Tag: parents

From another “voluntary “ mental patient

When I was an involuntary patient, my mother was made to be my substitute decision maker (SDM) since I would not willingly submit to treatment of a non existent disease. I was heavily drugged and could not advocate for myself and was barely able to communicate with her during this time. While on the drugs, I had experiences of modified perceptions and had trouble to focus on the basic task of speaking to others, or fighting for my own rights. During this time my mother would be brought to an interview with a psychiatrist, with or without me present, and brain washed into the benefits on psych drugs, which she attempted to advocate should be administered in lower doses or removed from my drugging routine due to her witnessing the effects on me. I will never accept that she fully fought for my rights, because although she states she couldnt remove me from the ward (which I equate to a prison) due to a Form, she didnt advocate nearly enough to have me removed, and her consulting on my dosages translated to me as active participation in my drug induced abuse. But here are some of the lies i overheard the “doctor” say to try to convince my mother forced drugging (being injected against my wishes) was a beneficial act -as opposed to how I see it: an outright violation of my health and freedoms

  1. “Psychosis causes brain cells to pop, her brain is damaging itself when she goes into psychosis.”

My perpsective: I dont have psychosis, I have a justified outbursts due to anger of not being heard or understood in a given circumstance. I am fully reasonable and able to be reasoned with in this time. The psychiatrist doesnt know a thing about me to deduce that I do in fact have psychotic episodes, since I barely spoke to him, and he does not know anything about me. Additionally I’m sure the more severe damage is caused by psych drugs not by any potentially psychotic episode that someone may or may not experience.

  1. She has a brain that has biochemical imbalances, we need to regulate it.

It’s a well proven MYTH that chemical imbalances correlate with mental illness or that they exist. No one in the ward measured any form of imbalances, so how can they even scientifically prove I have imbalances if they never ran any tests.

  1. She will relapse if she goes off the drugs.

Relapse into what- being my normal, reasonable self?

  1. She will be a lifelong pateint and suffer from bipolar her entire life.

I dont identify as bipolar, and I will fight to never be in a ward again. Mental illness is a myth, a matter of perspective. Once you get to know people, the illusion that they are disordered or ill mentally fades away.

Childress on Child Abuse

In the absence of child abuse, parents have the right to parent according to their cultural values, their personal values, and their religious values.

In the absence of child abuse, each parent should have as much time and involvement with their child as possible.

In the absence of child abuse, to restrict either parent’s time and involvement with their child would damage the child’s attachment bond to that parent, thereby harming the child and harming the parent.

Is there child abuse? Let’s get a proper risk assessment for possible child abuse.

Either,

1) child abuse by the targeted parent accounting for the child’s attachment pathology toward that parent,

Or.

2) child psychological abuse by the allied parent, i.e., a shared persecutory delusion created by the collapse of a narcissistic-borderline personality parent surrounding divorce.

One way or the other, we’re looking at a likely child abuse diagnosis. We need a proper risk assessment for possible child abuse.

From Walters & Friedlander: “In some RRD families [resist-refuse dynamic], a parent’s underlying encapsulated delusion about the other parent is at the root of the intractability (cf. Johnston & Campbell, 1988, p. 53ff; Childress, 2013). An encapsulated delusion is a fixed, circumscribed belief that persists over time and is not altered by evidence of the inaccuracy of the belief.” (Walters & Friedlander, 2016, p. 426)

From Walters & Friedlander: “When alienation is the predominant factor in the RRD [resist-refuse dynamic}, the theme of the favored parent’s fixed delusion often is that the rejected parent is sexually, physically, and/or emotionally abusing the child. The child may come to share the parent’s encapsulated delusion and to regard the beliefs as his/her own (cf. Childress, 2013).” (Walters & Friedlander, 2016, p. 426)

Walters, M. G., & Friedlander, S. (2016). When a child rejects a parent: Working with the intractable resist/refuse dynamic. Family Court Review, 54(3), 424–445.

