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Poor Partner ? Good Father Myth

If a man believes he can protect his children while hurting his woman, he is deeply mistaken. What you give to your woman—whether love, respect, or pain—is what she will pass on to your children. This is an undeniable truth of life, one you cannot escape. A woman is the emotional and spiritual foundation of a home, and her well-being influences the emotional climate of the entire family.

When a man nurtures and supports his woman, he creates an environment where love and safety thrive. This love flows through her and reaches the children. A woman who feels cherished and respected will radiate warmth and stability. Her sense of peace will naturally create a secure world for her children to grow and flourish in.

On the other hand, when a man chooses to hurt or neglect his woman, he disrupts the harmony of the home. Her pain doesn’t stay confined within her; it becomes a silent burden that shapes the atmosphere of the household. Children growing up in a space filled with tension and emotional distress often internalize those struggles, carrying them into their own lives.

It is essential for a man to recognize that his relationship with his woman sets the foundation for his children’s emotional development. If he provides her with love and security, his children will learn the importance of healthy relationships and emotional intelligence. If he chooses to cause her harm, he risks teaching his children to repeat the same patterns of dysfunction.

A woman’s role in a family is unique. She is often the heart of the home, and her energy influences the rhythm of daily life. When a man honors this role and treats her with care, he empowers her to fulfill it wholeheartedly. This empowerment doesn’t just benefit her—it shapes the emotional well-being of their children for generations.

A man cannot claim to be a good father while being a poor partner. His treatment of the mother of his children is one of the greatest lessons he teaches them. Sons will learn how to treat women by observing their father, and daughters will learn what to expect from men. Therefore, a father’s actions have a profound and lasting impact.

Many men fail to see this connection, assuming they can compartmentalize their relationships. They believe they can show up as loving fathers while being absent or hurtful partners. But children are incredibly perceptive. They notice the unspoken dynamics and carry those observations into their understanding of relationships.

The truth is, children thrive in an environment where both parents are emotionally healthy and supportive of one another. A man who uplifts his woman not only strengthens her but also creates a stable foundation for his children to grow upon. His love and respect set an example that shapes their worldview.

Men must also recognize that protecting their children goes beyond physical safety. It involves creating a space where emotional security is prioritized. This cannot happen if the mother of the children feels unsupported, neglected, or hurt. Emotional wounds within the family ripple outward, affecting everyone.

To truly protect your children, protect their mother. Nurture her spirit and honor her contributions. When you invest in her happiness and well-being, you invest in the emotional health of your entire family. What you give her, she will magnify and return to your children tenfold.

So dear man, the greatest legacy a man can leave for his children is the example of a loving and harmonious partnership. By treating his woman with care and respect, he teaches his children the value of love, kindness, and mutual support. This is the universal truth you cannot escape—and one every man must embrace.

Pathology of Lies – Craig Childress , PsyD

Parallel Process

I will need to go silent on our world around us… it’s becoming too dangerous to speak out. But before I grow silent… I’ll make some observations for the 50% of minds who can see.

Compassion is a good thing. Empathy for the suffering of others is a good thing.

The absence of empathy is the capacity for cruelty – and the capacity for cruelty is the source of evil. The Dark Triad and Dark Tetrad are the core of evil.

The pathology in the family courts is evil. The pathology in our social surround is evil.

They – the target – whether in the family courts or in our society – “deserve” to suffer for their inadequacy… for their sins… for the bad things they supposedly did.

In the family courts, that’s the targeted parent who “deserves” to suffer – in our social surround… we have a variety of targets du jour. Pick your favorite target of fear – non-White people of color – the deep state – immigrants – liberals – LGBTQ – people who are different.

Anyone who makes me afraid.

In the family courts the targeted parent “deserves” to suffer because of their supposed inadequacy as a parent. That’s the narcissistic value system of cruelty – it’s okay to be cruel to someone when they “deserve” it.

The child is taught this narcissistic value of cruelty – and the child says immensely cruel things to the targeted parent because the parent supposedly “deserves” to suffer for what they did to the child, for their inadequacy as a parent.

In our social surround, the targets for cruelty are people of color, non-White immigrants, federal workers who are lazy, LGBTQ who are different, the media who criticize, Ukraine, pick your target who “deserve” to suffer because of the supposedly bad things they did.

Ukraine started the war – they deserve to suffer.

Trans-gender are different – they deserve to suffer.

People of color are not White – they deserve to suffer.

Federal workers are lazy parasites – they deserve to suffer.

The Jews killed Jesus – they deserve to suffer.

Pick your target. Whoever you want, whoever makes you afraid, whoever is different. The old woman who lives alone must be a witch – burn her.

They didn’t do bad things. They’re just normal-range people. The target, whether it’s the targeted parent in the family courts, or the targeted scapegoat in society, is just normal.

