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Love is no easy path ❤️🙌
Sometimes people walk away from love because it is so beautiful that it terrifies them. Sometimes they leave because the connection shines a bright light on their dark places and they are not ready to work them through. Sometimes they run away because they are not developmentally prepared to merge with another- they have more individuation work to do first. Sometimes they take off because love is not a priority in their lives- they have another path and purpose to walk first. Sometimes they end it because they prefer a relationship that is more practical than conscious, one that does not threaten the ways that they organize reality. Because so many of us carry shame, we have a tendency to personalize love’s leavings, triggered by the rejection and feelings of abandonment. But this is not always true. Sometimes it has nothing to do with us. Sometimes the one who leaves is just not ready to hold it safe. Sometimes they know something we don’t- they know their limits at that moment in time. Real love is no easy path- readiness is everything. May we grieve loss without personalizing it. May we learn to love ourselves in the absence of the lover. ~Jeff Brown
Lady Edison
We seldom are educated about women who like this Lady unless we seek it ….it’s lovely that we have sources to educate us about varied invaluable women throughout history .
Nicknamed “Lady Edison” for all the inventions she created, Beulah Louise Henry was the most prolific female innovator of the 1920s, with around 110 inventions to her name.
Self-educated and from Memphis, Tennessee, she attributed her powerful sense of creativity to the process of teaching herself. She proved that women could succeed as engineers without formal training.
The range of Beulah’s inventions is huge, ranging from a vacuum-sealed ice cream freezer, to children’s toys. Creating modifications to sewing machines and typewriters was the source of many of her inventions.
The Journal of the Patent Office Society, which granted all 49 patents applied for during her career, named her “America’s leading feminine inventor”.
Beulah was inducted into the National Inventors Hall of Fame in 2006 for her contributions to technological innovation.
“Helping” your wife ( partner ) explained – Ex had an “ exemption “
I now realize this is a must, and know full well that ex thought I should have done everything .l
“A friend came to my house for coffee, we sat down and talked about life. After a while I interrupted the conversation and said to him, ′′I’m going to wash the dishes, I’ll be right back.”
He looked at me like I told him he was going to build a spaceship. So he said to me with admiration and a little stumped, ′′Glad you help your wife, I rarely help mine because when I do she never thank me. Last week I washed the floor and she didn’t even tell me to thank you.”
I sat back down with him again and explained to him that I don’t ′′help′′ my wife. Actually, my wife doesn’t need help, she needs a partner, a teammate. I’m her home partner… and due to that, all functions are divided, which is not “help” with household chores.
I don’t “help” my wife clean the house because I also live in it and I need to clean it too.
I don’t “help” my wife cook, because I also want to eat and I need to cook too.
I don’t “help” her washing dishes after eating, because I use these dishes too.
I don’t “help” my wife with kids, because they are mine too and I have to be a father.
I don’t “help” my wife wash, extend, fold, and put away laundry because it’s mine and my kids too.
I don’t give a “helping hand” at home, I’m part of it.
Then with respect, I asked my friend when was the last time his wife finished cleaning the house, doing laundry, changing the bedsheets, bathing the kids, cooking, organizing, etc.. and did he say: “thank you?”
I mean a real thank you, like, “Wow, baby!! You’re amazing!!”
Does this all seem absurd? Does it sound weird to you? When, once in your life, you cleaned the floor, you expected at least an excellence award with great glory… why? Haven’t you ever thought about that?
Maybe, because for you, macho culture taught you that everything is a woman’s task.
Maybe you’ve been taught that all this should be done without you having to move a finger.
So praise her as you would like to be praised, likewise, with the same intensity. Hold her hand and behave like a true companion, and assume your part, don’t behave like a guest who simply comes to eat, sleep, shower, and satisfy sexual needs… feel at home, in your home.
Change in our society begins in our homes, teaching our children the true sense of fellowship!”
Credit: Nino Razmadze
Ashley Judd on Gender Violence
Healthy Holy Man
WHEN A HOLY MAN WALKS INTO YOUR LIFE.