What is the diagnosis? Is there a shared persecutory delusion? We need an answer to that question.

If the mental health person cannot answer that question – is there a shared persecutory delusion? – then they are pointless to the situation because we need an answer to that question.

IT… IS… SIMPLE. Is there a shared persecutory delusion? Yes? No?

How do they know if they don’t even look to see? Do the child’s symptoms meet diagnostic criteria for a persecutory delusion? How about we use Item 11 on the Brief Psychiatric Rating Scale for Unusual Thought Content (delusions), “one of the oldest, most widely used scales to measure psychotic symptoms,” to rate the delusional quality of the belief.

Or you can write the answer on a napkin. Tell us by smoke signals for all I care… we just need an answer, is there a shared persecutory delusion – a fixed and false belief in supposed “victimization”?

The treatment for cancer is different than the treatment for diabetes. Diagnosis guides treatment. If we treat cancer with insulin then the patient dies from the misdiagnosed cancer.

What is the diagnosis?

“I don’t diagnose, I don’t like to pathologize” Then you’re a pretty worthless person to the situation because we need a diagnosis.

Is there child abuse? V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse? Why are we not routinely getting an answer to that question for court-involved family conflict?

They deserve to lose their license. Look at all they’re putting you through because they won’t diagnose Child Psychological Abuse (V995.51) when it’s warranted. They have duty to protect obligations, and they are not protecting your child.

Knowledge is power. Planning is power. The pathogen is now-reactive. Plan ahead, move step-by-step on a linear path to the goal. You want a written treatment plan to fix things please.

Google mental health treatment plans and read the first two returns – one of those please.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

Hug the Mother

Hold the mother, not the baby.⁣

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Because the baby’s being taken care of—⁣

fed, snuggled, and given all the love in the world—⁣

by not only the mother,⁣

but her partner, grandparents, siblings, cousins, and friends.⁣

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But the mother,⁣

may have gaps in her mind from lack of sleep,⁣

may be mechanical in her motions as she’s healing,⁣

may feel more like a mess than a mother,⁣

may be sitting in bed, crying, feeling overwhelmed in her body and life,⁣

may be full of mom guilt because in her mind, “she’s not good enough,”⁣

and she’s bleeding, wincing in pain, swollen and emotional.⁣

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And the mother’s that baby’s whole world and needs to be seen, so she doesn’t disappear into that postpartum fog.⁣

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So, hold the mother, not the baby.⁣

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A mother agrees that her baby matters more.⁣

But she’s hurting, while she’s the person behind the baby,⁣

in the background, making it all happen:⁣

feeding her baby at all hours,⁣

snuggling her baby close to comfort newborn cries,⁣

and being that baby’s everything.⁣

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So, it’s the mother who needs your love.⁣

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And a mother will remember who held her up.⁣

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So instead of “I’m coming to see the baby,”⁣

try saying, “I’m coming to see you 𝘢𝘯𝘥 meet the baby, too.”⁣

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Because the mother needs to be held more.⁣

📸: This Mama Doodles

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Trauma via being Witness to Events

PTSD can occur not just from directly experiencing a severe traumatic event but also witnessing it happen to others, including close friends, family and loved ones as well as being chronically exposed to the details of the trauma of others in work-related settings.

#narcissisticabuse #toxicrelationships #toxicpeople #emotionalabuse #shahidaarabi

Internet

I spent an hour in the bank with my dad,

as he had to transfer some money. I couldn’t resist

myself and asked…

”Dad, why don’t we activate your internet banking?”

”Why would I do that?” He asked…

”Well, then you wont have to spend an hour here for

things like making a transfer.

You can even do your shopping online. Everything will

be so easy!”

I was so excited about initiating him into the world of

Net banking.

He asked ”If I do that, I wont have to step out of the

house?”

”Yes, yes”! I said. I told him how even groceries can

be delivered at your door now and how amazon

delivers everything!

