This Dr, David Miller is very knowledgeable
on the dynamics that adversely affect, children/family through
legal and medical systems.
Tag: marriage
How to Call Your Lawmakers : Domestic Shelters /Domestic Violence
You want to talk to your lawmakers about changes that need to happen in the laws—where do you start?
— Read on www.domesticshelters.org/domestic-violence-articles-information/how-to-call-your-lawmakers
Women Over 30 Are Leaving Their Husbands and Boyfriends For Other Women
Baby Boomers not so much… recent awareness of this , regardless
of leaving hubby or not ..
not my cup pa
According to some doctors and researchers, there has been in increase in sexual fluidity in women over 30. Here, one writer who experienced this exact situation digs into why that might be.
— Read on www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/women-over-30-leaving-husbands-220000563.html
Domestic violence and a simple tool called the ‘No Test’ could identify an abusive partner – ABC News (Australian Broadcasting Corporation)
My experience is of professionals who either don’t know
Domestic Abuse, or those who don’t care ; professionals
who like the rest of the undereducated, 50 years of stuck
evolution , requiring a flow of truthful teachings .
Women often find out too late that their partner is violent — and they blame themselves — but one domestic violence counsellor has identified an early warning sign of possible abusive behaviour.
— Read on www.abc.net.au/news/2019-01-31/how-the-no-test-could-help-prevent-domestic-violence/10764100
Lawyer disbarred for helping client hide funds from wife in divorce, then spent the money | NJ.com
Had he not spent the money saved client , only
saving client, I’m betting this would have never come
up.. it’s a joke , at how common this is.
Lawyer disbarred for helping client hide funds from wife in divorce, then spent the money | NJ.com
— Read on www.nj.com/middlesex/index.ssf/2013/10/lawyer_disbarred_for_helping_client_hide_funds_from_wife_in_divorce_then_use_the_funds_for_himself.html
How Narcissistic Parents Infantilize Kids | Psychology Today
This perfectly explains the dynamics I have been
aware of since Mid year 1978 , after sharing our joy
and witnessing the immaturity , and projected
blame of a man who had known this dynamic for
his entire life.
Typically saving the storied that solidified a lifestyle
that afforded a connection to call and a resolution
to all acceptance of responsibility. As our children
were abused in GM’s care, I have no doubt of physical
and mental abuse that was supported by money as
a god. I was , along with our sons were considered a
drain , financially , and slowly that combined with
drink , and sex addictions, with adverse parenting that
was more ” uncle” that dad. Partnership was with the
mother, never me, nor the ” replacement” , and of course
neither were ” liked” by mom , only tolerated until
shredding the completion .
Affluence, memberships, religious afflictions , secrets abound
with the constant projection of blame at any target . Our sons
and DIL have been ” targeted ” as well, depending on what’s
going on at the time. Vampires, emotionally , spiritually
who choose to remain ignorant and defensive of any
and all responsibility , considering my demise completed
old history .. Hero’s , the mom and son, who ” saved ” our
children by killing me alive , to save their abuse secrets
lies, begetting more lies..
Very comfortable that money and connections are their
constant out, which has been supported by professionals
who choose to do that in a network of dank dark shadow.
Narcissists as parents create children who themselves can develop their own problems. New research shows how infantilization plays out when those children grow up.
— Read on www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201810/how-narcissistic-parents-infantilize-kids
After he cross-examined me, my abuser was allowed to see our sons – and he killed them | Metro News
In the trying times now upon us , this becomes more prevalent,
more ghastly, in large part to the adversary driven professionals
who benefit from the fragmented relationships.
That belief has been very impressive in profit for the law, and
the family has been erased in competition , game playing
detachment and power.
Content warning: This article contains descriptions of domestic abuse and violence. It took just 15 minutes on 22 October 2014 for my world to end and my heart to be…
— Read on metro.co.uk/2019/01/22/after-he-cross-examined-me-the-courts-allowed-my-abusive-ex-to-see-our-sons-and-he-killed-them-8372846/
Ego Loves Pain, and Does Not Want You to Heal.
Why Family Courts Cannot Protect Children: ACE vs. PAS. * Cannot? Do not, just more abuse ..
Consequences
The essence of domestic violence is that abusers use a variety of tactics to scare and coerce their partners to do what the abuser wants. This results in the mother and children living in fear. There are ten adverse childhood experiences. In the context of a contested custody case, the child usually starts with a score of one for the parents separating, one for domestic violence and one for emotional abuse of the child. Fathers who abuse the mother are 40-60% more likely to also abuse the children physically and sexually. If both, that would increase the score to 5. If one or both parents have a substance abuse problem or mental illness those are two more possible points. Physical or emotional neglect are two more possibilities. Significantly all of the other ACEs are more likely when a father abuses a mother. An ACE score of 6 results in an average reduction in life expectancy of 20 years.
— Read on nomas.org/family-courts-protect-children-ace-vs-pas/
20 & pregnant in 1950
They asked me to tell you what it was like to be twenty and pregnant in 1950 and when you tell your boyfriend you’re pregnant, he tells you about a friend of his in the army whose girl told him she was pregnant, so he got all his buddies to come and say,
*** ” We all fucked her, so who knows who the father is?” And he laughs at the good joke….
( This was the threat against my Mom at 17)
What was it like, if you were planning to go to graduate school and get a degree and earn a living so you could support yourself and do the work you loved—what it was like to be a senior at Radcliffe and pregnant and if you bore this child, this child which the law demanded you bear and would then call “unlawful,” “illegitimate,” this child whose father denied it … What was it like? […]
It’s like this: if I had dropped out of college, thrown away my education, depended on my parents … if I had done all that, which is what the anti-abortion people want me to have done, I would have borne a child for them, … the authorities, the theorists, the fundamentalists; I would have born a child for them, their child.
But I would not have born my own first child, or second child, or third child. My children.
The life of that fetus would have prevented, would have aborted, three other fetuses … the three wanted children, the three I had with my husband—whom, if I had not aborted the unwanted one, I would never have met … I would have been an “unwed mother” of a three-year-old in California, without work, with half an education, living off her parents….
But it is the children I have to come back to, my children Elisabeth, Caroline, Theodore, my joy, my pride, my loves. If I had not broken the law and aborted that life nobody wanted, they would have been aborted by a cruel, bigoted, and senseless law. They would never have been born. This thought I cannot bear.
What was it like, in the Dark Ages when abortion was a crime, for the girl whose dad couldn’t borrow cash, as my dad could? What was it like for the girl who couldn’t even tell her dad, because he would go crazy with shame and rage? Who couldn’t tell her mother? Who had to go alone to that filthy room and put herself body and soul into the hands of a professional criminal? – because that is what every doctor who did an abortion was, whether he was an extortionist or an idealist.
You know what it was like for her. You know and I know; that is why we are here. We are not going back to the Dark Ages. We are not going to let anybody in this country have that kind of power over any girl or woman. There are great powers, outside the government and in it, trying to legislate the return of darkness. We are not great powers. But we are the light. Nobody can put us out. May all of you shine very bright and steady, today and always.
Ursula K. Le Guin
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