Disordered Family Members by Sherrie Campbell PhD

Severely character disordered family members are completely oblivious to the fact that we know they do not love others. They are too selfish to love which means they resent having to give anything of themselves.

We know when we are loved and when we aren’t. We know when the things they have done to us are wrong. Their abuse may confuse us because they are supposed to love us, but we know deep down when we are being abused and that there is something not right with them.

To stay connected to our family means we must justify our abuse, with the same excuses our abusers tell us why they mistreat us. For too long, we go along to get along only to see that nothing changes. Who they are and how they choose to treat us is 100% their choice.

The mindset to hold is that our family members choose to manipulate and abuse and masquerade it as love. This doesn’t mean we have to continue buying into it. We can also make the choice to totally disengage from them. That can our choice.

12 year old bullied hangs himself

Let me introduce you to Drayke Hardman.

He was 12 years old.

This week, he hung himself with his favorite hoodie from his bunk bed.

His bunk bed.

“Children are resilient”

No.

They are people.

They have huge feelings and minimal coping skills, because THEY ARE BABIES.

It’s our job to change the narrative.

OUR JOB.

It starts with us, as parents.

It stops with us, as parents.

His story is below.

Let it break your heart.

Let it change you.

Let it change all of us.

We have to do better.

Please, stop right now and talk to your kids.

ENOUGH.

💔 #juststay

“Drayke Andrew Hardman was born to his loving parents Samie and Andrew Hardman on May 26th 2009. Drayke was incredibly loved by his family, he loved sports and had such a kind spirit. Drayke just wanted to be friends with everyone. Drayke had the biggest, bluest eyes. Sadly, Drayke had been experiencing bullying at school. His bully would pick on Drayke for every little thing, but despite this, Drayke desperately tried to be his bully’s friend. His school and parents were aware, and his bully had been previously suspended for bullying Drayke. On Monday, Drayke had come home with a black eye, he confided in his sister that his bully had hurt him. Two days later, on February 9th, 2022 Drayke’s older sister found him hanging with his favourite hoodie from his bunk bed. Drayke’s father immediately started CPR until paramedics took over, after 15 minutes, his heart started beating but the damage had already been done. On February 10th, 2022 Drayke passed away surrounded by his family, he was 12 years old. After his death, his family have started raising awareness for suicide and bullying. Drayke will forever be remembered as a loving boy with a kind heart. RIP Drayke (26th May 2009 – 10th February 2022)”

Please be kind and stand up for others. Be proactive. Teach your kids.

Kids Helpline: 1800 55 1800 https://kidshelpline.com.au/

Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467 https://www.suicidecallbackservice.org.au/

Headspace: 1800 650 890 https://headspace.org.au/

Beyond Blue: 1300 22 4636 https://www.beyondblue.org.au/

Lifeline: 13 11 14 https://www.lifeline.org.au/

#draykehardman #doitfordrayke #suicide #suicideawarness #mentalhealthawareness #bullying #stopbullying #bekind

Waking Up ; We Got This 👁🙏❤️✌️😘

*Technocracy is Insane, Anti-Human and it WILL Fail*

“In a way, the fact that they are trying to push this insane agenda so hard is itself the greatest white pill imaginable. They know their vision of the biometrically surveilled smart city of the future with its social credit economy and its lab-grown bug burgers and its AI chatbot overlords is insane. But they spend all of their time trying to convince you that it’s real.

Why? Because the thing they fear most is you discovering your true powers: Your ability to say no. Your ability to withdraw your consent. Your ability to form community with like-minded people and to use the natural abundance of the world to survive and even thrive without the need for their technocratic tyranny.”

This is why they’re so concerned about losing the trust of the public. This is why Bilderbergers are fretting about “Populism in Europe.” This is why the World Economic Forum is focusing on “rebuilding trust” as the core theme of their Davos conclave. This is why the Council on Foreign Relations spends an increasing amount of their time worrying about how people are rising up against the technocrats. They know they are the pathetic old men behind the curtain and they know that Toto is pulling back that curtain.”

