Tag: Child Abuse

Targeted parents , don’t see it coming

As target parents, we do not foresee alienation from our child/ren. That is not because we are weak, gullible, stupid or ignorant. It’s because it’s not loving behaviour, and it is not something a mentally healthy parent would do. It’s not what we would do. There may have been signs (narcissism, for one) but still, we didn’t imagine the other parent would be willing to hurt the child/ren so they could hurt us. We hoped and trusted that the child/ren would be of the highest importance. Someone told me yesterday that a judge, before taking custody of his son, said the ruling was ‘against his better judgement’. How ridiculous! If the judge thinks it’s not right, then why make the ruling? He’s a judge! That’s his actual, paid job, to use his best judgement, and not make a ruling that goes against his best judgement. This father also described receiving letters with such statements as; ‘in the best interests of the children’. What hypocrisy! Family courts should understand that a loving parent does not badmouth the other parent, and have the child aligned with them against the other parent. A loving parent encourages and supports the child/ren in having a good relationship with the other parent. They do not coerce the child into fearing, hating and rejecting the other parent. This is psychological abuse. A parent capable of engaging in parental alienation will typically refuse to see the harm they’re doing or to collaborate in any way that’s helpful or remedial. These people do not change. They have poison in their own systems, and their parenting is pathogenic. We have to do all we can, when we can, to be the opposite of the alienator. We have to stay sane, we have to remain the mentally healthy parent amidst the pathology of abuse and lies, and a corrupt/broken healthcare system and appalling family court misunderstandings, rulings and theatricals. It helps to work on ourselves, to find understanding and some kind of acceptance, to be firm/know our boundaries, to be strong, to live a fulfilling life, to stay calm and non-reactive to provocation, to be happy, and to be mentally healthy – all the things the alienating parent is not able to do or be.

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Attachment Pathology- Craig Childress PsyD

Novi Sad, Serbia – 4/28/23

This is a pathology of lies. Everything – everything – surrounding this pathology is a lie.

What you take for reality, is a lie.

This presents as a custody conflict. That is a lie. One parent drives the family conflict into the legal system to abuse the ex-spouse by making it as hard as possible to see their child, and costing them thousands and thousands of dollars fighting in court.

It is financial and emotional abuse of the ex-spouse from a desire to put them on “trial” for being a bad parent (spouse) and making the targeted spouse-and-parent defend themselves against false allegations of being abusive of their child.

This isn’t about custody. Custody is simple. It’s either shared 50-50 or one parent gets school-week and the other gets every-other-weekend.

This isn’t about custody, it’s about pathology. A child rejecting a parent is an attachment pathology – a problem (pathology) in the love-and-bonding system of the brain.

The ONLY cause of severe attachment pathology (a child rejecting a a parent) is child abuse by one parent or the other. In all cases of court-involved custody conflict, a proper risk assessment needs to be conducted to the appropriate differential diagnosis for each parent.

All cases. It should be routine, and the diagnostic assessment protocol should be standardized at the highest professional quality. When possible child abuse is a considered diagnosis, our diagnosis needs to be accurate 100% of the time.

We can do that. We need to do that. We never abandon a single child to child abuse. Not one. We always protect the child from all forms of child abuses 100% of the time.

All forms.

This isn’t about custody. That’s a lie. This is about pathology and its treatment. Attachment pathology. We need a proper risk assessment for child abuse to the appropriate differential diagnosis, and we need an effective treatment plan to fix the attachment pathology displayed by the child.

A pilot program for the family court with university involvement for evaluation research would greatly assist in developing high-quality diagnostic assessment and treatment protocols for the family courts.

We need to end the fighting surrounding the child. This is not complex. It is simple. The ONLY thing that’s missing is the motivation to solve it.

That’s changing. I traveled to the Balkans because it’s changing there.

I encourage the professionals in Serbia and the Balkans to consider an APA presentation in 2024 in Seattle to inform your American colleagues of your developments in your approach to court-involved attachment pathology surrounding child custody conflict.

Come visit me in the Pacific Northwest in 2024. We’ll go visit Mt. Rainier and take in a Mariners game. I’m confident the APA would welcome an international submission. You have top-tier professionals working toward a solution. Work for a year, then come and tell us about it.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

Craig Childress PsyD : Family Court Reform

Everybody hates me and wants to hurt me.

