Bullied children grow up robbed of the benefits of what I like to call their “natural inheritance” — all the positive traits and qualities they possess, are born with and/or work hard to obtain and build. Abusers and bullies (whether they be narcissistic parents or even childhood peers with burgeoning narcissistic and/or antisocial traits) often subject these innocent children to their malignant and envious bullying. They teach their victims to see themselves through the distorted lens and projections of their abusers — they are fed lies about themselves that more accurately reflect the traits of the bullies who know these victims surpass them. Until the victim gets accurate feedback outside of the abusive environment, they often do not realize how intelligent, talented, beautiful, and valuable they are. They are still seeing themselves and treating themselves the way their abusers trained them to do so. They don’t get direct access to benefiting from these traits until they see themselves accurately (i.e. an intelligent child continually called “stupid” by their bullies will usually hide their abilities to avoid being mocked, and due to low self-confidence created by the bullying). That’s why deprogramming these messages are so vital in adulthood — and figuratively/mentally handing back malignant projections to their bullies where they belong. These bullies were describing themselves all along and got to put themselves on a pedestal by targeting a scapegoat that represented everything they did not possess. You deserve the rights to your natural inheritance and to see yourself accurately. 💝
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