His answer left me tongue-tied.

He said ”Since I entered this bank today, I have met

four of my friends, I have chatted awhile with the staff

who know me very well by now.

You know, I am alone…this is the company that I need.

I like to get ready and come to the bank. I have

enough time, it is the physical touch that I crave.

Two years back, I got sick. The store owner from whom

I buy fruits, came to see me and sat by my bedside

and cried.

When your Mom fell down a few days back while on

her morning walk, our local grocer saw her and

immediately got his car to rush her home as he knows

where I live.

Would I have that ‘human’ touch if everything became

online?

Why would I want everything delivered to me and force

me to interact with just my computer?

I like to know the person that I’m dealing with and not

just the ‘seller’. It creates bonds of Relationships.

Does Amazon deliver all this as well?”’

Technology isn’t life..

Spend time with people .. Not with devices.

Writer: Unknown

May be a cartoon of one or more people

Slavery via Marriage can actualize

This is an actual extract from a sex education school textbook for

girls, printed in the early 60’s in the UK. So goodnight don’t have nightmares 😂

When retiring to the bedroom, prepare yourself for bed as promptly as

possible. Whilst feminine hygiene is of the utmost importance, your

tired husband does not want to queue for the bathroom, as he would have to do for his train. But remember to look your best when going to bed. Try to achieve a look that is welcoming without being obvious. If you need to apply face-cream or hair-rollers wait until he is asleep as this can be shocking to a man last thing at night.

When it comes to the possibility of intimate relations with your

husband it is important to remember your marriage vows and in particular your commitment to obey him. If he feels that he needs to sleep immediately then so be it. In all things be led by your husband’s wishes; do not pressure him in any way to stimulate intimacy. Should your husband suggest congress then agree humbly all the while being mindful that a man’s satisfaction is more important than a woman’s. When he reaches his moment of fulfilment a small moan from yourself is encouraging to him and quite sufficient to indicate any enjoyment that you may have had.

Should your husband suggest any of the more unusual practices be

obedient and uncomplaining but register any reluctance by remaining silent. It is likely that your husband will then fall promptly asleep so adjust your clothing, freshen up and apply your night-time face and hair care products. You may then set the alarm so that you can arise shortly before him in the morning. This will enable you to have his morning cup of tea ready when he awakes.

Delusional Distorted Disorder ~ Childress

I have two questions for you:

Q1: What happens when you’re a sane person surrounded by people in a shared delusional disorder?

Q2: Am I talking about the family courts or our current political surround?

It’s called parallel process. It’s because they are both from the same pathology, the collapse of narcissistic personality pathology into persecutory delusions (Millon, 2011)

A show of hands, is my first question about the family courts or about our political surround? One… two… keep your hands up… three… Okay, wait, maybe this will be easier. All of you who think Q1 is about you in the family courts, go stand in that corner, and all of you who think it’s about our political surround, go stand over there, that’ll make it easier.

It’s called parallel process – if you have the eyes to see.

Forensic psychology and Gardner’s PAS were created by the pathology – they are symptom features of the pathology.

Take a deep breath, we’re going the next level in. There is a reason I refer to it as a pathogen. It operates like a virus of the mind. It’s in our attachment networks, from unresolved childhood trauma. The attachment system is a motivational system.

This pathogen (damaged information structures) has access to our motivational networks. It has motivational control of us.

You’re unique here. You have your own “special” psychologists just for you… who specifically do NOT diagnose or treat pathology. Curious.

You’re given a diagnosis to achieve by one man, a Richard Gardner back in 1985 – PAS – that’s not really an actual diagnosis, which has no treatment, and which has to be proven to a judge at trial – the hardest thing possible to do. Curious.

It’s a shared delusional disorder. Why don’t you simply diagnose the pathology with real diagnoses? Curious.

We are returning to the established scientific and professional knowledge of the discipline. We are going to accurately diagnose the pathology in the family courts, and we are going to fix the pathology in the family with effective treatment.

