Much more to add , ASAP .
There is a big emphasis in our society on men being strong and tough. They should be able to handle anything and shouldn’t struggle with emotions and feelings.
— Read on psychcentral.com/lib/depression-in-men-it-looks-different-than-you-might-think/
I suspect there is much more to the story …
The children, a boy and a girl, witnessed the shooting but neither were injured, officers say.
— Read on www.wgal.com/article/1-man-dead-another-behind-bars-after-shooting-during-child-custody-exchange-in-hamilton/25700456
This too is changing , as awareness becomes reality ,
compassionate folks who stand beside children in
courts , insuring no trauma, or advantage is targeted
against a child in continuation of a parent who
is indisposed , disadvantaged , out monied , ie
discriminated against in every way . A very grievous,
vulgar and unnecessary , socially accepted human
rights violation.. And it’s motion of transformation
is upon us as leaders domestically abuse us , shadow
is exposed and thankfully a million stars align
to open a healing as never imagined ..Heaven
on Hearth begins with Peace in Ones ♥️
Family courts often lean toward joint custody, a preference that some abusers use to continue harassing former partners.
— Read on truthout.org/articles/for-domestic-violence-survivors-family-court-becomes-site-of-continued-abuse/
Discovery of this adaptation with the father of my child , was
further enhanced by an attitude of ownership . If I were graded t
it would have been incomplete in every way . His nurture was
seldom and utilized to remedy a situation , he was not able
to navigate emotionally. In our 1st year , I was subjected to
devastating abuses that I had to review in triggered C- PTSD
which was not known to me at the time…it was a hell
come to earth.
In denial of anything but surface , friendship that often insulted
even that , and the unexpected rages never afforded me security.
That became personified in his partner , and the committee of
3 enjoyed the insults that occurred when I was allowed to
participate in son’s life experiences .. I was not allowed knowledge
of much including a near death crisis as our youngest attended
college out of state .. Of course he feels I failed as a Mom
an addict via psychiatry by choice to get out of being his mom.
Lacking emotion , adhering to the male model of affluence,
belonging to the right clubs , knowing the right person to call
a ” brother” who will aide and never tell. His nickname in
his home ” brother” , cannot connect emotionally , a feminine
reaction abused out of him? Or modeled by a society that has
allowed his life lessons to be ” evaporated ” if disagreeable to
uphold his perception of importance in his world.
I represent his failures , his secrets , his failings , and his imbalance
of masculine and feminine energy . Disrespect , and Abuse is
from inside out , and very repressive and depressive .. he
withheld to the point of reducing himself to a void , and my
surrogacy as he embraced breakneck change and success in
his career , our home became ever more a place to drop in,
participate as much as he could , much in the social aspect
giving the look of normal family …Doors were never shut against
him , he busted them through ..he had ever increasing
meetings or out of towns , speaking his truths , ie confessing
by 3rd person stories , always another guy , which began 3
months into our marriage . His employees also were his cover
for sexual pursuits that I painfully discovered never conveyed
love, intimacy or attachment .
As a very sick, physically ill , misdiagnosed mental patient
his detachment was utterly soul snatching , as I painfully
watched the erosion of our ” family” knowing his search
for love would never end .. Draining those who failed him
he has chosen to continue his efforts to hold me responsible
for my abuse and the loss of all the connectedness with our
sons, his brother/friends , ever ” his ” …
Trump talks about his views on fatherhood in a series of past interviews
— Read on fortune.com/2016/04/24/trump-act-like-wife/
The standards and practices accepted as normal
have surfaced to expose the reality of apathetic ,
often abusive treatment in times of extreme trauma.
As harsh as we know this situation is for the feminine ,
I know men have to be heard , and healed of sexual
force that few seek help for.
What remains within both? Rage …Children carry this
in ways that are not acknowledged ..
One goal I have is to see a safe healing place for our
women and children , fleeing abuse.. Privatized
due to the inept abuse of current systems , our local
women healers getting to the heart of the matter , thus
returning a family within that woman , supported
uplifted , loved thru a shameful power trip , avoiding
more abuses ❤️ Empowered !
Mariska Hargitay documentary on rape kit crisis puts survivors front and center – Women’s Media Center
— Read on www.womensmediacenter.com/news-features/mariska-hargitay-documentary-on-rape-kit-crisis-puts-survivors-front-and-center
My experience in Civil Court and Va Supreme
court has been too often , vulgar , threatening
stating inability to ” force” and berating me
openly , in a vulnerable state , I’m always
triggered in Ex’s space and more so when
he’s speaking lies , or saying ego , ownership
of sons and me ( in our co owned property)
as if I must listen to my ex , only accepted as
“Alleged ” Domestic Abuser, never even looking
at medical charts , that clearly state I was hit
I was neglected , I was medicated for a mental
illness that wax and continues to abuse me.
It has been said that Child Abuse /PAS has the same
deadly effects on a child as sex abuse..
Courts are ill prepared , refusing to 21st century truths
that’s family courts are money and power , discriminating
and #ErasingFamilies , based on false models
like Psychiatry who overlooks much of these dynamics
and targets 1 person, usually targeted as I was for not
participating in fake godless Christian discrimination
of myself and sons .. with me disposed of , sons
eventually were targeted by love that told them
I did not deserve their affection , I was crazy and
I had property that I did not deserve ..
So glad this horrific abuse is being exposed
and transformed , Healing families with truths
and return to love within self healing , surrender
and acceptance of responsibility …our children
whatever age , and we targeted parents deserve
this …❤️🌹❤️🌹❤️🌹
Decades ago, mothers may have been more likely to gain custody, but now judges in family court are going to the other extreme and might not believe abuse.
— Read on www.scarymommy.com/hidden-danger-mothers-children-family-court/
I questioned circumcision with my 1st son,
and deferred to Ped Dr
who was uneducated about the facts of an
unnecessary sexual
mutilation . Leaving deep trauma so quickly
after birth is a
betrayal of sacred trust of infant and mother.
As integrated marriages began , it was the
uncut male of color
who threatened the status quo , and it also
generates income.
Baby did react adversely , screaming when
he urinated .
Without the natural ” snood” where all’s
comfortable , instead
of being exposed to constant stimuli .
Deeply personal, I have no intention of
shaming , but pointing
out my experience of doubt , sticking with
AMA insanity ; upon
learning the facts , I was wasted in shame and
pain for what explained by a trusted Dr
as normal, painless , healthy ..
Psychology Today – Circumcision’s Psychological Damage – Intaction
— Read on intaction.org/circumcisions-psychological-damage/
A very lovey woman, her work is uber researched
and I highly recommend her ..either site
included is historical trauma..
Trauma’s Labyrinth – Laura K. Kerr, PhD
— Read on www.laurakkerr.com/traumas-labyrinth/
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