Family Courts : Craig Childress PsyD

There’s a problem in the family courts. Professional psychology is not meeting the needs of the families, the children, or the court.

We need a solution. What’s the solution?

We need an established diagnostic assessment protocol that everyone agrees on. We need a clearly established and agreed-to treatment protocol that fixes the pathology.

We need to stop the fight-and-fight surrounding the child, and we need to fix things.

How? How do we do that? What’s the solution?

We need turn to our universities to develop the diagnostic assessment and treatment protocols to fix things in the family courts, along with the supporting legal arguments needed to obtain the necessary diagnostic assessment and treatment.

Stop fighting about it. Put it to a top-university to develop the diagnostic assessment and treatment protocols for the attachment-related child pathology in the family courts.

Dr. Childress and Dorcy Pruter can provide the structure for an AB-PA/High Road pilot program for the family courts. What’s needed is university involvement for the evaluation research, i.e., to provide the organizational guidance in developing the diagnostic assessment and treatment protocols, and with developing the legal arguments of support.

We need to stop the fighting.

I’ll serve as the Clinical Director for an AB-PA/High Road pilot program for the family courts, and Dorcy Pruter will be a contracted consultant for recovery of children from complex trauma and child abuse using the High Road workshop.

We need university involvement for the organization and evaluation research. The university will need funding for their role in organization and research. They like that, they like receiving money to do research on something.

The best funding source would be state legislatures seeking a solution to the problems and endless fighting in the family courts. Put your best universities on it. Which university would serve as the Principle Investigator for an AB-PA/High Road pilot program for the family courts?

In California, I’d give the PI to Stanford’s Forensic Psychiatry Department. Because it’s CA, I’d also fund a second site location at UCLA-Pepperdine-Alliant universities in Southern California for geographic balance and for different focal interests.

My proposal would be to have Stanford Forensic Psychiatry be the PI organizing the multi-site research, with Stanford Forensic Psychiatry taking the leadership in developing the diagnostic assessment protocol (with involvement from a diagnostic team at UCLA in So Cal).

The So Cal site would, in-turn, focus more on developing the treatment protocol, i.e., court adapted Dialectic Behavior Therapy (DBT; Linehan), informed by court adapted Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT; Johnson). Susan Johnson has an academic appointment to Alliant University in San Diego.

I would anticipate that Sue Johnson’s International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy in San Diego would take leadership in developing the treatment protocol for the family courts at the So Cal site collaboration.

University researchers like receiving money to do things. So let’s bring them here to develop the diagnostic assessment and treatment protocols for the family courts – and the legal support arguments for obtaining the diagnostic assessment and treatment.

In a California AB-PA/High Road pilot program, the So Cal location with the EFT Center for Excellence could organize the integration of DBT adapted to the family courts, with the attachment therapy of EFT, coordinating with the diagnostic team at Stanford through the diagnostic team at UCLA.

Both Stanford and UCLA have world-class law schools. So just as both Stanford and UCLA lead two sites in the development of the diagnostic assessment and treatment protocols for the family courts, the law schools for those two universities could develop the supporting legal arguments for the diagnostic and treatment approach.

That’s what I’d recommend for a California solution. I would anticipate that this solution then spreads out to other locations nationally and internationally (i.e., the CA-Stanford diagnostic model). In a different state I might recommend only a single university with one big-city and one small-city site coordinated by one university.

In a two university approach in two different locations, one site leads development of the diagnostic protocol. One site leads development of the treatment protocol, i.e., court-adapted DBT informed by the attachment therapy of EFT.

Dr. Childress and Dorcy Pruter can provide the organizing structure through an AB-PA/High Road pilot program for the family courts – we need university involvement for the evaluation research.

When we were in the Netherlands in 2019, we proposed an AB-PA/High Road pilot program when we met with the Dutch Ministry of Justice, with Maastricht University for the evaluation research.

I’d propose an AB-PA/High Road pilot program for Canada, and for any state in the U.S. Pick your top universities and fund them to develop the diagnostic assessment and treatment protocols for the family courts.

Once they are developed… we can all use them everywhere.

It’s a win-win-win-win-win all the way around. Families win. Children win. Courts win. Everyone who wants to solve the pathology in the family courts, wins. Everyone wins – and we have a solution that everyone agrees to.

We stop the fighting. We now have a path to follow.

