Unmourned Loss

Our problem is not that as children our needs were unmet, but that, as adults, they are still unmourned. In fact, neediness itself tells us nothing about how much we need from others; it tells us how much we need to grieve the irrevocably barren past and evoke our own inner source of nurturance. What was missed can never be made up for, only mourned and let go of. We are grieving the irretrievable aspect of what we lost and the irreplaceable aspect of what we missed. Only these two realizations led to resolution of grief because only these acknowledge, without denial, how truly bereft we were or are. From the pit of this deep admission that something is irrevocably over and gone we finally stand clear of the insatiable need to find it again from our parents or partner. To have sought it was to have denied how utter was its absence.

~ David Richo

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This is the way ; ascension news

“Equinox Gateway Activation”

By Samantha Orthlieb

(Senses of the Soul)

We are in the throes of the Equinox Gateway this week – until March 22 – in which we are processing our deepest wounds. Any wound that has kept us small, inauthentic, without creative expression or inability to sing our own unique song is being intensely cleared and healed.

Prepare to be reborn through

the Equinox Gateway!

Overall there is intense soul expansion to increase the flow of creativity and artistic expression, while reducing the fear and anxiety of expressing ourselves. Our soulful evolution to live our Divine Blueprint purpose is asking us to take risks and put ourselves in touch with our heart’s yearnings.

While the sun has calmed down in terms of acute solar flares that provide coding and support our Ascension process, today an “EXTREMELY RARE” CME flew away from the farside of the sun. Its high velocity appears to put it in the category of “Extremely Rare,” a decade-class event.

The explosion was so powerful, it peppered Earth with energetic particles, even though the CME was not Earth-directed. This powerful energy blast of protons will most certainly assist and amplify this intense healing gateway that we are now in. (spaceweather)

Add to this that we are moving into Eclipse season in April/May, which are portals to new timelines – so many will start to see movement towards changes in destiny or next steps – this may come in the form of shifts in relationships, jobs, financial status and/or projects moving forward or completing.

This is a potent time of inner transformation and self actualization; however, you may also be experiencing uncomfortable Ascension symptoms and feel like you are Icarus – flying too close to the sun, so to speak! Please know that in this time of acceleration of planetary and individual consciousness, your wings have no limitations but are getting a tad bit singed as you find your footing and equilibrium. So it may feel exhilarating but also terrifying!

It’s important to continue to make space to feel and heal, as your neural pathways are rewiring for expansion and greater comprehension of your place in the Whole. This quickening of your soul’s evolution may or may not be obvious to you at this point, however, anything you are struggling with the most right now is the key, and needs to be completed so that you can be empowered to fulfil your divine purpose in this lifetime.

This is the area that brings you the most growth and is tied to your deepest wounding. This could include relationships, jobs, attitudes and belief systems. Further clarity will be revealed to you if you are unclear and take the time to listen; trust that Spirit will support you with what is needed, in divine timing.

This is not a time to hold onto anything, now matter how much you believed that you needed it, in letting go you will gain more than you ever thought possible, opening to fresh blessings and a life that is lived creatively with a purpose, through your empowered heart.

In service and divine liberation,

Samantha 💜💕💫✨🌀

Full March Ascension Energies Update: https://sensesofthesoul.ca/…/march-2023-creating-with-a…

Cosmic Date Reminders:

March 20 – Equinox @ 1:25 pm PST

March 21 – New Moon in Aries @9:23am PST

Divorcing a Narcissist

Ex and 2 lawyers created our divorce ; I’d have like to have been awake and aware . No idea what I charged him with , abuse, abandonment, neglect etc ? But these 3 men changed it to ” no fault ” and I was responsible for my health care and legal fees .

The manipulation of my income including the cost of preparing our home for market ( after several years of our youngest living there in order to graduate high school ) the division of the 401k and division of home furnishings (he made those decisions , which meant I got what he didn’t want ) as I faltered in 2004 finding my cobra serve was ending and having just bought a house that needed more improvement than I could afford .

