Tag: consciousness

Professional Therapist: Kim Saeed

I admire those who enter the mental health profession to help others.

And I agree, there is far too much material being posted online about narcissism that’s either completely biased, sabotaging, or utterly false. One thing that really irks me is the overlapping labels folks create to describe a toxic person they’re dealing with (i.e., my covert, self-aware, vulnerable narcissist who has ADHD, is on the autism spectrum, and has schizophrenic tendencies).

I mean, sure, there’s such a thing as comorbidity, but many of these conditions cannot even coexist together.

But, the fact remains that many licensed therapists fail to recognize narcissistic/emotional abuse. Not to mention, the field of mental health is saturated with professionals who are themselves manipulative and cunning. You might be shocked, for example, to learn that your favorite YouTuber or FB coach is just as bad as the person you’re trying to heal from.

I’ve heard many times how someone went to couple’s therapy with the narcissist, only for the narcissist to start an affair with the psychologist.

I’ve heard hundreds upon hundreds of stories from targets of abuse whose lives were wasted or completely destroyed by the erroneous advice of therapists.

So, what’s a person to do?

If your therapist is using the “it takes two” approach, while failing to notice your symptoms of narcissistic abuse syndrome, you should probably find another therapist.

If your therapist is acting just a bit too enamored with the narcissist during couple’s therapy, find another therapist (for yourself, as couple’s therapy is pointless with narcissists).

If your therapist says things like, “There must be something about your personality that brings out their abusive nature”, find another therapist.

Just as with any profession, there are folks who are extremely good, and there are those who are not.

You are not obligated to continue therapy with someone who isn’t helping you.

Traditional therapy didn’t help me. I saw seven different therapists and the farthest any of them got was to tell me to set better boundaries.

But, there ARE good therapists out there who can help you recover from narcissistic abuse. Usually, they are the ones who experienced it themselves.

Do your research, ask questions, and if there isn’t a connection there or you feel invalidated, keep searching.

Kim 🕊️

Take Your Time ; Sherrie Campbell PhD

One of the easiest mistakes to make in our recovery from toxic family ties is to go on a search for love. Because we have never felt loved, we too often learn that we don’t know what we are looking for. Because we have no real foundation for what love is, we mistakenly take new people at their word.

Taking people at their word and believing what they say without the evidence of time to back up that their words and actions match, is dangerous. When finding love, we must use the wisdom of time and proof.

TAKE. YOUR. TIME.

The truth of people, the truth of love, is always shown through time not words.

Spiritual Warfare : Update

Much of what he says I have

heard or equates and makes

sense given current status

and events .

This does boil down to war

of spirit and shadow . It only

takes 11% of the worlds

population to effect change

and this return to love is

New Earth’s core which is

not going to be everyone’s

experience .

Lightening our ” loads ” ,

laying burdens down , know

truths are liberating as the

tribes form and we are the

force of evolution leaping

quantum style and these

horrific cycles never show

up again.

Sacrifices have been tragic in

this leap , as those who have

not awakened struggle and

hold tighter to their imbalance

of mind , body and spirit .

Fear and anger prevail and

not only affect your health

but fail to attract the more

positive experiences . Ease

Peace and Faith guide my

Love and that remains .

This is a big freaking deal

and I’m Thankful for my

personal transformations

of decades and the ancestral

bloodlines benevolent support

and trust !

Blessings & Peace ,

Dona Luna ❤️🙏🌈😘

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No settling

Last night someone said to me out loud, “oh! You scare people because… you’re YOU.”

Ken and I laughed out loud.

Um, yeah. I come across as scary and aggressive to some. Mostly I am straightforward, confident and assertive, but in a world where so many women are accustomed to communicating in passive, placating, manipulative, complaining ways, my assertiveness reads as threatening or aggressive.

And also sometimes I AM just plain old aggressive and threatening.

Yep. I am a full fledged, flesh and blood PERSON.

Which can also be threatening because for women, assertiveness, aggressiveness, ambitiousness, and confidence – in fact all the feelings – are generally frowned upon, tone policed, shamed and not really allowed. Women are supposed to be “happy,” “sweet,” and not be a “bitch.” We’re supposed to somehow suppress who we are and also be the de facto manager of OTHER people’s feelings.

I am so done with pretzeling myself to make other people more comfortable with who I am.

