It’s Difficult To Be An Old School Romantic When Your Whole Generation Is Into Hookup Culture

It has always been my intent to have the love

that endured , thru time .. endless love

worthy of trying times and peace that comes

comes from knowing each matters , intimacy

is reality , 2gether in spirit …

1st – 9 months was just walking thru the motions

much like a jail sentence , I felt I had to marry

the boy , who had no idea of who I was, nor himself .

Calling me Spooky , he broke all vows , as well

as abused me .. 9 months was conformation and

affirmation …property I was not ..

I allowed him to charge me with desertion ,

and pushed thru guilt , having lost my virginity

created a compliance to a sex addict/cheater ,

which was known within my siblings

even double dates with brother in his cheating .

Letters , attested to the brotherhood of holding

secrets and lies ..

Uber close to Mother , who was law .. Cold towards

me ..

-2

2-3 Weeks ,

A very cute man, a party in Pungo Beach

brownies and instant like had him ask

me to move in …a soul mate with addictions

going nowhere , allowed me to say No

to moving in and yes to marriage .

It was a situation where he had the upper floor

of a huge home in Norfolk , his Mom

and maid downstairs …he expected I would

work and he could do …whatever .

I returned home, accepted , then broke an

engagement, moved to Richmond’s fan area

briefly, and returned , meeting , and married

within 6 months #3… 24 legal years .

I’m not sure I ever saw him in authentic self

42 years later ..

Knowing myself , I don’t sense marriage is

a reality , for the values my Granny held dear

were on her own , after her savage marriage

and divorce …

I’m not seen in the love light , as I would love

and stand for , just as I do children …

It’s taken years , years of set backs, but my

focus has been to have that experience

as my soul has searched for ..

I shall hold it within, as I continue the liberation

from all that took me way from my soul

intentions , and defined the very basic nature

of codes which I don’t feel should be received

as needy , so I hold my self .. No manual

it will be Thy Will, and I don’t feel a lack .

A simple life , of abundance in things many

take for granted , I will ever be grateful now

and the cherry on top would be the experience

of Divine Masculine …it really is Thy Will.

I’m not in limbo, searching or feel a lack

therefore …as I spend quality time , doing

what I what I require .. much in repose

knowing Peace, and Balance ..against odds

that try many souls ..

I am overjoyed that connections are being made

to that forever n ever kinda love, and foundation

we long for , exposing the renewal of the best

our hearts ♥️ and souls can offer ..

It’s a wonderful sign, an affirmation .

Now I lay my head down , certainly to sleep

and dream of a reality that’s tangible , not

only in dreams 🌈🎁😘❤️©️

Blessings & Peace ,

Doña Luna

Patience is Prayer …🤪🙏🏼💯

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I am an average millennial but when it comes to romance, I’m what you call an old school romantic. However, it is slightly difficult to survive in a world where the basic idea of love is now swiping right or left on a mobile app. I see my friends meeting people at a cafe, event or club and instead of seeing where it goes, they end up hooking up and never seeing each other again.
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Pauline Hanson wins fight to launch inquiry into Family Court

The US , should have someone vested in doing the same .

#ErasingFamilies for power/profit should cease .

Far more murder /homicide / suicide , or quietly muted

live the slow death of continued Domestic Abuse/ChildAbuse.

The grief is cellular , it is there every day , day in day out .

Winner takes all, never looks back, never stops targeting

Spiritually, Physically , Mentally and Financially, feeling

nothing but a desire to avenge a target 🎯that’s the focus

of all unresolved trauma, pain , anger , stemming from

lack of control ..bound in trauma , seeing no liberation

Rage, seethe , mask on for the public, for rage has its place

behind closed doors.

Nobody Sees? No one Knows ? Knowing too much in secretive

societies , they focus on destroying target .. Death the objective .

Let’s create a system in the US that does care ..

I’d love Virginia to lead the way ..

#StateForLovers?WhatAboutLove?

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Blessings & Peace ,

Doña Luna

Pauline Hanson wins fight to launch inquiry into Family Court
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Migrant Children Separated From Parents Show Signs Of PTSD, Report Finds | HuffPostll. ***Results are same of DomesticAbuseChildAbuse, CPS , Trafficked Children

Indeed these children , have been abused , fleeing abuse

then separated , and jailed like animals , sexually abused,

medicated, nutritionally abused, as well as separated from

parent(s) , relatives that is all they know .

