Whenever someone acts cruelly, make a point to do something nice for yourself to neutralize it.
They’re giving you the silent treatment? Instead of waiting by your phone with a white-knuckle grip, make plans with friends, go see a movie, take a daycay, visit a family member, or go to the zoo.
Did they suddenly stop love-bombing you and went cold? So what? You can love-bomb yourself. Take yourself to a fancy dinner and order a glass of champagne. Deliver flowers to yourself. Take yourself to the salon and get your hair styled the way you like it.
Do they want you to feel small and ashamed? Instead of cowering under their glare or giving them the satisfaction, give them the ultimate Rhianna look of disgust. Look them in the eye and say, “And??”
These are all things I’ve done in past toxic relationships when I stopped jumping through hoops, auditioning for approval, and trying to make someone see how special I was.
But do you know what the ultimate power move is? Leaving. Cutting the anchor and sailing away.
It might not happen the same day or overnight, but it’s time to stop sacrificing your dignity for someone who doesn’t even deserve your attention.
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Always thinking of you,