Tag: Men

How to Grow Up as a Man

Much more can be done towards healthier boys who become healthy , loving , compassionate men .

What that are taught as little boys is how to isolate their anger , hide emotions and not have facts with which to make choices .

I’ve encountered more than a few men who have been groomed to social correctness , the family over all else , unhealthy bonds with unhealthy demanding parent , triangles that destroy any outsider who does not conform to the family dictates…

Forever bound together , too often in trauma is the war within that does take prisoners and only truths can break the bonds that bind .

The end of man kind , I feel can be avoided by balancing the distorted feminine in each of us , male or female .

Spirit knows no gender .

It is an individual choice and effort to heal this wound , and I pray for more awakening to this .

The end of man kind , does not include the feminine Wo man and that’s not a put down but a prayer 🙏 for healing and wakefulness .

Blessings & ✌️

Dona Luna 🙏❤️🎃

Men : I believe ✨

I believe in sensitive and kind men.

I believe in the mystical men who believe in themselves.

I believe in men who seek temperance and peace inside them.

I believe in men poets, dreamers, magicians, writers, alchemists, artists, teachers, and angels.

I believe in men who like to dance and sing and make life a celebration.

I believe in men who embrace their wounded inner child, listen to him and embrace him true.

I believe in men who want to heal and help others to heal.

I believe in men who refuse to be slaves to their own wound and that despite the pain, they clean it and heal it patiently, with love and courage.

I believe in men who come from the stars and remember the power of their wings, the power of their hands and the power of their heart.

I believe in men who know of intuition and use it as their compass.

I believe in men who share freedom because they are free and do not know another way to live.

I believe in the men protective of women’s energy, who know how to read the look of their beloved and who do not intend to change it, simply accompany it wisely on their flight.

I believe in full men who don’t need anything from outside because they already know that everything has it inside.

I believe in men who make fire when they are cold, that take refuge in water when they are thirsty.

I believe in men with truthful eyes they see themselves and that’s why they love and respect every creature exists on earth.

I believe in men, perfectly imperfect, because it is in that imperfection is where they also find their beauty.

I believe in sensitive men who know how to receive and give love in balance, who listen and who also speak, those who live and let them live.

I believe in men who live sexuality as sacred, because they know that it is a wonderful gift.

I believe in men with clear feelings, which are accessible.

I believe in men who walk barefoot and speak to the plants.

I believe in the tender and wild men at the same time.

I believe in the sacred male and in all the divinity they have stood.

– Rishima

White Wolf Alchemy

Discovery

I’m in a ” discovery ” phase as I unpack the load retrieved from storage ( 80 plus mile , round trip ) that I drove for the 1st time . With an excellent helper with who I flow well with , we entered the unit with no problem but with no real idea where things were except the cloths that A. R. pulled out for me last trip .

So it was a Blessing to find my boots , foods and spices and more supplements that are needed !

I have been challenged this past week with lower back issues and for 36 hours have nursed myself 👍🙏❤️

And it’s much better with lots of heat , sweat and Tiger Balm !

So I pulled out a few items that I was able to pick up from yet another storage and saw a big bulge in my cloth ice cooler . It was A.R. and it was what is pictured below 👇!

Both are needed !

So all my stored stuff is A.R. packed ( heavily ; he’s very strong and has moved me singlehanded!) Several times …

I did not see a disconnect, and sadly it comes yet again at a critical time , which is why it’s ended .

I have declined to mother single Dads kids , younger friends who ask me to help out and I did with a very chill 11 year old even going to lunch at her school. It was very enlightening to set a table with her female class mates . We took pictures and talked but I don’t share those .

An invitation on a holiday , was ignored and I feel it was known that was a boundary .

I don’t allow , knowingly allow children to be used in competitive power games . It’s abuse …

I have not heard from A.R. since 9/12. I sense something is off balance .

I have had to make other arrangements that , I regret for his sake . A beautiful young man , of honor and a inquisitive human being like me .

Like a teacher/student connection for both of us , most of the time . However as time as revealed , he’s more and more needed at the family home where he’s able to do from A to Z !

And that is where I must take alternative measures as I prepare for winter , and strive to have all my things under 1 roof , as I wait for my house .

My 98 4Runner is seeming to always need repair and that’s dicey because parts are scant and often require fabrication .

I purchased brake shoes and it seemed doable for A.R. , then it wasn’t . And yes something has to be fabricated to augment the brake shoes .

LED lights required new lenses that are back ordered and $400

A decision was made to replace the LED with halogen and align then. Mine have needed adjusting and it’s very difficult to see at night .

I have a chip monk nest in my AC which is interesting 🤨.

I’m Thankful for all that he is . I was patient , sometimes extremely patient , but the communication ended .

His journey of spirit is his to direct , his acceptance of adulthood within himself ; I am very proud to have known him and had him in my life for he has been an honorable young man , compassionate and made me feel safe .

There were times when that was ” off ” and I began to understand his responsibilities which left little ” me ” time and pushing the envelope, with his time . Lack of sleep , self medicating …… it’s hard work !

I sense a break through ; praying it’s not a break down .

This young man is so worthy , so awesome and unique and though I miss him ; I am surrendered to the wisdom of Divine 🙏❤️

Blessings & Much Peace ☮️

Dona Luna ❤️

Judge awards Billions to settle sex abuse claims for Boy Scouts

Boys , men are often ignored in sex abuse cases , it’s often more violent and seldom discussed and healed .

