A gift : Family Therapy /Family Coach

Part of the process of Domestic Abuse/Child Abuse Recovery is receiving


gifts as is the offering described below by Craig Childress .

Shadow is strong , Light is much stronger .

Love Builds Bridges ❤️

On the second day of Christmas…

I just got Dorcy her Christmas present. Shhhh, don’t tell her.

It’s a book by a renowned family therapist, Cloe Madanes, entitled: Changing Relationships: Strategies for Therapists and Coaches.

Cloe Madanes just published it earlier in the year, in 2018. Cloe is my absolute all-time favorite family therapist. She was married to Jay Haley, the other top echelon family therapist I quote, and Cloe and Jay Haley and Salvador Minuchin all worked at the same Child Guidance Clinic in Philadelphia back in the 70s, and this particular clinic was one of the several focal points for the development of family therapy. Cloe Madanes is like top-of-the-top family therapist.

Salvador Minuchin is called “structural” family systems therapy, Jay Haley and Cloe Madanes are called “strategic” family systems therapy. Same basic principles, different approaches to intervention.

And in 2018 Cloe Madanes writes a book for therapists and coaches… and coaches… right there in the title. You see, in family systems therapy, we totally understand families. Cloe Madanes is not even aware of what’s happening in forensic psychology, and independently in her world of normal family therapy she is fully comfortable working in complete collaboration with family coaches.

So comfortable, that she writes a book of “Strategies for Therapists and Coaches” without even batting an eye – right there in the title. In family systems therapy, the collaboration of therapists and coaching is fully wonderful, fully recognized, and fully legitimate. Family systems therapists get it. We understand families, we understand solutions.

And remember, Cloe Madanes has no idea that your families or this pathology over here in “forensic psychology” even exists. Clinical psychology is prohibited from working with your children and families or we’ll lose our license, so Cloe and all of family therapy do not work with your families.

Don’t believe me? Read Cloe’s book and see if that resembles anything even remotely close to your experience of “family therapy” (or “reunification therapy”) – not even; uh-unh, not at all. Not even in the same universe. One’s family therapy and one’s just whatever-nonsense.

Family therapy is one of the four primary schools of psychotherapy, the others being psychoanalytic (Freud and the coach), humanistic-existential (self-actualization and hot tubs), and cognitive-behavioral therapy (lab rats and Learning Theory). All psychotherapy without exception should be from one of these four primary schools… otherwise, it’s not psychotherapy… it’s just whatever-nonsense.

Family therapy is the only school of psychotherapy that is for families, it is the type of psychotherapy that should be used with your families, but isn’t being used… because forensic psychology is not using any form of established or defined psychotherapy with your families.

Meanwhile, over in clinical psychology, the family therapy and family coach collaboration is so wonderful that the premiere family therapist, Cloe Madanes, writes a book in 2018 specifically for family therapists and coaches.

Cloe doesn’t even actually discuss the role of coaches and therapists… because it’s actually a non-issue and so ordinary that it’s not worth discussing. She mostly just begins sentences saying…

From Cloe Madanes: “In a strategic approach to coaching and to therapy, the most frequent intervention is the directive…” (p. 14).

From Cloe Madanes: “Reframing is a communication strategy broadly used by therapists and coaches. People typically present one view of the obstacles that trouble them. The coach/therapist transforms these obstacles into new difficulties that can be solved…” (p. 15),

Notice in these two examples how she just basically uses the two terms as the same: “a strategic approach to coaching and to therapy” – “used by therapists and coaches” – “the coach/therapist.” Basically the same. She even switches up which one goes first, for example giving primacy to the coach in the “coach/therapist” term she uses.

I completely agree with Cloe Madanes. When working with children and families – family therapist – family coach. It’s a collaborative approach to solution. Knowledge is knowledge.

This book by Cloe Madanes is one of my Christmas presents from me-to-myself from “my wife” (thanks honey, just what I wanted)… and now it’s becoming my Christmas present to Dorcy… but don’t tell her, I want it to be a surprise.

You know what… I’d like to make it my Christmas holiday present to all of you as well? I can’t actually buy you the book, but if you go to Amazon and buy it for yourself, like I did for me from “my wife,” then you could say it’s from Dr. C, so it’d be kind of like my present to you.