Everything in the world .

So yes the avoidable FACT , is that all forms of Post

Traumatic Stress Disorder are induced , indeed a

Human Rights Violation .

The same results have been showing up for many years,

decades , and can no longer be ignored , will not be ignored .

Families are being erased , all that constitutes healthy family

foundations , in lieu of cashing in the many who profit

or as many professionals are lacking factual education,

and unfortunate result of a declining educational system .

Of repressed facts , of the adulteration of values , of faith

of nutrition, of our bodies and minds , which corporations

created chemicals for via RX , and physicians , following

the model of psychiatry, began the intense addiction of

folks , unknown to them…It was referred to as mental illness

these many varieties , induced trauma , ignoring and

blaming / targeting 1 person , as in my case supporting

my abuse by the partner who never was.

Results for our children , our collective children , are varied .

The possible results are the same for those children , snatched

by Child Protective Services ,

Family Court

Children who fly under the radar , in secrets family/social

support , in knowing or unknowing .

As well as immigration children , held in HELL on Earth .

Of course this demands attention , as it is ..

My personal intention to highlight this malicious,

malignant, high conflict , DomesticAbuseChildAbuse

through education , and legislation.

Until then, we Stand ..©️

Blessings & Peace 😘🙏🏼♥️☮️

Doña Luna

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/jun/14/child-abuse-part-americas-official-immigration-policy

Not a fan of Ms Baker , I offer a view of C-PTSD and more resulting from

PAS-ChildAbuse

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/co-parenting-after-divorce/201304/the-impact-parental-alienation-children

CPS Lawless

https://youtu.be/PK5jJN-YzD0

The trauma pathogen prevents the brain from using logical reasoning and foresight.

Reasoning, foresight, and anticipating the future, are impossible for the trauma-impacted brain. Instead, it is fear oriented (amygdala driven rather than frontal lobe oriented) and they are now-oriented toward survival and anxiety-management rather that future-oriented through reasoning, planning.

So as we discuss implications of recent developments, here’s where we stand.

The methodology of all child forensic evaluations are in violation of Standard 9.01a of the APA ethics code, the methodology is invalid.

There is no inter-rater reliability. If an assessment procedure is not reliable – it cannot be valid. Child custody evaluations are not a valid assessment of anything.

Is tape recording sessions, reporting the transcript without professional analysis using any constructs from professional psychology, and writing recommendations that are not grounded in any established psychological constructs and principles a valid assessment of anything? No.

It is the opinion of one person based on no established constructs and principles. It is no more valid than asking your next door neighbor to make recommendations for custody.

The methodology – the methodology developed by forensic psychology for a “child custody evaluation” is in violation of many standards of the APA ethics code. Standard 9.01a regarding assessment, Standard 2.04 requiring the application of professional knowledge, Standard 3.04 on harm to the client, and Principle D of the APA ethics code regarding Justice.

I am required – required – by Standard 1.04 of the APA ethics code to “informally” contact the psychologist who’s practice is of concern to bring my concerns to their attention.

1.04 Informal Resolution of Ethical Violations

When psychologists believe that there may have been an ethical violation by another psychologist, they attempt to resolve the issue by bringing it to the attention of that individual.

That means that when I a serving as a consulting clinical psychologist for CRM or independently for an attorney and client and I review a child custody evaluation report, I am required by the Ethical Principles of Psychologists and Code of Conduct of the American Psychological Association – which is a legally binding to me through my licensing board – to notify whoever wrote the report notifying them of my concerns.

My informal recommendation to the psychologist will be to stop doing child custody evaluations.

Now, here’s the important thing to understand. They should already know this. They should not have to be told, and they do not have to be told. They are all in violation of the APA ethics code today. All of them.

I’m going to be unpacking 3.04a Harm to the client shortly. That one is devastating to forensic psychology. Psychologists are not allowed to hurt anyone. Anyone. Not even terrorists Notice 3.04b.

Standard 3.04

(b) Psychologists do not participate in, facilitate, assist, or otherwise engage in torture, defined as any act by which severe pain or suffering, whether physical or mental, is intentionally inflicted on a person, or in any other cruel, inhuman, or degrading behavior that violates 3.04(a).

