Tag: parents

Having to explain why you can’t have sex : new born & Mom

A man out of balance in a distortion that is primal and it sure does demean the person who dare .

Sadly I had the experience of force , 6 days after giving birth and it was I believe primal ; marking of property and jealously of his own child .

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The Role of Money in Child Psychological Abuse /Alienation

So true !

The last 5 years in family was a freaking Hell on earth and I watched the effects on our sons .

Of course I let him down , not doing my part to keep a house , tend to ALL the things he didn’t and did not serve his personal needs .

Of course knowing ALL he did not educate himself or sons ; excusing my not being with them as my being ” sick ” .

It seemed to be just what he needed ; a ” crazy ” wife , and absolutely no light shown on his abuse , neglect etc . He’s the injured one ; the Victim 💯

Money is his Super Power and he used it against me before and after marriage and still denies he has embezzled my income .

The facts are facts and cannot be denied . A contract handwritten to resolve this with help with a home and purchase of a new SUV was just more of his plot 4 years ago when we signed the lease agreement and I let him , knowing I can and will prove the facts .

Sending him home listings with no reply , he has his form of Justice by my homelessness. And loss of time and property as much more money goes out to accommodate homelessness , challenging health issues , all delight him and he feels proves me to be bad at finances !

Twisted Thinking

Money is weaponized when it comes to our children

That’s why he feels I deserve less because having a home or money would entice male friends and possibly sons to connect with me .

That’s not going to happen .

His ever present greed is revolting , as much as his denial that he is in any way responsible for anything ever .

What part does MONEY play in PARENTAL ALIENATION?

Please see more of my posts on Instagram. I post 2-6 each day to spread awareness about parental alienation, to inform and to uplift. I hope they help. https://www.instagram.com/charliemccready1/

Money often motivates alienating behaviours. If there’s a personality disorder too, it’s a double whammy. Alienators are controlling, and money is a system of control too. Mind control is subtle, and it coercively nudges and persuades and influences, it changes thoughts and beliefs, but it’s entirely invisible. All anyone might see is the pretence of protection, best intentions, and care while, in truth it’s all about profit and power. Entirely selfish behaviours. This is how governments work too, and a debt-based financial system which is in itself disordered and broken. So, money and alienation often go hand in hand, a nightmare partnership, controlling and manipulating. The child might feel they are acting autonomously. They may believe the ‘grass is greener’ with the alienating parent. They may have been induced with bribes by a ‘Disneyland Parent’. Deep down, the child will know they are being played, but children, especially at a certain stage, are more selfish, and pliable, and try to spread their wings more anyway. But if there were years of a good, loving relationship with you and your alienated child/ren, despite all the rubbish the alienating parent says and does, the love will still exist between you and your child/ren. It may take time, but the relationship can be repaired

Waking to the Truth / The Psychological Abuse of the Alienated Child

How does a child cope with ALIENATION from a parent they LOVE?

A child who has been induced into aligning with one parent against another has to survive this trauma however they can. Often they ‘split’ and this is to almost become a different person. It has been described as a ‘false persona’ while the true self is in itself alienated and hidden behind a false facade. This makes it ‘easier’ to cope with having to take on the false persecutory beliefs of the alienating parent who they feel they must align with (to survive). In this way, we could see the child’s anger, criticism, disdain, and rejection of the ‘other’ parent, as coping mechanisms too. They just can’t deal with it all. They’re dealing with coercive control, lies, enmeshment … they have been weaponised against a previously loved parent (they still do love). But at some point, when the child/ren has that ‘lightbulb moment’ and starts to see things different/more independently, it is extraordinarily difficult for them/their ego to accept how they’ve been played. The shame and guilt is huge. The false persona has to be replaced with the true, authentic self. They have to deal with feelings of anger towards the alienating parent, and learn to forgive and understand why they did what they did. They have to find a way to forgive the mental health and legal system that supported their continued alienation from a loving parent – from the healthy-minded parent. This child needs to reconnect, not only with their alienated parent but also their true self who split off in order to cope. This is why the target/alienated parent must do all they can to empower themselves with an understanding of the pathology, and emotional and mental resilience, despite a shocking lack of support out there, and the anti-PA campaigners. Strive to be happy. Stay strong. And please see more of my posts on Instagram. I post 2-6 each day to spread awareness about parental alienation, to inform and to uplift. I hope they help. https://www.instagram.com/charliemccready1/

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Excerpt – Little Child Rising

“In order to deal with the feelings related to the absent parent, children often make the assumption that they are to blame. This is the only way they can make sense of it- if the adult isn’t loving, it must be because we are ‘unworthy’. After all, “Rachel’s father spends a lot of time with her”, and “Michael’s mother always hugs and kisses him in public”, so if yours doesn’t, it must be because there is something wrong with you, something not enough, something not worthy of love. Thus begins the internalized shame and self-blame cycle, often reflected in the disdain we feel for our bodies, our creations, our very existence. Of course our unworthiness is entirely untrue, but it is experienced as deeply true for the child self. And if the bitter parent actually told you that you are unworthy, or bad, or a mistake or anything that undermines your sense of self, then you have literal evidence of your own valuelessness. Who do we believe if not the parent? Who defines us before we are ready to define ourselves? It then becomes very difficult to recognize and call out abuse and neglect, because you move through the world certain of only one thing- your inherent unworthiness. If you are constantly seeking validation and approval, if you are not yet at an egoic stage where you can recognize your own value, on what basis do you stand up to those who abuse you? I think one of the reasons I didn’t call out my mother in my early adulthood was because I had taken her negative message to heart. If I was a bad person, how could I demand her to treat me with respect? If I was ‘persona non grata’ on Mother Earth, on what basis would I fight for my right to the light?”

(~an excerpt from my affordable “Inner Child Rising: Healing the Effects of Unawakened Parents” course. This simple and easy-to-follow downloadable audio course will show you how to transform wounds and patterns, and move forward in your life. If curious, check it out at the link below…
https://jeffbrown.co/inner-child-rising-course/