Tag: Children

From another “voluntary “ mental patient

When I was an involuntary patient, my mother was made to be my substitute decision maker (SDM) since I would not willingly submit to treatment of a non existent disease. I was heavily drugged and could not advocate for myself and was barely able to communicate with her during this time. While on the drugs, I had experiences of modified perceptions and had trouble to focus on the basic task of speaking to others, or fighting for my own rights. During this time my mother would be brought to an interview with a psychiatrist, with or without me present, and brain washed into the benefits on psych drugs, which she attempted to advocate should be administered in lower doses or removed from my drugging routine due to her witnessing the effects on me. I will never accept that she fully fought for my rights, because although she states she couldnt remove me from the ward (which I equate to a prison) due to a Form, she didnt advocate nearly enough to have me removed, and her consulting on my dosages translated to me as active participation in my drug induced abuse. But here are some of the lies i overheard the “doctor” say to try to convince my mother forced drugging (being injected against my wishes) was a beneficial act -as opposed to how I see it: an outright violation of my health and freedoms

  1. “Psychosis causes brain cells to pop, her brain is damaging itself when she goes into psychosis.”

My perpsective: I dont have psychosis, I have a justified outbursts due to anger of not being heard or understood in a given circumstance. I am fully reasonable and able to be reasoned with in this time. The psychiatrist doesnt know a thing about me to deduce that I do in fact have psychotic episodes, since I barely spoke to him, and he does not know anything about me. Additionally I’m sure the more severe damage is caused by psych drugs not by any potentially psychotic episode that someone may or may not experience.

  1. She has a brain that has biochemical imbalances, we need to regulate it.

It’s a well proven MYTH that chemical imbalances correlate with mental illness or that they exist. No one in the ward measured any form of imbalances, so how can they even scientifically prove I have imbalances if they never ran any tests.

  1. She will relapse if she goes off the drugs.

Relapse into what- being my normal, reasonable self?

  1. She will be a lifelong pateint and suffer from bipolar her entire life.

I dont identify as bipolar, and I will fight to never be in a ward again. Mental illness is a myth, a matter of perspective. Once you get to know people, the illusion that they are disordered or ill mentally fades away.

Childress on Child Abuse

In the absence of child abuse, parents have the right to parent according to their cultural values, their personal values, and their religious values.

In the absence of child abuse, each parent should have as much time and involvement with their child as possible.

In the absence of child abuse, to restrict either parent’s time and involvement with their child would damage the child’s attachment bond to that parent, thereby harming the child and harming the parent.

Is there child abuse? Let’s get a proper risk assessment for possible child abuse.

Either,

1) child abuse by the targeted parent accounting for the child’s attachment pathology toward that parent,

Or.

2) child psychological abuse by the allied parent, i.e., a shared persecutory delusion created by the collapse of a narcissistic-borderline personality parent surrounding divorce.

One way or the other, we’re looking at a likely child abuse diagnosis. We need a proper risk assessment for possible child abuse.

From Walters & Friedlander: “In some RRD families [resist-refuse dynamic], a parent’s underlying encapsulated delusion about the other parent is at the root of the intractability (cf. Johnston & Campbell, 1988, p. 53ff; Childress, 2013). An encapsulated delusion is a fixed, circumscribed belief that persists over time and is not altered by evidence of the inaccuracy of the belief.” (Walters & Friedlander, 2016, p. 426)

From Walters & Friedlander: “When alienation is the predominant factor in the RRD [resist-refuse dynamic}, the theme of the favored parent’s fixed delusion often is that the rejected parent is sexually, physically, and/or emotionally abusing the child. The child may come to share the parent’s encapsulated delusion and to regard the beliefs as his/her own (cf. Childress, 2013).” (Walters & Friedlander, 2016, p. 426)

Walters, M. G., & Friedlander, S. (2016). When a child rejects a parent: Working with the intractable resist/refuse dynamic. Family Court Review, 54(3), 424–445.

What is the diagnosis? Is there a shared persecutory delusion? We need an answer to that question.

If the mental health person cannot answer that question – is there a shared persecutory delusion? – then they are pointless to the situation because we need an answer to that question.

IT… IS… SIMPLE. Is there a shared persecutory delusion? Yes? No?

How do they know if they don’t even look to see? Do the child’s symptoms meet diagnostic criteria for a persecutory delusion? How about we use Item 11 on the Brief Psychiatric Rating Scale for Unusual Thought Content (delusions), “one of the oldest, most widely used scales to measure psychotic symptoms,” to rate the delusional quality of the belief.

Or you can write the answer on a napkin. Tell us by smoke signals for all I care… we just need an answer, is there a shared persecutory delusion – a fixed and false belief in supposed “victimization”?