https://corbettreport.substack.com/p/technocracy-is-insane-anti-human

Reality of Adult Children adapted to distortion

Have any of you had an adult or nearly adult, child make you feel like you’re still living with their parent? My oldest decided at 14, he wanted to live with his dad. At 19 now, with the help of his therapist, has seen through the bs and asked me to move in here. Of course, we opened our home for him, got him a job, have bent over backwards to ensure this feels like home to him. I love him being here, for the most part. He often comes to me when I’m just settling into bed, wanting to start an argument though. Because I stayed as long as I did. Because at 14, despite the lawyer and judge telling me I had no leg to stand on, I didn’t fight for him. There’s so much anger directed at me vs his dad and I feel like I’ve stepped back into that relationship again. ESPECIALLY with it all starting when I’m relaxed and ready to go to sleep. All of a sudden, he needs to talk and I’m the worst mom ever and if I try to tell him we can discuss tomorrow, he’s following me everywhere telling me that we need to talk now. I’m having such a hard time feeling the way I feel about my own child. I love him so much, but honestly, after being free from everything for 5 years now, I can not step back into it. I dont know how to get this across though without sounding like I am not willing to discuss it. I told him the other day, we can discuss all of this, im fully open to being candid and honest with you (we’ve had many, many, deep conversations regarding all of this) but that I could not be his punching bag. That I could not he kept up all night because he was itching for a fight with someone. 95% of the time, it absolutely breaks his heart if he sees me upset over something. He goes out of his way to help me, but that 5% its like he is enjoying the hell out of upsetting me. Pushing and pushing and saying absolutely horrible things and it’s like once he has me weak, vulnerable and crying, he’s ready for bed. Not until that point though. I’m really not sure how to handle this or where to even start?

Childress : Second Opinion/ Parental Alienation

Just so we’re clear… for all you parents who are going to get a forensic custody evaluation for $20,000 – $40,000, you can add a surcharge of an additional $10,000 for a second-opinion review by Dr. Childress to correct the misguided errors in the forensic custody evaluation.

AND… I’m going to recommend that your family get a written treatment plan, and for that you’ll need a diagnosis… which the forensic custody evaluation did not provide. Therefore, you will need to get a clinical diagnostic assessment of the attachment-related pathology in your family for about $2,500 – $5,000 with tele-health second opinion.

Hmm, I have an idea… why don’t we skip the forensic custody evaluation and the second-opinion analysis of it from Dr. Childress and save all that money… and START with a clinical diagnostic assessment of the attachment pathology in your family.

You need a treatment plan. A treatment plan requires a diagnosis, the treatment for cancer is different than the treatment for diabetes. You need a clinical diagnostic assessment to return a diagnosis to guide the development of a written treatment plan.

So let’s do that. Let’s get a diagnostic assessment to see what the problem is, then get a written treatment plan to fix whatever the problem is.

We must first diagnose what the pathology is before we know how to treat it. We must first identify what the problem is before we know how to fix it.

Diagnosis = identify
Pathology = problem
Treatment = fix it

Forensic psychology is a failed experiment in service delivery to a vulnerable population. Clinical psychology needs to return. They will refuse, it’s too dangerous. We need to make it safe for them to return.

That’s my role. We start by establishing baseline standard of practice to which ALL mental health professionals can be held accountable.

All psychologists should be applying EXACTLY the same information (the best), to reach EXACTLY the same conclusions (accurate), and provide EXACTLY the same recommendations (effective).

Is there a shared persecutory delusion? What’s the answer? If not, why not? Is the belief system true?

Is there psychological abuse of the child (DSM-5 V995.51)? If not, why not? What more would need to happen for it to become Child Psychological Abuse (V995.51)?

Is there psychological and emotional abuse of the parent using the child as the weapon (DSM-5 V995.82)? If not, why not? What more would need to happen for it to become Spouse or Partner Abuse, Psychological?

Family law attorneys will need to establish the path through the court system – treatment not custody – we want a written treatment plan… for that we need a diagnostic risk assessment for possible child abuse.

Clinical psychologists need to return – treatment not custody. You will want DBT therapy (Linehan) for it’s structure and containment of personality disorder pathology, and you will want the attachment therapy of EFT (Johnson) to inform the court-adapted DBT family therapy.

Market demand. Supply follows money. You’re the solution. You just needed to be given a choice – forensic or clinical – custody or treatment.

Choose treatment to fix things. Forensic psychology fixes nothing – ever. Ask them. Do you diagnose things? No. Do you treat things? No. What do you do? They do forensic custody evaluations for $20,000 to $40,000 put an added Dr. Childress second-opinion corrective surcharge.

I suggest you don’t want one of those. I suggest you want a clinical diagnostic risk assessment – is there a shared persecutory delusion (Walters & Friedlander, 2016; Family Court Review)?

The assessment for a delusional thought disorder is a Mental Status Exam of thought and perception. Do they now how to conduct one? Dr. Childress does. Perhaps they should consult with Dr. Childress.

From Improving Diagnosis: “Clinicians may refer to or consult with other clinicians (formally or informally) to seek additional expertise about a patient’s health problem. The consult may help to confirm or reject the working diagnosis or may provide information on potential treatment options.” (Improving Diagnosis in Healthcare, 2015)

From Improving Diagnosis: “Clinicians can also recommend that the patient seek a second opinion from another clinician to verify their impressions of an uncertain diagnosis or if they believe that this would be helpful to the patient.” (Improving Diagnosis in Healthcare, 2015)

See. Get a second opinion.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857