Conscious Relationships

CONSCIOUS RELATIONSHIPS 
“We are approaching a period of time when relationships are ready to go through a major redesign. The current paradigm isn’t working. People are unsatisfied in love; people don’t know how to make relationships work.
And, believe it or not, this isn’t a bad thing. Because when systems break-down, that’s when they change. I believe that’s what’s happening in the area of intimate partnership. The break-down is forcing us to move towards conscious love.
So what exactly is a conscious relationship?
It’s a romantic relationship in which both partners feel committed to a sense of purpose, and that purpose is growth. Individual growth. Collective growth as a couple. Growth that makes the world a better place.
As of now, most people get into relationships to satisfy their own personal needs. This might work for a few years, but eventually the relationship fails us, and we end up unsatisfied as a result.
But when two people come together with the intention of growth, the relationship strives towards something much greater than gratification. The partnership becomes a journey of evolution, and the two individuals have an opportunity to expand more than they could alone. Deep satisfaction and long-term fulfillment arise as a result.
So if you’re someone who feels called to take your experience of romantic love to the next level, below are four qualities that characterize what being a conscious couple is all about. Welcome to the path of the conscious relationship. This is next-level love …
1. The conscious couple is not attached to the outcome of the relationship – growth comes first.
Not being attached to the outcome of the relationship does not mean you don’t care what happens! It also doesn’t mean that you don’t have fantasies about how the relationship will turn out.
What it means is: you’re more committed to the experience of growth than you are to making the relationship “work.”
The reality is, we’re here to grow. Physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. When growth stops, we automatically feel like something’s gone wrong. Because it has. Without growth, we aren’t fulfilling our soul’s purpose.
Unfortunately, relationships today tend to stifle growth more than enhance it. This is one of the main reasons we’re failing at romantic love.
We want our partners to act in a certain way, we repress ourselves to please others, and soon enough, we feel small, oppressed and puzzled about who we’ve become. This, inevitably, makes the relationship feel like a cage that we want to break out of. But the unfortunate truth is: we’ve caged ourselves.
The conscious couple values growth more than anything else because they know this is the secret to keeping the relationship alive. Even though growth is scary (because it takes us into the unknown), the couple is willing to strive towards expansion, even at the risk of out-growing the relationship. Because of this, the relationship maintains a natural feeling of aliveness, and love between the couple does, too.
2. Each person in the relationship is committed to owning their s#*t.
Conscious couples know that we all have wounds from the past, and they understand that these wounds will inevitably be triggered, especially in a relationship. In other words, they expect to feel abandoned, trapped, rejected, overlooked and any other shitty feeling that arises when we bond closely with another person.
Most of us still believe that relationships should only feel good, and when bad feelings surface, something has gone terribly wrong. What we fail to see in this situation is that these shitty feelings stem from our own faulty patterning! These issues are not caused by our partners; they’re caused by our beliefs.
The conscious couple is willing to look at their past and current issues in relationships because they know that by facing these beliefs systems, they can evolve into a new relationship-reality. Dysfunctional patterns will dissolve, but only when we take responsibility for them, first.
3. All feelings are welcome and no internal process is condemned.
In a conscious relationship, there’s room to feel anything. Not only that, there’s room to express those feelings and fantasies to your partner. This is edgy territory… it’s not easy to do. But it’s also one of the most healing things we can experience in a partnership.
It’s rare to be completely honest about who you are, and to stretch yourself to let your partner do the same. You may not like what you hear; in fact, it may trigger the hell out of you. But you’re willing to be triggered if it means your partner can be authentic.
Like I already said, we’re used to molding and changing ourselves to please people we love because we don’t want them to stop loving us! This stifles the love out of our connections.
The only option is radical honesty: revealing parts of ourselves that are hard to share, and letting our partners do the same. This leads to feeling known, seen and truly understood — a combination that will automatically enhance your love.
4. The relationship is a place to practice love.
Love, ultimately, is a practice. A practice of acceptance, being present, forgiveness, and stretching your heart into vulnerable territories.
Sometimes we treat love like it’s a destination. We want that peak feeling all the time, and when it’s not there, we’re not satisfied with what the relationship has become. In my mind, this is missing the whole point of love.
Love is a journey and an exploration. It’s showing up for all varied nuances of your relationship and asking yourself, What would love do here?” The answer will be different every time, and because of this, you’ll get to grow in ways you never have before!
The conscious couple is fiercely committed to being the embodiment of love. And through their devotion and practice, love shows up in their lives and relationship in ways they would’ve never imagined before.”
~ Shelly Bullard, MFT

