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Anger

“If you don’t like something someone is doing that’s your shadow”

“If you have a negative judgement about someone that’s a projection”

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“If you feel angry that’s actually your past trauma getting triggered”

“If you feel a strong NO to something that’s your ego being in resistance”

And-

“All of these are opportunities to look within. Work on yourself. As well as open and surrender your resistance”

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I used to believe these things.

They informed my life and my choices.

Yes, sometimes they are true.

They are not rules to be applied blindly to everything.

Like many “conscious women” they paved the way for my own ritualized self harm in the form of pathological self gaslighting.

They drained my life force and dissociated me from my self protective instincts and wisdom.

They entrapped me in narcissistic cult/abusive relationship dynamics.

They groomed me to be perfect prey.

I have watched so many people lost in this labyrinth of false spirituality, completely disconnected from themselves.

Completely dissociated from their own precious human existence. Their own sacred inner knowing.

Getting no where in their “healing” or “awakening”.

Spinning their wheels with no wisdom.

Trapped in the mind and held hostage by these beliefs.

Beliefs which I now believe are a kind of virus that originated from the minds of abusers wrapped in spiritual robes.

I have seen women’s healthy defenses completely dismantled by this paradigm.

I have watched women become sick and sucked dry because of these beliefs.

One woman I loved even died.

Anger is what broke this spell for me.

Anger is what clarified my ability to see.

Anger was the medicine that brought me back to life.

Anger is what grounded me back into my body and sanity.

Anger is exactly what this paradigm does not want you to feel and own.

Now I wonder who would be motivated to tell you that?

Take Your Time : Sherrie Campbell PhD

When toxic people leave your life, or you decide to get them out of your life, you are gifted the time and space to self-reflect on what you learned and to see where you need to grow to become stronger. If you skip the self-reflection process, you will repeat your pattern of attracting toxic people into your life over and again.

Life is hard after toxic people exit because they have twisted your head in a million different directions causing you to doubt yourself and your perception of things. It takes time in self-reflection to right yourself in the direction of what you know to be the truth of your experience.

Take the proper time to heal. Take the time you need to trust that you are not and were not crazy. Take the time to recognize you were abused and in what ways you were abused. Taking this time helps you see what you need to see in others to keep yourself safe.

Trauma Bonds& Children

Did you know that we’re not the only ones who experience trauma-bonding in toxic relationships?

If you have a narcissist in your home with your children (as their parent or otherwise), they will become trauma-bonded, too.

This partly explains why many children, regardless of age, seem to “side” with the narcissistic parent. There are other reasons for this, but trauma bonding is one of the primary ones. They can’t help themselves.

I wrote an article about the damage narcissists does to children. You can read it here:

👉 https://bit.ly/NarcissistsDevastateChildren

Just as you have a hard time analyzing why you dislike the narcissist, but can’t seem to leave them, children are even less equipped to handle trauma-bonding and the other symptoms that arise from narcissistic abuse.

Many of the same dynamics that you experience in your relationship with the narcissist, your children are also experiencing, no matter how much you may try to shield them.

For example, if the narcissist is your partner and they constantly cheat on you, your children experience the backlash from this, as well. And not only from the narcissist, unfortunately. Think about it…if you’re constantly cheated on by the narcissist, how many hours do you spend playing detective, checking out social media for proof, researching narcissism, having meltdowns in your bedroom, and chatting in the forums?

What often happens is that children are not only ignored and neglected by the narcissist, but you can’t be present with them, either, when you are constantly devastated by repeated infidelities and other relationship dramas.

But aside from that, your children become trauma-bonded to the very person you’re trying to protect them from. There’s really no way to shield them from this if there is a narcissist in the home.

Just as you become euphoric over relationship crumbs, so do children.

Just as you become devastated by the lies, so do children.

We want to believe that children are emotionally resilient, but we are now seeing the devastating effects of this old belief. Just as with us, the trauma they experience becomes deeply embedded and affects them their whole lives…often leading them into their own toxic relationships as they mature and become adults.

When there is a narcissist in the home, children cannot learn what healthy love is and many of their own needs are overlooked or unnoticed. There isn’t a magical bubble that protects them from the dysfunctional dynamics of toxic relationships with dysfunctional people.

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Ready to put up an electric fence? Then (if you haven’t already), make sure you watch my free workshop on severing trauma bonds.

