Tag: survivors

Charlie McCready-Alienating any threat to their ego, hidden agenda & control

Parental alienation involves psychological abuse, and coercive control. It involves dark dynamics where people, often driven by insecurity, unresolved trauma, narcissism, attachment disorders (and more), resort to manipulation and cruelty to maintain dominance.

In these toxic relationships, some perpetrators perceive their victims as threats to their control, ego, or hidden agendas. This perception becomes the breeding ground for intensified abuse and manipulation. The more control slips through their fingers, the more they tighten their grip, all driven by the irrational fear of losing what they believe is rightfully theirs. Or wishing to punish.

And when victims, often after enduring prolonged suffering, gather the courage to sever ties with their oppressors, the reaction is often volatile. Furious at the prospect of losing their grip on power, the perpetrators retaliate with even greater ferocity. They see the victim’s actions as challenging their supremacy and respond by escalating the abuse, seeking to reassert their control.

This vicious cycle perpetuates the suffering of those ensnared within it. Victims find themselves between the desperate need for liberation and the dread of the backlash they may face when attempting to break free. The emotional scars from these abusive relationships can run deep, and the healing journey can be long. It’s incredibly helpful to surround yourself with people or be in communities where others understand what you’re going through. You can find strength in understanding the pathology and knowing you are not alone. You can reclaim your life. And so can the children.

#charliemccready

#parentalalienationcoach

#mothersmatter

#FathersMatterToo

#FathersMatter

#overcomingtrauma

Charlie McCready – Surviving Child Psychological Abuse

This question to a ‘target’ parent from an alienated child sounds like a desperate plea: “Why don’t you just apologise for everything?” After enduring relentless psychological manipulation, coercive control, and pathogenic parenting, the alienated child is left emotionally drained and yearning for peace. Denial, projection, and submission may become their coping mechanisms as they struggle to navigate the toxic dynamics imposed upon them. The child may become parentified because of the infantile behaviour of their alienating pathogenic parent whose psycho-emotional needs demand obedience, unquestioning loyalty, and sacrifice. The needs and wishes of the parent are prioritised over those of the child, and justifications and excuses on the hero/victim theme will be employed. In the grip of attachment disorders and cognitive dissonance, the child finds it increasingly difficult to resist the demands of the alienating parent.⁠

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This is a relationship that’s based on fear, intimidation, bribery, threats, and control but with enough promise of love and care to keep them stuck and hoping for better. The emotional manipulation involves gaslighting, blameshifting and guilt-tripping. The trauma bond created by this kind of disordered, abusive (often narcissistic) parenting creates an experience for the child akin to that of Stockholm Syndrome, entrapping the child in a cycle of fear, intimidation, and control. Despite the toxicity of the relationship, the entrapment becomes thought of as safer than the alternative (freedom) and it can lead the alienated child to defend and protect their aligned parent even when things don’t really make sense (cognitive dissonance). Their compliance comes about through a longing to fix things and for love and survival (identification with an aggressor).

They become so accustomed to placating the alienating parent that they cannot comprehend why the ‘target’ parent resists. Also, all wrongs have been projected onto the ‘target’ parent. In their quest for survival and a semblance of normalcy, they can become so accustomed to submitting and placating the domination, tantrums, drama and conflict that often surrounds the alienating parent, they think it’s easier for the ‘target’ parent just to capitulate as they do, and apologise for everything, believing this will bring an end to their suffering.

However, I’m sure you know, as an alienated parent, surrendering to manipulation is not the solution. It doesn’t end there. It (typically) just continues. The children should know this too, but it’s hard for them to ‘break free’ from the coercive control and psychological abuse inflicted on them. But we can show them. Maintaining integrity, being non-reactive, creating boundaries, and refusing to apologise for injustices we did not commit, we can show our strength, and show our children the way towards healing and liberation from the trauma bonds.

#charliemccready

#parentalalienationcoach

#traumabonding

#coercivecontrol

#narcissisticparent

Cured to Death – Psychiatric

The photo of me on the left in the blue was taken today, April 8th 2025

The remaining 3 photos were taken almost exactly a year ago.

In March of 2023, I experimented with Psilocybin and Marijuana.

** mine was Xanax , as addictive as Heroin

It was the first time in my 26 years I have ever tried a substance other than alcohol.

Unfortunately, I experienced a horrible reaction to these substances, leading to my psychiatric hospitalization.

Prior to this event in March of 2023, I have never been on any kind of medication, nor have I ever been diagnosed with any kind of mental/physical health condition.

Discharge date from the psychiatric hospital

April 17th, 2023

I was informed that if i “refused treatment,” I will have to stay hospitalized longer. At this point, I was there for 10 days.