Of course I was mad to begin waking up to discover how he had played the victim instead of the truth that he lives a very miserable and distorted life and I nor anyone else is responsible for his happiness or growth .

The worst crime and abuse was committed in regards to our sons and then grandchildren.

Payback or Karma is clearing this decades old injustice .

Truth & Light restores the balance seized by a tormented soul I released long ago and upon completing old business it’s truly over . Equality and restoration of my name and character which he tried to destroy

It is mental, physical , financial and spiritual abuse which he prefers to continue to infinity.

It’s over

Forgiving – PAS/Child Psychology Abuse

Forgiveness involves learning to let go, and that is of great benefit to you. Forgiveness helps you to focus on your happiness and the good things in life. It is a decision you can make – replacing ill will with good-will. While you may have envisaged revenge or ‘an eye for an eye’ (which leaves everyone blind as the saying goes), you can make a choice to find peace of mind instead. This is decisional forgiveness. On an even deeper level, and harder to achieve, there’s emotional forgiveness. That’s when you’ve completely moved away from thinking about the person/people who have done you wrong. You no longer hold any negative feelings or dwell on the offence, hurt and harm inflicted. Reaching this stage takes time, but it is immensely beneficial to your health and well-being. It reduces the self-pity and ‘victimhood’ mentality, and eventually, this can disappear completely. It liberates you from being triggered or stuck in a cycle of grief and anger. How to achieve this? Try visualising that person (this might not be pleasant or easy at first) and understand why they did what they did. Time and distance make it a little easier to be objective. Feel the feelings that come up. Don’t suppress them. Why did they do this thing? Would they have done this to anyone they were with (it’s not about you)? So this is their problem, and they will continue having this problem long after you’ve moved on and let it go. Can you see the place of fear they’re coming from? Remember, somebody else’s decision to hurt you was not your fault. Have you ever behaved poorly and upset/offended/wilfully or inadvertently harmed someone else yourself? Have you forgiven yourself? Were you forgiven? It could be you behaved poorly when you didn’t know better at the time. You may have behaved the way you did, said, felt and done what you did back then because you had given away your power, and you were just trying to survive and cope the best you could. You didn’t know how much harm or hurt it would cause. Forgive yourself. Forgive others who have done the same thing. Stick with this, it’s not easy. It’s not to forget. We might never truly understand why why they did what they did. We can’t erase what’s happened, or minimise it. Nor do we want these people back in our lives. We don’t forgive to help the other person who hurt us, but we do it to heal our own wounds. Forgiveness is really for us. What we can do is reframe our thinking about the harm caused, and our reaction to it going forwards. The other person doesn’t have to be present. Think it, feel it, or write it down, and let it go. Burn the paper and see it go up in smoke. Imagine it’s gone from your life. Now here comes the really tough bit. Send love to your persecutor. There’s logic to this. Imagine how good things would be if they felt love not fear, and were not constantly at war with life and with you. Imagine how much easier life would be for your child if the alienating parent knew how to love – themselves and others. How much easier would life be. People in pain often cause pain to others. Send them love because if they are healed, the alienating behaviours will dissipate. They’ll no longer feel anger and fear and vengeance, if they’re actually happy and full of love. Imagine that. They may never apologize, or admit to their wrongdoing, they may never be happy and have good relationships, but that is no longer your problem once you let go of the hold they’ve had over you, the grief and anger you’ve been holding onto because of the injustice and harm they caused. Practice forgiveness anyway for your own sake.

