The Narcissist Always Over Idealizes Each New Partner 🎅🏼

Indeed , or at least that’s the social projection .

Extremely chummy right from the get go , I

recall meeting his roommate/childhood friend

1st , so it could have been one up man’s ship.

Plus I had pots and pans , could keep house

and he had not done that yet.. my caregiving

my empathy , and having no true reason to

doubt , or to over react to behaviors I had noted

as extremely angry and abusive in brothers

which I did not heal nor comprehend in its

totality until Dad’s exit began in Aug 2011…

The healing has been happening over a long

time .. I had synced with Dad as my main

nurturer , and extra sensitive to his mood , sense

deep and profound pain and shadow that he had

no resources for , and much shame and guilt

for ..

I have never known the shame or guilt for his very

open relationships , out of towners , my own sister

and god knows who else.

As he joined in union , then exited our home , he

was delirious with joy, a younger , more attractive

more adversary, partner who would be by his side

as twins , enjoying the increased targeting and abuse

while binding our sons closer and tighter in a web

of lies that’s been unraveling .

Like crumbs he leaves a trail.. Regrettably Reclamation

requires the truth , n light and apparently he’s been


But he does have a new gal ❤️.

This clearing includes them as well, if he chooses to accept this .

Blessings & Peace ,🙏❤️🥰


Doña Luna

Narcissist have No Loyalty to Anyone Anything – Trevor J. Freeman

This was masked , and over time became apparent

though very loyal in all appearances and actions

the negative language of mom , and much later

his 3rd person stories of his cheating .. Calling

him out on every lie or weirdness would have

consumed me.. As we were rushed in to parenthood

my blessing , his nightmare , and the decent in acknowledging

his deep detachment .. I did see growth, then it was

shadow again.. sensing he held a lot of pain, but he

never shared deeply , only this behavior described

in the video. It was dank and haunting , as a possessive

man, I was well aware of my chances in a divorce .

Causal and Toxic till the end …

©️Doña Luna

Blessings & Peace 🎄🎁🥳

Writing – Laura K. Kerr, PhD

I have followed and emailed back and forth Laura

who is extremely wise and very through in

all of her efforts .

Writing – Laura K. Kerr, PhD
— Read on

Smile by Judy Garland

Far from gloom and doom , I find my heart smiles

these days growing and expanding in peace and

harmony with as much as possible.

Awareness of deep pain, or covert mask has been

augmented , and thus in the healing process.

Awareness of shadow , and abilities to transform it

returning to comfort in heart , and mind , still contends

with body .. tweaking my diet plus clearing past

travesties of justice for sons and I , a few confidants

whom I treasure , as I’m on my own..I am in awe

and grateful beyond measure .

Smiles that greet me , hug my soul as I am received in

welcome … home…I am where I need and want to be

with great expectations of experiencing cheeks that ache

from smiling …eyes that are like waterfalls with tears

of release , equal to smiles …an ocean of tears

and fears/anger transformed , transmuted to love , and in

that peace ☮️..authentic smiles are cellular

All is well with my soul 🥰✊


Blessings & Peace ,

Doña Luna

Smile by Judy Garland

Playing for Change –

My hometown has a diverse and strong musical thang

going on …I have chatted this up, several years ago

and can see it happening , sooner ..

a very local or Virginia Playing For Change .



Blessings & Peace ,

Doña Luna

Playing for Change , explained ..

Love Returns

When he was 40, the renowned Bohemian novelist and short story writer Franz Kafka (1883-1924), who never married and had no children, was strolling through Steglitz Park in Berlin, when he chanced upon a young girl crying her eyes out because she had lost her favorite doll. She and Kafka looked for the doll without success. Kafka told her to meet him there the next day and they would look again.

The next day, when they still had not found the doll, Kafka gave the girl a letter “written” by the doll that said, “Please do not cry. I have gone on a trip to see the world. I’m going to write to you about my adventures.”

Thus began a story that continued to the end of Kafka’s life.

When they would meet, Kafka read aloud his carefully composed letters of adventures and conversations about the beloved doll, which the girl found enchanting. Finally, Kafka read her a letter of the story that brought the doll back to Berlin, and he then gave her a doll he had purchased.

“This does not look like my doll at all,” she said. Kafka handed her another letter that explained, “My trips, they have changed me.” The girl hugged the new doll and took it home with her. A year later, Kafka died.

Many years later, the now grown-up girl found a letter tucked into an unnoticed crevice in the doll. The tiny letter, signed by Kafka, said, “Everything you love is very likely to be lost, but in the end, love will return in a different way.”

Drawing by Marlene López

Curing Masculine Toxicity : Acknowledge Sensitively

Awareness was lacking that supported of our sons

sensitivity , as trauma after trauma , and occurred

and never discussed , never healed ..