I would anticipate a 2-year grant for an AB-PA/High Road pilot program for the family courts, but only one year of that is active research. The first six months would be preparation, the last six months would be data analysis and writing up the results. In the middle would be a year of an active AB-PA/High Road pilot program for the family courts.

We’d need about 10 mental health therapists and 10 family law (amicus) attorneys at each site location, and then access to a court referred population based on the entry criteria into the AB-PA/High Road pilot program for the family courts. I’d like about 20 families, but that’s up to the research PI.

The actual program is not all that expensive. The most expensive part is likely to be the university teams and involvement.

I’d serve as the Clinical Director for an AB-PA/High Road pilot program for the family courts. I’ve been Clinical Director for two other projects, one a FEMA-DOJ project to develop a diagnostic assessment protocol for a court-involved child pathology. The other was Clinical Director for an assessment and treatment center for children in foster care, i.e., child abuse and attachment pathology.

I have background clinical expertise in assessing, diagnosing, and treating all four types of child abuse – and child abuse is the anticipated diagnosis, the only question is… which parent?

I’ve worked on major NIMH research projects with top university investigators. AB-PA is my work from Foundations. I can develop and implement an AB-PA/High Road pilot program for the family courts that can serve as the framework for developing the diagnostic assessment and treatment protocols.

Dorcy Pruter would serve as Consultant in recovery from complex trauma and child psychological abuse. The High Road workshop would be delivered at the mid-point between diagnosis and treatment. Once the diagnosis of Child Psychological Abuse (DSM-5 V995.51) is made and confirmed, the transition to the treatment phase would be through the High Road workshop into the follow-up maintenance care therapy of court-adapted DBT-EFT.

I anticipate Dorcy would do half of the High Road workshops, and that she’d train the university clinical research team in the High Road protocol, and they’d do half. That allows us to compare and replicate across workshop providers, with the workshop delivered to a high level of fidelity to the protocol developed by Ms. Pruter.

In this way, Ms. Pruter transfers the intellectual property of her approach that she developed with the High Road workshop into the healthcare and educational sectors for further research and development of the model.

I would encourage the applied expansion of Ms. Pruter’s approach into other trauma recovery domains like substance abuse recovery and reducing prison recidivism.

Ms. Pruter would retain her rights to the High Road trademark, but by training a university clinical research team she would also lose her intellectual property rights to the general approach. Following the AB-PA/High Road pilot program for the family courts, the involved university would be free to develop its own versions based on the principles, expanding them, modifying, testing, researching them in any way they’d like.

In return for her intellectual property transfer to the university, Ms. Pruter becomes the recognized goddess of trauma recovery. That is a status she already occupies, it’s just the formal recognition part that’s the addition.

The knowledge and skills of Dorcy Pruter are too valuable to be doing High Road workshops, as valuable as those are. She can train others to conduct the workshops to recover the kids, but it needs to be done properly.

There needs to be university involvement for the evaluation research.

You don’t think Dorcy’s the real deal? Put Dorcy to the test, ask her to recover the children you send to her based on an AB-PA diagnostic protocol. Have you ever seen My Cousin Vinny? You wanna put Dorcy to the test? Paaaleeese, be my guest.

Dorcy knows this pathology better than anyone on this planet. She’s seen it and worked it and recovered it up-close and personal for years-and-years.

I know this pathology better than anyone on this planet. Of course I do. I’m the best because that’s what my kids need. Dorcy Pruter is my first referral. Anytime Ms. Pruter and I are on a matter together, I consider her part of my treatment team in charge of recovery.

I listen to my treatment team. We work together toward a common goal – treatment – fixing things.

What things? Whatever things you have that need fixing? Diagnosis guides treatment. You tell me the diagnosis, I’ll tell you the treatment plan – for anything.

That’s how healthcare works.

Do you want to solve things in the family courts? Bring in your top universities and ask them to develop the diagnostic assessment and treatment protocols. Dr. Childress and Dorcy Pruter can provide the structure of an AB-PA/High Road pilot program for the family courts on which to layer the university evaluation research.

That’s the solution. I recommend the money come from a state legislature who wants to solve the pathology in the family courts. Give the issue to your best universities and let them solve it.

What are the top universities in Pennsylvania? Does Denver have any universities? How about the University of British Columbia?