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Deprograming the Alienated Child

It is extremely difficult for the alienated child to accept that the trusted, favoured, ‘good’ and aligned parent, the one they chose over the ‘bad’ parent, the one they believed, the one they might have even lied for, and done everything they could to please, actually, in truth, had nothing but their own interests, (and vengeance) in mind. The betrayal and shock of this is so awful that it is easier for that child not to believe it. Not only that but it makes them feel so manipulated and gullible. In reality, coercive control is incredibly hard to combat and children believe their parent would never do anything to harm them. Parental alienation is harmful. It is abuse. So it is extremely hard for the child to believe this has been inflicted on them. But the acceptance is the first step in their healing, and de-programming. Undoing what might be years of lies and controlling behaviour. As a target parent, it is a minefield because mentioning parental alienation can insult and upset the child. So we have to tread carefully and be so conscious of their suffering (just as we have suffered too).

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You are more than pathology – Craig Childress PsyD

Don’t let the pathology consume you.

You are more than the pathology. You had a life. You have a life. You have a lifetime to come.

You are faced with a challenge. The other parent is pathological – problematic. The other parent is creating attachment pathology in the child toward you for advantages and secondary gain to the pathological parent.

You will need to lead your family into a post-divorce solution of a healthy and successful separated family structure. The child is giving you a problem because the child knows you can solve it. You’re the healthier parent.

The other parent is collapsing into their pathology. It is up to you to lead the family into a solution. You just need support. You want a written treatment plan to fix things.

The pathology wants to drive this into the legal system and make it about custody. You want to move this into the healthcare system and make it about treatment.

Then you must become an informed consumer of mental health services to effectively advocate for yourself and your child. Be kind, always be kind. Be relentless in protecting your child.

The pathogen will try everything it can to destabilize you. Remain in your center-place of confidence. Don’t trigger into your fears. Use your executive functions of linear-logical reasoning and planning ahead.

Shift the focus from custody to treatment, make the pathogen argue against treatment – this will expose it. You want a written treatment plan, for that you’ll need a diagnosis.

Understand the approach. Understand the diagnosis.

In all cases of severe attachment pathology surrounding court-involved custody conflict, a proper risk assessment for possible child abuse needs to be conducted to the appropriate differential diagnosis for each parent.

Patients should NEVER have to explain the pathology to the doctor… but you do. That is a highly concerning professional problem. We will be working to fix it.

The doctors should know as least as much as you do – more. They should know all about cross-generational coalitions and shared persecutory delusions, and they should be explaining the child abuse and spousal abuse pathology to you.

They’re not. You will need to navigate their ignorance.

You remain stable. You remain in your authenticity. You did nothing wrong. It’s not your fault. Bad people are doing bad things, we are going to make them stop.

Don’t let the pathology (problem) consume who you are. You have a challenge, there is a pathology in your family. It’s an attachment pathology, a problem in the love-and-bonding system of the brain. The source of the problem (pathology) is in the unresolved childhood trauma of the pathological (problematic) parent.

This is a pathology of lies. Everything about the pathology is a lie. It is a delusion – a false belief – a delusion is a fixed and false belief maintained despite contrary evidence. No amount of contrary evidence will ever change a delusion because that’s the definition of delusional.

The type of delusion (created in unresolved childhood trauma) is called a “persecutory delusion” – it is a fixed and false belief in supposed victimization.

The American Psychiatric Association provides the following definition of a persecutory delusion:

From the APA: “Persecutory Type: delusions that the person (or someone to whom the person is close) is being malevolently treated in some way.”

The differential diagnosis for severe attachment pathology is child abuse by one parent or the other;

Either the targeted parent is abusing the child, thereby creating the child’s attachment pathology toward that parent,

Or the allied parent is psychologically abusing the child by creating a shared persecutory delusion and false attachment pathology in the child.

One way or the other, the differential diagnosis for severe attachment pathology (i.e., a child rejecting a parent) is child abuse. The only question is, which parent?

In all cases of severe attachment pathology surrounding court-involved custody conflict, a proper risk assessment for possible child abuse needs to be conducted to the appropriate differential diagnosis for each parent.

You have a problem. You need to fix the problem. You need a written treatment plan to fix your problem. That requires a diagnosis. Diagnosis guides treatment. The treatment for cancer is different than the treatment for diabetes.

