Tag: trauma
Setting boundaries with crazy makers
Antidepressants Have Destroyed My Sexual Function and Range of Emotions – Mad In America
In 2012, in a period of low mood and anxiety, my GP prescribed an antidepressant. Little did I know that this would derail my life.
— Read on www.madinamerica.com/2023/05/antidepressants-destroyed-sexual-function/
All this and more .. kill relationships , some deserve to die, but being in a vulnerable position to be destroyed by an uneducated, vengeful, winner take all ” partner” is deadly
30 years old case of brothers killing parents , reopening. They were sexually abused by Dad, ignored by Mom
(PDF) Dark Personalities and Induced Delusional Disorder, Part III: Identifying the Pathogenic Parenting Underlying a Crisis in the Family and Domestic Violence Courts
PDF | Approximately 10% of post-divorce custody cases become extended high conflict custody litigation in the family courts. Coincidentally, research… | Find, read and cite all the research you need on ResearchGate
— Read on www.researchgate.net/
Toxic Families Punish Truth Tellers
I have accepted this with regard to my family of origin, and the family I was discarded by. The blame will always be from them. They know everything , and find me ungrateful and unwilling to do what I’m told .
I accept their trauma,shame , and blame in keeping their abuses and use of me , is unhealed and what a detriment that is to their peace of mind , and soul growth . As I realized with the birth of our 1st child, while experiencing profound fear as he was taken for 12 hour observation, that God/Divine, had control of his life and I was helpless to do anything should he be taken from me .
Well he was taken from me , by many , and he as affirmed his trauma, his truth towards me , and his ever present anger/rage/hatred , and has not looked at all the influences that have him in a mindset that prefers me dead , and if alive , suffering , shamed, grieving .
Signs have presented themselves and will be seen as unhealed trauma , with those many influences and perhaps he will receive the healing he deserves and the peace within, mind , body and soul that truth and light bring . He may choose to stay in shadow , and again, I cannot help him as he targets me for all his issues . He did include his dad in his dissertation as he explained what a worthless rabid person I am, and how I should be ” put down ” like a rabid dog “.
Each child enjoys critiquing me , ignoring the situation , the dynamics , the family that was destroyed by psychiatry, Big Pharma , and a dad who wanted to win , and still refuses any responsibility for his actions and non actions .
My self work, and self worth will not allow me to consider any consolidation at this time and maybe never. That includes business partnerships , and reaching equilibrium of financial debts , and current pay.. the root of all this abuse is property . I am still considered property , and my usefulness is to be compliant , do as I’m told and not ask questions . For a truther it’s taken me over 20 years to speak my truth and it’s clear through these years and experiences that shutting me up permanently, is their wish .
However , I know the influences that retard spiritual growth , there are many, as well as how integral is is to soul and spiritual growth , or ” everlasting life .” My foundation of spiritual development and my mind have been tested , which have failed , and it’s now repair time for my physical which requires a stable foundation .. I’m joined by a friend who is helping me towards realization of that foundation , which should resolve itself soon ..
It has been 5 years since a hand written and witnessed document, was produced with promise of aiding me foundation-ally, a new vehicle , on behalf of all 4 family members as I discussed Child Psychological Abuse , and the unhealthy results for our children and grandchildren. He wasn’t interested or concerned , and never intended to honor his contact. I took that into consideration , knowing the result would not be advantageous for each family member.
My experience with a cunning , deceitful LLC partner , his offer of safety in his rental ( wasn’t his) , as he planned to take control of my property was the 4th attempt ,and left me homeless, and paying out far more for a roof over my head, but certainly not a thriving energy , just surviving .
The legal abuses , rose up again, as they were present in court actions with regard to business matters , until I was heard. I explained the high conflict, the malignant, intimate partner violence , and that he would never stop. I gave up the last of a very low spousal support, as I was advised with a force , declared, no force to take my social security .
The stuck energy left me long ago with regard to family , I’ve accessed through research , intuition , facts and spirituality and it’s clearly an ending . One he avoids , because control is everything , and as long as I have distractions I’m prey which has been proven wrong .
I’m not a place sitter , or a secret holder, and when it comes to my health and wealth being compromised, I will meet the challenge , aided by true justice on high as well in the system of justice we now see, as in many other systems is collapsing in order to be restored to be what it should be .
Of and for the people .
I love our children , but I release them , as I will legally , so that their inheritance will not be in partnership with me , which would only pit them against me in conflict that has been on going , by a man who has no morals , no respect and does not take responsibility for anything .
