Tag: relationships
The Coming Divorce Decline, Socius edition
The Coming Divorce Decline, Socius edition
https://familyinequality.wordpress.com/2019/09/01/the-coming-divorce-decline-socius-edition/
— Read on familyinequality.wordpress.com/2019/09/01/the-coming-divorce-decline-socius-edition/
Christian Radio Host: ‘Educated Women Don’t Make For Good Wives And Mothers’ | Michael Stone
He shall be corrected in his observation very
soon.
“Good Christian man” is intimidated by educated women: Christian radio host Jesse Lee Peterson claims educated women make bad wives and mothers.
— Read on www.patheos.com/blogs/progressivesecularhumanist/2019/08/christian-radio-host-educated-women-dont-make-for-good-wives-and-mothers/
Truth , Kenny Loggins
This beautiful song of a father’s love for child
as Mom and Dad split . It’s reality of deep shadow
and great love .
I found my CD of this Poo based album, in my car
and knew immediately how much I needed to
hear it , intensively therapy alone ..And I did
a deep cry , soul level but no longer the depleting
arm throbbing experiences as revelations rapid
fired upon waking …
A morning that spoke to me of connection of
my abuses , so causally dismissed in house
were possibly deeper abuses to our sons .
No boundaries , means no boundaries and
I have no reason to believe that our sons were
subject to whatever he wanted , especially when
I wasn’t there …
This does show up in the psychology side effects
of children forced to loyalty to 1 parent , ignored
until recently .
A collection of secrets , opening for the gift of
awakening to Christ Consciousness within , is
free will , choice . I do not know his connection
for he never does deep in spirit , ever ..
Shadow has me doubt the authentic fact of his
family lineage …
It shows in each baby, mine and each grandchild
but why hold that secret ?
Like memberships , clubs , secrets ?
Sleeping with the Enemy , with Julia Roberts
depicts this relationship, fortunately she was
able to get out early , intact …
Civility , will be normalized , for I have much to
reveal of such progress , in the clearing of this
erasure of family , of ignorance , control
of a child … conscious parenting , seeing
hearing , protecting the guide , and the God
Mother connection , the union of Men who
are allowed to nurture , as testament to their
Balanced consciousness , denied in their
nature as loving compassionate creatures with
deep and worthy emotions . Hear them ..
If this consciousness is lacking it’s their revelation
and could be even more toxic .
I’m clear as to my harvest , and the effects that
will ripple , but at the end of the day , it’s over .
The past that creeps in every day , is there in each
of us , and I’m choosing the liberation of owning
my stuff , allowing influences and inducements
that created motherless children .
One voice , 1 experience shared , concluding
factually can aide 1 more , and that is enough ..
©️
❤️🙏🏼😘
Extra arts education boosts students’ writing scores — and their compassion, big new study finds
One of the largest gold-standard studies on arts education ever conducted finds measurable benefits to giving students more music, theater, and dance.
— Read on www.chalkbeat.org/posts/us/2019/02/12/study-arts-education-boosted-compassion-and-writing-scores/
Stuck ?! : No More. No more Middles 👁☮️🌈🔥
Stuck In The Middle With You –
The energy of the past few days has been strange
with realities , that create a need for , a demand for
solitude ..One that I am beginning to consider my
life time commitment to.😎
I certainly understand people being people , and
into their own stuff .. I have enjoyed some nature
time with a few friends , who rarely initiate , and
I have chosen to not participate , any longer .
With a 40 plus cycle ending , that included many
jokers , clowns and masked people who may as
well be aliens for the advantage and abuses
against me , our children and grandchildren .
Today , I feel on my own , certainly guided by Divine
and note it’s always been so, and I accept it shall ever be.
I have known higher love, and have allowed higher love
to heal me .. Almost since my heart accepted Jesus , and
I sang , this little light , a force began to test that my light .
Today , I know it , I own it , without force , but great joy
and acceptance , that in removing all from me , Spirit
still remained and guided my recovery . I learned through
much heartache and heart break, lessons so freakish , so
out there , so inhumane …while hardly anyone else noted
or mumbled dismissal of blatant abuses , that seemed destined
to continue with each breath of the one whose focus is my
physical death ..
That I , survived cruelties that were allowed as an example
of my worth, my value to 3 souls .. times 6 now to appease
an elder of funds thus power , and her child who brutally
abused and used me as leverage with each other , a surrogate
for male heirs , an appearance of normalcy to the outside
world .
The shame and blame were omnipresent , as if a religion
projections of not being good enough that was perfection
by the time psychiatry gifted them , my induced Bipolar
which signaled a get out of marriage , family , as free
as possible ..