The treatment for child abuse by the targeted parent is different than the treatment of psychological child abuse by the allied parent. Is there a persecutory delusion present?

Does the child have a fixed and false belief that the child is being “malevolently treated in some way” by the parenting of the targeted parent? Does the allied parent share the child’s fixed and false belief that the child is being malevolently treated in some way by the parenting of the targeted parent?

Is there a shared persecutory delusion?

You don’t want an assessment (you do, but don’t start there). You want a treatment plan (google WikiHow mental health treatment plans). For a treatment plan you will need a diagnosis (diagnosis guides treatment). For a diagnosis, you will need a proper clinical diagnostic risk assessment for possible child abuse to the appropriate differential diagnosis for each parent.

Start with the written treatment plan and don’t let go of that. Hang on and don’t let them shake you loose from treatment – you want things fixed.

That ends with obtaining a proper risk assessment for the proper diagnostic issues of concern. Are you abusing your child? Is the other parent psychologically abusing the child? We need an accurate diagnosis to guide the development of an effective treatment plan.

If we treat cancer with insulin, the patient dies from the misdiagnosed and mistreated cancer.

You need support. You are the protective parent. The mental health professionals should be accurately diagnosing the pathology (problem). They should be providing you with support. They should be your allies in generating a solution – i.e., the successful treatment of the child’s attachment pathology toward a parent.

Diagnosis = identify
Pathology = problem
Treatment = fix it

You have a problem. There is a pathology in your family. It is an attachment pathology, a problem in love-and-bonding. You need to fix it. You want a written treatment plan to fix the problem (pathology) in your family.

The differential diagnoses of concern are:

1) Possible Child Psychological Abuse (DSM-5 V995,51) by the allied parent who is creating a shared persecutory delusion and false attachment pathology in the child,

2) Possible Spouse or Partner Abuse, Psychological (DSM-5 V995.82) of the targeted parent by the allied parent using the child as the weapon.

In all cases of severe attachment pathology surrounding court-involved custody conflict, a proper risk assessment for possible child abuse and possible spousal abuse using the child as the weapon needs to be conducted.

They have duty to protect obligations. They have competence requirements – Standards 2.01, 2.03, 2.04.

Don’t destabilize, don’t trigger into your fears and insecurities. You’re fine, you did nothing wrong. There is a pathology (problem) in your family surrounding love-and-bonding. You’ll need to fix it.

You’ll need help from the mental health professionals in fixing your problem. Be kind. Be resolute. Become an informed consumer of mental health services and the pathology in your family.

It is NOT your obligation to educate the doctor about the pathology they are treating – they should already know. Unfortunately, you do have to educate the forensic psychology people in the family courts.

That speaks to the immensely low quality of professional services in the family courts when the patients are educating the doctors about the nature and treatment of the pathology.

The other parent creates chaos. You remain grounded. You remain authentic to what you know. Develop a plan. Execute the plan. You are the protective parent.

You are the healthier parent. The task ahead is for you to lead your family into a successful post-divorce separated family structure. You just need support.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

Not listening to people / psychiatry – Mad in America

Psychiatry exists in a perpetual state of distrust and disbelief of everything their patients say, including the harmful effects of drugs.

Twww.madinamerica.com/2023/03/about-not-listening-to-people/

Trauma Centric View of Mental Health

Beyond Psychiatry: A Trauma-Centric View of Mental Health

By Terry Baranski

Internal family systems therapy is a non-pathologizing method of working toward healing from trauma. The healing journey is therefore one of returning to wholeness by reconnecting with ourselves.

The beauty of IFS is that it’s fundamentally interwoven with every aspect of trauma: how trauma impacts us so dramatically, why our parts adapt to traumatic events in the ways that they do, and how they can be healed. While there’s no one-size-fits-all approach for trauma healing, my hope is that this quick look at IFS provides some context for how mental health can be approached in a very different way than is typical.

www.madinamerica.com/2023/03/beyond-psychiatry-trauma-centric/

Childress PsyD – Update

If you are following me on my Facebook page, you are at the tip of the spear.