Toxic Families Punish Truth Tellers
Betrayal Trauma
OMG this is true. Over the past but as business partners ( he has controlled ) it’s his characteristic to do so every change he gets
Believing his own lies , expecting me to believe him which I never ever will
Australia’s Billion-Dollar Question: Why Is Mental Health Not Improving With Better Access?
Amid growing mental health crisis, research raises questions about the mass rollout of brief psychotherapies in Australia.
— Read on www.madinamerica.com/2023/05/australias-billion-dollar-question-why-is-mental-health-not-improving-with-better-access/
Attachment Pathology- Craig Childress PsyD
Novi Sad, Serbia – 4/28/23
This is a pathology of lies. Everything – everything – surrounding this pathology is a lie.
What you take for reality, is a lie.
This presents as a custody conflict. That is a lie. One parent drives the family conflict into the legal system to abuse the ex-spouse by making it as hard as possible to see their child, and costing them thousands and thousands of dollars fighting in court.
It is financial and emotional abuse of the ex-spouse from a desire to put them on “trial” for being a bad parent (spouse) and making the targeted spouse-and-parent defend themselves against false allegations of being abusive of their child.
This isn’t about custody. Custody is simple. It’s either shared 50-50 or one parent gets school-week and the other gets every-other-weekend.
This isn’t about custody, it’s about pathology. A child rejecting a parent is an attachment pathology – a problem (pathology) in the love-and-bonding system of the brain.
The ONLY cause of severe attachment pathology (a child rejecting a a parent) is child abuse by one parent or the other. In all cases of court-involved custody conflict, a proper risk assessment needs to be conducted to the appropriate differential diagnosis for each parent.
All cases. It should be routine, and the diagnostic assessment protocol should be standardized at the highest professional quality. When possible child abuse is a considered diagnosis, our diagnosis needs to be accurate 100% of the time.
We can do that. We need to do that. We never abandon a single child to child abuse. Not one. We always protect the child from all forms of child abuses 100% of the time.
All forms.
This isn’t about custody. That’s a lie. This is about pathology and its treatment. Attachment pathology. We need a proper risk assessment for child abuse to the appropriate differential diagnosis, and we need an effective treatment plan to fix the attachment pathology displayed by the child.
A pilot program for the family court with university involvement for evaluation research would greatly assist in developing high-quality diagnostic assessment and treatment protocols for the family courts.
We need to end the fighting surrounding the child. This is not complex. It is simple. The ONLY thing that’s missing is the motivation to solve it.
That’s changing. I traveled to the Balkans because it’s changing there.
I encourage the professionals in Serbia and the Balkans to consider an APA presentation in 2024 in Seattle to inform your American colleagues of your developments in your approach to court-involved attachment pathology surrounding child custody conflict.
Come visit me in the Pacific Northwest in 2024. We’ll go visit Mt. Rainier and take in a Mariners game. I’m confident the APA would welcome an international submission. You have top-tier professionals working toward a solution. Work for a year, then come and tell us about it.
Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857
Entitled- Alienated children feel the targeted parent owes them
If and when we see a child who has been alienated, it can feel as if they’re doing us a favour. Or doing their duty. Or they think there should be something in it for them – a treat, a nice meal, an apology, hard cash … This sense of entitlement stems, of course, from the alienating parent. They feel we owe them too. We abandoned them, or we betrayed them, or we didn’t do right by them, or it’s all our fault. Whatever the scenario, it basically boils down to the same thing: the alienating parent, and therefore the indoctrinated child too, feels that we owe them. We should pay/be punished. We should pay – emotionally, and financially. That’s why it’s quite easy, given our situation to play along with this too and be so grateful to be given an audience, we do roll out the metaphorical red carpet. We don’t behave as we would normally because the time we have (if any) is so precious. It’s like the most unimaginably wonderful gift – better than anything that can be wrapped up at Christmastime with a pretty bow on top – to spend time with our alienated child. Alienation has turned everything upside down and inside out. It’s given the child the upper hand because we LOVE them so much. Because it is exactly our love for them that’s being played here. Teenagers might do this anyway, trying to get what they can from parents, but the alienated child has learned all the manipulative ways of the alienating parent. What it is hard, but nevertheless, worthwhile trying to do is not roll out that red carpet but just behave as we would as if the alienation had never happened. Plus this situation might have left us short-changed (emotionally and financially), rather than them. The alienated child doesn’t need a red carpet, they just need love.
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