Madanes: Changing Relationships: Strategies for Therapists and Coaches.


I think you’ll find it amazingly fascinating what actual family therapy is. Wow. So – so different from what you guys have. I don’t even recognize the type of therapy your families are receiving – it’s nothing actually. Forensic psychology is just sort of flailing about, making stuff up and making a big mess of everything.

So you’d probably find a book describing real family therapy fascinating – this is what family therapy is – and I can’t think of a better book than one from a premiere family systems therapist, Cloe Madanes, written in 2018, it’s only 134 pages, and it’s simply busting at the brim with strategies for family therapy… and family coaching… she said so, right in the title of her book, for therapists and coaches.

Family therapy and family coaching… chocolate chip cookies and milk. Once we bring clinical psychology back to court-involved practice, we can start fixing things.

The world is changing.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857

Surviving Parental Alienation during special events, holidays, and birthdays

Surviving Parental Alienation during special events, holidays, and birthdays

Surviving Parental Alienation during special events, holidays, and birthdays
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Feeling empty ? Be the chalice , and begin to fill up intentions .

Still being tested on past mistakes, lacks , grief will bring a host of

” side effects “…

Currently , 18 to 20 year retro being noted …as newer

much healthier options are availed and accepted , it’s not the ” dark

night of the soul ” of past …

Ghost are gone , welcomed spirits , messages

are received and welcome…Closure , thus peace is replacing the holes ,

the ” sentences ” without periods …and so today , I quietly celebrate .

As realizations of seed planting , or inner knowledge that when shared

were dismissed , bear fruits that combine with past , present and future

that creates philosophers , crones, wise humane humans …to whom

I owe so very much..My heart and soul are at peace , for though I live

and eat and sleep alone, I am not lonely …I no longer feel separation

and I have surrendered all my connections to Divine Spirit , and will

accept what is , what is to be.

Celebrate , your light is known to me , your shadow is known to me.

I hold out my hand , I will not hold on to you, I do hold you in my heart

I am Blessed in each soul that allows me to be, just be …

I am

DonaLuna , in love with all that is, and all that ever will be .

Circus, on The Moon, Bruce Hornsby


You Are Source ~ December 1, 2018


Continue to deep breathe. Bring your conscious breath, your Pranayama, into all your chakras; especially into your Heart. This helps you anchor the New within you. Don’t let anything distract you from being positive. These distractions could be harsh words, the “olds” (rather than the “news”), worldly events and other things that take you away from anchoring the New. You might also choose to anchor your Light onto the existing New Earth Grid. It is ready for you to project your Light to become connected and merged onto Gaia’s New Grid of Light that is present on Earth. Pay attention to your guidance; that voice within; follow it even when it makes no sense in the moment.

When you are consciously linked/merged with the New, you experience much Peace and self-Love. Remember that you are a God-Being. God/Source is not something separate from you; it is who you are. As…

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In exposing the facts , demanding change in Family Courts & Therapy is risky

Well, we should know soon if Dr. Childress can no longer work with you and your families.

A minor’s counsel in a court case I testified in has submitted documents to the court alleging that I violated Forensic Psychology Guidelines (he’s coming after my license).

I did not violate any guidelines.

But truth does not stop the pathogen. I’ve known this was coming. A price that any clinical psychology professional must put up to even work with your children and families is our career.

Not a single clinical psychologist will work with any of your children and families. You are left with only one choice – the stone-cold stupidity and arrogance of forensic psychology.

If my license survives, we’ll see what happens.

Do you see?

It’s the red pill. You have been isolated in forensic psychology so you can be abused and the pathology can continue.

I am a sincere and honest clinical psychologist who is trying to help you and your children – and my license is put in risk because of it – actual risk starting today when I received the court filings of the minor’s counsel with the allegations that I violated Forensic Psychology Guidelines (because I did not do a $20,000 to $40,000 child custody evaluation – and instead did a structured limited-scope trauma-informed clinical psychology assessment – by court order – that found a confirmed DSM-5 diagnosis of V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse.

Clinical psychology will NOT work with your children and families as long as our license is put at risk. That is simply a fact.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857