Loss of a Mother


Is an inevitable part of our life.

We know it will come around

and we know the day will hurt

but we are not prepared,

never prepared

for the tearing.

The tearing of a part of our soul

from its very seams

stitches pulled asunder

heart wrenched in half

soul split in two.

But that tearing is not what you may think

it is it is not her leaving you

it is the loss of her physical form

which you have been so very used and attached to.

And now she must remove that part

for it no longer serves you

and you no longer need it

despite what you may think.

Because she made you well

and she built all of her love into you

cell by cell

thought by thought

lesson by lesson.

And the split that you feel

is simply the new the new way

you will carry on your love

for your mother

with your mother

just in a different way

for she did not leave

mother’s cannot leave

they are in you

look inside

she’s there

and that bond

that connection

is unable to be taken now

that is all yours to keep


Donna Ashworth

Artist: Avigail Sapir Art

Nikola Tesla

“It is strange, but when I have an inspiration, always it seems to me as if my mother were near me – at my bedside – during my work – all the time. She was an inventor. She invented a weaving machine, attending to all details herself. Yes, and many things of more importance. My father was a mathematician and linguist. He was a man of note in both studies, but from my mother comes the inventive faculty, and now, though she is dead, when the pressure of thought of some new idea is on me, I feel her presence.“

–Nikola Tesla

“Tesla Talks And Confirms His Astounding Story.” Criterion, November 19, 1898.

Dr. Nikola Tesla

MotherBaby heart & Cell Connection

“During pregnancy, some baby cells migrate into the mother’s bloodstream and then return to the child. It’s called “mother-fetal microchimerism”.

For 41 weeks, the cells mix and circulate back and forth, and, after baby is born, many of these cells remain in the mother’s body, leaving permanent imprint in the mother’s tissues, bones, brain and skin, and often staying there for decades.

Every other child a mother has will leave a similar imprint on her body.

Even if a pregnancy doesn’t end, or if you have an abortion, these cells still migrate into the bloodstream.

Research has shown that if a mother’s heart is injured, fetal cells will rush to the injury site, and transform into different types of cells that specialize in repairing the heart.

The child helps the mother repair, while the mother builds the child.

This is often the reason why some diseases fade away during pregnancy.

It’s amazing how the mother’s body protects the baby at all costs, and the baby protects and rebuilds the mother in return, so they can safely develop and survive.

Let’s think about pregnancy cravings for a moment. What did the mother need, that the child make her wish?

The studies also showed the presence of fetal cells in her mother’s brain 18 years after birth.

How wonderful is this? ”

From an article by Nargis Kizalbash

Art by Enric Huguet (@enric. hugs)

Mothers Day without her

As Mother’s Day approaches across parts of the world, for those who dread the day…I hope this helps x


For many, Mother’s Day is one to be avoided, to dread, to rage at.

But consider this.

If you have a mother in heaven, who you miss so much that this day burns like fire, then you have been blessed.

So many do not know this.

So many do not understand a love so deeply bonding, that the grief is beyond comprehension.

And consider this also.

If your mother is no longer with you on this mortal coil, do not, for a moment, believe that she is gone.

That you are without her.

For that is not possible.

She beats with your every heartbeat.

She breathes with your every gasp.

She is coded into your every cell.

That cannot be undone.

Perhaps, perhaps, you could begin to celebrate, on Mother’s Day, and every day, that you were gifted a mother like yours.

And instead of avoiding this day, perhaps, perhaps, you could embrace it again and invite her to be with you, again.

Remembering, as you did on earth, how blessed you were.

Perhaps, perhaps, this day could become a sweet one once more, as you do all the things you know she loved on earth. For her.

For many, Mother’s Day is one to be avoided but I wonder if maybe that could change.

I wonder if she is waiting for that.

Perhaps she is waiting for that.

Donna Ashworth

From ‘loss’ https://amzn.eu/d/fwIp4VX

ART BY Claudia Tremblay #claudiatremblay

#mothersday #mothersdaypain #motherlessdaughters #motherless #griefonmothersday #grief #missyou

Society Judges Moms & this should become extinct

Try offering help, set an example of how to ignore the critical judges of society

In our society, a mother suffers guilt no matter what she does.⁣⁣


If she’s on top of her kids making sure everything’s okay, she’s called a helicopter mom, and if she lets them run around as she sits on the side talking to a friend, she’s neglectful.⁣⁣


If she prefers cooking from scratch and organic everything, her kids are “going to go crazy on junk food when they go to someone else’s house.” And if she feeds them donuts and muffins for breakfast some mornings because she’s in a rush or “just because,” then her kids are unhealthy. ⁣⁣


If she breastfeeds and doesn’t produce enough milk, and her baby isn’t thriving, then she’s a failure. But when she adds formula, she’s more of a failure for not giving her baby all breast milk.⁣⁣


If she stays home with her kids, she should be working—”how can her family financially keep up?” But if she’s working, she’s met with “they’re only little once.”⁣⁣


If she hasn’t lost the postpartum weight, “gosh, she let herself go.” But if she did, “wow, she must not eat, spend hours working out, and neglect her children.”⁣⁣


In a society that knows “everything” and places too many expectations on moms,⁣⁣

If you listen to everyone else,⁣⁣

you’re always going to fall short.⁣⁣



and stop feeling bad for your choices.⁣⁣


Throw those internalized unrealistic expectations away,⁣⁣

and do what’s best for you and your family.⁣⁣


It’s called “your family” for a reason.⁣⁣


Besides, if you love your children and try,⁣⁣

you’re a good mom.⁣⁣

⁣✍️: Living FULL

📸: This Mama Doodles


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In a mother’s womb were twin babies. One asked the other: “Do you believe in life after delivery?”

The other replied, “Why, of course. There has to be something after delivery.”

“Nonsense” said the first. “There is no life after delivery. What kind of life would that be?”

The second said, “I don’t know, maybe there will be more light than here. Maybe we’ll walk with our legs and eat with our mouths. Maybe we will have other senses that we can’t understand now.”

The first replied, “That is absurd. Walking is impossible. And eating with our mouths? Ridiculous! The cord gives us everything we need.”

The second insisted, “Well, I think there might be something different than here. Maybe we won’t need the cord anymore.”

The first replied, “If there is life, then why has no one ever come back from there? Delivery is the end of life, and afterwards, we become nothing.”

“But certainly we will meet Mother and she will take care of us,” said the second baby.

The first replied “Mother? You actually believe in Mother? That’s laughable. If Mother exists, then where is she?”

The second said, “She is all around us. We are surrounded by her. It is within her that we live. Without Her, our world would not exist.”

Said the first: “Well, I don’t see Her, so she doesn’t exist.”

To which the second replied, “Sometimes, when you really listen, you can feel her presence, and you can hear her voice, calling down to us. I feel love when I hear that voice.” ~~Pablo Molinero~~

Mother’s Wound

Some of us were blessed with wonderful mothers. Some of us were blessed with challenging mothers. For some of us it’s a mix of both. Sometimes the best thing they could do for us was to show us all the examples of what kind of person we don’t want to be. Guidance can come in many different forms. But the important thing to remember is that you picked your parents for a very good reason. ❤️ – admin Lara