Tag: grandparents
Granny wisdom
“Grandma, how do you cope with pain?”
“With your hands, honey.
If you do it with your mind instead of relieving the pain, it toughens even harder.”
“With your hands grandma?”
“Yes, our hands are the antennae of our soul.
If you move them; knitting, cooking, painting, playing or sinking them into the ground, you send care signs to the deepest part of you and your soul lights up because you’re paying attention to it.
Then signs of pain will no longer be necessary.”
“Hands are really that important?”
“Yes my daughter. Think of babies: they start to know the world through the touch of their hands.
If you look at the hands of old people, they tell you more about their life then any body part. Everything that is done by hand is said to be done with the heart.
Because it’s really like this: hands and heart are connected.
Masseurs know well: when they touch someone with their hands, they create a deep connection.
It is precisely from this connection that healing comes.
Think of lovers: when they touch their hands, they make love in a more sublime way.”
“My hands grandma…. how long I haven’t used them like this!”
“Move them, my love.
Begin to create with them and everything within you will begin to move.
The pain will not pass away.
And instead what you do with them will become the most beautiful masterpiece and it won’t hurt anymore.
Because you have been able to transform its essence.. 💕💕💕
Elena Bernabe
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Mother in Law
The war never ended from her possession of her son . I gave up after years of trying ; once sitting with her and stating that it was ok if she didn’t care for me , that we could have some semblance of a relationship. She replied ” as a Christian, I’ve never met anyone that I didn’t like ” .
I understood her from that point on and witnessed her get hands on and loving towards our sons when someone was watching .
She was abusive to me openly and it was witnessed and he said nothing in my defense for it was very uncalled for .
I watched her smack at her 90 year old Mother’s hands for getting flour on the floor when making biscuits!
I believe her eldest children experienced a lot of trauma at her hands and he alluded to my having no idea .
I believe he found his Dad weak to her as she called him Mr _____ and he allowed her to rule . As he faded out , she lamented the place’s they would not be able to travel and her health challenges but how she couldn’t do her thing for taking care of him . His obit declared her a Daughter of the Eastern Star and he a 32nd degree Mason which I was unaware of ! Why the secret ?
She talked so sweetly to her daughters and never once had that tone with me .
Inviting her and sister in law to cook outs at our home stopped when the 4 huddled in one area as if too good to mingle with my parents.
My Mom’s Mom died close to Thanksgiving and we were eating at her house and as she said the prayer my Mom began to cry and had to leave the table , which was met with shame from her and I was so stunned I just sat there .
So as his partner and confidant I was used as leverage and as his ” crazy” drugged and vulnerable wife whom he just offered was sick or didn’t want to attend a family function , when he was ready to jump in with the new supply, she was totally supportive and our sons became possessions that could not betray her or their Dad by being in anyway supportive or compassionate toward me .
Mother in laws , aunts and wives have assumed the mother toll, discouraging any healing or connection with me as they admire her wealth and longevity. She is quite an artist and I’ve been told of her abuse towards our sons that was uncalled for .
I’m sure she feels she has a place in Heaven but to me she is demonic and hides under her know it all attitude and money/power .
I long ago allowed her to know I was not impressed and found the bond between she and her son unholy . He’s attached to her so deeply and it proved to destroy his relationship with his twin , another 20 years of leveraging a woman to get Mom’s favor and execute her finances !
God only knows what he’s pocketed , for anything he touches and wants belongs to him .
What a house of cards !!!
Mother In Law – Ted Talks
Waiting for an Opening , and much needed change ( abused parent-child)
Unfortunately, too often alienated parents are told to ‘wait for their kid to come around someday.’ Even more unfortunate, too many parents listen to that.
I was an alienated child. Then an alienated ADULT child. Still a child nonetheless. I know what your minor and adult child actually wants–a relationship with you. Despite all the negative things they say and do, they actually want their parent. They want to love and be loved by you. But guess what? When parents decide to wait around & then stop showing up for their alienated child, this sends a counterproductive message to the child, which adds to their confusion. In short, if you want to reunite with your child, it is going to take a lot more than simply waiting around. Not sure where to go from here? Luckily, I have a webinar and in-depth program for parents who want to learn what it takes to reunite with an adult child. I reunited with my dad as an adult, and he and I (and his grandchildren) got to experience the relationship we always deserved.
All you have to do is click the link below to get started- it starts with you. Let’s go get your [adult] kids back.🧡💪🏼https://www.consciouscoparentinginstitute.com/reunited-replay/
Craig Childress PsyD : Treatment
Childress offers response to questions
Prepare your questions for Dr. Childress.
