There is an Indian proverb that says that everyone is a house with four rooms, a physical, a mental, an emotional, and a spiritual .
Most of us tend to live in one room most of the time but unless we go into every room every day, even if only to keep it aired, we are not a complete person..
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People who alienate their child from a loving parent often exhibit identifiable personality disorders, such as borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. While labelling these individuals as having personality disorders may seem like an attack, it is essential to recognise that they need help rather than pity. Behind their harmful behaviours, such as emotional abuse and coercive control, is an inner core of fear, inadequacy, vulnerability, and worthlessness that drives their actions. Understanding the mental health issues and personality disorders behind parental alienation can guide interventions and support systems to address these issues effectively.
Statistics on the prevalence of personality disorders among alienating parents can be challenging to obtain, as diagnosing personality disorders often requires in-depth psychological assessments and evaluations. Studies and expert observations indicate a higher prevalence of individuals with borderline and narcissistic personality traits among alienating parents.
Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is characterised by difficulties managing emotions, unstable relationships, impulsive behaviour, and a fear of abandonment. These traits can manifest in intense and unstable relationships, including the parent-child relationship, contributing to alienation.
Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) involves a grandiose sense of self-importance, a lack of empathy, and a constant need for admiration and validation. Alienating parents with NPD may manipulate and control their children to maintain a sense of power and control over them, leading to the alienation of the other parent While it is essential to recognise the internal struggles of people with personality disorders, addressing the root causes of their behaviour and the impact it has on the targeted parent and child is equally crucial. Unfortunately, many alienating parents blame the targeted parent, make false allegations, and subject them to psychological abuse, which can be emotionally devastating. Alienating parents typically struggle with self-reflection and are often resistant to seeking help to address their behaviour. As a result, the cycle of harmful and abusive actions towards the targeted parent and the child continues.
Convincing them to seek help can be challenging even though if they could break free from harmful patterns, it would create healthier environments for their children. Simultaneously, interventions should prioritise the well-being of the child and the targeted parent, recognising the pain and distress they experience due to the alienation. Acknowledging the complexities of parental alienation, particularly when personality disorders are involved, is crucial in developing more effective strategies to address this damaging phenomenon and promote healthier family dynamics.
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I definitely believe this and the anger and neglect present during our first pregnancy did adversely affect me , thus our baby .
I pray there is a healing for our child(ren) for each were subjected to at the least was a disinterested Dad .
Alot of people dont know this, but the baby feels everything the mother feels.
Every heart break, every smile, every single emotional thing. Even touch! When hugging the father and just taking that time to breath the baby can feel that love. That feeling of warmth and security. At 22 weeks the baby has started to learn voices and can tell which voice is peaceful to its mother and which voice hurts the mother. They have become aware of most sounds around them. By 26 weeks the baby can develop emotions for him or herself on feelings the mother feels. By 30 weeks the baby has picked who’s voice it is most favored towards. Needless to say, dont stress yourself. Cause your baby feels it all. ❤️💕
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The emotional strain and confusion resulting from parental conflict can be overwhelming. The child may feel powerless, torn between loyalty to both parents or fearful of displeasing the ‘favoured’ alienating parent. Fear of displeasing the alienating parent, coupled with emotional manipulation and coercion, may prompt the child to distance themselves emotionally from the targeted parent, resorting to disassociation as a protective measure or psychologically ‘split’. This is because the child’s mind instinctively resorts to disassociation to protect itself from intense emotional distress.
Disassociation offers the child a psychological escape from the distress caused by parental alienation. By emotionally detaching from the alienated parent, the child shields themselves from the pain and confusion of their situation, essentially numbing themselves to cope with the overwhelming emotional turmoil.
However, despite the challenges posed by this emotional cut-off/disassociation, there is hope for children affected by parental alienation. Children can overcome this defence mechanism and reconnect with the alienated parent. Even from afar, the alienated parent can be a beacon of stability and love, providing a role model for their child. With time, understanding, and intervention, reconnection is possible, offering healing and restoration to families affected by parental alienation.
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Amid gross injustice, misunderstanding, lack of support, enormous grief, and obstructed contact and communication because of a vengeful, selfish, alienating ex (and/or others), the ‘target’ rejected parent still strives towards an end to the conflict even though they’re often left with no option but to ‘fight’ in court, while valiantly trying to rebuild their connection to their much loved and missed children. These are the ones who demonstrate a genuine concern for their child’s well-being and do what they can to maintain a loving and supportive relationship, despite every effort of the alienating parent to sabotage things.’Target’ parents act with integrity and prioritise their child’s emotional needs over personal grievances, representing the epitome of selflessness and unconditional love.
We are talking about heroes.
‘White hats’ typically refers to high-level government officials or insiders who, it’s believed, are working to expose corruption in the deep state, to dismantle a global conspiracy of corruption on every level, and disordered state control and crimes against humanity. Whatever your take on this, I’m likening alienating parents to white hats here for the sake of an analogy which you know I’m partial to when writing these posts. When will people see the blatant lies and false narratives of the alienating parent? When will people know it is the target, rejected parent who stands for truth, authenticity, and love? And that the apparently loving, protective one who has positioned themselves as all powerful and the only parent needed is actually doing so much more harm than good, despite appearances.
It could be seen as a battle between good and evil, ‘white hats’ and ‘villains’ on the world stage and at home, the ‘target’ parents and alienators.
I believe love is mightier than hate. I believe ‘parental alienation’ – despite being called a pseudo-science by some, and despite us having to use terms such as ‘target’ and even ‘parental alienation’ – will one day (soon let’s hope) be widely recognised as psychological abuse, with informed and trained legal and mental health professionals donning ‘white hats’ and stepping into their role as heroes supporting and taking action to combat abuse alongside the parent heroes, like you.
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This is amazing 🤩
How sad that he has truths that are dismissed as he vomits out way too much , way too fast !
dailycaller.com/2025/01/24/robert-f-kennedy-jr-rfk-crispr-stock-gene-editing-mrna/
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