That came from the “enhanced interrogation techniques” used after 911. The APA said no, we cannot consult (“participate”) in harming anyone – even terrorists.

Targeted parents are people. Are you hurt by the recommendations of the custody evaluator?

It doesn’t matter if there was a “greater good” justification… that’s what Standard 3.04b directly addresses, a “greater good” justification NEVER works. We are not allowed to hurt anyone.

Were you – are you – will you be – hurt by the recommendations of the custody evaluator. They are not allowed to hurt you with their recommendation – Standard 3.04.

All of forensic psychology – all the custody evaluators – have also been in violation of Standard 3.04a of the APA ethics code on Harm to the client.

And they do not need to be told. They needed to know. Past tense. Too late now, I’m reading their report, the harm is done. The only question now is what to do about violation of the APA ethics codes, Standards 3.04a, 9.01a, and 2.04?

For each and every child custody report I read.

David with a rock.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857

Blessings & Peace ,

Doña Luna

A government report found the Trump administration’s “zero tolerance” policy caused serious mental health problems in detained children.
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Food Brands Owned by Monsanto

I want to scream as I see grocery carts loaded down with

these toxic foods , and I have tried to discuss it with family

friends , folks , until I reach acceptance, allowing Blessings

and life to unfold as it should, in Divine Order ..🙏🏼

©️

Blessings & Peace ☮️

Doña Luna

There are more food brands owned by Monsanto than you think. We’ll tell you who they are, and why you should avoid them.
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Truth , Kenny Loggins

This beautiful song of a father’s love for child

as Mom and Dad split . It’s reality of deep shadow

and great love .

I found my CD of this Poo based album, in my car

and knew immediately how much I needed to

hear it , intensively therapy alone ..And I did

a deep cry , soul level but no longer the depleting

arm throbbing experiences as revelations rapid

fired upon waking …

A morning that spoke to me of connection of

my abuses , so causally dismissed in house

were possibly deeper abuses to our sons .

No boundaries , means no boundaries and

I have no reason to believe that our sons were

subject to whatever he wanted , especially when

I wasn’t there …

This does show up in the psychology side effects

of children forced to loyalty to 1 parent , ignored

until recently .

A collection of secrets , opening for the gift of

awakening to Christ Consciousness within , is

free will , choice . I do not know his connection

for he never does deep in spirit , ever ..

Shadow has me doubt the authentic fact of his

family lineage …

It shows in each baby, mine and each grandchild

but why hold that secret ?

Like memberships , clubs , secrets ?

Sleeping with the Enemy , with Julia Roberts

depicts this relationship, fortunately she was

able to get out early , intact …

Civility , will be normalized , for I have much to

reveal of such progress , in the clearing of this

erasure of family , of ignorance , control

of a child … conscious parenting , seeing

hearing , protecting the guide , and the God

Mother connection , the union of Men who

are allowed to nurture , as testament to their

Balanced consciousness , denied in their

nature as loving compassionate creatures with

deep and worthy emotions . Hear them ..

If this consciousness is lacking it’s their revelation

and could be even more toxic .

I’m clear as to my harvest , and the effects that

will ripple , but at the end of the day , it’s over .

The past that creeps in every day , is there in each

of us , and I’m choosing the liberation of owning

my stuff , allowing influences and inducements

that created motherless children .

One voice , 1 experience shared , concluding

factually can aide 1 more , and that is enough ..

©️

❤️🙏🏼😘

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Childress: Absence Of Parental Empathy Profoundly Damages Child 💯🤓🙏🏼

The absence of parental empathy is profoundly damaging for the child.

A damaged and manipulative parent turns the child into a weapon of revenge against the other spouse. This severely damages the child. It’s psychological child abuse.

The manipulation is strong. The court, therapists… the other parent, all focus on the child. This is spousal abuse, why is everyone looking at the weapon and not at the abuse?

The allied parent’s manipulations empower the child’s “voice” in the conflict – “we need to listen to the child’s voice” – it says. The child speaks false. Some believe the false, while others see the lie, but the conflict swirls around the child, the child is the focus, that’s the purpose, that’s the lie, make the child a battlefield.

When the lie is placed in the child, the parents battle – using the child – for the truth or the lie, one parent seeks the truth from the child, the other parent seeks the lie.

The child is the battlefield.