Well, not all of you, just half of you, the crazy half.

I’m in the family courts working with family situations of intense and highly hostile child custody conflict, and I’m getting in the middle of it and trying to change things.

One half or the other half is not going to like that. The pathological part of the pathology does NOT like that I’m interfering and trying to stop it from being pathological. It wants to hurt me to make me go away.

That’s what I mean when I say I’ve read the pathogen’s source code. Trauma is pattern. The narcissistic-borderline-dark pathology makes itself dangerous to your allies who try to help you so they’ll go away and you won’t have any.

It’s not just me – it’s all of me, all of the clinical psychologists who would try to help you. The pathology makes it too dangerous for them to be here so they flee the danger, they go away.

They abandon you. See how that works?

The pathogen isolates its victim from rescue. Look – you’ve been isolated from clinical psychology (treatment not custody) for 40 years. No clinical psychologist will work in the family courts because half of you are holy cow dangerous, delusionally psychotic, vengeful and retaliatory humans.

You know that. You were married to them. You’ve seen what they’ve done since the divorce. That is a dangerously psychotic human.

The clinical psychologists know that, everyone knows the pathology in the family courts is a narcissistic-borderline-dark personality parent.

That’s why the forensic psychologists say they don’t diagnose pathology, they don’t want to identify (diagnose) the narcissistic-borderline-dark parent as that… because that pathological parent is an immensely dangerous, delusional, and retaliatory human.

They don’t want to mess with that… so they don’t. They sacrifice you and your child instead. Better you and your child than them, right? They’re just trying to make a buck, holy cow, what do you expect them to do, fix things?

And the malevolently delusional pathology has a lawyer. And the lawyer for the delusionally dangerous parent wants to discredit you in any way possible, including slandering your professional reputation and going after your license.

There is a whole professional class of humans in legal-world, opposing counsel, who hate me and want to hurt me in any way possible because they represent their delusionally dangerous client.

Holy cow.

ADHD psychologists don’t face this danger. Autism psychologists don’t either. No other psychologist faces this danger because… this is narcissistic-borderline-dark personality pathology – that is an immensely dangerous trauma pathology.

It’s the abuse pathology – child abuse – spousal abuse – psychologist abuse – human abuse. This is the most dangerous pathogen on the planet and I’m walking the tightrope as a clinical psychologist without a net.

Forensic child custody evaluations are going to collapse. The incompetence of forensic psychology will flee when it becomes too dangerous for their incompetence to remain… so who’s left?

No one. Uh oh.

What happens when incompetence flees and they’re all incompetent? What happens when competence refuses to come because it’s too dangerous in the family courts?

There’s a dangerous pathology in the family courts and parents want mental health help, but there’s no mental health help in the family courts. What’s going to happen?

I dunno, but it looks like we’re going to find out. What happens if the nation doesn’t pay its bills? What happens if there’s no mental health support in the family courts? Maybe it won’t be so bad.

What happens when the forensic psychologists have been booted out or fled the dangers, and the clinical psychologists refuse to come because it’s too dangerous?

Holy cow, what a mess. l wonder what they’re going to do? It looks like we’re going to find out.

Everyone says bad things will happen if we don’t pay our national debt. But I dunno, maybe it won’t be so bad if there’s no mental health support in the courts. Maybe we should eliminate the FBI and all of psychology should leave the family courts. Do we really need them?

After all, the only thing in the family courts is the core of evil, is Putin really so bad? Dark Triads and Dark Tetrads are the most malevolent people on the planet, they are immensely high-conflict and they are in the family courts. Fact.

They want all of psychology gone so they can enact their malevolence on the other spouse-and-parent and on the child. Look how they drove clinical psychology away, leaving you with the nothing that is forensic custody evaluators.

Emptiness.

Empty of knowledge. Empty of competence. Empty of ethical standards. Empty of their obligations. Empty of empathy and compassion. Empty of the courage needed to protect the child.

It’s a mess. It’s likely to remain a mess until it’s not. The path is there, we need standardized high-quality diagnostic assessment and treatment protocols for the pathology in the family courts.

Give the task to our top universities wherever you are and ask them to develop the diagnostic assessment and treatment protocols for the family courts.

