Tag: survivors

12 year old bullied hangs himself

Let me introduce you to Drayke Hardman.

He was 12 years old.

This week, he hung himself with his favorite hoodie from his bunk bed.

His bunk bed.

“Children are resilient”

No.

They are people.

They have huge feelings and minimal coping skills, because THEY ARE BABIES.

It’s our job to change the narrative.

OUR JOB.

It starts with us, as parents.

It stops with us, as parents.

His story is below.

Let it break your heart.

Let it change you.

Let it change all of us.

We have to do better.

Please, stop right now and talk to your kids.

ENOUGH.

💔 #juststay

“Drayke Andrew Hardman was born to his loving parents Samie and Andrew Hardman on May 26th 2009. Drayke was incredibly loved by his family, he loved sports and had such a kind spirit. Drayke just wanted to be friends with everyone. Drayke had the biggest, bluest eyes. Sadly, Drayke had been experiencing bullying at school. His bully would pick on Drayke for every little thing, but despite this, Drayke desperately tried to be his bully’s friend. His school and parents were aware, and his bully had been previously suspended for bullying Drayke. On Monday, Drayke had come home with a black eye, he confided in his sister that his bully had hurt him. Two days later, on February 9th, 2022 Drayke’s older sister found him hanging with his favourite hoodie from his bunk bed. Drayke’s father immediately started CPR until paramedics took over, after 15 minutes, his heart started beating but the damage had already been done. On February 10th, 2022 Drayke passed away surrounded by his family, he was 12 years old. After his death, his family have started raising awareness for suicide and bullying. Drayke will forever be remembered as a loving boy with a kind heart. RIP Drayke (26th May 2009 – 10th February 2022)”

Please be kind and stand up for others. Be proactive. Teach your kids.

Kids Helpline: 1800 55 1800 https://kidshelpline.com.au/

Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467 https://www.suicidecallbackservice.org.au/

Headspace: 1800 650 890 https://headspace.org.au/

Beyond Blue: 1300 22 4636 https://www.beyondblue.org.au/

Lifeline: 13 11 14 https://www.lifeline.org.au/

#draykehardman #doitfordrayke #suicide #suicideawarness #mentalhealthawareness #bullying #stopbullying #bekind

Cravings by KD Lang

We are a nation of addicts by

grand design , lulled to sleep

under educated and fed untruths

And lies

I’m a truther and that’s cost me

the peace in life that has taught

me well.

Discoveries of ancestral shadow, and light .

Points to the horrible facts

that my paternal grandfather

had many addictions and was

highly abusive to my grandmother and their kids

He grew corn , fields of corn

He had boxes of cash in high

currencies.

He pushed Granny Zola , causing her to fall and loose their son David .

He won in a divorce , accusing her of cheating

She was seen in a public place having coffee with a man

Her parents gave them 120 acres . She got nothing .

She left with the cloths on her back , Running for her life .

She was divorced in 1953. He prevailed .

The children of tender years were placed with relatives.

Her Mom died in 1953 .

She struggled for the rest of her life , various rentals etc

She was given Valium to aide her her loss , shame and awareness of the injustice .

She had 5 sons and 2 daughters

She came from at least 5 daughters and 2 sons .

She was the most loving human being on this planet !

I know I have cleared the blood lines , experiencing much of Minnie Zola’s trauma and am honored to have been in the presence of GreatGrandmother , Grandmother , in the spring of 1952 . Great Grandmother was in her heavy coat with a scarf on her head . As her 1st grandchild , by Dad I sense it was determined that day that I could and would end the shadow abuses and expose the forced addictions after living a nightmare , having that abuse supported by family , friends and church .

Dad had a very low tolerance for alcoholism and drank very little . I know he threw out Moms brother who showed up at out home after I was 12 or so.

An incident when I was younger of their being out dancing and a passionate disagreement occurred and Mom threw her rings into a patch of grass or a field . She took us back to the scene and I found it for her . I don’t recall their dancing and Honkey Tonkin after that .

Both parents smoked and that was addiction but I inherited Dad’s intolerance for alcohol but failed to be aware of mask and secret manipulation as I was triangles which was an early childhood awareness ; Mom was guarded and competitive with out cause . She did not understand the bond between Dad and I and it felt like a hole in my heart . I spoke the truth early on and got her in hot water with Dad whom she told she had quit smoking .

