Tag: family

Indoctrination of Alienated / Psychologically Abused Child

These alienated children are so indoctrinated and enmeshed that they lose critical thinking skills when it comes to the ‘target’ parent. They can easily hurt our feelings and provoke a reaction from us by their words and behaviours, and we have to find the strength and calmness of mind to remember not to react in anger, not to make them feel guilty, not to talk about our feelings (hurt, anger, frustration). It only pushes them away, which is often what they’re trying to actualize because cutting off makes it easier for them when they’re under such emotional pressure. Be calm, be loving, be non-reactive. They will come up with the most unbelievable fictions. I was told once: ‘It’s not fair a parent is alone at Christmas’. This was the reason given that they never saw me! Do they forget we are parents too? No. But they ‘split’. They can’t deal with it, so they almost pretend it’s not happening. It gets buried. It is too confusing and too upsetting. That is because they do love us. They’ve been prevented from feeling it’s okay to love us and told all sorts of horror stories to make them reject us which they can perpetuate themselves. But deep down, they know the truth. It’s a matter of them finding it and setting it free.

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Targeted parents , don’t see it coming

As target parents, we do not foresee alienation from our child/ren. That is not because we are weak, gullible, stupid or ignorant. It’s because it’s not loving behaviour, and it is not something a mentally healthy parent would do. It’s not what we would do. There may have been signs (narcissism, for one) but still, we didn’t imagine the other parent would be willing to hurt the child/ren so they could hurt us. We hoped and trusted that the child/ren would be of the highest importance. Someone told me yesterday that a judge, before taking custody of his son, said the ruling was ‘against his better judgement’. How ridiculous! If the judge thinks it’s not right, then why make the ruling? He’s a judge! That’s his actual, paid job, to use his best judgement, and not make a ruling that goes against his best judgement. This father also described receiving letters with such statements as; ‘in the best interests of the children’. What hypocrisy! Family courts should understand that a loving parent does not badmouth the other parent, and have the child aligned with them against the other parent. A loving parent encourages and supports the child/ren in having a good relationship with the other parent. They do not coerce the child into fearing, hating and rejecting the other parent. This is psychological abuse. A parent capable of engaging in parental alienation will typically refuse to see the harm they’re doing or to collaborate in any way that’s helpful or remedial. These people do not change. They have poison in their own systems, and their parenting is pathogenic. We have to do all we can, when we can, to be the opposite of the alienator. We have to stay sane, we have to remain the mentally healthy parent amidst the pathology of abuse and lies, and a corrupt/broken healthcare system and appalling family court misunderstandings, rulings and theatricals. It helps to work on ourselves, to find understanding and some kind of acceptance, to be firm/know our boundaries, to be strong, to live a fulfilling life, to stay calm and non-reactive to provocation, to be happy, and to be mentally healthy – all the things the alienating parent is not able to do or be.

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Attachment Pathology- Craig Childress PsyD

Novi Sad, Serbia – 4/28/23

This is a pathology of lies. Everything – everything – surrounding this pathology is a lie.

What you take for reality, is a lie.

This presents as a custody conflict. That is a lie. One parent drives the family conflict into the legal system to abuse the ex-spouse by making it as hard as possible to see their child, and costing them thousands and thousands of dollars fighting in court.

It is financial and emotional abuse of the ex-spouse from a desire to put them on “trial” for being a bad parent (spouse) and making the targeted spouse-and-parent defend themselves against false allegations of being abusive of their child.

This isn’t about custody. Custody is simple. It’s either shared 50-50 or one parent gets school-week and the other gets every-other-weekend.

This isn’t about custody, it’s about pathology. A child rejecting a parent is an attachment pathology – a problem (pathology) in the love-and-bonding system of the brain.

The ONLY cause of severe attachment pathology (a child rejecting a a parent) is child abuse by one parent or the other. In all cases of court-involved custody conflict, a proper risk assessment needs to be conducted to the appropriate differential diagnosis for each parent.

All cases. It should be routine, and the diagnostic assessment protocol should be standardized at the highest professional quality. When possible child abuse is a considered diagnosis, our diagnosis needs to be accurate 100% of the time.

We can do that. We need to do that. We never abandon a single child to child abuse. Not one. We always protect the child from all forms of child abuses 100% of the time.

All forms.