Abracadabra – solution. We will then have standardized high-quality diagnostic assessment and treatment protocols developed by our top university people that everyone can agree on.

Until then, I dunno. I think it’s headed for a big mess, and I think everybody hates me and wants to hurt me.

Not everybody. Just some of you. The pathological you-people, the crazy dangerous ones – just you hate me and want to hurt me. The healthy people, not so much.

I’m just trying to be helpful. I need to stay out of trouble. Why does everyone hate me? Oh, right. They’re delusionally dangerous humans.

It goes with the territory. If you’re in the family courts, know where you are. This is trauma-world. This is the world of child abuse and spousal abuse. This is the world of cruelty and complex trauma. This is the world of narcissistic-borderline-dark personality pathology – the abuse pathology.

I’m a trauma psychologist out of foster care. This is my world, this is my pathology. I’ve read the pathogen’s source code… and fixed it. That’s what I do. I’m a clinical psychologist. I fix things.

What things? What needs fixing?

Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

Psychosis Is an Expression of Early Childhood Trauma | Daniel Mackler – Mad In America

This is a perfect summation of trauma, born of abuses unspoken , ignored for decades , until life stressors bring it up for review and healing .

It was so with me, and I was powerless to prevent it , when medicated , I watched it going on with our sons..

With regards to myself and sons , the denial was and still is the foundation for Dad , as it has been his family code, and must be protected from exposure at all cost.

The signs have been there, and in trying to protect or get help , our family was erased and all the icky stuff , denied healing until it’s a monstrous mountain that’s impossible to surmount . Dodging the big stuff , only creates bigger stuff, and when everyone around you has unhealed trauma , denial etc , this becomes a normal set point .

We , as a family attended 1 family counseling session, and ex said he would not return.. not interested

Faith/church/religion was the same; NOT interested..

I came to know his lack of interest in me also, but I noted lack of interest in himself , and a very dark soul wound that drove his desire to be happy , elsewhere , creating a past that served his victim , survivor ” experience”

What makes psychosis confusing is that an eruption of infant trauma is expressing itself through the lens, the body, and the voice of someone who is now an adult.
— Read on www.madinamerica.com/2023/05/psychosis-is-an-expression-of-early-childhood-trauma-daniel-mackler/

Bonds of Mother Son

When the bonds between, Mother and Son are destroyed by varied entitled sources ,mothers blow back is nothing short of spiritual and reclamation.

Our sons are not interested , and since all has been surrendered on my part , I leave them to their own journey , and wakefulness .

The Medicalization of the American Mind – Mad In America

As I experienced the pathology of a diagnosis that was false; a cover up for Domestic, Spiritual,Emotional and financial abuse , I found myself loosing everything . Family destroyed, children ignored and after years of investment in the healing of children , I am surrendering to further investment in myself , with children who like their mother/father guide of 20 years plus , has a trauma bond , secrets, shame etc that’s predominate over healing . Ie : stuck, in denial, or desirous of my demise.

I have been toughened up enough to not show emotions , and not to invest my energies , where I’d prefer not to be any longer .

Watching on the sidelines, taking no interest in me whatsoever, living in distortions , and unforgiving . Knowing how their spirits and souls are affected , and not being heard , in any mode but shaming , blaming and disposal.

Our sons have been guided, by other mothers, wives and abusive relationships , that ” own ” them, and disallow that healing matters, due to the influence that healthy healing might have on their relationships.

Lashing out at me, years ago , requesting I commit suicide , not once but twice …setting me up to be illegally arrested …threatening me with exposure of sexual abuse , writing of these memories ,citing highly distorted experiences , 2 of 3 trying to buy my property , with no though to my future , deny the fact that healing is needed.

With knowledge and awareness of the destiny of actions and none actions , I have no choice but to release , forgive their actions/non actions , for a past , and present that is far from normal , far from love , that prefers secrets, disposal and non forgiveness , and I am assured and assuring that these shadow energies will not be my future.

My efforts to heal myself , will not be breached, of this I am sure , as everything I knew of love was attempted to be destroyed , but I held on .