Emotional Partners ; not a healthy role for a child . As a medicated trauma and abuse victim I did the same injustice to our eldest child as did his Dad . Our son caught a lot of abuse due to his love for me .

I am proud to have gotten off the ” junk” RX and whole matrix of addiction legally that destroys lives or ends them .

However there was and is a lot of fallout and damage done and healing for our sons .

I have not been in the mindset to repeat any of the past and pushed through forced addictions and of feeling bound to someone who doesn’t stand beside me with an arm on my back , instead of a sword .

I’m addicted to the peace that my heart has always been a longing and my place in this world .

Recent challenges did not reverse my direction , my life long intent .

For this last major test I am grateful that so much was exposed and Krystal has helped release even more trauma which I was much better at , than times past .

Assured that I am not addicted in mind , body or spirit .

Blessings & Peace

Dona Luna🙏❤️😘🎉

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Bullied Children

Bullied children grow up robbed of the benefits of what I like to call their “natural inheritance” — all the positive traits and qualities they possess, are born with and/or work hard to obtain and build. Abusers and bullies (whether they be narcissistic parents or even childhood peers with burgeoning narcissistic and/or antisocial traits) often subject these innocent children to their malignant and envious bullying. They teach their victims to see themselves through the distorted lens and projections of their abusers — they are fed lies about themselves that more accurately reflect the traits of the bullies who know these victims surpass them. Until the victim gets accurate feedback outside of the abusive environment, they often do not realize how intelligent, talented, beautiful, and valuable they are. They are still seeing themselves and treating themselves the way their abusers trained them to do so. They don’t get direct access to benefiting from these traits until they see themselves accurately (i.e. an intelligent child continually called “stupid” by their bullies will usually hide their abilities to avoid being mocked, and due to low self-confidence created by the bullying). That’s why deprogramming these messages are so vital in adulthood — and figuratively/mentally handing back malignant projections to their bullies where they belong. These bullies were describing themselves all along and got to put themselves on a pedestal by targeting a scapegoat that represented everything they did not possess. You deserve the rights to your natural inheritance and to see yourself accurately. 💝

#narcissisticabuse #childhoodbullying #complextrauma #ptsd #cptsd

Narcissist excel at projection & lack of responsibility

The narcissist Sociopath and psychopath are extremely tactical at what they do. their patient and their goal is to convince everyone else that they are the good guy the nice guy or a girl while you are the unstable one insane crazy dramatic over-the-top even abusive they have ways of doing this they practice it when it’s just you and them they will be calm well collected but say some thing that they know will trigger you because they know all your triggers at first you don’t react over the top but they’re gonna watch your emotion build and then they will continue to say more and more triggers until you finally react with reactive abuse. Then they will say something like I am not going to speak with you if you were going to treat me this way I’m not gonna tolerate it. I’m not going to engage with you when you are irrational you’re acting crazy. Then they will ignore you or Stonewall you which will only increase your rage or your emotional rage. I should say you will feel like you were going crazy remember this is all part of their plan after a while they will start doing this in front of people it
especially if you have children they will really do this in front of them making mom look insane While the narcissist looks like the good guy or calm and composed trying to calm down the victim. keep in mind that this individual this abuser has already been talking to everyone else behind your back trying to convince everybody that you’re the crazy one that they are the victim of abuse. In actuality you are the victim of severe abuse but no one is going to believe you because they appear so nice so calm so rational it’s psychological warfare and when you are going up against people that have no morals feel no empathy or sympathy no remorse no guilt and live only to serve their own needs and wants it is damn near impossible to beat them at their own game. These individuals are highly dangerous whether they are the physical or not doesn’t matter the emotional toll emotional damage can take years and years to unravel and rewire the best way to handle these people when they are trying to trigger you it’s a gray rock them which can be very difficult when your emotions are running so high. Just remember to look for the signs to notice what they’re doing and when they’re doing it and leave the room do not let them trigger you you’re far more powerful than you think these individuals do not go after weak people They go after people with high supply, people with empathy sympathy intelligence love happiness all the things that they themselves lack they are like a dark void trying to suck all your light out don’t give it to Them and they’ll get bored with you and eventually leave. But don’t think it’ll stop there they have a tendency to try to keep you on the hook continue the abuse even after you’re gone especially if you have children but you can guard yourself against them.