Bodies do talk and mine screamed , internally , for not
one word , was heard , nor mattered once I became
a legalized Big Pharma addict .. Malleable that an end
should be as former wished , indeed taking 5 years to
enact an exit .
Little of it was lost on me, only the Devil and his Details
a new beginning for happiness , and no concerns or
worry or love lost as he promised friendship , that never
actually was a reality .
That reality and happy faded very quickly but an investment
had been made , and barely a shadow of her former self , she
left …Kudos .. However , I never blamed her totally , as she too
was casually used to produce abuses , which included my
not being allowed in any space she might be , especially
where our sons were concerned . Her image was of wife
and mother of our sons , whom she screamed at me found
me fat, lazy, crazy and wanted nothing to do with me .
Trauma that existed , was enhanced living a life of detachment
that was and always be self absorbed , lacking consciousness
or love .. Embarking yet again , for a cup that is never full .
The Monkey and his circus are endangered .. our sons as are
many are awakening to the facts , which indeed can be pain-filled.
We are made for these times ..
I released the eternal partiers , the non reciprocal friends , the hug-less
the bound , restricted take no prisoner projectionist , who have
nada to offer me , as I did the earth family , that remained after
the vulgar display of family values …as I long ago rejected
that I was unfit , but lacking in blind support of an immorality
in a marriage that has been spun in shadow so dank , and dark
an exhumation is demanded , a requirement for stepping out
of the nightmare of abuses , with desire to continue until my
last breath .
Tonight I sit alone , I will sleep alone , but I feel no lack only
comfort that I am not stuck in the middle of anything .
My place is not in the middle .
I am ever grateful to the Karmic ladies , those whose
goal, game effort are to possess the man I favor
for they take on the whole of that dark matter
and rarely last .. Former was done way before she
became ill, but held on. His causal , fun , rover life
style didn’t change , he had a home that deceived
irregular , non normal people and activities.
His secret clubs , still secret .. A double life , always
With dire results , an ending is justified ; closure
and all the masked , all the deceits , all the abuses
are Karmic boomerangs…
I am lucky to have noted long ago , when I went
against Divine , Karmic lessons followed often
so heart and head co joined , I am patient
as thy will be done , surrendered to all that
is , all that will be . Love , and Heaven on Earth
are here .. Seeing that in another , his witness
of mine … Meeting delicious new soul connections
as residence reveals change is not an option
for others …🙏🏼
Our train, our bags , our faith is not in
others but of our selves .
Non Delusional Pisces ♓️
Indigenous matriarchs stand together in dark times | National Observer
A group of eight North American Indigenous elder women, weathered in front-line resistance, fluent in their languages and rich in traditional teachings, have joined forces to protect the sacred knowledge needed for future generations to face a climate in crisis.
— Read on www.nationalobserver.com/2019/05/07/features/indigenous-matriarchs-stand-together-dark-times
Study: Women Store DNA From Every Man They’ve Ever Made Love With
Women retain and carry living DNA from every man with whom they have sexual intercourse. This bombshell discovery has been unearthed by a brand-new study by the University of Seattle and the Fred Hutchinson Cancer Research Center.
— Read on woked.co/women-dna-man-made-love/
I got flowers today …Dedicated to Survivors of Domestic Abuse
I got flowers today. It wasn’t my birthday or any other special day. We had our first argument last night. He said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know he was sorry and didn’t mean the things he said. Because I got flowers today.
I got flowers today. It wasn’t our anniversary or any other special day. Last night, he threw me into a wall and started to choke me. It seemed like a nightmare. I couldn’t believe it was real. I woke up this morning sore and bruised all over. I know he must be sorry Because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today. It wasn’t Mother’s Day or any other special day. Last night, he beat me up again. And it was much worse than all other times. If I leave him, what will I do? How will I take care of my kids? What about money? I’m afraid of him and scared to leave. But I know he must be sorry Because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today. Today was a very special day. It was the day of my funeral. Last night he finally killed me. He beat me to death. If only I had gathered enough courage and strength to leave him, I would not have gotten flowers today.
This poem is dedicated to all the victims and survivors of Domestic Violence.
You ask, why didn’t she leave?
I ask, why did he hit?
#JusticeForEmeraly
#IHaveAStoryToTell
#StopDomesticViolence
Childress: Absence Of Parental Empathy Profoundly Damages Child 💯🤓🙏🏼
The absence of parental empathy is profoundly damaging for the child.
A damaged and manipulative parent turns the child into a weapon of revenge against the other spouse. This severely damages the child. It’s psychological child abuse.
The manipulation is strong. The court, therapists… the other parent, all focus on the child. This is spousal abuse, why is everyone looking at the weapon and not at the abuse?
