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For those who have experienced a traumatic event they may never be able to go back to that place again. It could be the student who survived a school shooting never wanting to return to the school that carry awful memories. The employee who survived a work place shooting unable to return to work due to the PTSD being back at the scene of the crime they escaped.
Most who have experienced traumatic events even years or decades later can still remember the tiny details of that day like what they wore, ate, and did leading up to the trauma they experienced.
For victims of abuse that place can be the home they grew up in. A relative or friends home. The church or school they went to. A place that was supposed to be safe instead horrible things occurred at.
Seeing these places can immediately bring back the awful memories of what happened there. Resulting in flashbacks, panic attacks, and nightmares. In any given year it is estimated that 12 million in America suffer from PTSD. That number is much higher worldwide.
For those who have never experienced PTSD it may be hard to understand the psychological impact trauma can have. I have had some hurtful insensitive things said to me over the years. A friend as a teenager said, “You are not being abused anymore why can’t you just get over it.” What I would have loved to say is, “I wish it were that simple to just get over.”
A relative said, “Why are you letting him retraumatize you.” That is what is called victim blaming saying I was letting him retraumatize me. Some people truly need to think before they speak. Sometimes the best thing you can say is nothing at all.
Anyone else passing this house in the photo below would not think anything more than just another house in a neighborhood. Some wouldn’t even notice it.
For me it is a house of horror. A place I woke during a sleepover with my best friend at six years old to a grown man on top of me assaulting me. Threatening me to keep quiet about it. I was abused in the family room, bathroom, two bedrooms, and right by the door leading to the garage in this house. The worst occurred during the day when I was in the trusted care of this man. It easily tops the worst day of my entire life.
While playing in a back bedroom he came in and locked the door. This is the part that I WARN you will be hard to read. If you have experienced abuse this might trigger you so you be the judge if you should keep reading.
Behind the locked doors in this house I was held down on a bed. I remember the color of his shirt. The shoes I wore that day. The toys I played with before he came in. His soft spoken voice. The sweat that dripped down his face. The frustration in him when I refused to open my mouth so he squeezed my cheeks together. The anger he expressed when I refused to cooperate. In the past I just laid there when he abused me. This time was different. I was fighting back. It was the only time I fought back when he abused me. For a brief few minutes he got off me and I ran into the closet to escape him. It didn’t stop him from getting me back on that bed to finish what he started.
His hand over my mouth to silence my screams as he raped me. My face pushed into a mattress to silence my screams as he anally raped me. I don’t know what was worse the pain or feeling like I was going to pass out and die due to my airway being restricted. Begging him to let me go.
This kind of evil is not uncommon. It has happened to millions of children. It is going on behind closed doors in homes just like this one.
There are legislators in 13 states who still refuse to pass Erin’s Law. A law that could have prevented me from being raped had I know the first time this man abused me how to speak up and tell. There are children who experienced this same horror I described above who will go to bed still keeping it a secret. Erin’s Law gives children the education in school on learning to speak up and tell if you are being abused.
Luckily I got away from this man when my family moved. Only moving got me that much closer to the next monster in my life. The relative that would abuse me from 11-13 years old in 7 different houses between Illinois and Wisconsin. I only disclosed it because my younger sister told me he was abusing her too. He was given probation.
37 states have passed Erin’s Law. All I ask legislators for is one hour a year teaching kids personal body safety. Empowering kids on safe and unsafe touch, safe and unsafe secrets. Start writing your legislators if you live in one of the thirteen states that have not passed it.
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Finally don’t feel bad for me. I am one blessed mama now to three little girls and a baby boy. Married to a man that showed me not all men are evil. And I now get to spend my life putting these monsters you just read about behind bars. These two scumbags may still walk the streets of America but thousands across America have been locked up because of Erin’s Law being taught in a school. Just yesterday a man was sentenced to 45 years in prison after an Erin’s Law presentation and the child disclosed. 👏🏻
This house is no longer there. It was torn down and now a big house is in its place.