No one stops. Both “sides” are trying to win. For the targeted parent, it is literally a matter of life and death, if they lose, they lose the child, they become “dead” to their child. Naturally they will fight for their child… which is what the pathogen wants… the child is the battlefield.

A masterful manipulation. The court… focuses on the child. The custody evaluator, focuses on the child. The reunification therapist, focuses on the child. The targeted parent… fights for the child. The focus is on the child.

The child is the battlefield. A masterful manipulation.

We must not allow the lie to make the child a battlefield.

I know targeted parents want to “fight” for the child – but our “weapon” is empathy, authentic empathy, for the child’s self-authenticity, this will release the child from the manipulation and the lie. The directional flow of love is from parent to child, not the other way.

The current flow of love from child to parent is surface bumpy right now, but solid, I’m not worried about that direction. Easy to fix what’s on display from that direction.

I know what the child is saying and doing. None of that is true. It’s easy to find the flow of love from the child to the parent, the one we want is from parent to child.

I’m not going to make the child a battlefield over the manipulation. I’m not going to play, pathogen. Different game. Called empathy, authentic empathy.

We recover by finding, not by fighting.

Not your fault, parents. You’re supposed to have family therapists supporting you in all of this, and all of this should be getting fixed by the mental health people in six months, all done, all fixed.

We’re failing you. Professional psychology is failing you and your children.

I am very-very cross with my professional colleagues for not fixing this. We will get you the help and support you need to unlock the manipulation and unlock the lie.

You’re trying to do it on your own, and it is a masterful manipulation based on many subtle lies. It is entrapping you into fighting (defending), and it is entrapping everyone into a focus on the child.

This is not about the child, it’s about the targeted parent. This is IPV spousal abuse of the ex-spouse targeted parent by the allied parent, using the child as the weapon. The child is not the focus, the child is the weapon.

The target is… the targeted parent, targeted for severe and savage emotional abuse by the ex-spouse/allied parent, using the child as the weapon.

Our focus needs to be off the lie that is being placed into the child, and our true vision must see the authentic child, that vision is called our authentic empathy.

The pathogen in the other parent knows your triggers, knows how to activate you into fighting. It puts those triggers into the child. You respond, you fight… with your ex-… in your child… your child is the battlefield.

It is a manipulation of you. Masterful manipulation. The triggers are so embedded, and so available. Alter your triggers.

The pathogen knows where your buttons are, your ex- knows exactly what to export into the child to push those buttons, and trigger the spousal fight through the child, the child becomes the battlefield.

Shift those buttons. Lose them, hide them, make them go away… because currently, your ex- knows exactly what those triggers are. Please stop being triggered.

How?

Exactly. That is exactly the right question that will put you exactly on the proper path.

When you alter how you show up… it changes the corresponding puzzle-piece of your child, change the other by changing me, changing how I show up for my child.

Fears. It’s all born in fears, this is a trauma pathology, and trauma is a pathology of fear, unresolved fear seeking to protect itself against the enemy. Trauma is a fear-oriented brain.

Healthy is an attachment, reaching out, bonding brain. It is a relaxed brain that allows others close, and bonds easily.

Fear destroys that, and it feeds itself. We need one of you, the child or the parent, to find and remain outside fear and in the healthy brain of attachment, reaching out, and bonding.

You’re the parent, that’s you. That’s your responsibility, not the child’s, the child’s a child, you’re the grown-up, that’s you, you’re the chosen parent. I want you to find your healthy place of relaxed.

You’re child is easy to recover. It’s you that’s hard. You’re made afraid by the manipulation, all your proper buttons have been pushed in you by your ex-… using the child.

The battlefield is a lie, it’s not real. You make it real because you believe it. The child loves you bunches and bunches, I know what the child’s saying, it’s not true, it’s the lie. And you believe that? No, don’t believe the lie.

Stay here, in reality. Your child loves you bunches, your ex- is pushing your buttons using the child. Why are you letting them do that? Please stop letting them do that. Move your buttons, make them go away, paint them different colors, something.

Because your ex- knows right where they are and is using your buttons to manipulate you using the child.

Children are not a battlefield. They are children. Don’t be triggered into your fears, stay grounded in your relaxed place of empathy, authentic empathy for the child’s experience.

You’ll hear much of Dorcy’s language in my descriptions. There are resources available to help in the reorientation to empathy, and away from the lie. She’ll help you find those resources.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857