Loved & Loved : She is Home 🏠

“When you look deep within

Beyond the surface pale

And the lined eyes,

Through the skein

Of fine lines that

Travel like tributaries

To your soul,

You might find

The wayward girl

you once knew…

The young girl lost

To the antics of living

Who bore you no ill will

But who couldn’t yet grasp

The magnitude of

Incremental action

Upon action

Upon action

Which creates the

Ultimate direction of

A troubled life.

You might find her,

Beneath the greeting

And the greying hair,

Beyond the freckled


And you might beckon

Her with forgiving heart

And loving arms

To welcome her into

The quiet, gorgeous room

With flowers and pink blossoms

With perfume and pretty things

With standing vases of

Bright poppies

And tulips –

Yes tulips –

And you will let her know

That finally, with you…

She is lived and loved

And she is home.”

Camilla Slater 2022.

(Love to all women with a spark in their eyes and a wayward past.🌷)

Copyright Camilla Slater 2022. All rights reserved.

Image Credit: Painting by Louis Treserras, 1958.

Shifting from Fear to Love

Shifting from Fear to Love
The following is an excerpt from the “Shifting from Fear to Love”

“All shallow roots must be uprooted because they are not deep enough to sustain you” – A Course in Miracles

Love is where we all begin. When we are born all we know is love. Our ~ing is on! (If you haven’t read my book, Add More ~ing to Your Life, allow me to translate: ~ing is your inner guide, which is the voice of intuition, inspiration and love. Throughout this course I’ll refer to love, spirit and ~ing interchangeably.) At one time our thoughts are aligned with love and our minds are peaceful. Our loving mind believes that all people are equal and that we are part of something larger than ourselves. We believe that we are supported and connected to everything everywhere. We believe that only love is real. We believe in miracles.

A Tiny Mad Idea
So we are born into love, and then pretty soon thereafter fear is introduced. We begin to pick up the fear around us and are led to deny love. One tiny mad idea can hijack our loving mindset, and as A Course in Miracles says, “we forgot to laugh.” This tiny mad idea could have arrived as early as infancy. Maybe Mom was anxious or Dad yelled a lot. As innocent babies, we pick up fear from the outside world. All it takes is one tiny mad idea to make us detour into fear. A thought like, “I’m not smart enough,” or “Daddy doesn’t like me because he left,” or “I’m not pretty enough” can separate us from love. The moment we take this tiny mad idea seriously, we get caught in a nightmare and forget to wake up.

A Course in Miracles says, “You cannot be faithful to two masters who ask conflicting things of you.” Therefore we have to choose between the tiny mad idea and the love we came from. Most of the time we choose fear. This choice splits our mind into another way of thinking, which the Course calls the “ego.” In an instant, we are separated from love and allow the ego to take over. The ego becomes like a bully in our minds. The ego’s goal is to shut down the love parade and keep us in the dark by making us believe we’re separate from the loving mindset we were born with. The ego cannot survive in the light of our loving mind, so it will do whatever it takes to keep the light off. When referencing the ego, the Course states, “Listen to what the ego says, and see what it directs you to see, and it is sure that you will see yourself as tiny, vulnerable and afraid. You will experience depression, a sense of worthlessness, and feelings of impermanence and unreality.”

The ego’s sole purpose is to convince us that love isn’t real so that we believe in the fearful thinking of the world. The ego is always revving up its game to take us down in a major way. (This is not to be confused with the ego of psychology.)

The Course says, “…the ego is totally confused and totally confusing.” To keep us in the dark the ego separates us from love. We’re convinced to deny love by believing in issues around body image, relationships, careers, low self-esteem, and so on. The ego convinces us that we are better or worse than everyone around us. The ego’s illusion convinces us to believe thoughts like, “I’m not good enough to get into that school,” “I’m incomplete without a man,” or “I’m way more popular than that girl.” Deep down we know these thoughts are false but we believe in them nonetheless. To further keep us in the dark, the ego’s illusion leads us to attack others and ourselves.

Projection Makes Perception
The ego’s main job is to make sure we don’t change our minds about fear. The fearful projection that the ego inflicts on us becomes what we perceive to be our reality. As it says in the Course, “The world you see is an outside picture of an inward condition.” When we choose the ego’s projection of sin, guilt, anger, attack and fear that’s all we’ll perceive. It’s a nightmare. The Course states, “Perception is a choice and not a fact.”

