Tag: family

Child Psychological Abuse , Childress

Stop using “parental alienation” in a professional capacity, it will only lead you to your destruction. Use Child Psychological Abuse instead.

“I am concerned the other parent is psychologically abusing our child. I am concerned that the other parent has formed a shared persecutory delusion with my child targeting me, that is destroying my child’s attachment bond to me… as described in these quotes from Walters & Friedlander.

From Walters & Friedlander: “In some RRD families [resist-refuse dynamic], a parent’s underlying encapsulated delusion about the other parent is at the root of the intractability (cf. Johnston & Campbell, 1988, p. 53ff; Childress, 2013). An encapsulated delusion is a fixed, circumscribed belief that persists over time and is not altered by evidence of the inaccuracy of the belief.” (Walters & Friedlander, 2016, p. 426)

From Walters & Friedlander: “When alienation is the predominant factor in the RRD [resist-refuse dynamic}, the theme of the favored parent’s fixed delusion often is that the rejected parent is sexually, physically, and/or emotionally abusing the child. The child may come to share the parent’s encapsulated delusion and to regard the beliefs as his/her own (cf. Childress, 2013).” (Walters & Friedlander, 2016, p. 426)

Walters, M. G., & Friedlander, S. (2016). When a child rejects a parent: Working with the intractable resist/refuse dynamic. Family Court Review, 54(3), 424–445. 

“I’d like a risk assessment for possible Child Psychological Abuse surrounding a possible shared persecutory delusion of the other parent with the child.”

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

Gabby’s parents file for 50 Million

Gabby’s death and the deaths of millions of women ; many of color are taken after not being heard by those who should protect and serve .

Training is needed because as horrific as this is , boys , men are abused and murdered but at no point confide nor heal those abuses and it’s time to address this for ALL in ways that does not support abuses and the awareness to know the difference . A plan B to ensure no one gets by with such abuses as Gabby and many more have given their lives for …

It’s time for change in intimate partner violence

It’s time to expose the harm done when parents support illegal acts , who ignore the signs etc

Win Win weather the $50 million is actualized because it’s wayyyy past time for change in this area of Law Enforcement .

EDUCATION

FACTS

www.accessonline.com/videos/gabby-petitos-family-will-file-50-million-wrongful-death-lawsuit-against-utah-police

Tossing COVID 19 4kids : lack of Demand Kudos Parents !!!!

americanwirenews.com/lack-of-demand-prompts-pediatricians-to-toss-covid-19-vaccine-doses-for-children-under-5/

Disordered Family Members by Sherrie Campbell PhD

Severely character disordered family members are completely oblivious to the fact that we know they do not love others. They are too selfish to love which means they resent having to give anything of themselves.

We know when we are loved and when we aren’t. We know when the things they have done to us are wrong. Their abuse may confuse us because they are supposed to love us, but we know deep down when we are being abused and that there is something not right with them.

To stay connected to our family means we must justify our abuse, with the same excuses our abusers tell us why they mistreat us. For too long, we go along to get along only to see that nothing changes. Who they are and how they choose to treat us is 100% their choice.

The mindset to hold is that our family members choose to manipulate and abuse and masquerade it as love. This doesn’t mean we have to continue buying into it. We can also make the choice to totally disengage from them. That can our choice.

Cravings by KD Lang

We are a nation of addicts by

grand design , lulled to sleep

under educated and fed untruths

And lies

I’m a truther and that’s cost me

the peace in life that has taught

me well.

Discoveries of ancestral shadow, and light .

Points to the horrible facts

that my paternal grandfather

had many addictions and was

highly abusive to my grandmother and their kids

He grew corn , fields of corn

He had boxes of cash in high

currencies.

He pushed Granny Zola , causing her to fall and loose their son David .

He won in a divorce , accusing her of cheating

She was seen in a public place having coffee with a man

Her parents gave them 120 acres . She got nothing .

She left with the cloths on her back , Running for her life .

She was divorced in 1953. He prevailed .

The children of tender years were placed with relatives.

Her Mom died in 1953 .

She struggled for the rest of her life , various rentals etc

She was given Valium to aide her her loss , shame and awareness of the injustice .

She had 5 sons and 2 daughters

She came from at least 5 daughters and 2 sons .

She was the most loving human being on this planet !

I know I have cleared the blood lines , experiencing much of Minnie Zola’s trauma and am honored to have been in the presence of GreatGrandmother , Grandmother , in the spring of 1952 . Great Grandmother was in her heavy coat with a scarf on her head . As her 1st grandchild , by Dad I sense it was determined that day that I could and would end the shadow abuses and expose the forced addictions after living a nightmare , having that abuse supported by family , friends and church .

Dad had a very low tolerance for alcoholism and drank very little . I know he threw out Moms brother who showed up at out home after I was 12 or so.

An incident when I was younger of their being out dancing and a passionate disagreement occurred and Mom threw her rings into a patch of grass or a field . She took us back to the scene and I found it for her . I don’t recall their dancing and Honkey Tonkin after that .