On this New Year, I will be providing an email address here and I’ll ask for your questions. Any question. From anyone.
I’m attending to parents, but attorneys and mental health professionals can ask questions too. Now-adult kids recovering. Anyone. Any question.
There’s no such thing as a dumb question. Well, actually, that’s not true, but that’s okay, ask it anyway. Any question.
Except what’s my favorite color, no trick questions to get me confused.
In January, I’ll ask you to send me your questions to the email address I provide. In February, I’ll start answering your questions on YouTube. All your questions. Even the stupid questions. My favorite color is blue, no wait… red… now look what you’ve done, I’m all confused.
Why not?
You have questions. That likely means more people just like you have the same question. I could answer your questions over-and-over each time one-by-one… or all together on YouTube – whee, don’t you love the Internet. I do. Best thing since fire.
So prepare your questions for Dr. Childress. I don’t need your stories. You think I need your stories to understand your questions, I don’t. I could tell you your stories. I want your questions – I can tell exactly your story by your question – each story has its questions.
I’ll won’t read your stories, I know your stories. I’ll read the sentences that end with this ? thing.
That sentence, the one that ends with that ? thing, is called a question. That’s what I’ll read and answer.
I’ll group your questions sort of, and I’ll start posting YouTube videos in February answering your questions, in 10-15 minute segments until there are no more questions – and a lot of answers on YouTube for everyone now and into the future.
Don’t ‘cha love the Internet. I do. Best thing since fire. Internet gud, and oh my goodness, no one knows your a dog. What’s your question for Dr. Childress? January 2022.
Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857
Opinion | I Had a Gloriously Wild Childhood. That’s Why I Wrote ‘How to Train Your Dragon.’ – The New York Times
I totally concur , having moved our family to a rural 3 acre home built
for us .. it was a huge change unacknowledged at the time , but spoken of
as leaving his friends was extremely hard , isolating, and his Mom and Dad
were gone out..rarely drinking at home , forced away to support his habit
as it were , cure his boredom …
It didn’t work, and I finally made the extremely best decision ever by moving
rural and I witness the awesome lives and loves of wee ones on up, which
is my honor …to know the child 👶, to honor the child 🧒 in each of us .
Yes , it can get stinky sometimes lol …
©️
Blessings and Peace ,
Doña Luna
We must give children the opportunity to interact with the wilderness, so that they learn to preserve the natural world.
— Read on www.nytimes.com/2020/02/07/opinion/sunday/cressida-cowell-children-nature.html
The Shift 2020- Leaping 110%🥳♓️☮️❤️😘
Explaining so many things , conscious energy solutions that
is not in the future , but here now..
As we energetically raised Mother Earth to 5G, we must acknowledge
our collective light power trumps all adversity , all negative 👎.
It’s amazing love and light ; transformation in action .
Acceptance of what is, what’s to come , realistically , planning
now…
Today is quiet, resting ,
South Node : Past Karma , Deep Experience , Lessons Learned
Mine South Node/Virgo is completed , a cycle is over .
Virgo,
(My opposite , huge teacher, good, bad, and all between .)
Organization , Analysis
Ruled by Mercury
Mentality , Communication , Siblings, Travel
Many influences , created the opposition , that ends officially today , but
in retrospect was in increments , until I was surrendered under the influence
and advantaged … little did I know what truths lay ahead that have educated
me beyond my dreams as a child, allowing spirit to triumph . That certainly threatens
the status quo and those shadow projectors as revelations shift the rise in
consciousness …
©️
Blessings & Peace ,
Doña Luna
Kenyon 2020. The Shift
Hopi Messenger So Many Truths from Ancestors
Including the messages of the Peace Accord agreed to represented
by the 4Corners
Screentime Is Making Kids Moody, Crazy, and Lazy | Psychology Today
The rapid , high speed of games teaches the world is that frenzied .
So very glad , folks are waking to slowing things down for kiddies
and adults alike , simpler is so much healthier …I still adore the Walton’s
Family shows ..I don’t regret not living the Dallas or Dynasty show
that mask so many …greed is so unattractive and teaches nothing
positive .
©️
Blessings & Peace
Doña Luna
By disrupting sleep, suppressing the brain’s frontal lobe, raising stress hormones, and fracturing attention, daily screen-time harms children.
— Read on www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/mental-wealth/201508/screentime-is-making-kids-moody-crazy-and-lazy
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