“Jamie Larsen”

Dads Matter

To all you psychotic alienating moms out there who make YOUR kids

“Your World”

And who use YOUR

“Mini Me’s”

as a wallet, cause your

“Just a single mom doing her best”

You are psychologically enmeshed with YOUR children. YOUR kids will never understand how to create healthy boundaries and will suffer in every aspect of their lives because of the psychopathy YOU taught them.

WE ARE COMING FOR YOU.

To all you Dads. DON’T GIVE UP.

I was an alienated child. There are millions of us. We don’t appreciate being robbed of the other half of who we are. We need you. Don’t leave us behind. I didn’t have the words to tell my dad. I didn’t know that going with moms flow for my own sanity, was harming me more.

I didn’t know.

I was just a kid.

I didn’t know how much of me was him.

I didn’t know, when I told him I didn’t want to go, that I was ripping his heart from his chest and sealing his fate.

I didn’t know.

But, now I’m grown and I know better.

It’s just too bad it’s too late.

We’ve lost in court too many times to count. We’re broke and heartbroken.

He is defeated.

I am not.

I got my dad on my shoulder and a lifetime of memories without him to motivate me. All I have right now are these flyer’s.

I plastered the kids street, so

THEY KNOW

HCBM’s family is next, cause they are coconspirators and enable more generational trauma. When school and little league start, the flyers will be there too. I will create awareness where I can, because if it’s not happening to you, you just

don’t know.

Mary Maddock , Mind Freedom , Ireland -Recovery

Our stories are similar , I did not have electroshock

Even Mary’s wedding picture looks like mine .

Much admiration and gratitude for Mary’s every effort to educate and earn others .

Hindsight as Evidence

I write this on the eve of my 48th wedding anniversary

This year on November 8th I hopefully will be 75 years strong. I met Jim in 1973. I have known him for almost 5O years..When we published our book in 2006 I did not have my medical records. Sixteen years later I am much wiser about my personal history and the history of the corrupt relationship between psychiatry, allopathic medicine, the state and other professions, especially the law.

Since becoming prescription drug-free at the turn of the Millenium I did everything humanly possible to find out the truth about what really happened to me when I was electroshocked and drugged by medical professionals. It was only then that I could look back at my terrible, traumatic experience which was and still is the living torture of survivors of psychiatry.

When we wrote our book ‘ Soul Survivor – A Personal Encounter With Psychiatry’ I was so damaged by bio/coercive/deceptive psychiatry that I thought I would not live to see it published. However, as the years went by I became stronger in mind, body and spirit. We could have written many more books since but those who know me and have found out more true facts themselves are aware that I have always been actively involved in speaking out and doing groundwork ever since. I have been privileged to get to know so many, outstanding, kind human beings. A big Thank You to every single person who crossed my path. Indeed if we were able to include our work together we would have much more evidence than the six week, deceptive, experimental trials that are passed as evidence by Irish psychiatrist Patricia Casey and her companions.

As Patricia said it is indeed her bread and butter. She has a vested interest in believing that contrived drug trials funded by Big, Corrupt Corrupt Companies will produce real evidence. Her christanity would have taught her what 30 pieces of silver can do and how angry Jesus Christ was about people collecting money outside a temple but she thinks that it is okay to accept bribes from co operations with clearly vested interests. When she was the main speaker, I and other members of MindFreedom Ireland heard her speak strongly in favour of the chemical imbalance theory many years ago. It was funded by Big Pharma. We challenged her then and we still challenge her today but were kept silent then and we are still kept silent today. The established media bow to so-called professionals who read biassed books and medical journals and are more interested in protecting themselves than those they feign to ‘help’.

We on the other hand are labelled with fictional, non-scientific ‘diagnoses’ ( ironically diagnose means to understand!) with no medical biomarkers to establish their labels exist. We are legally treated as sub/non-human and told that this is not discrimination. The law protects psychiatry and psychiatry protects the law. The state protects psychiatry and psychiatry protects the state. Then the established media protects all three. Is it any wonder we are kept silent? Is it any wonder that we feel distressed? Is it any wonder we find it difficult to be employed? Is it any wonder we are so easily drugged/electroshocked? Is it any wonder the marginalised who comprise most of the population are victims?