Quan Yin Buddhist goddess of Mercy

“Quan Yin represents the presence that listens deeply to our prayers spoken from the heart. Quan Yin is known as the goddess of mercy and is considered to be the most beloved Buddhist deity. Her name translates in Chinese as “the one who perceives the cries of the world.” She is often compared to the Virgin Mary in Christianity because she intercedes on behalf of those who call out to her with humility and sincerity. Scholars believe that the Buddhist monk Kumarajiva was the first to refer to the female

Quan Yin was originally worshipped as a male deity. But at some point during the Northern Sung Dynasty (960-1126) Quan Yin began to be worshipped as a female. Miao Shan is believed to be the cause of this transformation. The legends of Miao Shan contain beautiful accounts of her saving sailors from drowning in rough seas. Quan Yin is associated with jade because of its protective properties. In this case it’s said to help with
going under water both literally and figuratively—drowning in the ocean or in a flood of emotions.

When your soul selects her card:

Quan Yin is about the deep medicine that comes simply from being willing to bear witness to someone else’s pain. To really listen we have to move from the ego to the soul so that the story we are listening to doesn’t become about us, or trigger us. This also applies to the moments when we are listening to the story we tell ourselves about who we
are. We are often far harsher and more unforgiving to ourselves than we would ever be to someone else. Quan Yin suggests that we listen simply with curiosity. Curiosity allows us to detach from needing to take the suffering of someone we love personally. Curiosity is a door that leads to compassion. It frees us from feeling as though
we have to react to what we hear, or defend and explain our part in their suffering. We can just perceive the pain that they are in. Or we can finally hear our own cries of despair and not seek to judge or justify them. We can just be present to what needs to be heard.

Quan Yin is the powerful energy of giving witness to our own or to someone else’s suffering. Often, just a calm abiding presence of compassion is all that is needed to transform that suffering into clear light.”

-From “The Divine Feminine Oracle” by Meggan Watterson, Art by Lisbeth Cheever-Gessaman

“Quan Yin”
Mixed Media
2018

The Man who walks with the Healer

THE MAN WHO WALKS WITH THE HEALER
When a man chooses a woman who follows her calling, his only chance to maintain the connection is in following her… and above all in creating space for her to follow her own path.
It may happen that he needs to abandon his own neediness, or that he finds a means of healing through their common path – but not in the gentlest manner.
When a man chooses a woman who heals the collective wounds of the women by following her calling, his Yes for her equals a Yes to a bigger purpose far beyond building a house or raising children. Their connection goes beyond fulfilling the classical gender role models.
For this man accepts the job of having the back of this woman, of catching her when she cannot transform the pain of the world anymore. It means for him to welcome a different form of sexuality, since healing on the level of sexuality is one of the most profound issues of the woman who needs to become a healer.For him this, again, is about welcoming slowness, softness and healing – about holding back or redirecting his own drive… about being present for the whole.
Because when a man chooses a woman who aims for freedom, they can only achieve this together… and by him leaving his narcissistic aspects behind and recognizing the path of the woman as his own path towards freedom.
When a man chooses a woman who is bigger, he cannot dwell in the places of energies of oppression or of playing small. He – if he chooses to take on this mission with her – accepts a task serving the well-being of all men, even though it happens in the background. Within this background he creates space of security, of keeping her safe from an ambush bred by his own old wounds, driving her into submission.
When a man chooses a woman out of his fascination with her radiance and wisdom, it must be obvious to him that he cannot be stuck within his own deficits in a way that makes him want to diminish her radiance… purely out of fear of having to share her with others.
When a man chooses a woman who follows her calling, he cannot fear these words: respect, humility and surrender. He will rather walk the path of divinity – alongside his woman, the healer – with gratitude and an overflowing heart.
For such a woman will choose – if she ever needs to choose – in favour of the well-being of all women …and she will choose walking her path alone instead of leaving it for him. Nevertheless, she is aware of the power that lies in the presence of a man who is beating the drums… for her.
Author ~Moksha Devi Sunshine
🌀Nicole Sacred Wild Woman Medicine 
Artist~Autumn Skye Art

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This gal really touches my soul , albeit being rescued

is not necessary , nor do I rescue …I shine a light

I can reflect the shadow or the light and detest masking

myself , as I had to for too many years .

