Tag: parents

Faith

7 years ago my life ended.

I didn’t see a way out.

Was ready to check out.

It can’t get worse right?

Then it did.

They took my kids from me and I was a good father. It didn’t make sense until I found out it’s all about the state making money.

Then 5 years later I found a video of court corruption against my court actors and sued the state of Missouri actors.

The judge dismissed it.

“Quasi judicial immunity.” That means it doesn’t matter they committed crimes against my children and I, they are immune from liability because they work for the state.

I adapted an attitude of “you didn’t kill me then you damn sure can’t kill me now.”

Went and found a gang of fathers, mothers, and kids that had been ran over by the same system as me and found out I’m not alone.

Then one day life got better. I started rebuilding. Bro I got a long way to go.

I figured if you wanted a voice against the corrupt system, I can be part of that voice.

Life continues to get better every day. I found a quiet voice that speaks up next to me. Rebuilt a family and started working to fix the relationships the state and a vindictive ex destroyed.

You did me a favor all those years ago and threw me in the trash. I found my people down here and we found our worth. We started to get really loud and built something. We ain’t done yet.

My life isn’t for everyone. It is where I was supposed to be. When you hit that point, nothing can hold you back.

Rest. We’ll help carry you until you can go again on your own.

Don’t ever quit on yourself.

We got stuff to do and things to change.

Love everyone of our fathers out there and the women that support them.

Kenneth ROSA
Media Personality

Childress offers response to questions

Prepare your questions for Dr. Childress.

On this New Year, I will be providing an email address here and I’ll ask for your questions. Any question. From anyone.

I’m attending to parents, but attorneys and mental health professionals can ask questions too. Now-adult kids recovering. Anyone. Any question.

There’s no such thing as a dumb question. Well, actually, that’s not true, but that’s okay, ask it anyway. Any question.

Except what’s my favorite color, no trick questions to get me confused.

In January, I’ll ask you to send me your questions to the email address I provide. In February, I’ll start answering your questions on YouTube. All your questions. Even the stupid questions. My favorite color is blue, no wait… red… now look what you’ve done, I’m all confused.

Why not?

You have questions. That likely means more people just like you have the same question. I could answer your questions over-and-over each time one-by-one… or all together on YouTube – whee, don’t you love the Internet. I do. Best thing since fire.

So prepare your questions for Dr. Childress. I don’t need your stories. You think I need your stories to understand your questions, I don’t. I could tell you your stories. I want your questions – I can tell exactly your story by your question – each story has its questions.

I’ll won’t read your stories, I know your stories. I’ll read the sentences that end with this ? thing.

That sentence, the one that ends with that ? thing, is called a question. That’s what I’ll read and answer.

I’ll group your questions sort of, and I’ll start posting YouTube videos in February answering your questions, in 10-15 minute segments until there are no more questions – and a lot of answers on YouTube for everyone now and into the future.

Don’t ‘cha love the Internet. I do. Best thing since fire. Internet gud, and oh my goodness, no one knows your a dog. What’s your question for Dr. Childress? January 2022.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

NPD do not co parent

😝 Narcissists don’t co-parent. They don’t want to fall in line and do the right thing. They don’t want to be held accountable, follow the rules and regulations, and don’t want to be harmonious. They don’t want to play on a team.

The only thing a narcissist is interested in – is narcissistic supply. This means, “I can affect other people significantly enough to know that I exist.” It’s the attention they crave more than anything else.

So, when you are attempting to co-parent with a narcissist, they are going to trigger you. They’re going to be uncooperative. They’re going to say one thing and do another. They will use the children as pawns, absolutely to trigger you to get a reaction, which means – I’m significant enough to affect you.

A narcissist wants to play games and use all of these tactics to punish you. How dare you leave them? Or how dare you try and get on with your life? Or how dare you tell other people what they are or how they behave? How dare you?

The false self can’t deal with that. So, punishing you by using the children as pawns is a very, very common tactic.

For an answer to all this – have a look at these resources –

Parallel Parenting – https://bit.ly/3bmz9ZO.

All People Co-Parenting With A Narcissist Needs These Tools – https://bit.ly/3k1maRd.

The Thriver’s Guide To Co-Parenting With A Narcissist – https://bit.ly/3k1HWnT.

Like so many other Thrivers – use the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program (NARP) to detox from the narcissist to give you the strength and empowerment to give yourself and your children a brighter future.

Full details of NARP can be found here – https://bit.ly/33bIGyY.

Much love xo ❤️

Watch “I believe in You- Don Williams HD LYRICS” on YouTube

I do believe in organic foods !

I played this song a few weeks ago and of course

I cried at the throw back to my Dad and Mom

and what were seemingly simpler things .

I cried at the very basic , simple heartfelt

message , timeless .

I cried because of all that has come between

my core beliefs and has only reaffirmed many

core beliefs remain and are worthy .

I cried for losses and I cried for all the gains

as corrections ensure change , reclaimation

and endings of generational abuses and trauma

that need never be experienced again .

And after the crying , tears dried , I smiled

knowing the presence and presents , gifts

that have been revealed even in shadow

and acute and devestating loss , change and

reclaimation are realities and Blessings

outweight the blips in the radar as others

need prevails to do much harm , their actions

have a reverb that reveals their character and

lack of consciousness that is a gift also.

Letting go…✌️

I Do Believe in You 💕🧚🌟

I Do Believe in me .🐸

I Do Believe in US .💯🙏

Blessings & Peace ,

Dona Luna ©️✌️💞

Why Do kids lie?, It’s easiest to avoid pain

Why do kids lie? 
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There are many ways to avoid pain and lying is one of the most common. Ever wondered why children lie? It is usually to avoid perceived or real psychological/physical pain. Our brains are wired for protection and protection means avoiding pain. 
Lying is a protective measure. It’s comforting to the brain when we feel that we are able to protect ourselves. The reason why adults lie is more or less the same reason – protection.  
We don’t want to hear the truth, because that involves change and change involves struggle and struggle is pain. We also don’t want to admit the truth because admitting we were wrong or did wrong brings shame and shame is psychological and social pain.  
We want to get our own way without perceived obstacles. Obstacles in the way of getting what we want are perceived in our brains as pain because it involves struggle, so to avoid pain we lie. 
Lying is an avoidance of pain. It’s the avoidance of having to work through the fall out of something you did wrong or avoiding obstacles on your path to getting your own way. Lying can lead to inhibited emotional growth and maturity. This is the sad, and inevitable personal consequence of lying. 
If we punish lying with pain it will lead to more lying. To help kids to stop lying, sit down with them and discuss the consequences for doing it, (inner and outer).  
Usually, the antidote to anything is its opposite, tackle lying with the truth – make the truth a way of life – make the truth known, and hold your kids personally accountable to it. 
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Intimate Truths by Kahlil Gibran

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.

~ Kahlil Gibran ~

Art by Janice Van Kronkhite