Category: Parential Alienation-Child Abuse

Discovery

I’m in a ” discovery ” phase as I unpack the load retrieved from storage ( 80 plus mile , round trip ) that I drove for the 1st time . With an excellent helper with who I flow well with , we entered the unit with no problem but with no real idea where things were except the cloths that A. R. pulled out for me last trip .

So it was a Blessing to find my boots , foods and spices and more supplements that are needed !

I have been challenged this past week with lower back issues and for 36 hours have nursed myself 👍🙏❤️

And it’s much better with lots of heat , sweat and Tiger Balm !

So I pulled out a few items that I was able to pick up from yet another storage and saw a big bulge in my cloth ice cooler . It was A.R. and it was what is pictured below 👇!

Both are needed !

So all my stored stuff is A.R. packed ( heavily ; he’s very strong and has moved me singlehanded!) Several times …

I did not see a disconnect, and sadly it comes yet again at a critical time , which is why it’s ended .

I have declined to mother single Dads kids , younger friends who ask me to help out and I did with a very chill 11 year old even going to lunch at her school. It was very enlightening to set a table with her female class mates . We took pictures and talked but I don’t share those .

An invitation on a holiday , was ignored and I feel it was known that was a boundary .

I don’t allow , knowingly allow children to be used in competitive power games . It’s abuse …

I have not heard from A.R. since 9/12. I sense something is off balance .

I have had to make other arrangements that , I regret for his sake . A beautiful young man , of honor and a inquisitive human being like me .

Like a teacher/student connection for both of us , most of the time . However as time as revealed , he’s more and more needed at the family home where he’s able to do from A to Z !

And that is where I must take alternative measures as I prepare for winter , and strive to have all my things under 1 roof , as I wait for my house .

My 98 4Runner is seeming to always need repair and that’s dicey because parts are scant and often require fabrication .

I purchased brake shoes and it seemed doable for A.R. , then it wasn’t . And yes something has to be fabricated to augment the brake shoes .

LED lights required new lenses that are back ordered and $400

A decision was made to replace the LED with halogen and align then. Mine have needed adjusting and it’s very difficult to see at night .

I have a chip monk nest in my AC which is interesting 🤨.

I’m Thankful for all that he is . I was patient , sometimes extremely patient , but the communication ended .

His journey of spirit is his to direct , his acceptance of adulthood within himself ; I am very proud to have known him and had him in my life for he has been an honorable young man , compassionate and made me feel safe .

There were times when that was ” off ” and I began to understand his responsibilities which left little ” me ” time and pushing the envelope, with his time . Lack of sleep , self medicating …… it’s hard work !

I sense a break through ; praying it’s not a break down .

This young man is so worthy , so awesome and unique and though I miss him ; I am surrendered to the wisdom of Divine 🙏❤️

Blessings & Much Peace ☮️

Dona Luna ❤️

Peer Support Effective in Recovery

I did not have positive support from established groups ; much the opposite…. they had their own language and resources that were not healthy to me . And they were solid on RX treatment which I knew was slowly killing me physically .

A new study published in Psychological Medicine finds that peer support interventions (PSIs) can effectively facilitate recovery from mental illness across various settings. These results allow a deeper look into how peer support services may aid individuals in recovery and what types of recovery may be accessible through PSIs.

“Peer support involves a mutual exchange of practical and emotional support, based on ‘shared understanding, respect, and mutual empowerment between people in similar situations with critical ingredients such as shared responsibility, hope, self-determination over one’s life, and the use of lived experience knowledge,” write the authors, led by Dorien Smit, a researcher at Radboud University and Pro Persona GGz.

Peer Support Effective for Clinical and Personal Recovery

www.madinamerica.com/2022/10/peer-support-effective-clinical-personal-recovery/

She Lived 122 years , 124 days

Meet Madam Jeanne Louise Calment, who had the longest confirmed human lifespan: 122 years, 164 days. Apparently, fate strongly approved of the way she lived her life. She was born in Arles, France, on February 21, 1875. The Eiffel Tower was built when she was 14 years old. It was at this time she met Vincent van Gogh. “He was dirty, badly dressed, and disagreeable,” she recalled in an interview given in 1988.

When she was 85, she took up fencing, and still rode her bike when she reached 100. At the age of 114, she starred in a film about her life, at age 115 she had an operation on her hip, and at age 117 she gave up smoking, having started at the age of 21 in 1896. She didn’t give it up for health reasons; her reason was that she didn’t like having to ask someone to help her light a cigarette once she was nearly blind.

In 1965, Jeanne was 90 years old and had no heirs. She signed a deal to sell her apartment to a 47-year-old lawyer called AndrÊ-François Raffray. He agreed to pay her a monthly sum of 2,500 francs on the condition he would inherit her apartment after she died. However, Raffray not only ended up paying Jeanne for 30 years, but then died before she did at the age of 77. His widow was legally obliged to continue paying Madam Calment until the end of her days.

