“Excessive grief can hold you back in developing your karma. You need to realize that you will be running across this person again, that you miss so deeply and are grieving so hard for. You are not parted forever. It is just a temporary separation and you need to put that behind you and continue with your own growth so you will be ready for your next life.”
Dolores Cannon
Between Death and Life
YOU DON’T JUST LOSE SOMEONE ONCE
You lose them over and over,
sometimes in the same day.
When the loss, momentarily forgotten,
creeps up,
and attacks you from behind.
Fresh waves of grief as the realisation hits home,
they are gone.
Again.
You don’t just lose someone once,
you lose them every time you open your eyes to a new dawn,
and as you awaken,
so does your memory,
so does the jolting bolt of lightning that rips into your heart,
they are gone.
Again.
Losing someone is a journey,
not a one-off.
There is no end to the loss,
there is only a learned skill on how to stay afloat,
when it washes over.
Be kind to those who are sailing this stormy sea,
they have a journey ahead of them,
and a daily shock to the system each time they realise,
they are gone,
Again.
You don’t just lose someone once,
you lose them every day,
for a lifetime.
Donna Ashworth
For anyone grieving, my book ‘loss’ may bring some comfort and hope, that whilst grief is a hard part of our lives, it came from love ♥️ love came first xx
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The card of the day is Emotional Loss. You may be feeling emotional today at the loss of a loved one or something you were emotionally attached to. Know that it is OK to cry, it is OK to feel these emotions. You need to feel them and let them go in order to heal.
When you bottle everything up, you cannot fully heal and your emotions will manifest physically and you will need more healing. By feeling your emotions and letting them go, you will invite more good into your life. Whether you feel like moving on or not right now, you need to give yourself some time to heal.
Reach out if you need to and ask for help. There is someone ready and willing to help you but you need to reach out and admit you need some help first. There is so much love surrounding you now as you go through this heartache and you will feel so much better soon.
If you are grieving the loss of a loved one who has passed, they would not want you to be sad but to be happy and joyful and live your life to the full. Know that this time will pass and you will feel joy again with your loved ones.
Sending out lots of love to all of you who have lost loved ones.
Have a fantastic day filled with love!
“Why Many Feel Deep Grief or Sadness”
Many have asked about the deep sadness or grief sensations, which are unrelated to personal events or clearings.
Follow this flow for a moment:
Magnetic shifts on this planet,
in her fields, and within her core, affect our bodies, emotional fields, and thoughts/ego/brain.
It is one of the root causes of
the awakening and Shift in Consciousness being a widespread, inevitable, global event.
The Higher Realms have spoken for decades about how this passage would affect the mental, emotional, and physical levels. The Ascending collective dealt with the psychological levels last year during death of the ego. We learned to prioritize balance, increase self-care, de-magnetize the egoic structures, and initiate new practices.
Emotions, which are magnetic, are a key to creating in these realms, and beyond. Emotions ascend into crystalline feeling states, consistently focused on Divine LoveLight Intelligence and Unity Consciousness: highest outcomes for all.
As Gaia’s magnetics shift to an organic crystalline operating system, we must do the same. This means the dismantling of personal and collective states which were influenced by the old control systems. This is what we are feeling in the field right now: accelerated collapse of the old ways of creating.
This is literally changing the way in which we assemble realities, from the core outward.
As Unified Crystalline Conduits of a new frequency – the return of the Christ/Kryst – through our activated and coherent Hearts, we feel the deep changes together. We sense things before they are revealed for the collective. This is purposeful; we feel it first, learn practices which assist, and support the collective as they are raised into the higher vibrational flow, anchored by the Ascending collective. We become pure conduits of Divine Service and Divine Will.
When Divine feels less-than-Divine, folks get concerned. We are more sensitive as Unity Consciousness increases; we feel the effect of revelations on the collective. Death, another key theme this year, is very present in the unified field right now. Death of the old affects our entire reality. We are One, and we feel sympathy for our fellow travelers incarnated during this profound passage of Ascension.