We all have our own individual projections and perceptions. For instance, two different people get upset after watching a TV show together. Even though they watched the same show they’re upset for uniquely different reasons. One person may have been upset over the romantic struggles of the characters, whereas the other person was worked up over the violence. Each person was projecting their own ego onto the television show and therefore perceived what they chose to project. The choice is the operative word. That’s right: we choose to believe in this crazy shit. We choose to project ideas like “I’m too fat,” “I’m unworthy,” and “I’m just not smart.” We made a decision to forget about love and we fell for the mad idea instead. As a result, we live in a world that is based on these limiting projections. We project these thoughts and therefore perceive them to be real. Worst of all, we believe deeply in our perceptions because we’re the ones who put them there.

We project a belief system based on grades, cliques, bullies and societal crap about body image. We have no choice but to ignore our ~ing because the voice of love cannot coexist with fear. Fear spreads like a virus, contaminating our minds. All it takes is one tiny mad idea to separate our mind from love and create a pattern of thinking in which fear always wins. The ego also recreates your past fears in the present.

The ego is crafty. There are a number of tricks the ego turns to in order to keep us in the dark, such as causing us to believe that others are more special than we are, causing us to attack others, or getting us into the nasty habits of denying our greatness and believing we are inadequate. These tricks are cunning and baffling. Each trick convinces us to believe in fear and forget about love. Eventually, we get so hooked on the ego’s illusion that we cannot remember the loving mind we came from. It’s as if we’ve been roofied by the ego.

This sounds totally effed up, right? Of course, it does, but let’s face it: in one or more ways we’ve all fallen for the ego’s mad idea. One fearful thought takes over our minds and creates our very own illusions. We were all innocent children who once believed in love. But there comes a point at which we forget love ever existed. We choose fear instead. We fear just about everything. We fear our careers, our family, our friends—we even fear the possibility that love could be real. Most of all we fear our own greatness.

The truthful voice of our ~ing can only comprehend love. But because our minds detoured into fear, love became an afterthought. Our ~ing became a mere murmur in the midst of the ego’s inner riot. It’s safe to say that most people have more faith in fear than in love. Whenever you think something like, “I know there is a better way, but I just can’t find it,” it means that deep down you remember that all the love you need is inside you, but the darkness of the ego has smothered that truth.

You need to take a look at the wreckage from your past to fully understand how to transform the ego’s patterns. Accepting the fact that you chose fear and turned your back on love is the first step. Don’t beat yourself up about this. You couldn’t have known any better and you’ve been doing the best you can to cope with the ego’s projections for your entire life. But now it’s time to fully understand what went down in order to create change.

Please know that even if you’ve forgotten about love, it never actually left you. Your mind just separated from it. This separation ignited the spark that became the fire that burns through your loving mind. Yet the separation was merely a choice. Unfortunately, you chose to detour into Fear Land when you took sides with the ego and turned your back on love.

The Ego Isn’t Real
Over time fear becomes our companion. The ego literally goes buck wild taking over the loving part of our minds and convince us of what the Course calls “the real world.” The ego’s real world is the illusory nightmare that we’ve bought into.

The world that the ego creates for all of us is based on belief in sin, attack, fear, competition, lack, sickness, and so on. The ego convinces us that we’re all a bunch of separate bodies out to make more money, find a better spouse, or look better than the next person. None of this is real. It’s all an illusion that our ego creates in our minds and repeats enough so that we believe in it. The repetition of the ego’s illusion becomes a bad dream that we reinforce with every fear-based idea. We’ve saved our faith from fear. But deep inside each of us lives a soft voice reminding us that love is real.

Quick Review:
• We are all born into a state of love, in which we see everyone as equal and we feel at ease all the time.
• One tiny mad idea can hijack our loving mindset. We chose fear instead of love.
• This choice splits off our mind into another way of thinking called the “ego.” The ego’s goal is to shut down the love parade and keep us in the dark by making us believe we’re separate from the loving mindset we were born with.
• The repetition of the ego’s illusion becomes a bad dream that we reinforce with every fear-based idea. But deep inside each of us lives a soft voice reminding us that love is real.
• Recognizing that the ego’s projections are false illusions is the first step to restoring our minds back to love.