But they are villainized to justify the cruelty inflicted on them – they “deserve” to suffer, they “deserve” the cruelty.

We are purging our Shadow. We are purging our darkness within that we project onto the other to make them “deserve” our cruelty, reflecting our damaged love and bonding system, our absence of empathy for their suffering.

No one will comes. There’s no rescue. Not now, not when we’ve reached the purging of our Shadow. Your abuser can dominate you and do whatever they want… and there’s nothing you can do about it.

They have allies with power… you don’t. Accept your abuse like a good compliant victim.

Maga-mind is the pathological parent. Trump is the narcissistic dad variant (Dark Triad/Dark Tetrad). The 50% of the nation who are liberal (i.e., have normal-range compassion and empathy for the child-nation and each other) are the normal-range targeted parent in the parallel process of abuse.

The narcissistic dad-parent makes false allegations that are used to justify their cruelty – Ukraine started the war with Russia – whoever the “they” are of their selected victim will “deserve” to suffer for the bad things they did.

The bad things aren’t actually bad things… the bad things are the unresolved trauma from childhood – the lack of love – the attachment trauma – that is then projected onto the other.

The “bad-mommy” or “bad-man” of the family court narrative is not real, it’s a lie, it represents the unresolved trauma in the pathological parent from their childhood that is being projected onto the current normal-range mom or dad.

It’s called a scapegoat. The sins of the sinful person are projected into the target, and then the target is killed to supposedly alleviate the person’s sins.

There were no sins in the scapegoat. The targeted parent is a normal-range mom or dad, the sins of narcissistic cruelty are in the allied parent. The sins remain in the person and are never transferred to the scapegoat.

It’s all projection. To see inside them, flip what they say to make it about themselves… everything will be revealed.

Pathological Parent: “I’m not the inadequate parent (spouse) – you are. You deserve to suffer for your inadequacy as a parent (spouse). You never loved the child (me) as the child “deserves” to be loved (as I deserve to be loved).”

Truth: “I’m an inadequate parent (and spouse). I deserve to be rejected because of the bad things I am. I don’t love the child, I never loved you. I’m incapable of love because I’m inadequate as a person.”

Everything – everything – everything – about this pathology is projection. Flip it and you’ll see what’s going on. The pathological narcissistic-borderline-dark personality parent isn’t revealing truth about the targeted parent… they are revealing the truth about themselves.

Pathological Parent: “The targeted parent is abusing the child” –

Reality: “I am abusing the child.”

The pathological parent decides who “deserves” their cruelty because of the “bad things” they did (the unresolved trauma from childhood that can never be solved) – it’s the unresolved trauma being projected out onto the target.

Pathological Parent: “I’m not bad – you are. You deserve to suffer for the bad things you do.”

What to look for in the assessment of the court-involved family conflict is the absence of empathy – the capacity for cruelty – probe for empathy and you won’t find it. A normal-range person will feel sad at the suffering of others – a pathologically cruel person won’t.

When prompted for empathy – when given a situation that should provoke empathy and compassion – the pathological parent (and child) in the family courts will respond that the targeted parent “deserves” to suffer for some past injury they supposedly inflicted on the child (or allied parent).

What’s interesting about this pathogen – i.e, about the projection of unresolved trauma in the attachment networks – a ripple of childhood attachment trauma – is that there are people who will be in the role of the targeted parent in the family court context, and who are in the role of the psychologically abusive parent in the social context of our times.

And they cannot see the parallel process. A shared delusion cannot – cannot – see itself… “despite contrary evidence” – it’s impossible.

I’m a mirror. I’m showing you to you. They will attack the mirror for the refection they see.

One reason among many that I post on Trump is to push the Maga-minds away from here.

I’m making a point not yet comprehended – I’m identifying a group of minds. They care more about Trump than they do their own children. I’m making a point about their motivations – I’m a mirror.

They can’t see themselves – no self-reflective insight. It’s impossible. Everything inside is projected out – that is the defense.

There’s a large group of targeted parents who won’t come to this location to receive the information I provide here about how to help their children, how to protect their child from child abuse, because they care more about Trump than they do the information.

If there is negative (contrary) information about Trump… their motivation to avoid the negative information will be stronger than their motivation to protect their child. It’s a cult.

How many times has the parent-child relationship in the family courts been described as a cult mind? That’s a good description of the fused psychological state.

I’m a mirror. I show you to you.

Another reason I comment about what’s happening is to teach using the parallel process for those 50% of minds that are not part of the shared persecutory delusion of “we’re being malevolently treated in some way” – who are not part of the cult.

The pathology of the Dark Triad/Dark Tetrad variant is on full display. It’s the core of evil.

We’re headed for complete destruction – with forensic psychology in the family courts – in our social surround. Same. Parallel process. It’s the same pathogen there and here, a Dark Triad/Dark Tetrad pathology.