I am so done with judging myself through the eyes of some external lens that makes me more tolerable to others, but less alive and at war with myself.

Truly, I’d rather be unapologetically myself and clean it up as I go along. I’d rather be true to who I am rather than a lie for someone else.

Because the thing is, assertive behavior is about respecting and standing up for oneself. And that’s a necessity in a world that is constantly communicating how we as women need to be less ourselves.

Nah. I won’t be less myself for anyone. I will not ignore inconvenient truths for some temporary, bs “happiness,” comfort, or relationship. Because the truth is, the moment I betray myself there is no longer any hope for happiness, comfort or relationship with someone else.

So yeah. I AM me. And being fully oneself can come across as aggressive and scary to people.

Oh well. Get over it bitches. We’re all swimming in waters that are constantly trying to shape us.

Best to start the revolution. I’ll dare to be fully me. Maybe it’ll inspire others to do the same for themselves.

Body

I wonder if you know,

the work your body has done today.

And every day.

How much disease it has fought off.

How many times it could have failed but battled on,

how many ways it could have broken but did not.

I wonder if you know,

the work your body has done today.

And every day.

And each day it has done this amazing job,

without your help,

without your approval,

your acceptance,

your kindness.

Each day it has soldiered on,

regardless of the constant stream of negativity,

pulsing its way from your brain to your cells.

Not good enough.

Not attractive enough.

Not the right shape.

Perhaps it’s time to see your body for what is truly is,

An amazing and mind-blowingly competent machine.

To get your soul to where it needs to be in this life.

To let you live.

I wonder if you know,

how much better you would be as a team.

I wonder.

Donna Ashworth

From ‘I wish I Knew’: https://amzn.to/3JVMJlZ

Art by The Ronald West Gallery

#bodypositive #art #poetry #bodyimage #selflove #selfcare #wordsofwisdom

Brain Education: Concussion

J have studied the brain and

adversities of brain health

including trauma and some

on concussions .

I learned that seldom is the

neck and head as secured

In emergency situation and

a very narrow window exist

to authenticity treat the brain

as it should be to heal.

A former friend had black

outs that were weeks long

which I’m sure were highly

pronounced as a highly

sensitive person .

In council he shared extreme

trauma, as an adopted child.

He did reunite with his Mom

His relationship had become

highly affected by everything

and ended as both left my

area .

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Liz Cheney

From where I’m at in life ,Liz

Cheney is clearing ancestral

bloodlines ; especial the

shadow of her father Dick

Cheney. Doubtful that she’s

aware of her clearing , as I

honor her valor as a truther .

This is what I surmise as Liz

examples the warning if not

the example that the feminine

of this world have a place at

the table that is devoid of

distortions, inequality and

alliance or adoration for

patriarchal guidance and

control .

Both parties are in need of

major transformation but

one party exceeds at

implosion.

I unconsciously married a

Republican who has taught

me so much about the shadow

side and I study as well as

experience the division that

was encouraged to bring about

civil war and give rise to

martial law ; more control .

Law has failed many from

bottom to top and that’s

worthy of change .

Blessings on this glorious

Sunday 🙏😘✌️❤️

news.yahoo.com/liz-cheney-says-jan-6-151350411.html

Shove Ins ( body snatchers )

I was evaluated by a woman in 07 by phone appointment , as being a 1st Wave Indigo . She explained that while I was in the hospital , after birthing our 3rd son , ” Jessica” was brought to my hospital after a suicidal act . She shoved her soul which was in a state of addiction with me .

She had lost her precious daughter and felt she could not go on .

I became more aware with our 3rd son how distorted our world really was . I became a shell of myself , realizing I was not valued as a partner , as a wife and there was little I could do but hang in and try hard for normalcy for our sons . It wasn’t ; I simply could not ignore the facts … it only got worse .

I conquered Jessica’s implants and her addictions which were by force by a doctor , compliant by a husband and accepted by every hint of support I had .

Jessica soul retrieval allowed her spiritual reunification with her precious daughters spirit and they walked in fields of gold for eternity.

I am better informed , trust my ancestors , angels and spirit guides of benevolent intent and accept my blessings for my the trust and faith and guidance that has allowed healing and clearing of ancient bloodlines .

As such it is a brand new world , co creating with honor and respect for all that got me here as New Earth births ; I am aware of the totality of losses and I grieve .

All is well with my soul

#Acceptance

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