Gabby’s parents file for 50 Million

Gabby’s death and the deaths of millions of women ; many of color are taken after not being heard by those who should protect and serve .

Training is needed because as horrific as this is , boys , men are abused and murdered but at no point confide nor heal those abuses and it’s time to address this for ALL in ways that does not support abuses and the awareness to know the difference . A plan B to ensure no one gets by with such abuses as Gabby and many more have given their lives for …

It’s time for change in intimate partner violence

It’s time to expose the harm done when parents support illegal acts , who ignore the signs etc

Win Win weather the $50 million is actualized because it’s wayyyy past time for change in this area of Law Enforcement .



Tossing COVID 19 4kids : lack of Demand Kudos Parents !!!!

Bullied Children

Bullied children grow up robbed of the benefits of what I like to call their “natural inheritance” — all the positive traits and qualities they possess, are born with and/or work hard to obtain and build. Abusers and bullies (whether they be narcissistic parents or even childhood peers with burgeoning narcissistic and/or antisocial traits) often subject these innocent children to their malignant and envious bullying. They teach their victims to see themselves through the distorted lens and projections of their abusers — they are fed lies about themselves that more accurately reflect the traits of the bullies who know these victims surpass them. Until the victim gets accurate feedback outside of the abusive environment, they often do not realize how intelligent, talented, beautiful, and valuable they are. They are still seeing themselves and treating themselves the way their abusers trained them to do so. They don’t get direct access to benefiting from these traits until they see themselves accurately (i.e. an intelligent child continually called “stupid” by their bullies will usually hide their abilities to avoid being mocked, and due to low self-confidence created by the bullying). That’s why deprogramming these messages are so vital in adulthood — and figuratively/mentally handing back malignant projections to their bullies where they belong. These bullies were describing themselves all along and got to put themselves on a pedestal by targeting a scapegoat that represented everything they did not possess. You deserve the rights to your natural inheritance and to see yourself accurately. 💝

#narcissisticabuse #childhoodbullying #complextrauma #ptsd #cptsd

Dads Matter

To all you psychotic alienating moms out there who make YOUR kids

“Your World”

And who use YOUR

“Mini Me’s”

as a wallet, cause your

“Just a single mom doing her best”

You are psychologically enmeshed with YOUR children. YOUR kids will never understand how to create healthy boundaries and will suffer in every aspect of their lives because of the psychopathy YOU taught them.


To all you Dads. DON’T GIVE UP.

I was an alienated child. There are millions of us. We don’t appreciate being robbed of the other half of who we are. We need you. Don’t leave us behind. I didn’t have the words to tell my dad. I didn’t know that going with moms flow for my own sanity, was harming me more.

I didn’t know.

I was just a kid.

I didn’t know how much of me was him.

I didn’t know, when I told him I didn’t want to go, that I was ripping his heart from his chest and sealing his fate.

I didn’t know.

But, now I’m grown and I know better.

It’s just too bad it’s too late.

We’ve lost in court too many times to count. We’re broke and heartbroken.

He is defeated.

I am not.

I got my dad on my shoulder and a lifetime of memories without him to motivate me. All I have right now are these flyer’s.

I plastered the kids street, so


HCBM’s family is next, cause they are coconspirators and enable more generational trauma. When school and little league start, the flyers will be there too. I will create awareness where I can, because if it’s not happening to you, you just

don’t know.

Holding a patient ( child) overlong ( as long as insurance pays )

We admitted Tom to a developmental disabilities unit at a psychiatric hospital nearby in January 31 – as you know things had been very hard for a long time. They were getting really difficult at school as well. Meds weren’t helping and they kept prescribing one on top of another without taking the prior one away, because they’re psych meds and you have to taper and there’s no time for that when he’s in crisis. He’s been ready to be discharged for about 2 1/2 months, in my opinion. The hospital team suggests residential placement – since nearly the time he was admitted. He’s doing so well now and the hospital team are seeing that he’s now having aggression because he’s sort of pushing back against the very restrictive environment. But there was no in home support to be found (no applicants) and wait lists a mile long with no guesstimate as to when a spot would be available….so he’s just been living in the hospital. He asks to come home almost every day and for sure when we visit. He even asks for his school teachers and speech and OT and school social worker. I miss him so much.

Reality of Adult Children adapted to distortion

Have any of you had an adult or nearly adult, child make you feel like you’re still living with their parent? My oldest decided at 14, he wanted to live with his dad. At 19 now, with the help of his therapist, has seen through the bs and asked me to move in here. Of course, we opened our home for him, got him a job, have bent over backwards to ensure this feels like home to him. I love him being here, for the most part. He often comes to me when I’m just settling into bed, wanting to start an argument though. Because I stayed as long as I did. Because at 14, despite the lawyer and judge telling me I had no leg to stand on, I didn’t fight for him. There’s so much anger directed at me vs his dad and I feel like I’ve stepped back into that relationship again. ESPECIALLY with it all starting when I’m relaxed and ready to go to sleep. All of a sudden, he needs to talk and I’m the worst mom ever and if I try to tell him we can discuss tomorrow, he’s following me everywhere telling me that we need to talk now. I’m having such a hard time feeling the way I feel about my own child. I love him so much, but honestly, after being free from everything for 5 years now, I can not step back into it. I dont know how to get this across though without sounding like I am not willing to discuss it. I told him the other day, we can discuss all of this, im fully open to being candid and honest with you (we’ve had many, many, deep conversations regarding all of this) but that I could not be his punching bag. That I could not he kept up all night because he was itching for a fight with someone. 95% of the time, it absolutely breaks his heart if he sees me upset over something. He goes out of his way to help me, but that 5% its like he is enjoying the hell out of upsetting me. Pushing and pushing and saying absolutely horrible things and it’s like once he has me weak, vulnerable and crying, he’s ready for bed. Not until that point though. I’m really not sure how to handle this or where to even start?

