s worse that a complete severing of a child’s attachment bond to their mother or father.
That’s as bad as it gets. In terms of attachment, there is nothing worse than a complete severing of the child’s bond to a mother or father.
The attachment system is a primary motivational system of the brain. The attachment system governs all aspects of love and bonding throughout the lifespan, including grief and loss.
This is the worst attachment pathology possible in the love-and-bonding system of the brain – during childhood – during the period when the child’s attachment networks are forming their patterns for love-and-bonding throughout the lifespan.
Childhood is NOT the time we want to see the WORST attachment pathology possible in a child.
We need to fix it.
We need to repair and restore the damaged attachment bond. We need a treatment plan. A written treatment plan. Google mental health treatment plan and read the first two entries. That. One of those.
So standard of practice it returns on a simple google search – Goals, Interventions, Outcome Measures, Time-Frames for benchmark progress and goal accomplishment.
We need a written treatment plan. For that we need a diagnosis. The treatment for cancer is different than the treatment for diabetes; diagnosis guides treatment.
For a diagnosis, we need an assessment. That’s where it starts.
The other party will not want or allow an assessment, they’re called a “barrier to treatment.” Then we will need a court order for the assessment.
Either a court order for the assessment specifically, or a court order granting the targeted parent the sole right of informed consent for treatment (e.g., legal custody decision-making for mental health care).
Three steps; assessment leads to diagnosis, and diagnosis guides treatment. Think healthcare, same thing, mental health care. The framework is; assessment, diagnosis, treatment.
Then we add three words. One to each stepping stone.
We want an appropriate assessment, that leads to an accurate diagnosis, so we can develop an effective treatment plan.
Then, at each phase, at each step, we unpack each of those three words – appropriate, accurate, effective.
An appropriate assessment can be defined in two ways;
a trauma-informed clinical psychology assessment of the child’s attachment pathology.
a risk assessment for child psychological abuse.
You, as parents, don’t need to know any more than that. It’s up to the mental health professionals to figure it out from there. That’s their job.
Yet I will explain it to you so you’ll understand. Knowledge empowers you into an informed consumer of mental health services for you and for your child.
trauma-informed: this means the application of information sets from trauma, these are the shared persecutory delusion and personality pathology (of unresolved trauma origin).
clinical psychology: this means treatment not custody – child custody is forensic psychology – we don’t want that. We want treatment, we need a written treatment plan, we need to fix things, that’s clinical psychology.
child’s attachment pathology: this keeps the focus on the child’s symptoms and applies the information sets from attachment (along with the trauma sets).
On the risk assessment for child psychological abuse, that’s an assessment for a shared persecutory delusion; ICD-10 F24. Creating a persecutory delusion in a child that then destroys the child’s attachment bond to the other parent is child psychological abuse.
There are four diagnoses of child abuse in the Child Maltreatment section of the DSM-5 (the diagnostic system of the American Psychiatric Association); Child Physical Abuse (V995.54), Child Sexual Abuse (V995.53), Child Neglect (V995.52), Child Psychological Abuse (V995.51).
All of these child abuse diagnoses in the DSM-5 are equal in the severity of damage done to the child, they differ only in the type of damage done, not in the severity of the damage done to the child.
Psychological child abuse is devastating. It destroys the child from the inside-out.
The first word is appropriate – the second one is accurate – we want an appropriate assessment for psychological child abuse; i.e., for a shared persecutory delusion – a thought disorder pathology (in the allied parent).
The clinical assessment for a delusional pathology, a thought disorder, is called a Mental Status Exam of thought and perception.
Google Mental Status Exam and read the NCBI return, Chapter 207 of Clinical Methods. Scroll down to the section on Thought and Perception. See that? See how it says that’s the Mental Status Exam for thought disorders and delusions? That’s the “appropriate” risk assessment for child psychological abuse.
But you don’t have to know any of that (know it anyway), that’s their job – see those little letters after their name, that’s what those mean. It means they are the professional, which means they’re supposed to know what to do.
You hold on to a written treatment plan and don’t let go. For that you need a diagnosis. For that you need an assessment.
You need an appropriate assessment, that leads to an accurate diagnosis, so we can develop an effective written treatment plan.
We need to fix this. This is “anorexia” of the attachment system, the worst possible pathology in a primary motivational system of the brain, the love-and-bonding system. We need to fix it. We need at treatment plan, a written treatment plan.
With Goals, Interventions, Outcome Measures, and Time-Frames – google mental health treatment plan – that, one of those.
Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857