My prayers for a life of spirit , of sharing experiences and wisdoms are at hand , after much effort , I know my worth , and pray for the deliverance of each child, and adult that lost their normal, natural path , due to a distorted, partner, addictive and abusive , debilitating drugging by psychiatry who have been instrumental in ” erasing families “.

Failure with my own children , who prefer status quo , has taught me well, as years of co council with young people their age , who favor me , and my wisdoms .

While that may not be my future , one on one for the drain on my energy , I will be writing , reading and moving forward unfettered by grievances, abuses etc …for that’s exactly what’s most desired ..that I give up and give in, which just isn’t realistic. Generational trauma and abuse has been resolved , I understand and respect free will, and release the painful , often horrific experiences of past , and disallow any repeats .

Dona Luna 🐸✌️😘❤️

One cause of fragility? Pathologizing our children with psychiatric diagnoses and focusing on a medical solution to life’s problems.
— Read on www.madinamerica.com/2023/05/medicalization-american-mind/

Parent : Forgive Yourself and Release your Adult Child whose unforgiving

This came in , just when I needed to hear this message the most …..

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Return of the Great Cosmic Mother

After too long a time the return of the Great Cosmic Mothers

Reactions are across the board

The unhealed make takes this as a sign of war rather than a return of rightful status after the horrific atrocities against women , thus children.

It’s true in my life adversely as an effort to tag/ blame me for my evolution and to stop me at all cost in a distorted energy that deserves healing and or elimination

“The witch-burnings did not take place during the “Dark Ages,” as we commonly suppose. They occurred between the fifteenth and eighteenth centuries– precisely during and following the Renaissance, that glorious period when, as we are taught, “men’s” minds were being freed from bleakness and superstition. While Michelangelo was sculpting and Shakespeare writing, the witches were burning. The whole secular “Enlightenment,” in fact, the male professions of doctor, lawyer, judge, artist, all rose from the ashes of the destroyed women’s culture. Renaissance men were celebrating naked female beauty in their art, while women’s bodies were being tortured and burned by the hundreds of thousands all around them.” ― Monica Sjoo and Barbara Mor, The Great Cosmic Mother: Rediscovering the Religion of the Earth

Art by Eric Drooker

Manipulation of children via parent

Self-worth and self-love are integral to our happiness. If we don’t get a sense of our own value when we’re children, during school years, or with our spouse/partners, we can potentially open ourselves up to experiences in our lives that reflect our low self-esteem/lack of self-love back at us, reinforcing the proverbial vicious cycle.

“You don’t attract what you want, you attract what you are.” Wayne Dyer

“Emancipate yourself from mental slavery, none but ourselves can free our minds” Bob Marley

I speak from experience. I have been through many dark nights of the soul over the years. Many. And always it comes back to the need for more self-love and worth. It starts with that.

You’ve heard it before, I’m sure, but we must love ourselves first and be our own best friends. We must love and care for ourselves as we love and care for others. Those people and experiences we’ve attracted into our lives, like those parental alienators, take advantage of kindness and generosity, love and compassion. Healthy relationships come from mental and emotional maturity and balance. Boundaries. Self-respect. Love is not conditional – attachment, promises, control, manipulation. We don’t need validation from others. We are enough We can let go of fear, anger, grief … I know, it’s hard, but it can be done. With time, kindness, and some conscious effort of course. We can start afresh every day. A clean slate. We are not victims. We can transform pain into power. The past is over. Our memories can’t hold us back forever.

“There is no coming to consciousness without pain. People will do anything, no matter how absurd, in order to avoid facing their own soul. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.” Carl Jung

Nobody else has the permission to tell us we are less, not good enough, unlovable … that stems from their own issues and fears. We should know better if only our minds would just give us a break and be our friend, not our prison guard. Today offers the gift of the present. We can be the saviour, the hero and the creator of our lives.

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Florida Law / Children /Rape/Law/ Twisted

Just a reminder… In Florida, a child rapist can now be put to death. And if the child gets pregnant from the rape by this heinous act, which both physically and emotionally scars the victim, she must carry the baby to term and live her life with the burden and reminder of the act. God job Ron DeSantis and your Ron DeSantis Fan Club Ron DeSantis for President 2024 We are bringing back the word RETARDED just for you.

www.yahoo.com/news/desantis-signs-law-allowing-death-195235467.html