Dr. Childress can bring a solution. Dorcy Pruter can bring a solution. We just need the invitation to bring a solution to the family courts. Don’t believe us? We’d like university involvement for the evaluation research please.

Put Dr. Childress & Dorcy Pruter to the test. Thank you, that’s much appreciated. I can identify it and Dorcy can fix it. So let’s do that, let’s fix it.

That’s what I think.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

Anger

“If you don’t like something someone is doing that’s your shadow”

“If you have a negative judgement about someone that’s a projection”

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“If you feel angry that’s actually your past trauma getting triggered”

“If you feel a strong NO to something that’s your ego being in resistance”

And-

“All of these are opportunities to look within. Work on yourself. As well as open and surrender your resistance”

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I used to believe these things.

They informed my life and my choices.

Yes, sometimes they are true.

They are not rules to be applied blindly to everything.

Like many “conscious women” they paved the way for my own ritualized self harm in the form of pathological self gaslighting.

They drained my life force and dissociated me from my self protective instincts and wisdom.

They entrapped me in narcissistic cult/abusive relationship dynamics.

They groomed me to be perfect prey.

I have watched so many people lost in this labyrinth of false spirituality, completely disconnected from themselves.

Completely dissociated from their own precious human existence. Their own sacred inner knowing.

Getting no where in their “healing” or “awakening”.

Spinning their wheels with no wisdom.

Trapped in the mind and held hostage by these beliefs.

Beliefs which I now believe are a kind of virus that originated from the minds of abusers wrapped in spiritual robes.

I have seen women’s healthy defenses completely dismantled by this paradigm.

I have watched women become sick and sucked dry because of these beliefs.

One woman I loved even died.

Anger is what broke this spell for me.

Anger is what clarified my ability to see.

Anger was the medicine that brought me back to life.

Anger is what grounded me back into my body and sanity.

Anger is exactly what this paradigm does not want you to feel and own.

Now I wonder who would be motivated to tell you that?

Take Your Time : Sherrie Campbell PhD

When toxic people leave your life, or you decide to get them out of your life, you are gifted the time and space to self-reflect on what you learned and to see where you need to grow to become stronger. If you skip the self-reflection process, you will repeat your pattern of attracting toxic people into your life over and again.

Life is hard after toxic people exit because they have twisted your head in a million different directions causing you to doubt yourself and your perception of things. It takes time in self-reflection to right yourself in the direction of what you know to be the truth of your experience.

Take the proper time to heal. Take the time you need to trust that you are not and were not crazy. Take the time to recognize you were abused and in what ways you were abused. Taking this time helps you see what you need to see in others to keep yourself safe.

Trauma Bonds& Children

Did you know that we’re not the only ones who experience trauma-bonding in toxic relationships?

If you have a narcissist in your home with your children (as their parent or otherwise), they will become trauma-bonded, too.

This partly explains why many children, regardless of age, seem to “side” with the narcissistic parent. There are other reasons for this, but trauma bonding is one of the primary ones. They can’t help themselves.

I wrote an article about the damage narcissists does to children. You can read it here:

👉 https://bit.ly/NarcissistsDevastateChildren

Just as you have a hard time analyzing why you dislike the narcissist, but can’t seem to leave them, children are even less equipped to handle trauma-bonding and the other symptoms that arise from narcissistic abuse.

Many of the same dynamics that you experience in your relationship with the narcissist, your children are also experiencing, no matter how much you may try to shield them.

For example, if the narcissist is your partner and they constantly cheat on you, your children experience the backlash from this, as well. And not only from the narcissist, unfortunately. Think about it…if you’re constantly cheated on by the narcissist, how many hours do you spend playing detective, checking out social media for proof, researching narcissism, having meltdowns in your bedroom, and chatting in the forums?

What often happens is that children are not only ignored and neglected by the narcissist, but you can’t be present with them, either, when you are constantly devastated by repeated infidelities and other relationship dramas.

But aside from that, your children become trauma-bonded to the very person you’re trying to protect them from. There’s really no way to shield them from this if there is a narcissist in the home.

Just as you become euphoric over relationship crumbs, so do children.

Just as you become devastated by the lies, so do children.

We want to believe that children are emotionally resilient, but we are now seeing the devastating effects of this old belief. Just as with us, the trauma they experience becomes deeply embedded and affects them their whole lives…often leading them into their own toxic relationships as they mature and become adults.