It can seem like there is no way out but we know the truth. We know it and many others, fortunate enough not to be labelled and drugged by psychiatry can find our way to be our own media. Everyone can do this the old-fashioned, real way by word of mouth. It was because of word of mouth that I had music pupils!! Thankfully psychiatry did not deprive me of my ability to teach also. It made it much more difficult. It was a miracle. It gave me some appreciation of my own ability.

To survive hardship we need to be strong. Psychiatry labels us weak while many who define us are very weak themselves. We need to be strong to know we are fragile. We need to be strong to say we are sorry. Everyone makes mistakes. It is by our mistakes we learn. If we continue to make the same mistakes many times it is difficult to learn. The history of psychiatry is a litany of mistakes. Yesterday’s errors become tomorrow’s and tomorrow’s while the litany of victims becomes longer and longer.

To break this cycle the public needs to wake up. I know it is difficult when most people can be very stressed finding their basic needs. Evolution requires constant change. We have got the ability to make choices. As Vandana Shiva reminds us so wisely we start with the soil. In order to protect ourselves first let us start at the beginning. We came from mother earth and we go back to it! We are honoured to play our part. Mary Maddock

Reality of Adult Children adapted to distortion

Have any of you had an adult or nearly adult, child make you feel like you’re still living with their parent? My oldest decided at 14, he wanted to live with his dad. At 19 now, with the help of his therapist, has seen through the bs and asked me to move in here. Of course, we opened our home for him, got him a job, have bent over backwards to ensure this feels like home to him. I love him being here, for the most part. He often comes to me when I’m just settling into bed, wanting to start an argument though. Because I stayed as long as I did. Because at 14, despite the lawyer and judge telling me I had no leg to stand on, I didn’t fight for him. There’s so much anger directed at me vs his dad and I feel like I’ve stepped back into that relationship again. ESPECIALLY with it all starting when I’m relaxed and ready to go to sleep. All of a sudden, he needs to talk and I’m the worst mom ever and if I try to tell him we can discuss tomorrow, he’s following me everywhere telling me that we need to talk now. I’m having such a hard time feeling the way I feel about my own child. I love him so much, but honestly, after being free from everything for 5 years now, I can not step back into it. I dont know how to get this across though without sounding like I am not willing to discuss it. I told him the other day, we can discuss all of this, im fully open to being candid and honest with you (we’ve had many, many, deep conversations regarding all of this) but that I could not be his punching bag. That I could not he kept up all night because he was itching for a fight with someone. 95% of the time, it absolutely breaks his heart if he sees me upset over something. He goes out of his way to help me, but that 5% its like he is enjoying the hell out of upsetting me. Pushing and pushing and saying absolutely horrible things and it’s like once he has me weak, vulnerable and crying, he’s ready for bed. Not until that point though. I’m really not sure how to handle this or where to even start?

Wise Observations via Steve Jobs

The story has that the last words of Steve Jobs, a billionaire, were shortly before he died at the age of 56:

“I have reached the pinnacle of success in the business world. In the eyes of others, my life is a success. Aside from work, I have had little joy. In the end, wealth is just a fact I’ve become accustomed to.

Right now I’m in the hospital remembering my entire life, all the recognition and wealth I’ve been so proud of, has faded and become insignificant in the eyes of impending death.

You can hire someone to drive your car or make money for you, but it is impossible to hire someone to take sickness and die for you.

Material things lost can be found again. But there is one thing that never returns if it is lost: life.

Whatever stage of life we are in, over time we will face the day that the curtain closes.

Therefore, love your family, your partner, your children and friends.. Treat them right. Cherish them.

As we get older and wiser we slowly realize that your $300 or $30 watch both give the same time

Whether we have a $300 or $30 wallet, the amount in it is the same.

Whether we drive a $150,000 car or a $30,000 car, the road and the distance are the same, and we reach the same destination.

Whether we drink a $1000 bottle of wine or $10, the hangover is the same.