This isn’t about custody. That’s a lie. This is about pathology and its treatment. Attachment pathology. We need a proper risk assessment for child abuse to the appropriate differential diagnosis, and we need an effective treatment plan to fix the attachment pathology displayed by the child.

A pilot program for the family court with university involvement for evaluation research would greatly assist in developing high-quality diagnostic assessment and treatment protocols for the family courts.

We need to end the fighting surrounding the child. This is not complex. It is simple. The ONLY thing that’s missing is the motivation to solve it.

That’s changing. I traveled to the Balkans because it’s changing there.

I encourage the professionals in Serbia and the Balkans to consider an APA presentation in 2024 in Seattle to inform your American colleagues of your developments in your approach to court-involved attachment pathology surrounding child custody conflict.

Come visit me in the Pacific Northwest in 2024. We’ll go visit Mt. Rainier and take in a Mariners game. I’m confident the APA would welcome an international submission. You have top-tier professionals working toward a solution. Work for a year, then come and tell us about it.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

Psychosis Is an Expression of Early Childhood Trauma | Daniel Mackler – Mad In America

This is a perfect summation of trauma, born of abuses unspoken , ignored for decades , until life stressors bring it up for review and healing .

It was so with me, and I was powerless to prevent it , when medicated , I watched it going on with our sons..

With regards to myself and sons , the denial was and still is the foundation for Dad , as it has been his family code, and must be protected from exposure at all cost.

The signs have been there, and in trying to protect or get help , our family was erased and all the icky stuff , denied healing until it’s a monstrous mountain that’s impossible to surmount . Dodging the big stuff , only creates bigger stuff, and when everyone around you has unhealed trauma , denial etc , this becomes a normal set point .

We , as a family attended 1 family counseling session, and ex said he would not return.. not interested

Faith/church/religion was the same; NOT interested..

I came to know his lack of interest in me also, but I noted lack of interest in himself , and a very dark soul wound that drove his desire to be happy , elsewhere , creating a past that served his victim , survivor ” experience”

What makes psychosis confusing is that an eruption of infant trauma is expressing itself through the lens, the body, and the voice of someone who is now an adult.
— Read on www.madinamerica.com/2023/05/psychosis-is-an-expression-of-early-childhood-trauma-daniel-mackler/

The Medicalization of the American Mind – Mad In America

As I experienced the pathology of a diagnosis that was false; a cover up for Domestic, Spiritual,Emotional and financial abuse , I found myself loosing everything . Family destroyed, children ignored and after years of investment in the healing of children , I am surrendering to further investment in myself , with children who like their mother/father guide of 20 years plus , has a trauma bond , secrets, shame etc that’s predominate over healing . Ie : stuck, in denial, or desirous of my demise.

I have been toughened up enough to not show emotions , and not to invest my energies , where I’d prefer not to be any longer .

Watching on the sidelines, taking no interest in me whatsoever, living in distortions , and unforgiving . Knowing how their spirits and souls are affected , and not being heard , in any mode but shaming , blaming and disposal.

Our sons have been guided, by other mothers, wives and abusive relationships , that ” own ” them, and disallow that healing matters, due to the influence that healthy healing might have on their relationships.

Lashing out at me, years ago , requesting I commit suicide , not once but twice …setting me up to be illegally arrested …threatening me with exposure of sexual abuse , writing of these memories ,citing highly distorted experiences , 2 of 3 trying to buy my property , with no though to my future , deny the fact that healing is needed.

With knowledge and awareness of the destiny of actions and none actions , I have no choice but to release , forgive their actions/non actions , for a past , and present that is far from normal , far from love , that prefers secrets, disposal and non forgiveness , and I am assured and assuring that these shadow energies will not be my future.

My efforts to heal myself , will not be breached, of this I am sure , as everything I knew of love was attempted to be destroyed , but I held on .

My prayers for a life of spirit , of sharing experiences and wisdoms are at hand , after much effort , I know my worth , and pray for the deliverance of each child, and adult that lost their normal, natural path , due to a distorted, partner, addictive and abusive , debilitating drugging by psychiatry who have been instrumental in ” erasing families “.

Failure with my own children , who prefer status quo , has taught me well, as years of co council with young people their age , who favor me , and my wisdoms .