I cut my ex out of our daughter’s life: Now I’m glad he fought to see her | Daily Mail Online

Ruby nearly didn’t have a daddy. For the first two-and-a-half years of her life, I did everything I could to scupper her relationship with her father.
— Read on www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2529272/I-cut-ex-daughters-life-Now-Im-glad-fought-tooth-nail-her.html

The Smear Campaigns of the Narcissist

Rocking this , I am the abuser, whore, unworthy snake

and he is long suffering victim .. Family and friends supporting

him, have heard the lies , enjoyed his favor , in black and white

that has been fabricated …like a spiral it just gathers momentum

the shaming and blaming , sick punishment as the gloating pride

often laughing at the win ,the power, the control, often stating

the blame was mine ..

Flying Monkeys , His Monkeys encourage attacks , by all around

him, in his circus towards his target .

I stepped out of this energetic , business and liberating our family

and generations of Domestic & Child Abuse . WE are many …mighty

and Divinely Guided …🙏🥰💗

Come to think of it , I’m no damn Domestic

#IntimatePartnerViolence/ChildAbuse

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Blessings & Peace ,

DonaLuna

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Pain Relief

Guidance suggested this frequency for pain, 174 HZ

Guidance through a musician , Christopher , suggested

HZ , which became my white noise, which has lulled

me to sleep off and on through my life .

I prefer the sounds of nature , but have had extended

periods that required white noise , as I have cassettes,

CDs , and books on sleep.. I totally made my bedroom

a statuary dedicated to comfortable sleep 💤..

Tested , even in my relocation to my mountain , as I’m

currently in an apartment , with much interference

on many levels , but I still manage to balance out here.

Remnants of too many test , currently my spleen and

pancreas , have left me depleted .. I do what I can ,

so currently , I’m nesting on my own , infrequently

popping out and totally enjoying myself ..the next day I

Self nurture ..

Part of this , thanks to Christopher’s suggestion , is HZ

frequency …and then yesterday , 174 HZ for pain releif .

I have provided only one as an example ; there are many

choices ..

Strongly suggest a trail, perhaps an elder could benefit

or a child in distress or you … 🎁✊♐️😍

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Blessings & Peace ,

Doña Luna

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Childress: Absence Of Parental Empathy Profoundly Damages Child 💯🤓🙏🏼

The absence of parental empathy is profoundly damaging for the child.

A damaged and manipulative parent turns the child into a weapon of revenge against the other spouse. This severely damages the child. It’s psychological child abuse.

The manipulation is strong. The court, therapists… the other parent, all focus on the child. This is spousal abuse, why is everyone looking at the weapon and not at the abuse?

The allied parent’s manipulations empower the child’s “voice” in the conflict – “we need to listen to the child’s voice” – it says. The child speaks false. Some believe the false, while others see the lie, but the conflict swirls around the child, the child is the focus, that’s the purpose, that’s the lie, make the child a battlefield.

When the lie is placed in the child, the parents battle – using the child – for the truth or the lie, one parent seeks the truth from the child, the other parent seeks the lie.

The child is the battlefield.

No one stops. Both “sides” are trying to win. For the targeted parent, it is literally a matter of life and death, if they lose, they lose the child, they become “dead” to their child. Naturally they will fight for their child… which is what the pathogen wants… the child is the battlefield.

A masterful manipulation. The court… focuses on the child. The custody evaluator, focuses on the child. The reunification therapist, focuses on the child. The targeted parent… fights for the child. The focus is on the child.

The child is the battlefield. A masterful manipulation.

We must not allow the lie to make the child a battlefield.

I know targeted parents want to “fight” for the child – but our “weapon” is empathy, authentic empathy, for the child’s self-authenticity, this will release the child from the manipulation and the lie. The directional flow of love is from parent to child, not the other way.

The current flow of love from child to parent is surface bumpy right now, but solid, I’m not worried about that direction. Easy to fix what’s on display from that direction.

I know what the child is saying and doing. None of that is true. It’s easy to find the flow of love from the child to the parent, the one we want is from parent to child.

I’m not going to make the child a battlefield over the manipulation. I’m not going to play, pathogen. Different game. Called empathy, authentic empathy.

We recover by finding, not by fighting.

Not your fault, parents. You’re supposed to have family therapists supporting you in all of this, and all of this should be getting fixed by the mental health people in six months, all done, all fixed.