How to Stay with a Narcissist

How To Stay With A Narcissist…

“It is recommended that you understand that the relationship rules for narcissists are different than those for others. The following suggestions will help you to have a close, ongoing relationship with a narcissist:

1. Make sure you collude with your narcissist to reinforce his belief that relationships are one-sided and that he is entitled to have a fantasy wife, child, etc. Become comfortable at living with double standards and performance based approval.

2. Do not require him to share in household or child-rearing responsibilities. Make sure you are willing to carry these weights yourself.In fact, make sure you are ultra-responsible in all areas of your relationship. Do not expect the relationship to be 50-50. A more realistic expectation is that he will require 100 percent of your emotional energy and almost, if not all, of your personal identity.

3. Be available as a sponge or garbage pail to absorb his rage and shame. When he needs a place to dump all his negative emotions, make sure you are readily available with a willingness to listen, understand, forgive, and feel empathy for his anger.

4. Let go of your need to be listened to, validated, or respected.

5. Become comfortable with indirect and incomplete communication. Learn well how to navigate silent treatments and gas-lighting. Do not expect dialogues, but learn to be a captive audience for long monologues and diatribes. Do not ask questions for anything requiring a specific answer. Learn to solve problems without your loved-one’s input or approval.

6. Try not to venture too close to an independent thought. Be sure and check with your narcissist to see if your idea is accurate or smart. He, after all, is an expert on everything and knows what is best. In fact, sometimes it is recommended to steer clear of thinking for yourself altogether.

7. Embrace your relationship with betrayal. Your narcissist will betray you. It might not be sexually, but it will be in one form or another, particularly designed for your specific susceptibilities.

8. Realize that love to you and love to your narcissist have entirely different meanings. For a narcissist, “love” happens when you are a secure, stable source of narcissistic supply. Understand that when a narcissist tells you he loves you it means you are helping him feel good about himself by providing steady narcissistic supply.Narcissistic supply is what narcissists depend on for emotional “stability.” Typical forms of narcissistic supply include sex, power, control, one-sided relationships with no accountability, compliments, subservience, obedience, admiration, and other requirements unique to the individual.

9. Lose yourself in him. Be what he wants you to be. Don’t have your own individuality. To do this, let his words and actions convince you that your value is based on what he claims it is.

10. Learn to dissociate from your emotions. Being with a person who cannot attune with you, see you for who you are, care about your feelings, or value you for your individuality is very painful.It is important to numb your emotions by dissociation, or some other means of anesthesia. It is too hard to feel the emotions engendered by your unmet relationship needs, so being adept at emotional numbness is a recommended goal for a person who wishes to remain close to a narcissist.

11. Be a ready and willing scapegoat to his anger. Narcissists are always angry – their anger is either expressed covertly or overtly. Be open to taking all the blame for everything he is angry about.And even if he’s angry for another reason, be willing to try to fix it for him and make things better.Be aware that a key characteristic of a narcissist is that he is chronically angry. Learn to adjust yourself to this reality.

12. Become comfortable with loneliness. Being in a relationship with a narcissist is a very lonely experience. The more you learn to live with emotional deprivation, the better you will fare in your relationship.

I must warn you, that if you decide to become emotionally healthy, set boundaries, speak up for yourself, and do not follow the above suggestions, your relationship with your narcissist may not be sustainable.

Because narcissists need narcissistic supply like you need love, if you do not remain a good supply source (as these tips are designed to ensure) then you may lose this relationship altogether.”

-Unknown author: borrowed from a friend.

From another “voluntary “ mental patient

When I was an involuntary patient, my mother was made to be my substitute decision maker (SDM) since I would not willingly submit to treatment of a non existent disease. I was heavily drugged and could not advocate for myself and was barely able to communicate with her during this time. While on the drugs, I had experiences of modified perceptions and had trouble to focus on the basic task of speaking to others, or fighting for my own rights. During this time my mother would be brought to an interview with a psychiatrist, with or without me present, and brain washed into the benefits on psych drugs, which she attempted to advocate should be administered in lower doses or removed from my drugging routine due to her witnessing the effects on me. I will never accept that she fully fought for my rights, because although she states she couldnt remove me from the ward (which I equate to a prison) due to a Form, she didnt advocate nearly enough to have me removed, and her consulting on my dosages translated to me as active participation in my drug induced abuse. But here are some of the lies i overheard the “doctor” say to try to convince my mother forced drugging (being injected against my wishes) was a beneficial act -as opposed to how I see it: an outright violation of my health and freedoms

  1. “Psychosis causes brain cells to pop, her brain is damaging itself when she goes into psychosis.”

My perpsective: I dont have psychosis, I have a justified outbursts due to anger of not being heard or understood in a given circumstance. I am fully reasonable and able to be reasoned with in this time. The psychiatrist doesnt know a thing about me to deduce that I do in fact have psychotic episodes, since I barely spoke to him, and he does not know anything about me. Additionally I’m sure the more severe damage is caused by psych drugs not by any potentially psychotic episode that someone may or may not experience.

  1. She has a brain that has biochemical imbalances, we need to regulate it.

It’s a well proven MYTH that chemical imbalances correlate with mental illness or that they exist. No one in the ward measured any form of imbalances, so how can they even scientifically prove I have imbalances if they never ran any tests.

  1. She will relapse if she goes off the drugs.

Relapse into what- being my normal, reasonable self?

  1. She will be a lifelong pateint and suffer from bipolar her entire life.

I dont identify as bipolar, and I will fight to never be in a ward again. Mental illness is a myth, a matter of perspective. Once you get to know people, the illusion that they are disordered or ill mentally fades away.