Whether the house we live in is 100 or 1000 m2, the loneliness is the same.

You will realize that your true inner happiness does not come from the material things of this world.

Whether you travel first class or second class, if the plane crashes you fall down…

That’s why I hope you realize when you have friends, children, family, siblings, that it’s important that you talk, laugh, sing. Because that is real happiness!

An indisputable fact in life:

Don’t teach your children to be rich.

Teach them to be happy.

Teach them about the value of things and not the price.

Life is beautiful! ”

Trauma & Mind Control

Exactly my perception ; our

sons witnessed abuse and

trauma , and that was a bond

which was used in targeting

me .

I plan to discuss my thoughts

privately to them and I don’t

expect positive reactions

but the monster in the

closet wishes to transform

and liberate the “madness”

Peace – Love – Happiness

Dona Luna

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Childress on Child Abuse

In the absence of child abuse, parents have the right to parent according to their cultural values, their personal values, and their religious values.

In the absence of child abuse, each parent should have as much time and involvement with their child as possible.

In the absence of child abuse, to restrict either parent’s time and involvement with their child would damage the child’s attachment bond to that parent, thereby harming the child and harming the parent.

Is there child abuse? Let’s get a proper risk assessment for possible child abuse.

Either,

1) child abuse by the targeted parent accounting for the child’s attachment pathology toward that parent,

Or.

2) child psychological abuse by the allied parent, i.e., a shared persecutory delusion created by the collapse of a narcissistic-borderline personality parent surrounding divorce.

One way or the other, we’re looking at a likely child abuse diagnosis. We need a proper risk assessment for possible child abuse.

From Walters & Friedlander: “In some RRD families [resist-refuse dynamic], a parent’s underlying encapsulated delusion about the other parent is at the root of the intractability (cf. Johnston & Campbell, 1988, p. 53ff; Childress, 2013). An encapsulated delusion is a fixed, circumscribed belief that persists over time and is not altered by evidence of the inaccuracy of the belief.” (Walters & Friedlander, 2016, p. 426)

From Walters & Friedlander: “When alienation is the predominant factor in the RRD [resist-refuse dynamic}, the theme of the favored parent’s fixed delusion often is that the rejected parent is sexually, physically, and/or emotionally abusing the child. The child may come to share the parent’s encapsulated delusion and to regard the beliefs as his/her own (cf. Childress, 2013).” (Walters & Friedlander, 2016, p. 426)

Walters, M. G., & Friedlander, S. (2016). When a child rejects a parent: Working with the intractable resist/refuse dynamic. Family Court Review, 54(3), 424–445.

What is the diagnosis? Is there a shared persecutory delusion? We need an answer to that question.

If the mental health person cannot answer that question – is there a shared persecutory delusion? – then they are pointless to the situation because we need an answer to that question.

IT… IS… SIMPLE. Is there a shared persecutory delusion? Yes? No?

How do they know if they don’t even look to see? Do the child’s symptoms meet diagnostic criteria for a persecutory delusion? How about we use Item 11 on the Brief Psychiatric Rating Scale for Unusual Thought Content (delusions), “one of the oldest, most widely used scales to measure psychotic symptoms,” to rate the delusional quality of the belief.

Or you can write the answer on a napkin. Tell us by smoke signals for all I care… we just need an answer, is there a shared persecutory delusion – a fixed and false belief in supposed “victimization”?

The treatment for cancer is different than the treatment for diabetes. Diagnosis guides treatment. If we treat cancer with insulin then the patient dies from the misdiagnosed cancer.

What is the diagnosis?

“I don’t diagnose, I don’t like to pathologize” Then you’re a pretty worthless person to the situation because we need a diagnosis.

Is there child abuse? V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse? Why are we not routinely getting an answer to that question for court-involved family conflict?

They deserve to lose their license. Look at all they’re putting you through because they won’t diagnose Child Psychological Abuse (V995.51) when it’s warranted. They have duty to protect obligations, and they are not protecting your child.

Knowledge is power. Planning is power. The pathogen is now-reactive. Plan ahead, move step-by-step on a linear path to the goal. You want a written treatment plan to fix things please.

Google mental health treatment plans and read the first two returns – one of those please.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857