The legal system pits one against the other which brings in more profit .
It’s time to change lots of law that has erased many families !
Tag: relationships
No Waiting Room
NO WAITING ROOM
What if you didn’t wake up tomorrow and your soul is watching down thinking of all the things you didn’t get to do yet because you were too scared, or too shy, or too worried about money. And all the things you told yourself you weren’t good enough for, swam in front of your eyes, fighting for a place in the line, beside the words you didn’t say and the joy you forget to have.
My friend, there is absolutely no room for anything in your day, other than acceptance. You will never have enough money, or time, and you will certainly never have that perfect body the world told you you need to be happy.
And before you say it’s too late to embrace this thing we call life, no it is not. You can do it right where you are. Right this minute. Get outside, breathe, look at the trees, put your bare feet on the grass – hand on your heart to feel that pulse – and that’s it.
You’re living.
Keep that up.
Wait up for the moon sometimes or get up early to see a sunrise, juts because.
Jump in the lake. Run and skip.
The things you need to feel alive are free and all around my friend.
You just have to see them.
Let in opportunity and say yes to the invitations that scare you a little, in a good way.
Say no to some of the things you force yourself to do, knowing they rinse you of your peace.
Life was never supposed to be a waiting room, it was supposed to be a hillside, with paths leading in every direction and mountains as far as the eye can see, hiding adventures and new friends behind them.
Don’t let yourself get to the end of this ride without having stopped to smell those beautiful roses.
That’s the only thing you need to fear in this life.
Everything else is all part of it.
It’s all just a messy, complicated, beautiful and terrifying part of it.
Chin up, throw your arms wide open and let it be so.
Donna Ashworth
From my new book ‘LIFE’: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1785304445/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_EJY80E77RS4JYWTH0SJV
Art by Watercolours by Rachel
#friday #lifequotes #lifeisforliving #art #poetry #inspirational
Let It Go
Yes indeed , we are at that place and finding our ourselves in the right place , right time and right people.
People who use the word love , who see you as you are and welcome you mind , body and spirit . People who value peace and harmony and have no Desiree for trauma or drama . People who are authentic, compassionate , knowledgeable and sharing !
I’m so very happy to have the support if not the love of many that tell me often and show me in ways that are the art of love ❤️
Blessings & Peace
Dona Luna
Look In The Mirror
As I came to 2003/4 it was extremely traumatic .
On my own and very afraid at first I looked in the mirror and said ” you are old and ugly and no one wants you ”
Conditioning. I had accepted the projections .
One morning I woke to look in the mirror and started laughing at the Oreo chocolate ring around my mouth from eating in bed just as I fell asleep !!!
At that point I began to ” mother myself ” and would ask myself in the mirror what can I do to make you feel better ?
You (me) look tired, did you sleep well? How can I make it better ?
It began a wave of parenting experiences of self that include not allowing others to participate in projecting or gaslighting !
Blessings & Peace ✌️
Dona Luna 🧚🏻♂️🐸🦋
Look in the mirror
And say to yourself,
“Your eyes smile
Like the nightingale.”
Look in the mirror
Tenderly
At who you are
And what you are,
At how you are
And how
You live
And make
Each day.
You are the smile
Of leaves in autumn
The tropical pandanus
In summer sun
You are the wind
The soft rain
Look in the mirror
Right here
Right now
And say to you
The woman before you –
“Your eyes smile
Like the nightingale.”
Camilla Slater 2022
Image Credit: Anna Paula Hoppe.
Loved & Loved : She is Home 🏠
“When you look deep within
Beyond the surface pale
And the lined eyes,
Through the skein
Of fine lines that
Travel like tributaries
To your soul,
You might find
The wayward girl
you once knew…
The young girl lost
To the antics of living
Who bore you no ill will
But who couldn’t yet grasp
The magnitude of
Incremental action
Upon action
Upon action
Which creates the
Ultimate direction of
A troubled life.
You might find her,
Beneath the greeting
And the greying hair,
Beyond the freckled
Hands
And you might beckon
Her with forgiving heart
And loving arms
To welcome her into
The quiet, gorgeous room
With flowers and pink blossoms
With perfume and pretty things
With standing vases of
Bright poppies
And tulips –
Yes tulips –
And you will let her know
That finally, with you…
She is lived and loved
And she is home.”
Camilla Slater 2022.
(Love to all women with a spark in their eyes and a wayward past.🌷)
Copyright Camilla Slater 2022. All rights reserved.