I am not posting to my blog. Nor am I writing articles. Those things will follow. I’m busy. I’m working.

I’m changing systems. Do you know how to do that? I do. It’s difficult, it’s complex.

I’m going dormant now. In that way I become more active. I’m entering the family courts. You don’t see what I do there, the work of clinical psychologists is confidential to the matter.

My role in the courts is to review the reports of the forensic psychologists. You can imagine what I say. I’m a clinical psychologist – treatment not custody – we do different things.

This is an attachment pathology. The attorney in the matter believes that the application of established knowledge from clinical psychology will be helpful to the court in making its decisions surrounding the child.

I review the material I’m asked to review and I provide an opinion based on the application of the established scientific and professional knowledge from clinical psychology – treatment not custody – regarding the material I’m asked to review.

I’ll write journal articles later. I’ll write blogs when I need them.

I don’t need them right now. Everything will unfold to its ends. We have entered a new phase. When I left your world out there and moved here to the Emerald City in the Pacific Northwest, to my Isle of Avalon off the western shores, things changed.

I moved away from my blog to Facebook because things are moving quickly. Facebook moves quickly – then vanishes – or seems to. Everything on the Internet is documented.

Facebook is the most ephemeral of the media. It communicates quickly the information of most note. I’m a clinical psychologist and I’m working. If you’re here, it’s for a reason.

This is active child abuse. This is active spousal abuse using the child as the weapon. I’ll write journal articles once the child and parent are protected. We’re still in the Safety Plan phase.

As I work doing what I do, the treatment goal has been to empower you parents to protect yourselves and protect your children from emotional and psychological abuse by a narcissistic-borderline-dark personality ex-spouse and parent.

I have given you all the information you need to protect yourself and your child as quickly as I could make it available to you. If you can use it while I’m working – that’s my goal.

If you can’t use the information because the systems surrounding you remain broken… I’ll be coming to fix the systems. That takes time because the powers-that-be don’t want to fix anything.

They don’t want a solution. That is the ONLY problem. The moment they want a solution… there’s a solution.

I’m only one lone clinical psychologist working all by myself. They are many and strong. They don’t want to change. Everyone in the systems want things to remain exactly as they are. It’s called “homeostatic balance” of a dysfunctional system.

The dysfunctional system is stable WITH the symptom present. If we take the symptom away, the dysfunctional system will collapse into chaos. The dysfunctional system NEEDS the symptom. We can’t take the symptom away – the system won’t let us remove the symptom that it needs to remain stable.

The symptom of dysfunction in the family courts is the ignorance and incompetence of the psychologists – the betrayers – the ones who should protect… and don’t. Instead, they financially exploit and feed on the vulnerability of parents caught in the family courts.

The dysfunctional legal and mental health systems are stable WITH the symptom present – the symptom of their ignorance and incompetence stabilizes the dysfunctional systems.

homeo = the same
static = never changing

Homeostatic balance = a same that never changes – it’s stuck

The thing that’s keeping it stuck in never-changing dysfunctional balance is the symptom – their ignorance and incompetence.

How do you break free? The APA ethics code. Doctors are not allowed to be ignorant and incompetent – Standard 2.01 of the APA ethics code. Doctors MUST apply the “established scientific and professional knowledge of the discipline” as the bases for their professional judgments – Standard 2.04 of the APA ethics code.

The established scientific and professional knowledge of the discipline is:

Attachment – Bowlby & others
Family systems – Minuchin & others
Personality disorders – Beck & others
Complex trauma – van der Kolk & others
Child development – Tronick & others
Self psychology – Kohut & others
Delusional thought disorders – APA & DSM-5

I have helped you to become informed consumers of mental health services surrounding your child so that you are empowered to protect yourself and protect your child from the spousal emotional abuse of you using the child as the weapon, and from psychological abuse of the child by the allied parent.

