Tag: Shaming

Abuse in the Family – Charlie McCready

In Abuse in the Family, Alan Kemp defines domestic violence as “a form of maltreatment perpetrated by a person with whom the victim has or had a close personal relationship” (Kemp, p. 36). I believe that using terminology that accurately describes parental alienation as a form of abuse is crucial. Those of us who have experienced it understand that it transcends the label of ‘parental alienation’—a term that is often misunderstood and misused. It encompasses child psychological abuse, spousal psychological abuse, and constitutes a form of violence within the domestic environment.⁠

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Kemp’s book serves as an excellent resource for anyone seeking to understand psychological maltreatment, which, in essence, includes parental alienation. The same categories apply: rejecting (spurning), terrorising, corrupting, denying essential stimulation, emotional unavailability, unreliable parenting, neglect in mental health, medical, or educational contexts, degrading or devaluing, isolating, and exploiting.⁠

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The alienating parent manipulates and exploits the children, isolating them from a nurturing parent and their family, including grandparents, step-parents, step-children. They deny the children their fundamental needs for love and belonging from the targeted parent, thereby neglecting their mental welfare. This parent dismisses the children’s and the targeted parent’s expressions of love and need for one another. The alienating parent not only terrorises and corrupts the children but also prioritises their own desires above the needs of everyone else, including their own children.⁠

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Kemp employs an ecological approach to explore the pervasive issue of family maltreatment, analysing the complex relationships at macro, meso, and micro levels. By addressing questions such as “Why does family maltreatment occur?” “What do its victims experience?” “How do they recover?” “What can we do to help them?” “How can we understand the perpetrators?” and “How might we reduce or prevent family abuse?”, we can better equip ourselves to combat this significant social problem.

The definition of domestic violence presented in Kemp’s work applies aptly to parental alienation, wherein one parent manipulates a child to turn against the other parent, constituting emotional and psychological abuse. My posts are here not to alarm or upset but to spread awareness about what’s known as ‘parental alienation’ and to provide guidance to those who are going through it, as I did myself. Apart from these daily posts, which I hope help you know you’re not alone, and to better understand it’s an attachment disorder, a pathology, it’s not you; please reach out if I can help with the coaching I offer.

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Insidious manifestation of Domestic & Child Abuse ; Parental Alienation – Charlie McCready

Since the 1970s, scientists and psychologists have dedicated extensive research to parental alienation, establishing a clear link between this phenomenon and psychological maltreatment. After decades of ongoing study, parental alienation is now identified as one of the most insidious manifestations of domestic and child abuse, stemming from emotional abuse and family violence.

Parental alienation encompasses a set of characteristics associated with narcissistic and hostile aggressive parenting aimed at intentionally disrupting a child’s relationship with the other parent, usually following a high-conflict separation or divorce. These behaviours cause significant harm, resulting in profound damage to the mental and emotional well-being of the child. Psychologists researching parental alienation widely agree that it constitutes one of the most horrific forms of psychological violence.

Narcissism, marked by an absence of empathy, becomes evident in parental alienation, where the lack of concern for the suffering of both the targeted parent and child is shocking. The narcissistic parent employs manipulation and emotional exploitation to systematically dismantle the image of the targeted spouse, doing so in a brutal manner with the sole intent of eradicating the love the child shares with the other parent.

An alienating parent takes further destructive actions by sabotaging or blocking contact and then misleading the child into believing they’ve been abandoned and is unloved by the same blocked ‘target’ parent. This manipulative tactic encourages the child’s unjustified rejection of a parent they love and who loves them, constituting a form of child psychological abuse.

I’ve been through this myself. Reach out if I can help you with the coaching I offer.

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Adolp Hitler -Monika Aksumit

In 1923 Adolf Hitler incited an insurrection against the German government. He was tried, given a slap on the wrist, and became a convicted felon. Despite being treated charitably by the judge, Hitler claimed the trial was political persecution and successfully portrayed himself as a victim of the “corrupt” Social Democrats.
Hitler cleverly positioned himself as the voice of the “common man,” railing against the “elites,” cultural “degeneracy,” and the establishment, who he all labeled as “Marxists.” He claimed the education system was indoctrinating children to hate Germany, and promised to return Germany to greatness.

To solidify his base, Hitler masterfully scapegoated minorities for the nation’s problems, exploiting societal divisions with an “us vs. them” narrative. Many Germans took the bait. Hitler’s Nazi Party continued to gain traction, until he became Chancellor in 1933.
Hitler appointed German oligarchs as his economic advisors. He proceeded to privatize government run utilities, solidifying support of the economic elite.

With the working class divided along cultural and ethnic lines, the Nazis shut down workers unions and abolished strikes.
Progressives and trade unionists were imprisoned and sent to concentration camps. Corporate profits skyrocketed while working class Germans lived paycheck to paycheck.

Hitler, who became a billionaire while in office, knew he and his clan of oligarchs could get away with the scam if they constantly had an “enemy within” to blame while the corporatocracy robbed the country blind.

An easy target was one of the smallest minorities. Hitler removed birthright citizenship rights of Jews and started rounding them up for mass deportations for being “illegally” in the country.
The German press under Nazi rule highlighted instances of violence by Jews to convince the public that Jewish immigrants were a danger to the “real Germans.”

Hitler wasted no time dismantling democratic institutions. Loyalty wasn’t just encouraged; it was demanded. Opponents were silenced. Media that dared to questioned[sic] him were vilified as “the enemy” and “Marxists.”

Hitler’s Propaganda Minister, Joseph Goebbels, bragged about how the Nazis were able to intimidate the media into giving them favorable coverage, and didn’t need to give direct orders.
The Nazi regime and its followers collected all books they saw as promoting “degeneracy” or what would be considered “woke” today, and burned them in large bonfires. They also burned books that promoted class consciousness.

Berlin had a thriving LGBTQ community in the 1920s, and even had the first transgender clinic. The Nazis burned it to the ground. LGBTQ people were sent to concentration camps and forced to wear triangle badges. Many were killed in the Holocaust.
The Nazis also saw manhood as under threat by independent women who didn’t rely on men. In 1934, Hitler proclaimed, “A women’s world is her her husband, her family, her children, her house.” Laws that had protected women’s rights were repealed and new laws were introduced to restrict women to the home and in their roles as wives and mothers.

Reproductive rights were severely rolled back, and doctors who performed abortions could face the death penalty.
Despite all of this, the German people didn’t have a similar historical parallel to look upon as a warning.
Most Germans never acted like the sky was falling.

Most just went along with their lives as usual, until many of their lives were snuffed out. By the time Hitler’s reign was forced to an end by the Allied Powers, 11 million people were murdered in the Holocaust, and 70-85 million were killed in WW2 .

Monica Aksamit
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Just thought everyone needed a refresher course on this tragic part of world history.

“All men are created equal” reality

This is amazing 🤩

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