Empath’s fail , being vulnerable in sharing
shame , and having just 1 person who hears
you . I gave up trying to please those folks
who don’t earn the right, or hold space for
my story …
I’m getting more discerning , failing to acknowledge
the no shows , grateful for the brave hearts who
try ; knowing and doing better ..
Newton’s Law :
For every action ….
Shame by Brene’ Brown
This perfectly explains the dynamics I have been
aware of since Mid year 1978 , after sharing our joy
and witnessing the immaturity , and projected
blame of a man who had known this dynamic for
his entire life.
Typically saving the storied that solidified a lifestyle
that afforded a connection to call and a resolution
to all acceptance of responsibility. As our children
were abused in GM’s care, I have no doubt of physical
and mental abuse that was supported by money as
a god. I was , along with our sons were considered a
drain , financially , and slowly that combined with
drink , and sex addictions, with adverse parenting that
was more ” uncle” that dad. Partnership was with the
mother, never me, nor the ” replacement” , and of course
neither were ” liked” by mom , only tolerated until
shredding the completion .
Affluence, memberships, religious afflictions , secrets abound
with the constant projection of blame at any target . Our sons
and DIL have been ” targeted ” as well, depending on what’s
going on at the time. Vampires, emotionally , spiritually
who choose to remain ignorant and defensive of any
and all responsibility , considering my demise completed
old history .. Hero’s , the mom and son, who ” saved ” our
children by killing me alive , to save their abuse secrets
lies, begetting more lies..
Very comfortable that money and connections are their
constant out, which has been supported by professionals
who choose to do that in a network of dank dark shadow.
Narcissists as parents create children who themselves can develop their own problems. New research shows how infantilization plays out when those children grow up.
— Read on www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201810/how-narcissistic-parents-infantilize-kids
So worthy of transforming 🤓
A New York state school district is facing a storm of…
— Read on blavity.com/strip-search-of-four-black-girls-by-middle-school-officials-draws-outrage-from-parents-community-members-in-upstate-new-york
It can be overwhelming to a sensitive, who feels deep pain
and frustration.
My reactions used to be extremely weird in my not knowing
acting spontaneously in a triggered response.. It’s lovely to
have transformed it enough to not over react , allowing I can
think it out ..and release it .
When a friend gets fired, or a family member is getting divorced, it’s normal to feel at a loss for words. Nothing feels exactly right. Science backs this up: Nothing is exactly right.
— Read on curiosity.com/topics/theres-no-perfect-thing-to-say-when-someones-in-a-crisis-curiosity/
In my councling , becoming aware of this horrific violation
to a woman , rehabbing , who had no ability to walk , was
raped by a nursing home worker.
My personal experiences have not favored the concept , and
acutely so, when Dad was subjected to a facility due to the
adverse influence of male energy , that spoke of his very
life depending on it.. The fact was clear upon visiting , and
finding his roommate was a man who had a car accident in
his 1st year of college , over 20 years ..his Mom was there
caring, which makes all the difference .
It becomes more problematic given the chosen profession of
Dad’s choice of ” keepers” , which I’m not going to unveil at
this time.
A gal I knew from my early teens passed just before Dad, and
as I connected and heard how her sisters and parents cared
for her , in a nursing home , later physically caring for her body
in preparation for a funeral, the love and honor was a lovely
reminder of humane hearts. A very dear family , that are
so inclusive and certainly impressed and impacted my life
at a very vulnerable time has risen above losses , cherishing
and celebrating each other with honor.
The character of the individual who would care for our ill
and informed , should be supported by impeccable systems
that have no tolerance , who prevent the individual who
would harm a helpless patient .
Hiding out behind religious doctrine , is a whole other abuse.
The nurse who raped and impregnated a woman at the Hacienda HealthCare facility in Arizona has been identified as Christian rapper Nathan Sutherland.
— Read on www.patheos.com/blogs/progressivesecularhumanist/2019/01/christian-rapper-nathan-sutherland-arrested-for-raping-incapacitated-woman/
” There is so many empowering healing modalities
it’s a matter of research and personal choice.
And that make it so much easier to hold hope
for.
The denial is over however , as is the ” targeted ”
parent/partner .
“there may be a ‘sensitive period’ in which stress is more likely to affect the development of the hippocampus.”
— Read on www.futurity.org/trauma-babies-teens-depression-1959832/
Consequences
The essence of domestic violence is that abusers use a variety of tactics to scare and coerce their partners to do what the abuser wants. This results in the mother and children living in fear. There are ten adverse childhood experiences. In the context of a contested custody case, the child usually starts with a score of one for the parents separating, one for domestic violence and one for emotional abuse of the child. Fathers who abuse the mother are 40-60% more likely to also abuse the children physically and sexually. If both, that would increase the score to 5. If one or both parents have a substance abuse problem or mental illness those are two more possible points. Physical or emotional neglect are two more possibilities. Significantly all of the other ACEs are more likely when a father abuses a mother. An ACE score of 6 results in an average reduction in life expectancy of 20 years.
— Read on nomas.org/family-courts-protect-children-ace-vs-pas/
Accepted , in our suicidal culture as normal.
The side effects are equal to a sexually abused
child..those side effects don’t just go away.
Ryan Thomas, Child of Parental Alienation Helping Parents Reconnect
— Read on ryanthomasspeaks.com/blog-2/2-types-of-alienated-children-which-is-yours/
I had a huge breakthrough in the Shame gig , so
worthy that I know I personally don’t have to go
there , nor allow anyone or anything to take me
to that place ..
I totally get it, and all it’s fall out , and have empathy
for anyone holding shame .
Allowing myself to be vulnerable , is part of my 51 out of
55 score on emotional intelligence .. My words , my actions
are catching up with my score 🙏🏼
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