Some of you may be able to use the professional knowledge and your rights to achieve the goal of protecting your child and protecting yourselves from abuse by a pathological ex-spouse and parent. Some of you will still encounter the barriers of the broken systems – broken by professional ignorance and incompetence.

There are four roles in trauma – abusive parent – victimized child – protective parent – bystander.

In clinical practice, the bystander role is often called the “betrayer” – the one who should protect… and doesn’t. Typically it’s the mother in sex abuse cases who sacrifices the child to the step-father to save the marriage – she knew, she just didn’t want to know. She was the bystander, the one who should protect… and doesn’t.

In the child abuse and spousal abuse occurring in the family courts, the “betrayer” role is filled by the forensic psychologists. The targeted parent is in the protective parent role, the allied parent is in the abusive parent role. The child is being abused.

You are the protective parent. They are the abusive parent. This is a delusional pathology – it is a pathology of lies. A delusion is a false belief – they are delusional – it’s called a persecutory delusion created by the pathology of the allied narcissistic-borderline-dark personality parent.

The pathological narcissistic-borderline-dark personality is presenting a false narrative to others – it is not true – it is a lie. You are not the abusive parent… they are. It’s called a projection.

The pathological parent is deceptively trying to claim the role as “protective” parent, and they are trying to assign the “abusive” parent role to the targeted parent.

That is a false narrative. It is a lie. This is a pathology of lies. The pathology of concern is a persecutory delusion. The allegations made toward others are a projection.

A persecutory delusion is a false belief. It’s important to know where you are – this is a pathology of lies.

The allied parent is the abusive parent who is creating a shared persecutory delusion and FALSE attachment pathology in the child for secondary gain to the pathological parent – a DSM-5 diagnosis of V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse.

In ALL cases of severe attachment pathology displayed by a child surrounding court-involved custody conflict, a proper risk assessment for possible child abuse needs to be conducted to the appropriate differential diagnosis for each parent.

1) Is the targeted parent abusing the child, thereby creating the child’s attachment pathology toward that parent (a 2-person attribution of causality)?

2) Or is the allied parent psychologically abusing the child by creating a shared persecutory delusion and false attachment pathology in the child (a 3-person triangle attribution of causality)?

Is there a shared peresecutory delusion? The American Psychiatric Association provides the definition of a persecutory delusion:

From the APA: “Persecutory Type: delusions that the person (or someone to whom the person is close) is being malevolently treated in some way.” (American Psychiatric Association, 2000).

Does the child have a fixed and false belief that is maintained despite contrary evidence that the child is being “malevolently treated in some way” by the normal-range parenting of the targeted parent?

Does the allied parent SHARE the child’s fixed and false belief in malevolent treatment by the targeted parent? Do the allied parent and child SHARE the persecutory delusion that the child (someone to whom the allied parent is close) is being malevolently treated in some way?

You are the protective parent. You have rights granted you by the APA ethics code. You have the right to expect competence from your doctors. They have obligations.

All mental health professionals have duty to protect obligations. You are the protective parent. They should be accurately diagnosing the pathology in your family, and they should be taking steps to protect you and your child from abuse.

The DSM-5 diagnosis for creating a shared persecutory delusion in the child that then destroys the child’s attachment bond to the other parent is V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse. The DSM-5 diagnosis for using the child as a weapon of spousal emotional and psychological abuse is V995..82 Spouse or Partner Abuse, Psychological.

Is there a shared persecutory delusion?

If they try to blame you – ask them to complete the Parenting Practices Rating Scale for your parenting – make them tell you what you are doing to abuse your child.

You’re not doing anything. It’s not your fault. The other parent, the allied parent, has formed a “cross-generational coalition” with the child against you, resulting in an “emotional cutoff” in the child’s attachment bond to you – EXACTLY like the structural family diagram from Minuchin depicts.