While that may not be my future , one on one for the drain on my energy , I will be writing , reading and moving forward unfettered by grievances, abuses etc …for that’s exactly what’s most desired ..that I give up and give in, which just isn’t realistic. Generational trauma and abuse has been resolved , I understand and respect free will, and release the painful , often horrific experiences of past , and disallow any repeats .

Dona Luna 🐸✌️😘❤️

One cause of fragility? Pathologizing our children with psychiatric diagnoses and focusing on a medical solution to life’s problems.
— Read on www.madinamerica.com/2023/05/medicalization-american-mind/

Return of the Great Cosmic Mother

After too long a time the return of the Great Cosmic Mothers

Reactions are across the board

The unhealed make takes this as a sign of war rather than a return of rightful status after the horrific atrocities against women , thus children.

It’s true in my life adversely as an effort to tag/ blame me for my evolution and to stop me at all cost in a distorted energy that deserves healing and or elimination

“The witch-burnings did not take place during the “Dark Ages,” as we commonly suppose. They occurred between the fifteenth and eighteenth centuries– precisely during and following the Renaissance, that glorious period when, as we are taught, “men’s” minds were being freed from bleakness and superstition. While Michelangelo was sculpting and Shakespeare writing, the witches were burning. The whole secular “Enlightenment,” in fact, the male professions of doctor, lawyer, judge, artist, all rose from the ashes of the destroyed women’s culture. Renaissance men were celebrating naked female beauty in their art, while women’s bodies were being tortured and burned by the hundreds of thousands all around them.” ― Monica Sjoo and Barbara Mor, The Great Cosmic Mother: Rediscovering the Religion of the Earth

Art by Eric Drooker

Exits

A Soul of 98 years , passed April 22/23 exiting this real in peaceful sleep. She was a widow of 16 years .

She grew peonies , and gave starts to me and many others in the family that I married . She was a force that only recently renewed her drivers license!

Her passing contributes to the change upon us ; clearing of the past and ending cycles .

🌈

This is my photo , and it’s not of her gifted start, but I had folks stop as I worked in my flower bed , to tell me I had a beautiful garden as a young Mom . Her gift for flowers was known in her area and she provided flower arrangements for her church and others . She created all the floral arrangements for our wedding and reception , giving her only son the best she could and it was pretty awesome . I gave her free reign to pick music out too!

She had done so with her two daughters and I wasn’t really into a wedding so lavish . She paid too , as a divorce’ with a very low paying job and parents who still had 2 kids in house , I was not going to come up with money for this event !

She paid for the reception and it was a blur of changing cloths , and picture taking . Those pictures were by the best photographer in her town and 1 was blown up and put in a frame for the front window !!!

May there be fields and fields endless flowers , near an ocean where you join your Beloved Mr .

Dona Luna 🐸

Lesson Learned

Someone once said “you like taking care of others bc it heals the part of you that needed someone to take care of you”
that hit..

Seems I’ve known that all my life and I was in error believing that certain people “cared “ for me . I didn’t need hoards of folks caring , just authentic folks who did . Thankfully , I keep my faith , despite feeling at times the shadow was winning . Even as a drug induced mental patient , a part of me knew the truth, that it was the toxic RX and even not having a name for it then, trauma was the root of my sadness .

It was a true Blessing , to learn the facts , reading 13 years of medical charts from the psychiatrist, and the damage done , but ignored . As I learned about parental alienation/ child psychology abuse , along with council from Carole Carbone , who certified me as an Intuitive Councilor, I nurtured/ parented myself , and forgiveness and grief for myself transformed my whole life .

Our children don’t accept this , there is no forgiveness , no future , no healing , just the same old past energy . I regret this for their soul growth , Thank them for coming through me , and allowing me to know love deeply , wholly , for the brief time we had .

My efforts , to heal myself , to greet each day with joy , have actualities , and though I may have challenges currently , I am moving through each one , with support , both Divinely higher powered and with Earth Angels that amaze me with sincerity that’s enough .

More challenges may arise , but I will greet them and surmount them and invest in reciprocal efforts in cooperation and trust towards friendships etc .

I pray for each of you to rise to your highest potential, to not let anyone or anything to retard your soul growth , as you let self love ( from inside out ) return you to your place of joy and peace within that love ❤️

Blessings & Peace,

Dona Luna 🐸✌️🙏🏼