This is child abuse. If you believe the shared delusion, you become part of the shared delusion, you are part of the pathology. When that pathology is child abuse, you are part of the child abuse, you are the child abuser.

This was an attempted coup, the overthrow of American democracy. If you believe the shared delusion, you become part of the shared delusion, you become part of the overthrow of American democracy, you become a traitor to America.

Q1: What happens when your a sane person surrounded by people in a shared delusional disorder?

Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

ABA – Craig Childress

Amazing.

Do you know how amazing this ABA data is? No. That’s because you’re heathen savages – savages I say.

This is absolutely amazing in multiple ways. When the Wheel turns on this pathology in the family courts and the world reorients into reality… professional people are going to be amazed by two things about this data, first Dorcy, then Dr. Childress.

It will be an unfolding amazement. I’m actually more amazing than Dorcy, but it unfolds through layers. Dorcy shifts context to shift brain states. I’m inside your brain changing your brain networks directly, tweaking things here, fiddling with that regulatory thing over there.

I know your brain. I’m in your brain. As long as I’m here, I might as well do some helpful stuff to tidy-up the untidy.

Dorcy Pruter is Amazing

First… Amazing number one is Dorcy’s High Road workshop (B phase), she recovered a child from three years of documented child psychological abuse, documented by three separate psychologists across the three year span… in two days.

That’s it, in two days she completely recovered the 15-year-old child from three years of documented child psychological abuse.

Two days is all it took. That is drop-dead amazing, there is NO psychotherapy for anything that fixes anything in two days, are you kidding me? That is amazing – stunningly amazing.

In psychotherapy we talk in weeks or months, not days, and certainly not days to a full and complete recovery – of anything.

It’s because what she does is not psychotherapy. Dorcy uses a different approach, the High Road workshop uses a different change-agent approach to recovery.

It’s simple, it’s elegant, it’s way-way effective – look at that rapid-rise in the B phase over just two days, from 1s and 2s (awful) right before the workshop, to 5s and 6s (wonderful) by the end of two days… two days – of her typical 4-day workshop.

Wrap your head around that for added amazement. Dorcy is so exceptionally talented at recovering children and families that she could adapt her typical 4-day workshop to get a recovery of normal-range bonding and functioning in two days when she needs to… a recovery that remained stable for a full week after the workshop with no additional support while I was away in the Netherlands and before I could start my Second A phase follow-up therapy.

Dr. Childress is Amazing

That’s the second amazing thing… me. My data is a sleeper amazing thing but boy is it amazing. It’s in those 12 circled numbers at different points on the wiggly-wiggly lines.

Blue is the attachment system. Gold is emotional regulation. Silver is mood and arousal: Affection (Aff), Cooperation (Co), and Social Involvement (SI). The Parent Child Relationship Rating Scale (Childress, 2015) is an amazing outcome measure (three amazing things).

Look how Blue and Gold were out-of-synch at the start, then look how in-synch they are after my first therapy session at (5). I entrained the emotional regulation networks to the attachment system in my first session – that is amazing – and the data shows it – that is amazing data.

I’m in the child’s brain working the child’s neurological networks. I have something to say about each of those 12 circled numbers. I know exactly what I’m doing, and I can explain it in detail.

Did I want the blue and gold lines to synchronize from my intervention in the first session? Yes, I wanted to entrain the emotional regulation networks with the attachment networks, with attachment guiding emotional regulation.

The only thing I didn’t know at the time was how exquisitely sensitive the Parent-Child Relationship Rating Scale is to the functioning of the various brain systems that it would show my work. I crafted an incredibly wonderful outcome measure in the PC-RRS.

My work ripples across days in the networks of the person’s brain – and weeks, sometimes months. Typically not years, not in just one session. To do things that would ripple for years would take at least three sessions, and the context would need to be right.