Another 2023 theme is an increase in the sensation of heaviness or density, which is actually transmutation of density. Heaviness in the heart, emotions, or thoughts may be felt as these structures depart our realities.
Magnetic changes shift our way of interpreting frequencies in form. It isn’t an instant flip, it is a process. Note the changes in SUNlight right now. Even the Stargate magnetics and frequencies are more refined and direct.
Some guidance for the sadness and grief:
Be a responsible creator.
Don’t suppress or delay the good work; get to it. We have multitudes of tools for emotional clearing and physical release. We are one: The more we transmute in own journey, the more it assists the collective. Do this before the Equinox trajectory shift in March.
Consistent connection with Spirit. A perfect moment to remember you are vast spiritual being. Meditate. Decree. Pray. Get out on Gaia. Activate your DNA, practice with Kryst Light, connect with the Master Crystals, journal for clarity. Get near water, a salve for the emotional fields as they shift. Meditate with your I AM Presence.
Mourn the loss of your old way of creating. Take a moment to witness, honor, and mourn the collapse. Witness it, be present with it. This helps to clear distortions from your fields.
Tap into Zero Point stillness.
This has been my saving grace.
A good place to shed the whirlwind of collective sadness, grief, and dismantling we feel in the field. An excellent practice for realigning to Divine Truth. Even a few minutes of meditation on the Heart can transmute the heaviness of density in our fields.
More time in the organic.
The division is real. Notice how scattering online activity or EMF frequencies feel right now? We don’t have to judge or reject it, just be aware of the effect on your consciousness. Scroll with intention, and pay attention to where your energy is being steered. As always, spend more of your precious journey co-creating the new, rather than getting distracted or watching the old burn.
Gather with intention. I posted about sacred travel this week, and was thrilled to see everyone’s plans for Equinoxes and Solstices this year. Gatherings are making a big comeback, and unified hearts have more power than ever in this new Light.
Unifying During the Gateway
We have witnessed the revelation and narrative shift energies increasing this week. As we exit this Stargate portal, the energy jump starts to physicalize. It will feel positive for open hearts! Use these jumps wisely, it’s a year to stay in Presence and truly learn what the power of the Kryst/Crystalline/Unity Consciousness is all about.
In this Now, send your Divine
I AM Presence your gratitude, attention, and LoveLight. Open the flow, and strengthen that connection.
~ Sandra Walter ❤️
https://www.ascensionpath.com/
Certainly seems alien
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Parental alienation is probably the hardest experience you will ever go through and screws you up mentally and emotionally. I know because I have been there too!
The alienating parent’s childhood trauma may have been triggered by the separation/divorce, and they fear abandonment, feeling worthless and empty, and losing control – so they rewrite the narrative, recasting all the roles. Good parent becomes bad. Victimizer becomes victim. They cling to the child/ren as the emotional attachment bonds with their spouse/partner sever.
I also know that although it was the alienator that put you onto this emotional rollercoaster, ONLY YOU can get yourself off. Every day that you sit on that ride experiencing pain, is another day that the alienator wins. It is another day that you are less able to help your children and your family.
Many of us need help to get off the rollercoaster, learning how to best support our children in ways to be more effective in dealing with alienators.
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I am very easily dehydrated and am there now , as weak as I’ve ever been. Flash backs to the psychiatric drugged years when in family , no one noticed or cared , falling in alignment with partner-abuser . I went in and out of believing I wasn’t worthy of love or compassion but thankfully Divine Intervention kept me alive .
Harsh reality has been the continual decline to worthy of our children’s love , consideration or affection which was pronounced last year with a business partnership that nearly wiped me out coming down November 23 rd and continuing through out 2022 .
I had many peaceful Christmas in my own space but being in a motel since May 1 ,2022 has been stepping backwards and acknowledging that the interference has a very strong recoil for those who instigated and ignored their responsibilities.