You will be confused, at first it will seem selfless or not very intense. You would think there’s something off about him, or that you’re not the center of his attention.
When a sane man comes to you, he’s not going to put you in a state of delirium and demand, he won’t demand attention and he won’t harass and control you.
When you attract a healthy man, they will have some things in common, but he’s not going to make the effort to love you and be nice all the time, he’s going to show for himself.
When a healthy man comes to you, he shares his peace and calm with you, he includes you in his life without training you and he respects your time.
He will show you who he is instantly, the masks won’t come off after a few months that will confuse you.
He will not waste space, he will listen to your silences and know your cycles.
When you attract a healthy man, only then will you know you’ve broken the repetitive pattern of attracting toxicity and violence, and you’ll know you’ve healed what was broken inside you.
Wish you all the things you deserve.
Cherokee Women
I have Cherokee blood 🩸; so this makes sense 🙏☮️
Cherokee Women and Their Important Roles:
Women in the Cherokee society were equal to men. They could earn the title of War Women and sit in councils as equals. This privilege led an Irishman named Adair who traded with the Cherokee from 1736-1743 to accuse the Cherokee of having a “petticoat government”.
Clan kinship followed the mother’s side of the family. The children grew up in the mother’s house, and it was the duty of an uncle on the mother’s side to teach the boys how to hunt, fish, and perform certain tribal duties. The women owned the houses and their furnishings. Marriages were carefully negotiated, but if a woman decided to divorce her spouse, she simply placed his belongings outside the house. Cherokee women also worked hard. They cared for the children, cooked, tended the house, tanned skins, wove baskets, and cultivated the fields. Men helped with some household chores like sewing, but they spent most of their time hunting.
Cherokee girls learned by example how to be warriors and healers. They learned to weave baskets, tell stories, trade, and dance. They became mothers and wives, and learned their heritage. The Cherokee learned to adapt, and the women were the core of the Cherokee.
Photo : ~ Cherokee mixed Native American actress, Faye Warren.
To Be A Mom
Many are single married Mothers , with a drop in Dad who friends their child and creates the Mom who must delegate thus coming off as doctoral .
To be a Mom.
A Mom will break her own heart in pieces and glue those pieces into your heart that is broken.
She will tie your hair (im)patiently and run back to fetch your favourite toy, even if it makes her late.
She will pull the feathers from her wings and lovingly add them to yours just to make sure that you can fly higher.
She will use her last bit of energy at the end of a long day to wipe the tears from your sad face.
A Mom is thè one person that will always see the beauty within you.
She is thè one person that will believe you deserve only the best and bend backwards to ensure that you get it.
To be a Mom is to understand that at times, she will have to stand alone against the world.
I only realize now why Cinderella’s stepmom was so nasty and Mama Bear’s porridge was always cold.
I only realize now why Snowhite was alone in the woods and why Little Red Riding Hood’s granny so grey, old and sick.
Because the days of Motherhood were just too long and the years much too short.
And many, yes MANY days, a Mom’s plate of food is just too cold too often.
Luckily there are silver linings, especially around much darker clouds,
on days you need to see that silver lining the most.
The reward of being a Mom can be found in listening to the most precious of precious laughter of your child, sounding like water gently gurgling over smooth river stones.
It is in the privilege of hearing a little human that you helped bring into this world, say: “Mama, I’s loves you..” and you know it comes from their tiny heart.
I believe that you only grasp the true value of a Mom, the day you become a Mom yourself.
It is only then that you realize the power in a Mom’s prayers.
At times the title Mom also brings the deepest of hurt and pain.
But let’s be honest – to have a Mom and to be a Mom, is the highest privilege anyone can be blessed with.
🖋️~ Unknown, shared via Welcome Home pg.
*** Written by a mom for moms, but reading it, I know so many millions of Moms have an amazing, supportive Dad beside them. I honour you both. 💜
Art Credit : Artist unknown, published by Heidi @Parenting to Impress.
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