The key mid-points in the data set are (6) and (7), these points are two and three days respectively after my session at data point (5). First, right before the three-system integration, there’s that beautiful V-drop of all three systems into a consolidation point at (6), then a bounce-back into an absolutely perfectly amazing three-system integration point at (7).

That’s about as good as it gets. There’s your standard, therapists of the future – match that V-drop and three system integration in the attachment system, emotional regulation networks, and mood & arousal networks.

Then, after the three-system integration, there is a perfect synchronous entrainment of the emotional regulation networks to the attachment networks, with attachment over (guiding) emotional regulation… all before the second session. How did I do that?

These are daily ratings from the targeted-mom. Targeted parents have zero reason to under-report symptoms. If there’s a problem, they want to fix it so they’ll say there’s a problem.

She was rating 3-4-5s normal-range, even into 6s and 7s wonderful-range sometimes. The 15-year old young man only dropped to 2 twice, once at data point (3) and once at (11). Look what happened after the two data-points because the two 2-ratings are different from one another.

The first 2-drop at (3) was before I began my work at (5). The second 2-drop at (11) was because of a thing I gave him to think about in our second therapy session at (10).

That first 2-drop at (3), and the subsequent recovery and stabilization, is entirely on Dorcy’s High Road workshop – I hadn’t started my therapy work until (5). They had a problem and recovered even before I started my work. Dorcy got a full, complete, and stable recovery of the parent-child attachment bond… in just two days.

I saw that the emotional regulation networks (gold) were not entrained on the attachment networks (blue) so I did something in my first treatment session to fix that.

That’s what occurred at the three-system integration point at (7) – which had been preceded by a nice consolidation V at (6). Those two, the V-drop at (6) and the bounce-back at (7), were the entrainment of emotional regulation networks on the attachment networks.

I did something in session one that rippled in the child’s brain networks for days – changing things – integrating things, until it all came together at (7), and the emotional regulation networks became perfectly entrained on the attachment networks, with attachment higher (guiding emotional responding).

That’s a perfect entrainment of emotional regulation and attachment after (7). The only reason it separated at (11) is because I did something in my next therapy session at (10) – i gave him something to consider, not overtly, just in his networks.

He figured it out, which is the way-big bounce-back that followed.

Replicate the Single-Case Research

I can tell you what is happening in the child’s brain at all 12 circled numbers. You’re just not curious yet. I’ll wait.

You don’t even appreciate the implications of the dramatic B phase recovery achieved by the High Road workshop. Stunningly amazing – yet entirely ignored by all the mental health people out there.

That’s pretty amazing too. I’ll be talking about the lack of motivation once we get this pathology fixed. It’s a motivational pathology, and it has a social-distribution feature.

A single-case ABA is research-based proof that the intervention is effective. The only methodological problem with the single-case design is it’s only one child. Will it work with another child or is it something unique about this particular child?

So do it again – replicate the research. On any High Road workshop, continue to collect the Parent-Child Relationship Rating Scale (Childress, 2015) to complete the ABA design.

Dorcy collects her High Road data on every workshop. Just collect the follow-up data to see what happens after the workshop ends. Does the child regress back to 1s and 2s once the workshop ends? Or is the recovery she achieves to a normal-range relationship and normal-range functioning (3-4-5) stably maintained following the High Road workshop?

Collect the data and find out – each time. That’s the advantage of a single-case research design… it has clinical application. A single-case ABAB research design applied to clinical practice is considered the highest caliber of clinical care.

It combines an empirical research study with clinical care to prove – prove – that the treatment intervention is effective in resolving the problem each time – with that specific case. That is the highest quality of clinical care, to document with data the treatment’s success.

Amazing Data – Amazing Truth

The High Road single-case ABA is amazing data. I’ve worked major NIMH research, I was in charge of all-things data at Keith Neuchterlein’s NIMH research at UCLA. I’ve worked with Jim Swanson’s MTA team at UCI. I know research, I know data.

