Choose YOU

Whenever someone acts cruelly, make a point to do something nice for yourself to neutralize it.

They’re giving you the silent treatment? Instead of waiting by your phone with a white-knuckle grip, make plans with friends, go see a movie, take a daycay, visit a family member, or go to the zoo.

Did they suddenly stop love-bombing you and went cold? So what? You can love-bomb yourself. Take yourself to a fancy dinner and order a glass of champagne. Deliver flowers to yourself. Take yourself to the salon and get your hair styled the way you like it.

Do they want you to feel small and ashamed? Instead of cowering under their glare or giving them the satisfaction, give them the ultimate Rhianna look of disgust. Look them in the eye and say, “And??”

These are all things I’ve done in past toxic relationships when I stopped jumping through hoops, auditioning for approval, and trying to make someone see how special I was.

But do you know what the ultimate power move is? Leaving. Cutting the anchor and sailing away.

It might not happen the same day or overnight, but it’s time to stop sacrificing your dignity for someone who doesn’t even deserve your attention.

Choose YOU.

* ੈ✩‧ ₊✧ ゚.١٠˖⁺。˚⋆˙⋆。°✩

If you’re struggling with a relationship that’s making you sick, both physically and spiritually, the THRIVE program can help.

The true beauty of THRIVE is that it can be completed whether or not you’ve detached from toxic relationships. You may even reach a point where you are no longer terrified by the prospect of leaving your abusive or toxic relationships for good.

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Always thinking of you,

Kim xo

By your side meditation

By Your Side

Elder’s Meditation of the Day ~ May 9

“Without a sacred center, no one knows right from wrong.”

—- Thomas Yellowtail, CROW

In the center of the circle is where the powers reside. These powers are called love, principle, justice, spiritual knowledge, life, forgiveness and truth. All these powers reside in the very center of the human being. We access these powers by being still, quieting the mind. If we get confused, emotionally upset, feel resentment, anger, or fear, the best thing we can do is pray to the Great Spirit and ask Him to remove the anger and resentment. By asking Him to remove these obstacles, we are automatically positioned in the sacred center. Only in this way do we know right from wrong.

Great Spirit, Allow Me This Day To Live In The Sacred Center….

© Don L. Coyhis – Th Four Seasons

Healthy Holy Man


You will be confused, at first it will seem selfless or not very intense. You would think there’s something off about him, or that you’re not the center of his attention.

When a sane man comes to you, he’s not going to put you in a state of delirium and demand, he won’t demand attention and he won’t harass and control you.

When you attract a healthy man, they will have some things in common, but he’s not going to make the effort to love you and be nice all the time, he’s going to show for himself.

When a healthy man comes to you, he shares his peace and calm with you, he includes you in his life without training you and he respects your time.

He will show you who he is instantly, the masks won’t come off after a few months that will confuse you.

He will not waste space, he will listen to your silences and know your cycles.

When you attract a healthy man, only then will you know you’ve broken the repetitive pattern of attracting toxicity and violence, and you’ll know you’ve healed what was broken inside you.

Wish you all the things you deserve.

Protect your energy

I wasn’t really aware until 2005/6, and I understand the need the need to block energy vampires and I try not to be one .

I’m not as susceptible to being high jacked energetically, and refuse to have a suspicious mind. I do choose to stay in quite a bit , for this reason, and most of the time that’s ok✌️🐸

Before you sleep tonight

The Cosmic Dancer

Before you sleep tonight,

Consider all

the night-blooming flowers

opening this moment

before the moon.

Consider all the owls

leaping off their branches

to fly on silent wings

into the night.

Consider the earthen majesty

of the combined dreams

of the forest.

Consider the light exchanged

between the stars

in their great web

of the night.

Consider the sentience

within each living thing~

everything alive

with reverence.

Consider the ancient temple

of the hills

and the monks

that are the mountains

donning their silhouetted robes

to hold vigil for you

each night.

Consider all

the god inside of you tends to

while you sleep

with such tenderness

and incredible intelligence~

organizing your whole

inner life,

soothing its edges,

doing all it might

to make you more

hospitable to love.

Consider, the whirlers

up all night to dance

their prayers

while the dervish planets

do the same.

Let the lullaby of the worldwide

chorus of crickets

wrap itself around you tonight.

Be held

by the blanket of stars.

Sleep well, my dear.

All existence is spun of magic

and you are outside

of nothing.

Receive all the blessings this earth

is perpetually trying to give you

And rest soundly

on a deep bed

of awe

and thanks.

~ Chelan Harkin

[Art: Tijana Lukovic @tijanadraws

Lesson Learned

Someone once said “you like taking care of others bc it heals the part of you that needed someone to take care of you”
that hit..

Seems I’ve known that all my life and I was in error believing that certain people “cared “ for me . I didn’t need hoards of folks caring , just authentic folks who did . Thankfully , I keep my faith , despite feeling at times the shadow was winning . Even as a drug induced mental patient , a part of me knew the truth, that it was the toxic RX and even not having a name for it then, trauma was the root of my sadness .

It was a true Blessing , to learn the facts , reading 13 years of medical charts from the psychiatrist, and the damage done , but ignored . As I learned about parental alienation/ child psychology abuse , along with council from Carole Carbone , who certified me as an Intuitive Councilor, I nurtured/ parented myself , and forgiveness and grief for myself transformed my whole life .

Our children don’t accept this , there is no forgiveness , no future , no healing , just the same old past energy . I regret this for their soul growth , Thank them for coming through me , and allowing me to know love deeply , wholly , for the brief time we had .

My efforts , to heal myself , to greet each day with joy , have actualities , and though I may have challenges currently , I am moving through each one , with support , both Divinely higher powered and with Earth Angels that amaze me with sincerity that’s enough .

More challenges may arise , but I will greet them and surmount them and invest in reciprocal efforts in cooperation and trust towards friendships etc .

I pray for each of you to rise to your highest potential, to not let anyone or anything to retard your soul growth , as you let self love ( from inside out ) return you to your place of joy and peace within that love ❤️

Blessings & Peace,

Dona Luna 🐸✌️🙏🏼

Never Going Down Again

WOW this song was mentioned and I knew immediately that it would sing my heart and I was not disappointed!

I don’t feel further explanations are necessary but I know it’s my mantra on so many levels !!

Fleetwood Mac

– Never Going Down Again