More on this later as well as how to do organic ” blood transfusions ”
What Psychiatry Has Done for Me
Tammy
The stigma and discrimination I have had to endure due to my ‘diagnosis’ crushed my spirit and the dreams I had for my life. But the most devastating part of all is how it altered my relationship with my two sons.
In psychiatry’s wake, society continues to deny people their civil rights based solely upon its perception that ‘they’ need ‘help’. But is psychiatric help the answer? I can think of far more kindhearted and empathetic methods and less stressful ways of helping someone cope with a life crisis or distressing situation than locking them up, forcibly drugging them and stigmatizing them with a scarlet letter for the rest of their lives.
Another accounting of the damage / abuse of psychiatry :
The road to hell, they say, is paved with the best of intentions. As a boy of ten, a psychiatrist diagnosed me with a condition then known as MBD (Minimal Brain Dysfunction) which has, in the years since, become what is now known ADHD, I was put on a daily dose of 350mg of Thorazine and remained on it for roughly seven years. Now the possibility that because I was a child, along with three siblings, who had been abandoned by both of his parents before the age of six, sent to live with a psychologically (and sometimes, physically abusive,) grandfather, placed in an orphanage by the age of eight, and separated from his siblings two years later, would have anything to do with the emotional and mild behavioral issues I presented, did not seem to cross her mind. I was an intelligent (IQ of 145) and sensitive child who had experienced a considerable amount oain and disruption in his young life and was a target for bullies in school which led me to become withdrawn from and subsequently rejected by his peers, which led a psychiatrist consulted by my long term psychologist to suggest that I was borderline psychotic (a diagnosis which my therapist, thankfully, didn’t accept.) None of the psychiatrists and psychologists that dealt with my case had intent to do me harm, but their good intentions resulted in my growing into an adult who would never achieve his full potential and who would spend his entire life in social isolation. I went twenty five years without contact with my siblings after graduating highschool and my relationship with them, save the youngest of my two oldest sisters, is tenuous at best. Now, at the age of sixty, with my life winding down, I look back across the years and despair over what might have been if I had never crossed paths with that first psychiatrist.
www.madinamerica.com/2022/12/what-psychiatry-has-done-for-me/
Imagine a reduced capacity to grasp what’s reality and what’s not , medicated by psychiatry into this state and your partner splits and 2 weeks later eldest child and knowing the preparation was being made to strip you of everything you held dear so he can begin a happy life
Not one Drs appointment did he attend. He did make a few phone calls to Dr
Mom nearing her death ( April; he split Dec 27) and spewed his tale of victim hood . He was too busy being happy to have quality time with children so he continued to throw money at em
When you lose someone…
all of a sudden you have no choice but to live in a world you don’t recognize.
It feels dark even when it’s daylight.
Lonely even when you are surrounded by people.
Only existing. Unsure of your identity now.
You can see life going on right in front of you.
You even try to reach out and touch that world. But you aren’t able to. Yet.
People out there are just living their mundane lives and seem to not have a care in the world. You sometimes try to live in that world too. This involves fake smiles and pretend interest in small talk. It’s exhausting. So you choose to isolate instead.
It would be nice to switch places with them. And not have your loss constantly replaying in your mind. All those anxious thoughts ruminating.
It’s a rude awakening when everyone just keeps moving. Laughing. Making plans. While you are suspended in time.
Just going through the motions. With a pain so deep that you can’t even exactly pinpoint where it is coming from.
Invisible to others. But it’s there. And it always hurts.
People will say “they are always with you”.
But where? It feels so long since you have heard their voice. You almost feel like you have been abandoned to roam this unrecognizable world alone. And on the other end, feel guilty for trying to move forward without them.
Loss is this way. A big ball of tangled up feelings. And it takes as long as it takes to move through these confusing emotions. It takes patience. Lots of self care and being kind to yourself.
Because grief is lonely journey when you are the only one who truly understands how this particular loss feels.
The After Glow
Our wounded child is not only us; he or she may represent several generations of ancestors.
