Want to Feel Closer? How You Respond To Common Conversational Cues Can Make All The Difference
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Trying harder : Compliant Partners , Abused On soul level
Stop Calling Women Nags — How Emotional Labor is Dragging Down Gender Equality
I never knew this, from tracing to Germany with no discussion,
I lived with the rigidly of a partner who was critical of my every
move or non move. Asking for help when it is clearly needed ,
was part and parcel of ” marriage ” to an under developed
emotionally stuck man child . I realized he wasn’t meeting
in the middle. He worked outside the home and that’s all he
had to do. Taking a road job he was away 3 days a week,
in order to dodge responsibility ..
Sadly , many adult men were ” sheltered ” in the model of
trauma bond with mom, ” matured ” socially , but from
birth has had less emotionally grounding /bonding with
Mom, and need and deserve it ..The interactions of parents
can very will imprint the male child with fear of emotions
watching Mom treated like a servant..
Gifts were seldom a surprise , request circumvented his either
ignoring the event , or a gift that had no rhythm or rhyme .
Adult men seldom transform this naturally, many
beaten into submission by a spouse who threatens
using kids as leverage .. a huge mistake , for
seldom does a man romance or honor a woman
wife who ” mothers ” him.. the nurture of each
should be the bridge ..
The unpaid job men still don’t understand.
— Read on www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a12063822/emotional-labor-gender-equality/
Depression in Men: It Looks Different Than You Might Think
Much more to add , ASAP .
There is a big emphasis in our society on men being strong and tough. They should be able to handle anything and shouldn’t struggle with emotions and feelings.
— Read on psychcentral.com/lib/depression-in-men-it-looks-different-than-you-might-think/
For Domestic Violence Survivors, Family Court Becomes Site of Continued Abuse
This too is changing , as awareness becomes reality ,
compassionate folks who stand beside children in
courts , insuring no trauma, or advantage is targeted
against a child in continuation of a parent who
is indisposed , disadvantaged , out monied , ie
discriminated against in every way . A very grievous,
vulgar and unnecessary , socially accepted human
rights violation.. And it’s motion of transformation
is upon us as leaders domestically abuse us , shadow
is exposed and thankfully a million stars align
to open a healing as never imagined ..Heaven
on Hearth begins with Peace in Ones ♥️
Family courts often lean toward joint custody, a preference that some abusers use to continue harassing former partners.
— Read on truthout.org/articles/for-domestic-violence-survivors-family-court-becomes-site-of-continued-abuse/
Donald Trump Says Men WhoTake Care of Their Kids Are Acting ‘Like the Wife’ | Fortune
Discovery of this adaptation with the father of my child , was
further enhanced by an attitude of ownership . If I were graded t
it would have been incomplete in every way . His nurture was
seldom and utilized to remedy a situation , he was not able
to navigate emotionally. In our 1st year , I was subjected to
devastating abuses that I had to review in triggered C- PTSD
which was not known to me at the time…it was a hell
come to earth.
In denial of anything but surface , friendship that often insulted
even that , and the unexpected rages never afforded me security.
That became personified in his partner , and the committee of
3 enjoyed the insults that occurred when I was allowed to
participate in son’s life experiences .. I was not allowed knowledge
of much including a near death crisis as our youngest attended
college out of state .. Of course he feels I failed as a Mom
an addict via psychiatry by choice to get out of being his mom.
Lacking emotion , adhering to the male model of affluence,
belonging to the right clubs , knowing the right person to call
a ” brother” who will aide and never tell. His nickname in
his home ” brother” , cannot connect emotionally , a feminine
reaction abused out of him? Or modeled by a society that has
allowed his life lessons to be ” evaporated ” if disagreeable to
uphold his perception of importance in his world.
I represent his failures , his secrets , his failings , and his imbalance
of masculine and feminine energy . Disrespect , and Abuse is
from inside out , and very repressive and depressive .. he
withheld to the point of reducing himself to a void , and my
surrogacy as he embraced breakneck change and success in
his career , our home became ever more a place to drop in,
participate as much as he could , much in the social aspect
giving the look of normal family …Doors were never shut against
him , he busted them through ..he had ever increasing
meetings or out of towns , speaking his truths , ie confessing
by 3rd person stories , always another guy , which began 3
months into our marriage . His employees also were his cover
for sexual pursuits that I painfully discovered never conveyed
love, intimacy or attachment .
As a very sick, physically ill , misdiagnosed mental patient
his detachment was utterly soul snatching , as I painfully
watched the erosion of our ” family” knowing his search
for love would never end .. Draining those who failed him
he has chosen to continue his efforts to hold me responsible
for my abuse and the loss of all the connectedness with our
sons, his brother/friends , ever ” his ” …
Trump talks about his views on fatherhood in a series of past interviews
— Read on fortune.com/2016/04/24/trump-act-like-wife/
Seldom Used My Proper Name
Home | Brené Brown
I have several of her books and she makes perfect sense
on many levels..shame , trauma etc
And Daring Greatly !
Brené Brown – Dr. Brené Brown is a research professor who has spent the past two decades studying courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy and is the author of four #1 New York Times bestsellers.
— Read on brenebrown.com/
Mom’s blistering rant on how men should be blamed for all unwanted pregnancies going crazy viral. | GOOD
Told , I had to stop BC pills , or risk never having a baby.
Pregnant 3. Months into our wedded bliss, I’m deliciously
happy , feeling blessed , and he shut down.. Blaming me
as if he were cheated on a decision; he failed at taking charge
for BC , but blamed me as he states his ” had to ” marriage ,
warning , always skipping out of how I became a single
parent , as he came and went at will.
‘All unwanted pregnancies are caused by the the irresponsible ejaculations of men’.
— Read on www.good.is/articles/unwanted-pregnancies-men-at-fault
What Causes Attachment Based Parental Alienation in Narcissistic Relationships? | The Recovery Expert
Psychiatric Dr created the ” unfit mother ” in me
with toxic RX , incapacitating me , so my abuser
had a clear shot to have a separation and divorce
he paid 2 lawyers to put together his way.
3 men came together , to cut me off at the knees
avoiding facts, for which I had 30 days to respond
to …I incorrectly thought my lawyer had my best
interest at heart .
He had been partners with ex’s lawyer , and over
powered, with only 6 % of his work in family law.
Of course it took, coming to , reading the contracts
of dissolution as if I were in agreement , ” no fault”
was his desire . Making me responsible for my own
health care , and legal fees. As to personal property
he had me signing loan notes , buying himself
and sons cars, and his new love and he going through
our home , keeping all he wanted ..
To say I had a choice, as a misdiagnosed and medicated
mental patient , cover up of such much abuse
where winner takes all, and that’s generated by money.
Whose lawyer is connected and or owed a favor
and not about what’s best for children. Of course
he saved tons , waiting until youngest was 16…
Gone Guy ARE You Happy ? Yet . That gal he left
with/for left him this year …
And all he said as he left , was he had to leave to be
happy , openly dating immediately, living with her
leaving our youngest to live in our very neglected
and abused home .
Of course that was my fault too. Too sick to do
my job , was laziness .
As a Dad , as a partner he did much harm..As a
monied landowner , he has had family connections
and seemingly a permanent ” get out of jail free
card ” and it’s always the other person’s fault.
“It’s funny how sometimes the people you’d take the bullet for, are the ones behind the trigger.” What exactly is parental alienation in the context of a
— Read on pro.psychcentral.com/recovery-expert/2017/11/what-causes-attachment-based-parental-alienation-in-narcissistic-relationships/
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