The education I received , perhaps through Dr Spock was to allow baby cry up to 15 minutes . I am not sure if I allowed 15 minutes but I disregarded my gut too much with regard to our sons. If I asked , the Dr etc he trusted my intuition and he was misinformed through his education which has been lacking in authentic knowledge . And allowing for new information, growth and change that are fact .
Another news flash for me was the universal cry sounds of babies that are specific .
I felt I had way too much to do ,being responsible and pleasing others to sit with my infant in my arms but I talked to them , acknowledged them as our family grew . I had few outlets ; walking was therapeutic but waxed and waned .
I am sure I was not held for my Mom was never demonstrative , tender or nurturing in my memories . I have knowledge of whys she may have been with holding and marriage to that same energy within a sacred union with children involved was devastating.
Their love was so healing and highlighted the lacks of love by others especially their Dad .
And he weaponized that love to advantage himself .
I enjoy sacred hugs but am touched by many in my life without physical contact .
I feel held
I feel supported
I feel loved 🥰