Some things can only be seen looking the other direction in time. Trauma shuts down the frontal lobe executive function systems for three things – linear-logical reasoning – foresight and planning ahead – self-reflective insight.

The absence of foresight is going to become a substantial problem… for the forensic psychologists in the family courts… for the Trump administration.

Once you destroy, you then need to govern with a dysfunctional system. The mental health system in the family courts is completely broken. The system of forensic custody evaluations is entirely dysfunctional.

Same thing.

The exact same thing will happen in our social surround. Watch. Everything will be torn down and broken, beginning with the rule of law, everything will become chaotic and dysfunctional… just like the family courts and the mental health system in the courts.

There’s a reason no prior president ever did what Trump is doing. Do you want to know the reason? Wait… you’ll find out.

There are NO competent mental health services in the family courts. None. Zero. Parents are 98% UNABLE to get a diagnostic assessment of their families, and 100% unable to get effective treatment.

Let that sink in – understand it. There are no – none – zero – competent mental health services in the family courts. Parents cannot – cannot – get a diagnosis for the problem.

Everyone everywhere else, with all the other forms of pathology (problem) can get a diagnosis and treatment. Not parents and children in the family courts – zero – none.

We are headed into a state of complete dysfunction in the family courts – and – with our nation. This is the Encounter time. This is my time to Encounter the forensic psychologists directly. I’m going to collapse the dysfunctional system – so it can be properly rebuilt.

Trump is entirely collapsing the systems of government – so he and his minions can rebuild them in their desired image – long live King Donald I.

I’m encountering the forensic psychologists – by name – I’m destroying the “deep state” of psychologists who are disabling the mental health system response to the pathology.

I’m riding the same lines – just differently. I’m a clinical psychologist, so I’ve flipped some things on the lines of unfolding. Your lines will take a darker turn.

This is a pathology of lies – in the family courts – in our society.

Ukraine didn’t start the war. Russia did. Everything about this pathology is a lie. It isn’t about custody, it’s about treatment. The solution is NOT in the legal system, a child rejecting a parent is not a crime, it’s a pathology. The solution is in the healthcare system – diagnosis and treatment.

BUT… you can’t get a diagnosis or treatment. The systems in the family courts are 100% dysfunctional. We are headed toward the same thing everywhere around us.

We are purging. I’ll be purging the mental health system in the family courts of its incompetence… which will create a 100% dysfunctional system until competent mental health services can be established.

Trump and his Maga-mind minions are purging our society… which will create 100% dysfunctional systems. Same… but different outcomes.

The over-line is the incompetence polarity – the under-line is the competence pole of balance – one dark, one light.

What we’re watching is the Purging. If you want to see an excellent Purging, it’s the French Revolution. I know exactly what’s happening, I’m riding exactly the same lines.

We are in the Encounter phase in our social surround. I’m on the Encounter phase in the family courts. My work is precise. I’m riding lines of movement – cowabunga baby – this is going to be one helluva ride.

I’m estimating my departure from here in five years (plus or minus two)… then… everything becomes entirely your problem and entirely none of mine.

If you’re going to use my understanding and knowledge… you’d better use it quickly, I’m turning 70 this year and I’m not planning on sticking around.

I’ve done things to shorten the time of collapse in the family courts. There’s nothing I can do for you in our larger social surround. I spoke when I need to speak to protect the nation I love.

This is what you want. This is what you need. You need to purge your Shadow… again.

Now it’s time for me to grow silent… it’s becoming too dangerous to speak on the over-line. Hail Trump <Maga hand salute of mutual love>. Everything Trump does is exactly right.

Bots watch. Bots move. Advertising bots creating my algorithm for marketing are one thing, governmental surveillance bots searching for the “enemies within” to be purged are something else.

Elon Musk is going to save us. Elon Must is brilliant. Trump is the anointed of God. Trump is our savior. Mark Zuckerberg is a innovative genius and Meta is my favorite social media platform. We need more tax cuts for the wealthy… it will trickle down to everyone else eventually.

Bots are moving and watching – AI has arrived – Big Brother of 1984 is arriving a few years later than predicted by Orwell. Face recognition is here. They have our data. They know where we are. It’s not quite here yet… but I plan ahead.

I need to clean up my online algorithm so bots won’t locate me. Shhh… Hail Trump <Maga hand gesture of mutual love>. Trump is going to make America Great again. Canada should be our 51st state and we should get Greenland from Denmark. Gaza should be redeveloped into beachfront resorts for the wealthy. Ukraine started the war with Russia. Putin is on our side.

What’s in it for us?

I’ll need to grow silent soon so the bots won’t notice me once the surveillance bots arrive. I’m small, I’m inconspicuous. Nothing to see here. I’m leaving not arriving.