The trauma released as a result of intimate partner

violence , spiritual , mental , physical and utilizing

all within his power , he struck me down when I was

inside out . His trauma and his addictions , spinning

out, we 4 and many others attached to what he could

do, not who he was.

That confused and angered him.

I prefer to think this , rather than it is character , fear

silencing healing words of forgiveness , and love

from it’s root , within .

In the context of a “he” God , I am very happy

with my acceptance that spirit has no gender .

It’s a feeling , a nuance , a calm …and shadow

lays await like a theif in the darkest of nights

to steal calm , and peace as body receives the

implication of threat , I have been made aware

that my many years of surrender are being met

with a thrust by shadow , in my very roots .

I’m not a gambler , and I have become wiser

My strength lay in surrender .

To Divinity

Yin and Yang

Balance within , my life , my day to day .

All that should be is returned , all that is my now

leads to Thy Will Being Done .

This morning , I am Thank You , to those who

in their distortion or fear , created trauma , that is not

mental illness , and graditude exist for having survived

that I might include myself among legions of

messengers of exiting the matrix to not only

survive , but to thrive in all that has been distorted

as many awaken to the actualization of a society

that was lulled into submission via induced addiction.

We are many, We are mighty .

Light is on as much as possible , in this time of

revelations , truths that allow light to begin healing

in mass Consciousness that is of such beauty .

How can I not want to celebrate ,laugh out loud ?

And I do, as I weep for the tower moments ahead

for denials and distortions that dispell much shadow

in self exposure via abuses …

I have a part to forfill , only a part , and it’s my time

to be heard, to be seen , to matter , in many aspects

of what we face each and every day .

May you be Blessed this day 💗

With Peace

Dona Luna 🙏💯🐸

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I surrender to and honor “old souls” who are

Magic ,Mystical , Walking & Talking Historians

It’s wisdom that is timeless as we strive to

exit negatives of past .

This morning I danced in a pj top and a sheet

and felt like my actress self as a young child.

With little furniture there is dance room and

I did and I felt renewed ..I am weary now

as I wash , dry , sort and hang cloths , much

to give away ..it’s exciting .

I was given new things , by a lady , goddess who

stole my heart with her compassionate nurture

and friendship ..So this new life is a reality .

I’m in a home to witness Mother Earth , in Spring and

Summer , having a taste of the worst of Winter

I learned a lot and my list increased of required

readiness items , lol .

But I’m good , ready for bath and bed after some

dinner .

Pay should hit and my $3.37 balance increases!

As my inheritance hits , I’m wisely manifesting

my dreams , many of childhood , many of our

sons …Beloved and never having to worry about home

or being unheard , I have such peace today , as

I am called on to aide many in abusive situations

that example the less concious , who in these

days , highlight the disparity in legal judgements .

Writing in , the lease …cannot sue company

Oh but that’s a very bad move ….

I have a suit that should be open, and it’s

clear what’s going on.

Talking legal is not fun..glad I have close and trusted

advisors .©

DonaLunaLLC

Blessings & Much Peace ☮️💯🙏✌️❤️🥰

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The French in me appreciates this song , though

I don’t know the words , my soul does .

Liberation …I know true liberation of spirit as gift

gift is laid before me , even in deep loss , I grasp

my miss is my mercy .

A conversation with a friend who has waited for my

contact patiently , after a harmonizing near death

now receiving gifts and love and support she has been

lacking , in a state of greif , failing to achieve her dreams

and now heroically survives and thrives..

We are going to council her experience and write it

for its multiple affirmations should reach masses .

I had an interview on podcast , my 1st , though my vision

shared the possibility .. the clarity was not as we wanted

corrections can be made and rescheduled for next week.

I was however calm , and enjoyed myself and this

stage fright thing is cured …

Ms Moon is budding in Virgo and its been an opposition

to this Pisces as a targeted dump bucket for 4.5 decades

my past ….North Node in Aquarius is my South Node

my Destiny , my past life sign and our new age ….

So , tonight I read the distorted responses of Beloved

who is in his past, projecting , shadow spewing

his truths…..

And yes , I feel ……liberated .

Blessings & Peace ,

😘 Dona Luna