The advice from Dr Spock was to let baby cry up to 15 minutes . I tried this not knowing these horrific results .
There have been many advisors promoting detached parenting which is NOT what babies or children need not deserve .
Single Married Mama who had to be in the glow with a partner who had no idea or interest in parenting . Comfortable with brotherhood or uncle status that did not teach our sons well .
I regret not stopping everything to hold my baby , co sleep and had better intuitive skills that would have not allowed our sons to be alone with certain energies who masked many secrets
Crying it out: the foundation for NPD and BPD
(Borderline Personality Disorder
and Narcissistic Personality Disorder)
“One of the ways children have to adjust to a new order is called ‘letting them cry themselves out’.
The Mother puts the child into the crib at night to sleep. It is bedtime. But the sense of aloneness and the loss of contact with the mothers body terrifies the child, who begins to scream and cry.
No animal mother would fail to respond to a baby’s cry. Some human mothers believe, however that to respond would be wrong.
To give in to a child’s crying will spoil the child.
Besides, they have been told, crying is good for a child…
The first time this happens the child might cry for hours before falling asleep.
The mother might think the child has learned a lesson, but, the child doesn’t have the energy for a repeat performance…
After several experiences of this kind, the child learns to give up the struggle for contact with the mother. In effect, the child has cut off the longing for his contact and so no longer feels the pain of frustration.
A new reality in which the desire for intimacy and closeness is not expressed, has been accepted.
The foundations for narcissism and the borderline personality have been laid.”
Narcissism, Denial of True Self