The First Step Out of the Ego’s World of Illusion

The only problems we have are the thoughts we project. What’s happened is that we think these funky thoughts enough times that we believe them to be true. Then the thoughts create anxiety, fear, anger, attack, and guilt. By recognizing that the thought isn’t real we can release the perception. We must understand that the thought is something we created a long time ago and that we’ve just projected it onto our present and future.

Recognising that the ego’s projections are false illusions is the first step to restoring your mind back to love. This was major for me, and it will be for you, too. By looking closely at your fears, you’ll be able to stop perceiving them as real. When you can witness a fearful thought without judgment, you’ll weaken its power and be able to do awesome things.

I want these messages to sink in and I hope to guide you to see how the ego has played a role in your own nightmare. At this point in the process let’s shine a light on your own tiny mad ideas.

Exercise One:
Close your eyes. Think of the negative thought patterns that cross your mind. Name each one as it occurs to you and then call it out.

Deny its reality by following the fearful thought with the loving response, “Love did not create it, and so it is not real.”

The ego thought: I am unworthy of happiness.
Loving response: Love did not create the belief that I’m unworthy, and so it is not real.
The ego thought: I am poor.
Loving response: Love did not create that poverty, and so it is not real.

This exercise might not make sense to you at first. Throughout the text, the Course acknowledges that you may not fully understand the concepts it introduces at first, but to continue forward nonetheless.

The Course states, “The exercises are very simple. They do not require a great deal of time, and it does not matter where you do them. They need no preparation.” Therefore, all you need is an open mind and the willingness to be guided.

Hang tight and know that each simple shift in perception creates miraculous change.

Power of Love

Your power is in your loving.
Not in your brute strength.

Nor in your bank balance
or your ever-changing reputation.
Nor in your incredible tales
of conquest and gain.
Nor even in your intellect, your brilliant mind.

But in your willingness to let your heart break today.
In your courage to let another in, let them matter.
To feel what they feel.
To feel joy, or sorrow, or the most delicious doubting.

To stand with them, but not try to fix them.

To be the room for all this… emergence.

That is your power –
your ability to provide sanctuary,
to let life nestle in your giant heart.

To hold the powerless and the helpless.
To breathe into your belly, your chest,
your head, your tense shoulders.

To stand victorious there –
holding all of yourself
in a light yet powerful embrace.

Saying to yourself:

Sweetheart, I am here.
I am here at last.

  • Jeff Foster

Message 2Men The Great Remembrance

Dear Men..

We miss you.


When women gather together in circles..

we tell stories of how much we long for you. Crave you.

Pray for you to rise and meet us here.

We mourn your missing presence.

In our childhoods.

In the homes we’ve built without you.

In our beds.

We hold hands and beg God to set you free from whatever keeps you from standing at our sides.

Right here.

Here In intimacy.

In integrity.

In wholeness.

In freedom.

The places where you are caught in dishonesty..




we grieve and rage over.

We see your pain and we see your power.

We miss you.

We love you.

We can’t wait for you to come home

For the men who have..

thank you so much.

Please call your brothers..

start men’s circles..

show them the manuals.

Tell them of what you gave up.

Of your brokenness and acceptance.

Of what it truly means to take up the mantle of protector.


There aren’t enough fathers..

resources and leaders for men to sit at the feet of.

The women have tried.

We can’t do it.

The restoration must come from within the Masculine.

The Feminine cannot mother grown men into wholeness.

We cannot strap men to our backs and walk.

We tried.

We bow out.

Not gracefully.

But in mournful acceptance nonetheless.

And we will wait for you to burst free from the shackles patriarchy has placed on you.

We pray.

We pray.

We pray.

For the Great Remembrance.

~ Shade Ashani

4 Agreements

The Four Agreements

1. Be Impeccable With Your Word

Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

2. Don’t Take Anything Personally

Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

3. Don’t Make Assumptions

Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

4. Always Do Your Best

Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.”

~Don Miguel Ruiz

Art | Catrin Welz-Stein

The Grace Project

So I had shared this lovely photograph of my beautiful artist friend and Grace Goddess Marianne Duquette Cuozzo… along with these fabulous words of Glennon Doyle… The post went viral… and now Facebook deleted it and said “I was going too fast”… Ugh… this platform!! Here are these fabulous words and Mariannes gorgeous photo again: “Your body is not your masterpiece — your life is.