The treatment for cancer is different than the treatment for diabetes. Diagnosis guides treatment. If we treat cancer with insulin then the patient dies from the misdiagnosed cancer.

What is the diagnosis?

“I don’t diagnose, I don’t like to pathologize” Then you’re a pretty worthless person to the situation because we need a diagnosis.

Is there child abuse? V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse? Why are we not routinely getting an answer to that question for court-involved family conflict?

They deserve to lose their license. Look at all they’re putting you through because they won’t diagnose Child Psychological Abuse (V995.51) when it’s warranted. They have duty to protect obligations, and they are not protecting your child.

Knowledge is power. Planning is power. The pathogen is now-reactive. Plan ahead, move step-by-step on a linear path to the goal. You want a written treatment plan to fix things please.

Google mental health treatment plans and read the first two returns – one of those please.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

Alienated Parent Wins

What about the kids?

A win for a parent that has been alienated from his children!
My friend went to court on his divorce/custody case this morning. He has been alienated from his children since he made the choice to divorce a few months ago. Told the children did not want to see him and all of the usual tactics used against him. He was just asking for joint custody. She (the mother) only came to court to fight over the child support. She also brought the kids with her saying they would tell the judge they did not want to see him. Long story short- he saved all the messages and documentation, the judge spoke to the kids alone. The result was him getting full custody and her with zero visitation and she has to pay for counseling for the kids in addition to child support. The judge said it was one of the worst cases of parental alienation AND manipulation he had ever seen. So to all those going through something similar- hang in there, document everything- the truth will eventually come out.

Erin’s Law – Descriptive accounts of childhood rape

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For those who have experienced a traumatic event they may never be able to go back to that place again. It could be the student who survived a school shooting never wanting to return to the school that carry awful memories. The employee who survived a work place shooting unable to return to work due to the PTSD being back at the scene of the crime they escaped.

Most who have experienced traumatic events even years or decades later can still remember the tiny details of that day like what they wore, ate, and did leading up to the trauma they experienced.

For victims of abuse that place can be the home they grew up in. A relative or friends home. The church or school they went to. A place that was supposed to be safe instead horrible things occurred at.

Seeing these places can immediately bring back the awful memories of what happened there. Resulting in flashbacks, panic attacks, and nightmares. In any given year it is estimated that 12 million in America suffer from PTSD. That number is much higher worldwide.

For those who have never experienced PTSD it may be hard to understand the psychological impact trauma can have. I have had some hurtful insensitive things said to me over the years. A friend as a teenager said, “You are not being abused anymore why can’t you just get over it.” What I would have loved to say is, “I wish it were that simple to just get over.”

A relative said, “Why are you letting him retraumatize you.” That is what is called victim blaming saying I was letting him retraumatize me. Some people truly need to think before they speak. Sometimes the best thing you can say is nothing at all.

Anyone else passing this house in the photo below would not think anything more than just another house in a neighborhood. Some wouldn’t even notice it.

For me it is a house of horror. A place I woke during a sleepover with my best friend at six years old to a grown man on top of me assaulting me. Threatening me to keep quiet about it. I was abused in the family room, bathroom, two bedrooms, and right by the door leading to the garage in this house. The worst occurred during the day when I was in the trusted care of this man. It easily tops the worst day of my entire life.

While playing in a back bedroom he came in and locked the door. This is the part that I WARN you will be hard to read. If you have experienced abuse this might trigger you so you be the judge if you should keep reading.

Behind the locked doors in this house I was held down on a bed. I remember the color of his shirt. The shoes I wore that day. The toys I played with before he came in. His soft spoken voice. The sweat that dripped down his face. The frustration in him when I refused to open my mouth so he squeezed my cheeks together. The anger he expressed when I refused to cooperate. In the past I just laid there when he abused me. This time was different. I was fighting back. It was the only time I fought back when he abused me. For a brief few minutes he got off me and I ran into the closet to escape him. It didn’t stop him from getting me back on that bed to finish what he started.

His hand over my mouth to silence my screams as he raped me. My face pushed into a mattress to silence my screams as he anally raped me. I don’t know what was worse the pain or feeling like I was going to pass out and die due to my airway being restricted. Begging him to let me go.

This kind of evil is not uncommon. It has happened to millions of children. It is going on behind closed doors in homes just like this one.

There are legislators in 13 states who still refuse to pass Erin’s Law. A law that could have prevented me from being raped had I know the first time this man abused me how to speak up and tell. There are children who experienced this same horror I described above who will go to bed still keeping it a secret. Erin’s Law gives children the education in school on learning to speak up and tell if you are being abused.

Luckily I got away from this man when my family moved. Only moving got me that much closer to the next monster in my life. The relative that would abuse me from 11-13 years old in 7 different houses between Illinois and Wisconsin. I only disclosed it because my younger sister told me he was abusing her too. He was given probation.