This court award signals the change that’s deserved for males .

roanoke.com/news/national/judge-approves-2-46-billion-reorganization-plan-for-boy-scouts-to-settle-abuse-claims/article_33aee2a9-1902-50aa-9f9c-8df36210cd2e.html

Message 2Men The Great Remembrance

Dear Men..

We miss you.

Deeply.

When women gather together in circles..

we tell stories of how much we long for you. Crave you.

Pray for you to rise and meet us here.

We mourn your missing presence.

In our childhoods.

In the homes we’ve built without you.

In our beds.

We hold hands and beg God to set you free from whatever keeps you from standing at our sides.

Right here.

Here In intimacy.

In integrity.

In wholeness.

In freedom.

The places where you are caught in dishonesty..

shame..

fear..

addiction..

we grieve and rage over.

We see your pain and we see your power.

We miss you.

We love you.

We can’t wait for you to come home

For the men who have..

thank you so much.

Please call your brothers..

start men’s circles..

show them the manuals.

Tell them of what you gave up.

Of your brokenness and acceptance.

Of what it truly means to take up the mantle of protector.

Please.

There aren’t enough fathers..

resources and leaders for men to sit at the feet of.

The women have tried.

We can’t do it.

The restoration must come from within the Masculine.

The Feminine cannot mother grown men into wholeness.

We cannot strap men to our backs and walk.

We tried.

We bow out.

Not gracefully.

But in mournful acceptance nonetheless.

And we will wait for you to burst free from the shackles patriarchy has placed on you.

We pray.

We pray.

We pray.

For the Great Remembrance.

~ Shade Ashani

Masculinity

MARS now enters the intrepid Gemini, and the SUN will enter analytical Virgo in a few hours. Both masculine planets enter mental signs, where their activity is most potent and raw.

As they come to square each other, they also hit off Chiron in Aries, triggering issues around wounded masculinity and how men, particularly, currently feel about themselves.

The transit stresses circumstances about what it means to be a man, and conflicts generate internal questions about whether individuals lack a sense of masculinity at some level.

Coping with this dilemma may see men acting out by outright rejecting masculinity as bogus or outdated or by overcompensating, trying to demonstrate to others (and themselves) that they are ‘real’ men.

Either extreme is troubling, and we best stay mindful that the next few days could evoke crises which may require our tender understanding and support…

[pic: Vanessa Alan]

Gabby’s parents file for 50 Million

Gabby’s death and the deaths of millions of women ; many of color are taken after not being heard by those who should protect and serve .

Training is needed because as horrific as this is , boys , men are abused and murdered but at no point confide nor heal those abuses and it’s time to address this for ALL in ways that does not support abuses and the awareness to know the difference . A plan B to ensure no one gets by with such abuses as Gabby and many more have given their lives for …

It’s time for change in intimate partner violence

It’s time to expose the harm done when parents support illegal acts , who ignore the signs etc

Win Win weather the $50 million is actualized because it’s wayyyy past time for change in this area of Law Enforcement .

EDUCATION

FACTS

www.accessonline.com/videos/gabby-petitos-family-will-file-50-million-wrongful-death-lawsuit-against-utah-police

Creating Space For Her

THE MAN WHO WALKS WITH THE HEALER~

When a man chooses a woman who follows her calling, his only chance to maintain the connection is in following her… and above all in creating space for her to follow her own path.

It may happen that he needs to abandon his own neediness, or that he finds a means of healing through their common path – but not in the gentlest manner.

When a man chooses a woman who heals the collective wounds of the women by following her calling, his Yes for her equals a Yes to a bigger purpose far beyond building a house or raising children. Their connection goes beyond fulfilling the classical gender role models.

For this man accepts the job of having the back of this woman, of catching her when she cannot transform the pain of the world anymore. It means for him to welcome a different form of sexuality, since healing on the level of sexuality is one of the most profound issues of the woman who needs to become a healer.

For him this, again, is about welcoming slowness, softness and healing – about holding back or redirecting his own drive… about being present for the whole.

Because when a man chooses a woman who aims for freedom, they can only achieve this together… and by him leaving his narcissistic aspects behind and recognizing the path of the woman as his own path towards freedom.

When a man chooses a woman who is bigger, he cannot dwell in the places of energies of oppression or of playing small. He – if he chooses to take on this mission with her – accepts a task serving the well-being of all men, even though it happens in the background. Within this background he creates space of security, of keeping her safe from an ambush bred by his own old wounds, driving her into submission.

When a man chooses a woman out of his fascination with her radiance and wisdom, it must be obvious to him that he cannot be stuck within his own deficits in a way that makes him want to diminish her radiance… purely out of fear of having to share her with others.

When a man chooses a woman who follows her calling, he cannot fear these words: respect, humility and surrender. He will rather walk the path of divinity – alongside his woman, the healer – with gratitude and an overflowing heart.

For such a woman will choose – if she ever needs to choose – in favour of the well-being of all women …and she will choose walking her path alone instead of leaving it for him. Nevertheless, she is aware of the power that lies in the presence of a man who is beating the drums… for her.~

~Moksha Devi Sunshine

art: Eduardo Rodriguez Calzado