It is suggested to us a million times a day that our BODIES are PROJECTS. They aren’t. Our lives are. Our spirituality is. Our relationships are. Our work is.

Stop spending all day obsessing, cursing, perfecting your body like it’s all you’ve got to offer the world. Your body is not your art, it’s your paintbrush. Whether your paintbrush is a tall paintbrush or a thin paintbrush or a stocky paintbrush or a scratched up paintbrush is completely irrelevant. What is relevant is that YOU HAVE A PAINTBRUSH which can be used to transfer your insides onto the canvas of your life — where others can see it and be inspired and comforted by it.

Your body is not your offering. It’s just a really amazing instrument which you can use to create your offering each day. Don’t curse your paintbrush. Don’t sit in a corner wishing you had a different paintbrush. You’re wasting time. You’ve got the one you got. Be grateful, because without it you’d have nothing with which to paint your life’s work. Your life’s work is the love you give and receive — and your body is the instrument you use to accept and offer love on your soul’s behalf. It’s a system.

We are encouraged to obsess over our instrument’s SHAPE — but our body’s shape has no effect on it’s ability to accept and offer love for us. Just none. Maybe we continue to obsess because as long we keep wringing our hands about our paintbrush shape, we don’t have to get to work painting our lives. Stop fretting. The truth is that all paintbrush shapes work just fine — and anybody who tells you different is trying to sell you something. Don’t buy. Just paint.

No wait — first, stop what you are doing and say THANK YOU to your body — right now. Say THANK YOU to your eyes for taking in the beauty of sunsets and storms and children blowing out birthday candles and say THANK YOU to your hands for writing love letters and opening doors and stirring soup and waving to strangers and say THANK YOU to your legs for walking you from danger to safety and climbing so many mountains for you.

Then pick up your instrument and start painting this day beautiful and bold and wild and free and YOU. Paint this day beautiful, bold, wild & free.”~

~Glennon Doyle, Momastery

We are not there yet : Your Child Really Loves You

I know what you are thinking…

My alienated child hates me.
No true, your child is being brainwashed to reject you.
Your child really loves you.

Maybe I wasn’t a good parent.
Not true, you were and are an awesome parent- no doubts.

My child is going to forget all the good times we had.
Not true. Your child remembers everything and wants to have you back in their life. They can’t right now; they are trying to survive.

My child talks badly about me to their friends.
Believe it or not- they don’t. They praise you and sometimes brag about you.

My child will never come back to me.
A bond between a biological child and a parent is almost impossible to break. There is a very good chance that once they gain clarity on what happened to them, they will reach out to you.

My child is probably going to be screwed up for the rest of their life.
Not true. Alienated kids are survivors with incredible resilience. They know how to adapt, show allegiance and fight for what they believe.

I am never going to be happy unless my child is back in my life.
Oh, not true. While your child is gone, this is a wonderful opportunity for you to work on you and develop positive self esteem. This is your time to be happy despite your pain. Make friends, meditate, pray, take long walks… Get ready…So when they return, they can say- “ Wow, my Mom/Dad is sooo awesome!”

You are beautiful, unique and special❤️

Love A Woman

“If you want to change the world . . . love a woman — really love her.

Find the one who calls to your soul, who doesn’t make sense.

Throw away your check list and put your ear to her heart and listen.

Hear the names, the prayers, the songs of every living thing —

every winged one, every furry and scaled one,

every underground and underwater one, every green and flowering one,

every not yet born and dying one . . .

Hear their melancholy praises back to the One who gave them life.

If you haven’t heard your own name yet, you haven’t listened long enough.

If your eyes aren’t filled with tears, if you aren’t bowing at her feet, you haven’t ever grieved having almost lost her.

If you want to change the world . . . love a woman — one woman

beyond yourself, beyond desire and reason,

beyond your male preferences for youth, beauty and variety

and all your superficial concepts of freedom.

We have given ourselves so many choices

we have forgotten that true liberation

comes from standing in the middle of the soul’s fire

and burning through our resistance to Love.

There is only one Goddess.

Look into Her eyes and see — really see

if she is the one to bring the axe to your head.

If not, walk away. Right now.