This is your world that’s coming, not mine. This is the world you wanted. This is the world you’ll get.

We need to fire the lazy federal workers. We need to deport immigrants to make our country White again, we need to eliminate the undesirable people. There are no trans-gender people, they don’t exist, and anyone who says they’re trans-gender should be banned from participation in our society and shunned… and they should be persecuted for being different.

Tariffs are an excellent economic policy. Elon Musk will save us. Elon Musk is brilliant and he’s our protector. Elon will make everything right with the world if we simply give him the power to do what he wants to fix the things that are broken.

For those of you following along on your Play at Home version of Parallel Process, as far as I can see, the family courts are ahead of our social surround. The collapse will be quicker, and the recovery will come sooner.

Germany in 1935 took ten years and a World War to reach Germany in 1945… and the world was in ruin when they arrived at the end. We’ve still a long way to go in an increasingly dangerous world around us.

Hail Trump <Maga hand gesture of mutual love>. Trump is always right. Trump is making America Great… again.

We’ll see what happens. June is when the next solid numbers arrive for your equations of you. Watch out for big rocks.

Never mind. It’s too late and there’s nothing the forensic psychologists can do at this point. There’s nothing you can do either. Complete destruction of the old ways is coming – here – there – everywhere.

Long live King Donald I, the anointed of God who will save our nation from the dangers it faces.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist

WA 61538481

OR 3942 – CA 18857

Peeling off the mask

Perhaps one of the hardest things in the world is discovering the true face hidden behind the mask of someone you hold dear—and being unable to accept it. Knowing everything yet pretending to know nothing.

After immense pain, betrayal, and broken trust, not everyone can scream in anger, cry their eyes out, or forgive generously. Nor does everyone possess the extraordinary strength to seek revenge. Some are left with a vague, intense sense of hurt—silent, unspoken, and deeply personal. A cold, bloodless battle fought within oneself.

In this battle, one must endure countless sleepless nights of unbearable agony. There are moments when one feels unbearable even to themselves, exhausted from trying to convince their own heart. The cruel stabs of shattered trust gnaw at the mind. And when you try to walk away from the relationship, stepping over the shards of broken trust to find peace, they shift the entire blame onto you. Their eyes show no remorse. They treat you as if you are the betrayer.

But they never understand the struggle of walking away from a heart where, at one time, you sought refuge in God’s name. They can’t comprehend the mental agony, the powerless days, the pain of sleepless nights, the fire in your tear-dried eyes, or the silent screams tearing through your chest. They don’t realize how a lively person—once someone who tried to spread joy in everyone’s life—becomes an empty shell, alive yet lifeless. They don’t understand, nor do they want to.

Sometimes, you feel like collapsing into someone’s arms and crying your heart out. You long to share your deepest wounds, to find a bit of solace. You yearn for someone to comfort you with oceans of affection, to caress your head and soothe the blazing fire in your heart with tender love. You wish for your sleepless eyelids to finally find rest in a blissful slumber.

Yet, like a fallen star, we never meet those things again—not the stories, not the love, not the relationships, nor the people. All that remains are sighs and an endless emptiness, scattered like fragrant autumn flowers along the path of life.

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“All men are created equal” reality

This is amazing 🤩

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The Brain of a narcissist

This is why the antisocial, borderline, histrionic, and narcissistic personality disordered individuals are very rigid in their behaviors and patterns. It is believed to be a combination of genetics and a stressor…but their brains are “hard wired” for trauma. It takes roughly a decade of behavioral therapy to learn to respond appropriately. They will never BE better.

Inner Child Wounds

From the lived experience of our personal reality, our inner child wounds certainly are real, as they reek havoc throughout our lives and relationships causing much pain.

Our minds disconnect these traumatic painful events which, during our formative years, we are unable to process in a healthy emotional way. They are pushed into our subconscious minds where they wait, causing disruption from behind the curtain, until we have the conscious awareness and emotional fortitude to re-engage and heal them.

Once we release the emotional blockages, and hence the emotional charge of these suppressed memories, we gain awareness that they have no real power over us unless we continue to ignore and suppress them.

Through healing, we liberate our souls from the shackles of these subconscious mind constructs. The fear, pain, guilt, shame, etc., dissolves as it is incorporated and integrated into our conscious awareness. Once this perspective is reached, and healing is achieved, the memories and emotions are realized as illusionary constructs of a subconscious mind that used them to fortify the ego, in its own bid for control over its own illusionary existence.

The ego, from the perspective of a higher consciousness, exists to create its own illusions of false beliefs to challenge our soul’s full expression, which ego sees as a threat. We believe these illusions are real until we shine the light of our conscious awareness into the darkness of our subconscious ego mind.

The darkness then dissolves as it is brought into the light, and we become whole.

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-JMB