Image Credit: Painting by Louis Treserras, 1958.
Silence
As a target of weaponized silence I am aware when anyone uses this against me .
As such I’m aware of the distortion within the heart mind and soul of such an individual whose actions do not keep pace with their words . Or these words are omitted thus a feeling of correctness for not having truth within and challenged resort to covert acts .
Crying
The advice from Dr Spock was to let baby cry up to 15 minutes . I tried this not knowing these horrific results .
There have been many advisors promoting detached parenting which is NOT what babies or children need not deserve .
Single Married Mama who had to be in the glow with a partner who had no idea or interest in parenting . Comfortable with brotherhood or uncle status that did not teach our sons well .
I regret not stopping everything to hold my baby , co sleep and had better intuitive skills that would have not allowed our sons to be alone with certain energies who masked many secrets
Crying it out: the foundation for NPD and BPD
(Borderline Personality Disorder
and Narcissistic Personality Disorder)
“One of the ways children have to adjust to a new order is called ‘letting them cry themselves out’.
The Mother puts the child into the crib at night to sleep. It is bedtime. But the sense of aloneness and the loss of contact with the mothers body terrifies the child, who begins to scream and cry.
No animal mother would fail to respond to a baby’s cry. Some human mothers believe, however that to respond would be wrong.
To give in to a child’s crying will spoil the child.
Besides, they have been told, crying is good for a child…
The first time this happens the child might cry for hours before falling asleep.
The mother might think the child has learned a lesson, but, the child doesn’t have the energy for a repeat performance…
After several experiences of this kind, the child learns to give up the struggle for contact with the mother. In effect, the child has cut off the longing for his contact and so no longer feels the pain of frustration.
A new reality in which the desire for intimacy and closeness is not expressed, has been accepted.
The foundations for narcissism and the borderline personality have been laid.”
Alexander Lowen,
Narcissism, Denial of True Self
Narcissist & Marriage
Totally agree; I was no more than a “place holder “.
His reasons for marriage were not normal and masked until it was undeniable after 1 year but we had a child 🧒 and I had no resources for safety or money which gave him power for 21 years and 2 more children that were his property and leveraged to continue the abuse and hold him on high for his $$& connections .
Triangulation was constant , stability was zip ,acting as the all knowing, all seeing perfectionist to whom I’d never ever be enough for, much less equal .
And he set this standard, modeled this malignant character to our 3 sons ,who fear and deny the facts/truths.
Narks end up worse off in next relationship
To Be A Mom
Many are single married Mothers , with a drop in Dad who friends their child and creates the Mom who must delegate thus coming off as doctoral .
To be a Mom.
A Mom will break her own heart in pieces and glue those pieces into your heart that is broken.
She will tie your hair (im)patiently and run back to fetch your favourite toy, even if it makes her late.
She will pull the feathers from her wings and lovingly add them to yours just to make sure that you can fly higher.
She will use her last bit of energy at the end of a long day to wipe the tears from your sad face.
A Mom is thè one person that will always see the beauty within you.
She is thè one person that will believe you deserve only the best and bend backwards to ensure that you get it.
To be a Mom is to understand that at times, she will have to stand alone against the world.
I only realize now why Cinderella’s stepmom was so nasty and Mama Bear’s porridge was always cold.
I only realize now why Snowhite was alone in the woods and why Little Red Riding Hood’s granny so grey, old and sick.
Because the days of Motherhood were just too long and the years much too short.
And many, yes MANY days, a Mom’s plate of food is just too cold too often.
Luckily there are silver linings, especially around much darker clouds,
on days you need to see that silver lining the most.
The reward of being a Mom can be found in listening to the most precious of precious laughter of your child, sounding like water gently gurgling over smooth river stones.
It is in the privilege of hearing a little human that you helped bring into this world, say: “Mama, I’s loves you..” and you know it comes from their tiny heart.
I believe that you only grasp the true value of a Mom, the day you become a Mom yourself.
It is only then that you realize the power in a Mom’s prayers.
At times the title Mom also brings the deepest of hurt and pain.
But let’s be honest – to have a Mom and to be a Mom, is the highest privilege anyone can be blessed with.
🖋️~ Unknown, shared via Welcome Home pg.
*** Written by a mom for moms, but reading it, I know so many millions of Moms have an amazing, supportive Dad beside them. I honour you both. 💜
Art Credit : Artist unknown, published by Heidi @Parenting to Impress.
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