Both parents smoked and that was addiction but I inherited Dad’s intolerance for alcohol but failed to be aware of mask and secret manipulation as I was triangles which was an early childhood awareness ; Mom was guarded and competitive with out cause . She did not understand the bond between Dad and I and it felt like a hole in my heart . I spoke the truth early on and got her in hot water with Dad whom she told she had quit smoking .

Emotional Partners ; not a healthy role for a child . As a medicated trauma and abuse victim I did the same injustice to our eldest child as did his Dad . Our son caught a lot of abuse due to his love for me .

I am proud to have gotten off the ” junk” RX and whole matrix of addiction legally that destroys lives or ends them .

However there was and is a lot of fallout and damage done and healing for our sons .

I have not been in the mindset to repeat any of the past and pushed through forced addictions and of feeling bound to someone who doesn’t stand beside me with an arm on my back , instead of a sword .

I’m addicted to the peace that my heart has always been a longing and my place in this world .

Recent challenges did not reverse my direction , my life long intent .

For this last major test I am grateful that so much was exposed and Krystal has helped release even more trauma which I was much better at , than times past .

Assured that I am not addicted in mind , body or spirit .

Blessings & Peace

Dona Luna🙏❤️😘🎉

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Addiction

“Put a rat in a cage and give it 2 water bottles. One is just water and one is water laced with heroin or cocaine. The rat will almost always prefer the drugged water and almost always kill itself in a couple of weeks. That is our theory of addiction.

Bruce comes along in the ’70s and said, “Well, hang on. We’re putting the rat in an empty cage. It has nothing to do. Let’s try this a bit differently.” So he built Rat Park, and Rat Park is like heaven for rats. Everything a rat could want is in Rat Park. Lovely food. Lots of sex. Other rats to befriend. Colored balls. Plus both water bottles, one with water and one with drugged water. But here’s what’s fascinating: In Rat Park, they don’t drink the drugged water. They hardly use it. None of them overdose. None of them use in a way that looks like compulsion or addiction. What Bruce did shows that both the right-wing and left-wing theories of addiction are wrong. The right-wing theory is that it’s a moral failing, you’re a hedonist, you party too hard. The left-wing theory is that it takes you over, your brain is hijacked. Bruce says it’s not your morality, it’s not your brain; it’s your cage. Addiction is largely an adaptation to your environment.

Now, we created a society where significant numbers of us can’t bear to be present in our lives without being on something, drink, drugs, sex, shopping, even our phones… We’ve created a hyperconsumerist, hyperindividualist, isolated world that is, for many of us, more like the first cage than the bonded, connected cages we need.

The opposite of addiction is not sobriety. The opposite of addiction is connection. And our whole society, the engine of it, is geared toward making us connect with things not people. We no longer focus on bonding with other people, we now bond with stuff. In fact, we are trained from a young age to focus our hopes, dreams, and ambitions on things to buy and consume. Drug addiction is a subset of that.” #TheAllAmericanAddict

Dads Matter

To all you psychotic alienating moms out there who make YOUR kids

“Your World”

And who use YOUR

“Mini Me’s”

as a wallet, cause your

“Just a single mom doing her best”

You are psychologically enmeshed with YOUR children. YOUR kids will never understand how to create healthy boundaries and will suffer in every aspect of their lives because of the psychopathy YOU taught them.

WE ARE COMING FOR YOU.

To all you Dads. DON’T GIVE UP.

I was an alienated child. There are millions of us. We don’t appreciate being robbed of the other half of who we are. We need you. Don’t leave us behind. I didn’t have the words to tell my dad. I didn’t know that going with moms flow for my own sanity, was harming me more.

I didn’t know.

I was just a kid.

I didn’t know how much of me was him.

I didn’t know, when I told him I didn’t want to go, that I was ripping his heart from his chest and sealing his fate.

I didn’t know.

But, now I’m grown and I know better.

It’s just too bad it’s too late.

We’ve lost in court too many times to count. We’re broke and heartbroken.

He is defeated.

I am not.

I got my dad on my shoulder and a lifetime of memories without him to motivate me. All I have right now are these flyer’s.

I plastered the kids street, so

THEY KNOW

HCBM’s family is next, cause they are coconspirators and enable more generational trauma. When school and little league start, the flyers will be there too. I will create awareness where I can, because if it’s not happening to you, you just

don’t know.

Holding a patient ( child) overlong ( as long as insurance pays )

We admitted Tom to a developmental disabilities unit at a psychiatric hospital nearby in January 31 – as you know things had been very hard for a long time. They were getting really difficult at school as well. Meds weren’t helping and they kept prescribing one on top of another without taking the prior one away, because they’re psych meds and you have to taper and there’s no time for that when he’s in crisis. He’s been ready to be discharged for about 2 1/2 months, in my opinion. The hospital team suggests residential placement – since nearly the time he was admitted. He’s doing so well now and the hospital team are seeing that he’s now having aggression because he’s sort of pushing back against the very restrictive environment. But there was no in home support to be found (no applicants) and wait lists a mile long with no guesstimate as to when a spot would be available….so he’s just been living in the hospital. He asks to come home almost every day and for sure when we visit. He even asks for his school teachers and speech and OT and school social worker. I miss him so much.