Do you want me to draw you a picture of the pathology? Okay. There. Minuchin & Nichols, 1993.

Family Systems: The child is being “triangulated” into the spousal conflict through the formation of a “cross-generational coalition” with the allied parent against the targeted parent, resulting in an “emotional cutoff” in the child’s attachment bond to the targeted parent.

Is there an “inverted hierarchy” present in which the child is empowered by the allied parent to judge the adequacy of the targeted parent, as if the child is the parent and the parent is the child?

The differential diagnosis for severe attachment pathology displayed by the child is child abuse by one parent or the other. In all cases of severe attachment pathology displayed by the child, a proper risk assessment for possible child abuse needs to be conducted to the appropriate differential diagnosis for each parent.

I’m in the family courts as a consultant and expert witness in clinical psychology – treatment not custody. I’m reviewing mental health reports line-by-line.

The professor is grading papers.

I’m one, you’re many. You are the protective parent. I have empowered you with the knowledge you need to protect your children.

To say that you are abusing your child is a lie. To say that you are abusing your child is delusional.

Yep. That’s exactly what it is. It’s a shared persecutory delusion created by the psychological collapse of a narcissistic-borderline-dark personality parent surrounding the psychological stress of the divorce.

This is a pathology of lies. It is a delusional disorder. The delusion is from unresolved trauma origin in the pathological parent, which has led to their narcissistic-borderline-dark personality traits.

It’s unresolved trauma – unresolved attachment trauma in the pathological parent transmitted to the child through the aberrant and distorted parenting that the unresolved trauma creates.

The pathology is the trans-generational transmission of trauma, mediated by the narcissistic-borderline-dark personality pathology of the parent.

You are the protective parent. They are the abusive parent. I’m a trauma psychologist out of foster care. This is exactly my pathology of specialization – child abuse. I know exactly where I am.

This is active child abuse. This is active spousal emotional and psychological abuse using the child as the weapon. I’m a clinical psychologist and I’m working.

The abusive parent is pathological. The forensic psychologists are just incompetent – and they are ignorant, lazy, and unethical. They have duty to protect obligations – they are failing in their obligations.

I’m in the family courts as an expert consultant and witness. You’re in the family courts as the protective parent seeking to restore to your child their normal-range and healthy development.

The psychologists are in the bystander role – they have obligations – mandatory ethical obligations for competence (Standards 2.01 & 2.04) and mandatory duty to protect obligations.

Doctors are not allowed to be ignorant and incompetent.

Patients should NEVER have to explain the pathology to the doctor, they should already know what the pathology is – Standard 2.03.

2.03 Maintaining Competence
Psychologists undertake ongoing efforts to develop and maintain their competence.

They have obligations. You have rights. You are the protective parent. You are trying to protect your child from the distorted and psychologically abusive parenting of the other parent.

My goal is to provide you with the professional-level information you need to protect yourself from psychological spousal abuse and your child from psychological child abuse by your ex-spouse and other parent.

There are four roles in trauma – abusive parent – victimized child – protective parent – bystander (the “betrayer” – the one who should protect… but doesn’t).

If you’re here on my Facebook page, you have the most current information. Here, however, is just the start. We are on a linear path. This information is not going away. It will only build in force and power because it is the truth.

I will be going after their licenses for their collaboration in child abuse because of their negligent and unethical malpractice. They will be coming after my license to try to stop me from helping you protect your children.

Dr. Childress vs. the pathogen’s allies

They’ll need to stop me or else they will need to become competent in the pathology they’re working with. If you’re a mental health professional and you don’t know as much as Dr. Childress, why not? Are you just lazy? Must be.

I’m the floor, not the ceiling.

I’m in my world doing my thing. You’re in your world doing yours. Good luck. Be kind, always be kind, and be relentless in protecting your children. The universe has this.

Do the right thing and let outcomes take care of themselves.

What’s the right thing to do? Look inside and listen.

Craig Childress,Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857