37 states have passed Erin’s Law. All I ask legislators for is one hour a year teaching kids personal body safety. Empowering kids on safe and unsafe touch, safe and unsafe secrets. Start writing your legislators if you live in one of the thirteen states that have not passed it.

Wisconsin

Arizona

Nebraska

Idaho

Ohio

Kentucky

Kansas

South Dakota

North Carolina

Massachusetts

Hawaii

Florida

Iowa

SHARE this to help educate others on Erin’s Law and the silent epidemic of child sexual abuse. http://www.erinslaw.org

Finally don’t feel bad for me. I am one blessed mama now to three little girls and a baby boy. Married to a man that showed me not all men are evil. And I now get to spend my life putting these monsters you just read about behind bars. These two scumbags may still walk the streets of America but thousands across America have been locked up because of Erin’s Law being taught in a school. Just yesterday a man was sentenced to 45 years in prison after an Erin’s Law presentation and the child disclosed. 👏🏻

This house is no longer there. It was torn down and now a big house is in its place.

Trauma via being Witness to Events

PTSD can occur not just from directly experiencing a severe traumatic event but also witnessing it happen to others, including close friends, family and loved ones as well as being chronically exposed to the details of the trauma of others in work-related settings.

#narcissisticabuse #toxicrelationships #toxicpeople #emotionalabuse #shahidaarabi

BabyCries

The education I received , perhaps through Dr Spock was to allow baby cry up to 15 minutes . I am not sure if I allowed 15 minutes but I disregarded my gut too much with regard to our sons. If I asked , the Dr etc he trusted my intuition and he was misinformed through his education which has been lacking in authentic knowledge . And allowing for new information, growth and change that are fact .

Another news flash for me was the universal cry sounds of babies that are specific .

I felt I had way too much to do ,being responsible and pleasing others to sit with my infant in my arms but I talked to them , acknowledged them as our family grew . I had few outlets ; walking was therapeutic but waxed and waned .

I am sure I was not held for my Mom was never demonstrative , tender or nurturing in my memories . I have knowledge of whys she may have been with holding and marriage to that same energy within a sacred union with children involved was devastating.

Their love was so healing and highlighted the lacks of love by others especially their Dad .

And he weaponized that love to advantage himself .

I enjoy sacred hugs but am touched by many in my life without physical contact .

I feel held

I feel supported

I feel loved 🥰

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Shove Ins ( body snatchers )

I was evaluated by a woman in 07 by phone appointment , as being a 1st Wave Indigo . She explained that while I was in the hospital , after birthing our 3rd son , ” Jessica” was brought to my hospital after a suicidal act . She shoved her soul which was in a state of addiction with me .

She had lost her precious daughter and felt she could not go on .

I became more aware with our 3rd son how distorted our world really was . I became a shell of myself , realizing I was not valued as a partner , as a wife and there was little I could do but hang in and try hard for normalcy for our sons . It wasn’t ; I simply could not ignore the facts … it only got worse .

I conquered Jessica’s implants and her addictions which were by force by a doctor , compliant by a husband and accepted by every hint of support I had .

Jessica soul retrieval allowed her spiritual reunification with her precious daughters spirit and they walked in fields of gold for eternity.

I am better informed , trust my ancestors , angels and spirit guides of benevolent intent and accept my blessings for my the trust and faith and guidance that has allowed healing and clearing of ancient bloodlines .

As such it is a brand new world , co creating with honor and respect for all that got me here as New Earth births ; I am aware of the totality of losses and I grieve .

All is well with my soul

#Acceptance

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Living Connection : Mother & Child

“During pregnancy, some baby cells migrate into the mother’s bloodstream and then return to the child. It’s called “mother-fetal microchimerism”.

For 41 weeks, the cells mix and circulate back and forth, and, after the baby is born, many of these cells remain in the mother’s body, leaving a permanent imprint in the tissues, bones, brain and skin of the baby to mother, and they often remain there for decades.

Every other child a mother has will leave a similar imprint on her body.

Even if a pregnancy doesn’t end, or if you have an abortion, these cells still migrate into the bloodstream.

Research has shown that if a mother’s heart is injured, fetal cells will rush to the injury site, and transform into different types of cells that specialize in repairing the heart.

The child helps the mother repair, while the mother builds the child.

This is often the reason why some diseases fade away during pregnancy.

It’s amazing how the mother’s body protects the baby at all costs, and the baby protects and rebuilds the mother in return, so they can safely develop and survive.

Let’s think about pregnancy cravings for a moment. What did the mother need, that the child make her wish?

The studies also showed the presence of fetal cells in her mother’s brain 18 years after birth.

How wonderful is this? ”

From an article by Nargis Kizalbash

Art by Enric Huguet (@enric. hugs)