Jeanne retained sharp mental faculties. When she was asked on her 120th birthday what kind of future she expected to have. Her reply, “A very short one.”

Here are the Rules of Life from Jeanne Louise Calment:

“I’m in love with wine.”

“All babies are beautiful.”

“I think I will die of laughter.”

“I’ve been forgotten by our Good Lord.”

“I’ve got only one wrinkle, and I’m sitting on it.”

“I never wear mascara; I laugh until I cry often.”

“If you can’t change something, don’t worry about it.”

“Always keep your smile. That’s how I explain my long life.”

“I see badly, I hear badly, and I feel bad, but everything’s fine.”

“I have a huge desire to live and a big appetite, especially for sweets.”

“I have legs of iron, but to tell you the truth, they’re starting to rust and buckle a bit.”

“I took pleasure when I could. I acted clearly and morally and without regret. I’m very lucky.”

“Being young is a state of mind, it doesn’t depend on one’s body. I’m actually still a young girl, it’s just that I haven’t looked so good for the past 70 years.”

At the end of one interview, the journalist said, “Madame, I hope we will meet again sometime next year.” To which Jeanne replied, “Why not? You’re not that old; you’ll still be here!”

The image with the wings is a piece of art by

L. Lichtenfells

Greatest Gift

“Life is so frequently unbearable–you think you can’t possibly go on. Life–the survival of life–is the getting up again and going on, and the means of doing this vary, but at the heart of all things moving forward is the realization–for me, at any rate–that the world, your friends, your own broken heart need your friendship and your laughter and your willingness to go on. Break down and acknowledge your loss, your anger, your diminishing assets, but fall right back on a laugh, a story, a meal–whatever you can cobble together and give to someone else, to yourself.

“My sadness has always been, I think, a reminder that, in my spell of solitude and serenity, the world was still out there getting beat up, people were in pain, and I need to get back to tending to them.

“The greatest gift sometimes is the outstretched hand.”–Alec Guinness/Interview with James Grissom/1997

Refusing Less

“Most of my life has been spent trying to shrink myself. Trying to become smaller. Quieter. Less sensitive. Less opinionated. Less needy. Less me. Because I didn’t want to be a burden. I didn’t want to be too much or push people away. I wanted people to like me. I wanted to be cared for and valued. I wanted to be wanted.

So for years, I sacrificed myself for the sake of making other people happy. And for years, I suffered. But I’m tired of suffering, and I’m done shrinking. It’s not my job to change who I am to become someone else’s idea of a worthwhile human being.

I am worthwhile.

Not because other people think I am, but because I exist, and therefore I matter.

My thoughts matter. My feelings matter. My voice matters. And with or without anyone’s permission or approval, I will continue to be who I am and speak my truth. Even if it makes people angry. Even if it makes them uncomfortable. Even if they choose to leave. I refuse to shrink.

I choose to take up space. I choose to honor my feelings. I choose to permit myself to get my needs met.

I choose to make self-care a priority.

I choose me.”

–Daniell Koepke

Art | Ronnie Biccard

Nots : Badass Women

I have taken the liberty of making a list of things we are not doing anymore.

We are not overgiving as if we may die for enforcing a boundary.

We are not people-pleasing as if anyone’s validation is going to mean one damn thing on our next bad day.

We are not over-functioning as if there is no one else that can do it.

We are not practicing needy behavior. You are enough and you have been given everything that you need to be who you are.

We are not practicing passive-aggressive behaviors. If you have something to say by all means say it.

We are not giving up our power as if we are small children.

Own who you are.

Stop playing the victim.

You are a warrior,

a survivor,

a BADDASS!

We are not giving ultimatums. People are who they are, they deserve the same space that you do to be you, to make your own decisions that are not based on someone else’s opinions.

We are not doing this shit anymore. Instead, we practice self-love and through self-love, we heal ourselves.

They are not the tragic ending but the heroine of our own story.

Hope Strait

A Moon Woman’s Musings

To the Woman who is fading away

To The Woman Who Is

Slowly Fading Away

To the woman who has

lost her spark.

To the woman who’s

get up and go,

has well and truly gone.

~THIS IS FOR YOU~

This is to remind you, that you don’t have to be everything to everyone, every day.

You didn’t sign up for that.

Remember when you used to

laugh, sing and throw caution to the wind?

Remember when you used to forgive yourself more quickly for not always being perfect?

You can get that back again.

You really can.

And that doesn’t have to mean letting people down or walking away.

It just means being kinder to you, and feeling brave enough to say no sometimes.

Being brave enough to stop sometimes and rest.

It starts the moment you realize that you’re not quite who you used to be.

Some of that is good, and some of that is not.

There are parts of you that need to be brought back.

And if anyone in your life is not okay with that…they are not your people.

Your people will be glad to see that spark starting to light up again.

So, if you have been slowly fading away my friend, this is the time to start saying yes to things that bring you joy and no

to things that don’t.

It’s pretty simple.

–Donna Ashworth

Image | Unknown

Pfizer Confesses : Jab doesn’t prevent COVID

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