We’re failing you. Professional psychology is failing you and your children.

I am very-very cross with my professional colleagues for not fixing this. We will get you the help and support you need to unlock the manipulation and unlock the lie.

You’re trying to do it on your own, and it is a masterful manipulation based on many subtle lies. It is entrapping you into fighting (defending), and it is entrapping everyone into a focus on the child.

This is not about the child, it’s about the targeted parent. This is IPV spousal abuse of the ex-spouse targeted parent by the allied parent, using the child as the weapon. The child is not the focus, the child is the weapon.

The target is… the targeted parent, targeted for severe and savage emotional abuse by the ex-spouse/allied parent, using the child as the weapon.

Our focus needs to be off the lie that is being placed into the child, and our true vision must see the authentic child, that vision is called our authentic empathy.

The pathogen in the other parent knows your triggers, knows how to activate you into fighting. It puts those triggers into the child. You respond, you fight… with your ex-… in your child… your child is the battlefield.

It is a manipulation of you. Masterful manipulation. The triggers are so embedded, and so available. Alter your triggers.

The pathogen knows where your buttons are, your ex- knows exactly what to export into the child to push those buttons, and trigger the spousal fight through the child, the child becomes the battlefield.

Shift those buttons. Lose them, hide them, make them go away… because currently, your ex- knows exactly what those triggers are. Please stop being triggered.

How?

Exactly. That is exactly the right question that will put you exactly on the proper path.

When you alter how you show up… it changes the corresponding puzzle-piece of your child, change the other by changing me, changing how I show up for my child.

Fears. It’s all born in fears, this is a trauma pathology, and trauma is a pathology of fear, unresolved fear seeking to protect itself against the enemy. Trauma is a fear-oriented brain.

Healthy is an attachment, reaching out, bonding brain. It is a relaxed brain that allows others close, and bonds easily.

Fear destroys that, and it feeds itself. We need one of you, the child or the parent, to find and remain outside fear and in the healthy brain of attachment, reaching out, and bonding.

You’re the parent, that’s you. That’s your responsibility, not the child’s, the child’s a child, you’re the grown-up, that’s you, you’re the chosen parent. I want you to find your healthy place of relaxed.

You’re child is easy to recover. It’s you that’s hard. You’re made afraid by the manipulation, all your proper buttons have been pushed in you by your ex-… using the child.

The battlefield is a lie, it’s not real. You make it real because you believe it. The child loves you bunches and bunches, I know what the child’s saying, it’s not true, it’s the lie. And you believe that? No, don’t believe the lie.

Stay here, in reality. Your child loves you bunches, your ex- is pushing your buttons using the child. Why are you letting them do that? Please stop letting them do that. Move your buttons, make them go away, paint them different colors, something.

Because your ex- knows right where they are and is using your buttons to manipulate you using the child.

Children are not a battlefield. They are children. Don’t be triggered into your fears, stay grounded in your relaxed place of empathy, authentic empathy for the child’s experience.

You’ll hear much of Dorcy’s language in my descriptions. There are resources available to help in the reorientation to empathy, and away from the lie. She’ll help you find those resources.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857

Father’s Speak out

Our page has been getting a lot of shares and likes. This demonstrates how prevalent the injustices are against men. We are not alone, though often it is too late for us fathers already fiscally victimized by the court system that uses our children as leverage. Which is why our focus is informing our fellow fathers so they may better inform their own sons to protect themselves against the pitfalls of marriage (which is and should be actually a good thing-family-love-mutually supporting partnership-ordained by God). This includes advocating that young men do not enter marriage with women (who initiate 70-90% of divorce) without them putting their fairy tale expectation based vows to paper- contractually. Seek out legal counsel in your state to find out how to draw up a prenuptial that will protect both parties. Yes, contrary to faux feminist propagated stigma, they protect both parties.

Ontario psychologist used ‘obsolete’ tests in expert opinion calling for parents to lose their kids, judge says | The Star

More finite test do exist, making for a teachable

experience …Sharing with Childress who can and will

make contact with valid proof .

The Star is highlighting cases that reveal problems with parenting capacity assessments, expert reports that can be influential in causing Ontario parents to permanently lose their children to adoption.
— Read on www.thestar.com/news/gta/2019/08/15/ontario-psychologist-used-obsolete-tests-in-expert-opinion-calling-for-parents-to-lose-their-kids-judge-says.html