The High Road single-case ABA clinical research is amazing. It will unfold in its amazing in layers of comprehension.

Everyone fights about everything over here. Currently Dr. Childress is alone. The pathogen wants to keep Dr. Childress and AB-PA hidden so no one knows. That won’t last. The fighting surrounding me will subside as the pathogen’s lies fall away and the truth remains.

An amazing truth. First… there’s the amazing truth of Dorcy Pruter and the High Road workshop. Then there’s the amazing truth of 12 circled numbers in the therapy of Dr. Childress.

Then there’s the amazing truth of the sensitivity and wonderfulness of the Parent-Child Relationship Rating scale as an outcome measure.

Then comes the amazing truth of AB-PA – the Diagnostic Checklist for Pathogenic Parenting and the Parenting Practices Rating Scale – that provide a standardized, reliable, and valid assessment protocol for the pathology in the family courts.

Conduct the Research – Be Amazed

Where’s the research on the accuracy of the predictions made by AB-PA? Do the research and you’ll have it.

I’m a clinical psychologist in private practice – I know research but I don’t do research, that’s not what clinical psychologists do. We do assessment, diagnosis, and treatment – others do the research.

I gave you research anyway just to get you started – and research is not even what I do. I’ve lapped the forensic psychologists and PAS experts several times. They haven’t even made it to the first turn and I’m already over the finish line – it is solved. That’s the truth.

You just need to do it.

You want research from a clinical psychologist? I’ve given you the High Road single-case ABA as proof – there’s the research – we presented the High Road single-case ABA directly to the American Psychological Association in 2019 in a peer-reviewed paper, peer-reviewed by the president of Division 24 Society for Theoretical and Philosophical Psychology.

I’m a clinical psychologist in private practice. I’ve done my job. I’ve given you the diagnosis worked out in detail, and I’ve given you the diagnostic assessment protocol. I’ve even identified the required treatment for you – court-adapted DBT (Linehan) informed by the attachment treatment of EFT (Johnson).

I can do things you cannot yet comprehend – like synchronize your brain networks… just by interacting with you… and you have no idea I’m doing it when I’m doing it (am I doing it now?), just like for days after my therapy the child rippled the impact until the three-system consolidation at point (7)… three days later.

My work ripples within and across time. I’ve been telling you, I work about three to five years ahead, sometimes more, sometimes less. It depends on what’s needed.

I’ve fixed the systems dysfunction here in the family courts and within professional psychology. I’ve solved the pathology in the family courts and fixed it. You just don’t listen – yet.

The moment, the very instant the paradigm shift to AB-PA occurs… the pathology is solved for everyone everywhere.

Try it.

The Paradigm Shift to AB-PA

Start by using the Diagnostic Checklist for Pathogenic Parenting – start by simply collecting that for all children in family court conflict. You don’t need to do anything else… just routinely and consistently collect the three Diagnostic Indicators of AB-PA for all cases of court-involved family conflict… and see what happens as a result.

Things will change… and everything will be fixed. Watch. Try it. You’ll see. Everyone here fights-and-fights about everything. Once the fighting ends and you’re open to a solution… then solve it.

AB-PA as described in Foundations (Childress, 2015) is a 100% true and accurate description of the pathology. What’s true is true. None of AB-PA is Dr. Childress, that’s why it’s true.

You all want to fight about everything. If you want to fight about AB-PA, take it up with Bowlby, Minuchin, Beck, van der Kolk, Tronick, Kohut, and the DSM-5. Because that’s what AB-PA is, I’m not here.

All of AB-PA is simply the established scientific and professional knowledge of the discipline applied. If you don’t agree with the established knowledge of professional psychology, take it up with the established knowledge.

There are amazing things that unfold in layers once someone has the curiosity to look. No one has the curiosity to look yet. They don’t want to solve anything yet. When they want to solve things, then they’ll look, and the solution will unfold once they are motivated.