The allied parent’s manipulations empower the child’s “voice” in the conflict – “we need to listen to the child’s voice” – it says. The child speaks false. Some believe the false, while others see the lie, but the conflict swirls around the child, the child is the focus, that’s the purpose, that’s the lie, make the child a battlefield.
When the lie is placed in the child, the parents battle – using the child – for the truth or the lie, one parent seeks the truth from the child, the other parent seeks the lie.
The child is the battlefield.
No one stops. Both “sides” are trying to win. For the targeted parent, it is literally a matter of life and death, if they lose, they lose the child, they become “dead” to their child. Naturally they will fight for their child… which is what the pathogen wants… the child is the battlefield.
A masterful manipulation. The court… focuses on the child. The custody evaluator, focuses on the child. The reunification therapist, focuses on the child. The targeted parent… fights for the child. The focus is on the child.
The child is the battlefield. A masterful manipulation.
We must not allow the lie to make the child a battlefield.
I know targeted parents want to “fight” for the child – but our “weapon” is empathy, authentic empathy, for the child’s self-authenticity, this will release the child from the manipulation and the lie. The directional flow of love is from parent to child, not the other way.
The current flow of love from child to parent is surface bumpy right now, but solid, I’m not worried about that direction. Easy to fix what’s on display from that direction.
I know what the child is saying and doing. None of that is true. It’s easy to find the flow of love from the child to the parent, the one we want is from parent to child.
I’m not going to make the child a battlefield over the manipulation. I’m not going to play, pathogen. Different game. Called empathy, authentic empathy.
We recover by finding, not by fighting.
Not your fault, parents. You’re supposed to have family therapists supporting you in all of this, and all of this should be getting fixed by the mental health people in six months, all done, all fixed.
We’re failing you. Professional psychology is failing you and your children.
I am very-very cross with my professional colleagues for not fixing this. We will get you the help and support you need to unlock the manipulation and unlock the lie.
You’re trying to do it on your own, and it is a masterful manipulation based on many subtle lies. It is entrapping you into fighting (defending), and it is entrapping everyone into a focus on the child.
This is not about the child, it’s about the targeted parent. This is IPV spousal abuse of the ex-spouse targeted parent by the allied parent, using the child as the weapon. The child is not the focus, the child is the weapon.
The target is… the targeted parent, targeted for severe and savage emotional abuse by the ex-spouse/allied parent, using the child as the weapon.
Our focus needs to be off the lie that is being placed into the child, and our true vision must see the authentic child, that vision is called our authentic empathy.
The pathogen in the other parent knows your triggers, knows how to activate you into fighting. It puts those triggers into the child. You respond, you fight… with your ex-… in your child… your child is the battlefield.
It is a manipulation of you. Masterful manipulation. The triggers are so embedded, and so available. Alter your triggers.
The pathogen knows where your buttons are, your ex- knows exactly what to export into the child to push those buttons, and trigger the spousal fight through the child, the child becomes the battlefield.
Shift those buttons. Lose them, hide them, make them go away… because currently, your ex- knows exactly what those triggers are. Please stop being triggered.
How?
Exactly. That is exactly the right question that will put you exactly on the proper path.
When you alter how you show up… it changes the corresponding puzzle-piece of your child, change the other by changing me, changing how I show up for my child.
Fears. It’s all born in fears, this is a trauma pathology, and trauma is a pathology of fear, unresolved fear seeking to protect itself against the enemy. Trauma is a fear-oriented brain.
Healthy is an attachment, reaching out, bonding brain. It is a relaxed brain that allows others close, and bonds easily.
Fear destroys that, and it feeds itself. We need one of you, the child or the parent, to find and remain outside fear and in the healthy brain of attachment, reaching out, and bonding.
You’re the parent, that’s you. That’s your responsibility, not the child’s, the child’s a child, you’re the grown-up, that’s you, you’re the chosen parent. I want you to find your healthy place of relaxed.
You’re child is easy to recover. It’s you that’s hard. You’re made afraid by the manipulation, all your proper buttons have been pushed in you by your ex-… using the child.
The battlefield is a lie, it’s not real. You make it real because you believe it. The child loves you bunches and bunches, I know what the child’s saying, it’s not true, it’s the lie. And you believe that? No, don’t believe the lie.
Stay here, in reality. Your child loves you bunches, your ex- is pushing your buttons using the child. Why are you letting them do that? Please stop letting them do that. Move your buttons, make them go away, paint them different colors, something.
Because your ex- knows right where they are and is using your buttons to manipulate you using the child.
Children are not a battlefield. They are children. Don’t be triggered into your fears, stay grounded in your relaxed place of empathy, authentic empathy for the child’s experience.
You’ll hear much of Dorcy’s language in my descriptions. There are resources available to help in the reorientation to empathy, and away from the lie. She’ll help you find those resources.
Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857
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