It’s time , Past time to support the sensitivity in masculine

end the shame

What A Narcissist will never give , Closure .

Adore this lady and her approach , is direct and born of experience

and facts .

It was noted that our timelines correspond , 11-12 years of marriage

that is not balanced to say the least . We each had 3 children

we each have officially been divorced for 20 years .

Realized long ago I did not have a marriage , only

a mask , a surrogate , normalizer ….

More over , I knew the lack of self love and self worth

as shadow that exploded, with no warning …it only

became more intense , as he worked out of town

unavailability was normal even if in house .

Detached , withdrawn silent


I felt the oppression 3 months

in , but had brothers and a society/religion that is a brotherhood

that allows a feminine to serve , with minimal support ..As a caregiver

from age 14 months , which is part of my character , as I was induced

to have experiences to forge my education .

The non responsive , non responsible deeply traumatized figure , knows

deep shame , rage from cumulative sources , but targets his spouse , thus

children and will never own it …regrets will stated , always the victims

always projecting . Lacking the support, ability , desire , in denial , missing

any and all signs from Divine , that stepping from the shadow , laying

burdens down begins with truth/light …It’s an inner job , and as I witnessed

the regressive , depressive , silence for 20 years , it has intensified with my

departure from a fabricated life of smoke and mirrors ..

Completion has long since occurred , for I am not bound in twinning our sons

as he does, bound to his trauma and secrets and abuses , as too often

occurs … it is so complete that despite attempts to keep the old cycle

are ongoing , often recycling the trauma of past , has no effect .

Only attesting to the closure at hand , in matters of business , which

will clarify the intent for the Abuse continued was and is financial ..

calculating , vengeful and locked in a maze of never ending anger

rage ….I let go of any connection in 2006…over ex.

Get over our sons ? Not happening Nor is the abuse of holding them

in shadow with the poison fed them , in order to win.

However , it is their choice , mine is to step out of a matrix

of brothers and sisters who feel I am unworthy , from

their shadow perspective of self preservation above all

Nope , I was induced into energies that have denied

my place at the table , doing much harm ; I have long

since delved into my shadow , heard extensive versions

of why I didn’t deserve to live ..

Fear , anger ..being bound , silent …death of spirit ..

I have noted that , recycling until finally other

experiences brought me to review …

I did, now weary … Freed to be me ..

Respect for that energy was chipped away, as my consciousness

and fear , inherent in loosing my life , did happen .

Making sure that happened , augmented by a brother MD

I was induced into submission , witnessed by 3 young men

who deserve , as I do , to be liberated from the falsehoods

and brotherhoods that wish to have us bound forever in

trauma .. repeating this in matters of finances , veiling

some pretty deep offenses , will not carry into 2020.

Of course , there is no response but silence , negational

approaches lost , the force that demands clarity will not

be denied …©️

Thy Will Be Done ♐️👁🌏✊

Blessings & Peace 🌈🎁

Doña Luna 🥰

Special Men

Pornography has done women a huge disservice

In teaching men

What they now think women want …

Fast and furious


Minimal foreplay

Genital focused

Goal oriented

Release based



Nothing could be further from the truth

And to be fair …

Any man can do that

But to make love with a woman








Focusing on her whole body

Feeling her soul

Touching her spirit

Penetrating her heart

Well …

That takes a special kind of man

A man who surrenders instead of controls

A man who gives as much as he takes

A man who opens his heart and not just his mind

A man who is not afraid to feel his depths

A man who understands his divine power

To lead her

To open her

To crack open her heart

A man who knows his gift

Is love

~ Karen Star ❤

Declaration of the Four Sacred Things

Declaration of the Four Sacred Things
The Earth is a living, conscious being. In company with cultures of many different times and places, we name these things as sacred: air, fire, water, and earth.
Whether we see them as the breath, energy, blood, and body of the Mother, or as the blessed gifts of a Creator, or as symbols of interconnected systems that sustain life, we know that nothing can live without them.
To call these things sacred is to say that they have a value beyond their usefulness for human ends, that they themselves become the standard by which our acts, our economics, our laws, and our purposes must be judged. No one has the right to appropriate them or profit from them at the expense of others. Any government that fails to protect them forfeits its legitimacy.
All people, all living things, are part of the earth life, and so are sacred. No one of us stands higher or lower than any other. Only justice can assure balance; only ecological balance can sustain freedom. Only in freedom can that fifth sacred thing we call spirit flourish in its full diversity.
To honor the sacred is to create conditions in which nourishment, sustenance, habitat, knowledge, freedom, and beauty can thrive. To honor the sacred is to make love possible.
To this we dedicate our curiosity, our will, our courage, our silences, and our voices. To this we dedicate our lives.

13 Indigenous Grandmothers