It’s a motivational pathology – the attachment system is a motivational system – attachment pathology is a pathology in motivation. AB-PA is an indicator.

They are not motivated yet.

Be amazed, because there’s some amazing things. The pathogen fights and fights to hide. We will be calming the fight-and-fight, and when it calms… things will happen.

Looking Backwards in Time

Once this is done and you’re looking back from everything solved to where we were… you will see the path we took. You will be amazed, you had no idea what was happening.

I did. Storms come. Storms go. I’m the bringer of storms that come, and when the storm leaves you will have a solution. A solution to what? To everything you need a solution for.

It will be an unfolding process. Some things will remain dormant beneath the surface of your possible awareness until the proper context arrives to release them, then they will ripple out in their impact.

The entry point for the amazement is the High Road single-clase ABA data. Replicate the ABAB single-case research with each High Road workshop. Personally, I’d recommend you do it formally as part of a research collaboration with CCPI. Collaborate with CCPI and do the research.

Dorcy’s a businesswoman and family coach, not a university researcher person. Dr. Childress is a clinical psychologist, not a university researcher investigator.

The university research investigators need to conduct research on the High Road workshop. The university research investigators need to conduct research on the diagnostic model of AB-PA.

Collect the data. If you simply collect the symptom data using the Diagnostic Checklist for Pathogenic Parenting, the pathology in the family courts will be solved. Watch.

Just do it and be amazed. Collect the data from the Diagnostic Checklist for Pathogenic Parenting routinely for each child in family court custody conflict… and everything will unfold into solutions.

Don’t believe me? Try it. Just try it. There is no harm in just collecting the data in every case. See what happens when you do this, when you simply collect the data from the Diagnostic Checklist for Pathogenic Parenting (Childress, 2015).

You’ll be amazed at what happens. Do it and then look at the result to see what happens.

Try it. See what happens. You’ll be amazed.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

Dad takes his life due to legal and grief over his kids

CW-Suicide

This is the final photograph of Phillip Herron 34, crying in his car, literally minutes before he took his own life.

He was a single Dad of three young children, struggling with escalating debt of over $20,000 and was desperately waiting for a Payday lending payment he’d applied for. But it’s paid in arrears, with a 5 week wait time. That wait drove him even deeper into debt, and when he died he had $4.61 in his bank account and clearly couldn’t see any other way out.

Like a lot of people, especially men, he kept all of this to himself, nobody else knew how bad things were getting. The poor man even had to tell his children that Father Xmas wouldn’t come this year, and in his suicide note he wrote that they’d be better off if he wasn’t there any more.

And now he isn’t.

We need to talk more. We need to be kinder. And we need to be a country that helps people when they need it the most.

Boys learn to isolate or anger as toddlers . It’s too feminine to allow emotions , tears ???

Be a Big Boy 👦

My Little Man 👨

He’s a child and worthy of expression of his feelings in a way that is not anger or rage but expressed in communication that is received compassionately and doesn’t project or target the other person .

Children deserve truth per maturation/age etc because they do get curious and asking around in peer’s can mislead or pressure an opinion .

Boys can be harsh and very physically intimating on impressionable younger boys and so they deserve to have a foundation that allows them participating in open , factual discussions per age and readiness .

Too late I realized that younger kids who hung out with our sons but had over 5 years life experience ; had much trauma at a young age sexually and other ways . This did not become fact to me until later in life as did the competition as I had our 1st child . I did not pick up on jealously and that would extend to lust for what I had in partnership . It was very unbalanced and I have had moments of clarity about the negative influences early on towards our 3 children .

I have grieved deeply about this and baby sitters and relatives that had our children when we were not there to witness and protect them .

This Dad could not take anymore . I’m not suicidal and I’ve had decades to surrender to the horrific cost of distorted alienating that is a living death when one has no contact with one’s children as punishment that continues Domestic Abuse/ Malignant/ High Conflict / Intimate Partner Violence that is non gender specific and is Child Abuse