Don’t waste time “trying.”

Know that your decision has nothing to do with her

because ultimately it’s not with who,

but when we choose to surrender.

If you want to change the world . . . love a woman.

Love her for life — beyond your fear of death,

beyond your fear of being manipulated

by the Mother inside your head.

Don’t tell her you’re willing to die for her.

Say you’re willing to LIVE with her,

plant trees with her and watch them grow.

Be her hero by telling her how beautiful she is in her vulnerable majesty,

by helping her to remember every day that she IS Goddess

through your adoration and devotion.

If you want to change the world . . . love a woman

in all her faces, through all her seasons

and she will heal you of your schizophrenia —

your double-mindedness and half-heartedness

which keeps your Spirit and body separate —

which keeps you alone and always looking outside your Self

for something to make your life worth living.

There will always be another woman.

Soon the new shiny one will become the old dull one

and you’ll grow restless again, trading in women like cars,

trading in the Goddess for the latest object of your desire.

Man doesn’t need any more choices.

What man needs is Woman, the Way of the Feminine,

of Patience and Compassion, non-seeking, non-doing,

of breathing in one place and sinking deep intertwining roots

strong enough to hold the Earth together

while she shakes off the cement and steel from her skin.

If you want to change the world . . . love a woman, just one woman.

Love and protect her as if she is the last holy vessel.

Love her through her fear of abandonment

which she has been holding for all of humanity.

No, the wound is not hers to heal alone.

No, she is not weak in her codependence.

If you want to change the world . . . love a woman

all the way through

until she believes you,

until her instincts, her visions, her voice, her art, her passion,

her wildness have returned to her —

until she is a force of love more powerful

than all the political media demons who seek to devalue and destroy her.

If you want to change the world,

lay down your causes, your guns and protest signs.

Lay down your inner war, your righteous anger

and love a woman . . .

beyond all of your striving for greatness,

beyond your tenacious quest for enlightenment.

The holy grail stands before you

if you would only take her in your arms

and let go of searching for something beyond this intimacy.

What if peace is a dream which can only be re-membered

through the heart of Woman?

What if a man’s love for Woman, the Way of the Feminine

is the key to opening Her heart?

If you want to change the world . . . love a woman

to the depths of your shadow,

to the highest reaches of your Being,

back to the Garden where you first met her,

to the gateway of the rainbow realm

where you walk through together as Light as One,

to the point of no return,

to the ends and the beginning of a new Earth.”

~ Lisa Citore

If You Want to Change the World, Love a Woman (2008)

Art: Chie Yoshii

Chie Yoshii

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“They told you about the contractions but did they tell you about the expansion?

Did they tell you how your body would open to make way for the whole universe to pass through?

Did they tell you how your heart would explode with a love bigger than anything you’ve ever known as you pulled your baby to your chest

They told you about the ring of fire but did they tell you about the crown of stars?

Did they mention that there is a moment when your baby enters the world and you leave your body and touch the heavens and become the light of a million galaxies?

Did they tell you how the pain of stretching to receive your child would be more exquisite than any sensation you’ve felt?

They told you you would scream but did they tell you about how you would roar?

Did they tell you about the power that would rise up from your belly as you called your baby forth with your mighty voice?

Did they tell you how you would embody the wild woman within you and breathe fire with your song?

They told you you would bleed but did they tell you how that sacred blood wouldn’t scare you?

How you would feel grateful for that magical liquid of life as it trickled down your leg?

How you would honor its flow and how it would help you heal a lifetime of hating your body’s bleeding cycles?

They told you these stories and taught you to fear birth, to fear your power, to fear yourself.

But you’re stronger and wiser than that mama.

You know that birth is your divine dance, your soul’s song, your moment with God, and you walk fearlessly into her open arms.”

~ Catie Atkinson

@spiritysoul on Instagram

Art: Medha Srivastava, “Motherlove”

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Love is not a cage

True, deep longing love desires the very best for the person who receives our affections,

even if in achieving their highest form and happiness they are taken away.

The highest form of love is not a cage,

but the open sky.

The highest test of this love is letting go and trusting everything will happen for the best.

The highest and most divine love is a form of non-striving and trust.

Letting go instead of trying to control.

Even if letting go rends your heart in two,

let it bleed and continue to love till you can smile.