🖥️ https://bit.ly/7StepsBreaktheNarcissisticSpell

Always thinking of you. Xo

Kim

Cosmic Mother

”But patriarchy must maintain, by force, an unnatural system. Since the supreme creator is a male, woman must be redefined as “male property,” i.e., as “wife.” In fact the very idea of a male Creator God carries within itself the necessity for some kind of tightly controlled class-caste society. Because it is only through the creation of life through human mothers, now passive and powerless, that the male God can claim glory for himself. He cannot, he does not go through the dangerous episode of childbirth in his own person. He uses women to do it for him. Then, contrary to the truth, he claims that he is the all-mighty creator. The woman, at best, is patronized for her role as “divine housewife.” –Monica Sjoo & Barbara Mor, The Great Cosmic Mother

Cosmic Mother Birthing by Melissa Shemanna

Medusa

“By turning men to stone [Medusa] prevented “the male gaze,” thus denying the possibility that women could be defined by men . . .

Her snakes represent unintimidatable self-possession. She had to be killed because by her very existence she could expose the contingency of the Law of the Fathers . . . Medusa symbolizes female potential. In short, Medusa is the unvarnished, undomesticated counternarrative to patriarchy.”

~ Ann Scales

Ann C. Scales was an American lawyer, activist, and law professor at the University of Denver Sturm College of Law from 2003 to 2012, where she taught in constitutional law, sexual orientation and the law, civil procedure and torts.

Art: Red K Elders Art, “Medusa”

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Warrior’s Reality

If the warrior does not feel alone and sad, then he or she can be corrupted very easily. In fact, such a person may not be a warrior at all. To be a good warrior, one has to feel sad and lonely, but rich and resourceful at the same time. This makes the warrior sensitive to every aspect of phenomena: to sights, smells, sounds, and feelings. In that sense, the warrior is also an artist, appreciating whatever goes on in the world. Everything is extremely vivid. The rustling of your armor or the sound of rain drops falling on your coat is very loud. The fluttering of occasional butterflies around you is almost an insult, because you are so sensitive.

Trauma Response


The inability to receive support from others is a trauma response.
Your “I don’t need anyone, I’ll just do it all myself” conditioning is a survival tactic. And you needed it to shield your heart from abuse, neglect, betrayal, and disappointment from those who could not or would not be there for you.
From the parent who was absent and abandoned you by choice or the parent who was never home from working three jobs to feed and house you.
From the lovers who offered sexual intimacy but never offered a safe haven that honoured your heart.
From the friendships and family who ALWAYS took more than they ever gave.
From all the situations when someone told you “we’re in this together” or “I got you” then abandoned you, leaving you to pick up the pieces when shit got real, leaving you to handle your part and their part, too.
From all the lies and all the betrayals.
You learned along the way that you just couldn’t really trust people. Or that you could trust people, but only up to a certain point.
Extreme-independence IS. A. TRUST. ISSUE.
You learnt: if I don’t put myself in a situation where I rely on someone, I won’t have to be disappointed when they don’t show up for me, or when they drop the ball… because they will ALWAYS drop the ball EVENTUALLY right?
You may even have been intentionally taught this protection strategy by generations of hurt ancestors who came before you.
Extreme-independence is a preemptive strike against heartbreak.
So, you don’t trust anyone.
And you don’t trust yourself, either, to choose people.
To trust is to hope, to trust is to be vulnerable.
“Never again,” you vow.
But no matter how you dress it up and display it proudly to make it seem like this level of independence is what you always wanted to be, in truth it’s your wounded, scarred, broken heart behind a protective brick wall.
Impenetrable. Nothing gets in. No hurt gets in. But no love gets in either.
Fortresses and armor are for those in battle, or who believe the battle is coming.
It’s a trauma response.
The good news is trauma that is acknowledged is trauma that can be healed.
You are worthy of having support.
You are worthy of having true partnership.
You are worthy of love.
You are worthy of having your heart held.
You are worthy to be adored.
You are worthy to be cherished.
You are worthy to have someone say, “You rest. I got this.” And actually deliver on that promise.
You are worthy to receive.
You are worthy to receive.
You are worthy.
You don’t have to earn it.
You don’t have to prove it.
You don’t have to bargain for it.
You don’t have to beg for it.
You are worthy.
Worthy.
Simply because you exist.

  • Jamila White

CERN Georgia’s Reaction via Stone

The 10 principals of man

kind for New Earth were

on those tablets of granite

even touching on reducing

our population.

Population control via the

New World Order .

Fingernails on the chalkboard

shadow ; you’ve exposed

yourself .

youtube.com/watch