Tina Turner- of her early marriage/ career …I’ll never go back

“For sixteen years, her husband beat her.

But on this night, Tina Turner washed the blood from her face, wrapped a cape around her bloodied clothes, covered her eyes with a pair of sunglasses, and placed a wrap on her head, because the swelling was so bad, she couldn’t wear her wig.

She ran out of the hotel, hid among the trash cans, and then ran to the Ramada Inn, where she begged for a room.

All she had was thirty-six cents and a Mobil credit card.

But after sixteen years of cruelty, she finally walked out on Ike Turner.

To be clear, it wasn’t easy. She was so worried about her safety, she stayed with friends, paying her way by keeping house. It got so bad that Tina Turner—the Tina Turner—had to use food stamps.

And yes, it’s incredible that Tina Turner built her career back from nothing.

But what’s even more incredible is the battle cry she repeated inside her head—the battle cry that gave her strength: “I will die before I go back.”

Never forget it: No matter how deep the hole is, you can always find a way out.

In their divorce, Tina Turner gave Ike nearly everything. All their money. And the publishing royalties for her compositions. “You take everything I’ve made in the last sixteen years,” she said. “I’ll take my future.”

From HEROES FOR MY DAUGHTER, by novelist Brian Meltzer, 2012

Healthy Holy Man


You will be confused, at first it will seem selfless or not very intense. You would think there’s something off about him, or that you’re not the center of his attention.

When a sane man comes to you, he’s not going to put you in a state of delirium and demand, he won’t demand attention and he won’t harass and control you.

When you attract a healthy man, they will have some things in common, but he’s not going to make the effort to love you and be nice all the time, he’s going to show for himself.

When a healthy man comes to you, he shares his peace and calm with you, he includes you in his life without training you and he respects your time.

He will show you who he is instantly, the masks won’t come off after a few months that will confuse you.

He will not waste space, he will listen to your silences and know your cycles.

When you attract a healthy man, only then will you know you’ve broken the repetitive pattern of attracting toxicity and violence, and you’ll know you’ve healed what was broken inside you.

Wish you all the things you deserve.


Patience visited me

And it reminded me

That good things take time to come to fruition

And grow slowly with stability

Peace visited me

And it reminded me

That I may remain calm through the storms of life

Regardless of the chaos surrounding me

Hope visited me

And it reminded me

That better times lay ahead

And it would always be there to guide and uplift me

Humility visited me

And it reminded me

That I may achieve it

Not by trying to shrink myself and make myself less

But by focusing on serving the world and uplifting those around me

Kindness visited me

And it reminded me

To be more gentle, forgiving and compassionate toward myself

And those surrounding me

Confidence visited me

And it reminded me

To not conceal or suppress my gifts and talents

In order to make others feel more comfortable

But to embrace what makes me me

Focus visited me

And it reminded me

That other people’s insecurities and judgements about me

Are not my problem

And I should redirect my attention

From others back to me

Freedom visited me

And it reminded me

That no one has control over my mindset, thoughts and wellbeing

But me

And love visited me

And it reminded me

That I need not search for it in others

As it lies within me.

Tahlia Hunter

CNAs & my Blessing having had Destiny , and friends in Rehab

Destiny is on the right, and I could not have dreamed of a better caregiver , whom I plan to visit with, asap.

What a truly beautiful experience she provided , a bond created that’s normal and natural and blessed divinity .

This was posted on her wall, and I’m sure of the authenticity of these words … Earth Healing Angels ( with a few exceptions) are at risk, at work, overworked and underpaid…

Our healthcare system, must do better , be better …

Be a CNA they said. However, what they didn’t say was how fast we have to run after an exit seeking resident. Or how to deal with angry and upset residents who’s spitting in my face, scratching my arms to pieces, and hitting me in confusion. Or how to deal with a resident who’s deathly ill screaming for God to take them. Or how hard it is to deal with a resident during the holidays who never has any family come see them and they’re crying to you asking you why their family didn’t show up. Or how to juggle so many pages at one time. Or how to deal with the silent melt downs in the bathroom from the stress or losing your first resident. Or how to deal with the feeling of defeat after a long shift and wishing you could’ve done so much more but you didn’t have time to just juggle so much at once..

But I’ll tell you what. Nothing compares to joy you’ll feel when you give a resident an amazing shower and they tell you they love you just because you cleaned them. Or the bittersweet happiness you feel when residents grab you by the hand when they’re almost too weak to eat and just won’t let go of you because your presence is comforting them. Or when a resident who changes from hangry to absolutely happy from one meal just because you were there to help them eat. Or how trusted you feel the first time a resident remembers your name in a new facility when asking for certain favors. Or how important you feel when their family members ask YOU to do special favors for their loved one.

Being a cna is everything but easy. It’s exhausting, hard, emotional, aggravating, fast pace, heartbreaking and sometimes even ugly. But I can guarantee you there’s not another rewarding job such as this. I love my grouchy residents, my happy residents, my needy residents, my sad residents and even the residents who are completely dependent on the staff for their survival bc they can’t do anything for them self. Listening to these residents stories or their happiest moments, knowing they trust me with that much information is such a blessing and such a good feeling. No matter how hard my day was to deal with, how long it was, how busy it was, how it took my all that day just to get through my shift…

I absolutely love what I do. 💛

Watching a documentary on President Abram Lincoln

I will add this documentary to this post .

Loosely quoting Lincoln was quoted as said that if a lawyer could not be honest , he should find another profession!

I concur



Grief- Lost / the most awaken have them

“In the Lakota tradition, a person who is grieving is considered most waken, most holy.

There’s a sense that when someone is struck by the sudden lightning of loss, he or she stands on the threshold of the spirit world. The prayers of those who grieve are considered especially strong, and it is proper to ask them for their help.

You might recall what it’s like to be with someone who has grieved deeply. The person has no layer of protection, nothing left to defend. The mystery is looking out through that person’s eyes. For the time being, he or she has accepted the reality of loss and has stopped clinging to the past or grasping at the future. In the groundless openness of sorrow, there is a wholeness of presence and a deep natural wisdom.”

Tara Brach

Dear Woman

“Dear woman

Be so fierce

In your love

And grit

In soul and

Truth that

The owl hoots

And the daisies

Tumble from your

One true heart

Like a river of love

That is watered

By this singular fact:


all that you are

And all that you

Were ever meant to be

And nobody-

nobody can ever

Take that away from



-Camilla Slater ©️2023. All Rights Reserved.

Wise Women Sisterhood with Camilla Slater for Women in the second half of life who are healing from past adversity. 🌸🙏

Image Credit: Lilliana Wilson