Our parents and ancestors may have suffered all their lives without knowing how to look after the wounded child in themselves, so they transmitted that child to us.
So when we’re embracing the wounded child inside us, we’re embracing all the wounded children of past generations.
This practice doesn’t just benefit us; it liberates numberless generations of ancestors and descendants. This practice can break the cycle.
-Thich Nhat Hanh The Art of Communicating
We all have generational shadows. These shadows are handed down like waves of deep conscious pain travelling through the human condition like a virus.
When I find myself experiencing the crashing wave of generational shadow, I find strength in knowing I am doing the work for all of my ancestors, all of my descendants, along with myself. And yes, the rest of the world as well. We are all just walking each other home.
Healing work is grief work.
Shadow work is grief work.
Grieving is the healing.
Without grieving, we obstruct the flow of the divine intelligence of life that wants to move through us and pull us into deeper alignment with our greatest aliveness.
It’s no small thing.
We are taught to be afraid of our grief because it is wild and untamable.
It reminds us we are in a co-creative relationship with something greater than us, something we cannot control; a higher power that isn’t so petty as to judge us for our human foibles.
In cultures where the wildness is conditioned out of living, where death is feared into an industry, this very necessary and innate aspect of our humanity keeps us from experiencing all that we really long for.
Where there is joy, there is grief.
One of the reasons joy feels so vulnerable, or even opening to love again, is that awareness of the grief that lives inside of it. Inside of our vulnerability, inside our love and attachments, inside the shame (fear and grief) that arises to remind us of the ephemeral nature of all things.
When we embrace the process of grief, we can more fully and fearlessly embrace our joy too.
We also become more skilled at letting go of the things that we need to let go of, that pull us away from love.
We no longer have to wait until we are free of shadow or pain or loss or mourning to get on with our flourishing.
Our joy and flourishing is not a disloyalty to our grief and loss, but an honoring of if, of what was and how we loved.
And, it all has it’s own wise timing that cannot be rushed.
In the myth of the Phoenix, a potent symbol of rebirth, there comes a time in their life where they know it is time to complete a cycle. The phoenix then builds a nest (a funeral pyre) and with a clap of its wings, goes into flames and, perhaps like caterpillar soup, is remade in the alchemy of the fire.
As it rises out the ashes, the ashes left represent salt, or that which cannot be burned, the life force of life itself.
Eros.
The phoenix uses myrrh to create an egg out of the remains. And, then, takes this egg and leaves it on the alter of the Sun God as an offering and a prayer for creative regeneration, for more life and in gratitude for what was.
In this myth, there is a recognition of death, of a time to complete a cycle. To give something up.
Usually, we experience through loss, the death of a loved one or another initiation of loss.
But we are often also asked to give up our patterns, attachments, beliefs, worldview identities, cultural paradigms, hopes for the future, dreams, longings for what will never be, or even the expertise we cling on to when life wants us to expand into more possibility.
Recognizing this space, the phoenix knows it must sacrfice what is precious in order to generate more life.
It offers the bones, the salt, the life force of life itself, that which cannot ever be destroyed, to the altar of the divine to create more wholeness.
This is our own personal spiral of grief, where we enter the spiral through loss and change, recovery or healing crisis, where we must let go.
Into that fire, we offer what needs to be recycled in order to be reborn into something new. We make a sacred offering of what feels so precious to us in order to receive our wholeness in return.
We learn what our relationship really is with the unknown, what needs to be healed there.
We meet the ache that never goes away, the pain of grief and longing and joy where our wound and Eros, God, dances in our continual becoming.
The more we embrace that this is a natural cycle of humanning, the less we have to “work” on ourselves like projects on a “to do” list, because we come to trust the natural cycles of our soul’s evolution.
In intimacy with the ache, we understand what is needed, what our particular Chironic medicine is cooking up within us, what to leave at the altar of the divine, how to spread flower petals with tears of our prayers and come back into resonance with what can never, ever be destroyed that is always living inside of us.
Love.
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Dr. Mia Hetényi
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