When there is a narcissist in the home, children cannot learn what healthy love is and many of their own needs are overlooked or unnoticed. There isn’t a magical bubble that protects them from the dysfunctional dynamics of toxic relationships with dysfunctional people.

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Ready to put up an electric fence? Then (if you haven’t already), make sure you watch my free workshop on severing trauma bonds.

🖥️ https://bit.ly/7StepsBreaktheNarcissisticSpell

Always thinking of you. Xo

Kim

Cosmic Mother

”But patriarchy must maintain, by force, an unnatural system. Since the supreme creator is a male, woman must be redefined as “male property,” i.e., as “wife.” In fact the very idea of a male Creator God carries within itself the necessity for some kind of tightly controlled class-caste society. Because it is only through the creation of life through human mothers, now passive and powerless, that the male God can claim glory for himself. He cannot, he does not go through the dangerous episode of childbirth in his own person. He uses women to do it for him. Then, contrary to the truth, he claims that he is the all-mighty creator. The woman, at best, is patronized for her role as “divine housewife.” –Monica Sjoo & Barbara Mor, The Great Cosmic Mother

Cosmic Mother Birthing by Melissa Shemanna

Medusa

“By turning men to stone [Medusa] prevented “the male gaze,” thus denying the possibility that women could be defined by men . . .

Her snakes represent unintimidatable self-possession. She had to be killed because by her very existence she could expose the contingency of the Law of the Fathers . . . Medusa symbolizes female potential. In short, Medusa is the unvarnished, undomesticated counternarrative to patriarchy.”

~ Ann Scales

Ann C. Scales was an American lawyer, activist, and law professor at the University of Denver Sturm College of Law from 2003 to 2012, where she taught in constitutional law, sexual orientation and the law, civil procedure and torts.

Art: Red K Elders Art, “Medusa”

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Trauma Response


The inability to receive support from others is a trauma response.
Your “I don’t need anyone, I’ll just do it all myself” conditioning is a survival tactic. And you needed it to shield your heart from abuse, neglect, betrayal, and disappointment from those who could not or would not be there for you.
From the parent who was absent and abandoned you by choice or the parent who was never home from working three jobs to feed and house you.
From the lovers who offered sexual intimacy but never offered a safe haven that honoured your heart.
From the friendships and family who ALWAYS took more than they ever gave.
From all the situations when someone told you “we’re in this together” or “I got you” then abandoned you, leaving you to pick up the pieces when shit got real, leaving you to handle your part and their part, too.
From all the lies and all the betrayals.
You learned along the way that you just couldn’t really trust people. Or that you could trust people, but only up to a certain point.
Extreme-independence IS. A. TRUST. ISSUE.
You learnt: if I don’t put myself in a situation where I rely on someone, I won’t have to be disappointed when they don’t show up for me, or when they drop the ball… because they will ALWAYS drop the ball EVENTUALLY right?
You may even have been intentionally taught this protection strategy by generations of hurt ancestors who came before you.
Extreme-independence is a preemptive strike against heartbreak.
So, you don’t trust anyone.
And you don’t trust yourself, either, to choose people.
To trust is to hope, to trust is to be vulnerable.
“Never again,” you vow.
But no matter how you dress it up and display it proudly to make it seem like this level of independence is what you always wanted to be, in truth it’s your wounded, scarred, broken heart behind a protective brick wall.
Impenetrable. Nothing gets in. No hurt gets in. But no love gets in either.
Fortresses and armor are for those in battle, or who believe the battle is coming.
It’s a trauma response.
The good news is trauma that is acknowledged is trauma that can be healed.
You are worthy of having support.
You are worthy of having true partnership.
You are worthy of love.
You are worthy of having your heart held.
You are worthy to be adored.
You are worthy to be cherished.
You are worthy to have someone say, “You rest. I got this.” And actually deliver on that promise.
You are worthy to receive.
You are worthy to receive.
You are worthy.
You don’t have to earn it.
You don’t have to prove it.
You don’t have to bargain for it.
You don’t have to beg for it.
You are worthy.
Worthy.
Simply because you exist.

  • Jamila White

CERN Georgia’s Reaction via Stone

The 10 principals of man

kind for New Earth were

on those tablets of granite

even touching on reducing

our population.

Population control via the

New World Order .

Fingernails on the chalkboard

shadow ; you’ve exposed

yourself .

youtube.com/watch