Coerced to comply with an

Injection of an antipsychotic and held down against my will.

LAI (Long Acting Injection)

Aristada (Abilify)1064MG 2 month dose

I was sent home with 4 prescriptions of new medications i have never been on in my life.

3 weeks after my discharge date and the injection of the antipsychotic, I started to experience severe negative reactions that were nearly impossible to endure or explain to my doctor and family.

I was told it was ” just my new mental illness ” and that I had to remain on the medication for the rest of my life.

I knew in my heart and gut that this was wrong and did not make sense. At all.

● 22 days in 3 different hospitals

(Psychiatric hospitals + emergency rooms)

● 20Ibs lost after my hospital stay

● 3 1/2 months medicated

(2 month injection + oral pills)

(Lexapro 10MG Antidepressant )

Escitalopram

(Abilify 15MG Antipsychotic)

Aripiprazole

● 2-3 hours of sleep a night

● 50 days pacing with terror 10 hours a day (Akathisia)

Akathisia https://g.co/kgs/byVpBzj

● 300 + days having severe suicidal thoughts

● 350 days unable to work

● 20 + hours a day in bed for 4 months at my worst 80% of my 320 days were spent in bed/couch

● 3 close suicide attempts

● 9 years together with my husband ended in a divorce

● 30+ friends/family members disappearing in the hardship, from lack of understanding and fear

● 20+ doctor appointments/visits

General practitioners, psychiatrists, therapists, neurologists, acupuncturists, nutritionists, and many more. $15,000 + dollars later

● 8 beautiful humans i met in online support groups, who were mothers, sisters, fathers, sons, and partners, unfortunately, lost their battle from medication harm. Ending their own lives due to the constant state of torture.

320 days spent in a chemical straight jacket was the only way for me to describe it.

It has come full circle now in 2025, almost

2 years later, since the day i was injected.

I am now a year into remission/recovery from the iatrogenic injury that was brought upon by the antipsychotic injection.

During the 320 days in the chemical straight jacket:

I was unable to feel life

Unable to laugh

Unable to sleep

Unable to work

Unable to enjoy a meal

Unable to enjoy music

Unable to enjoy a book

Unable to enjoy a movie

Unable to enjoy nature

Unable to enjoy intimacy

Unable to feel love

Unable to feel human connection.

I can not put into words the inhumane experience i endured.

I am not posting this for ” I am so sorry, Jess.”

I am posting this because it’s the human thing to do.

Our children

Our grandmothers

Our grandfathers

Our mothers

Our fathers

Our loved ones are being medicated and not being properly informed of the risks these man made, brain altering chemical “medications ” can cause.

Especially long-term.

I do not know how I am still alive, to be honest.

By the grace of God and my stubborness to live, and to be able to tell the tale of how I almost lost my life, from a man made chemical that a doctor forced me to take after speaking with me in a hallway for 10 minutes.

Please, please, please take the time to always inform yourself and do your research before you put anything in or on your body 🙏 And have a plan of care in emergency situations for your loved ones in case you need to represent/advocate for them.

Thank you for those of you who took the time to read this ❤️

Mental & Legal Professionals fail our children/ Parental Alienation

It’s crucial for mental health professionals and family courts to look beyond the “voice of the child.” While a child’s expressed wishes are important, they can be influenced by various factors, including enmeshment with one parent and coercive control dynamics. In these situations, the child might be manipulated or pressured into expressing negative feelings or rejection towards the other parent. Covert psychological abuse and trauma bonding are central elements of these dynamics. These behaviours are subtle, they may even look like love, closeness, and care, making them challenging to detect.

Due to ongoing manipulation and control, trauma bonding occurs when the child becomes emotionally attached to the alienating parent, further reinforcing their unjustified, ‘coached’ negative perceptions of the other parent.

Therefore, mental health professionals and family courts have a duty of care to conduct thorough and impartial assessments, looking beyond appearances. Failing to do so inadvertently allows what could be seen as a form of legal kidnapping, where a child is unjustly separated from a loving parent. It’s essential that professionals consider the broader context, potential manipulation, and the child’s best interests to ensure fair and just outcomes in such sensitive cases.

#charliemccready

#parentalalienationcoach

#FamilyCourt

#divorce

#highconflictdivorce

#traumabonding

My Degree -2013

Unfortunately life and varied challenges have not created the space for my actualizing income .

I asked for a loan in 2005 or 06 to take an intergrated nutrition course . My house , bought ” under the influence ” of psychiatric poisons was $1000 a month , bare minimum to replace my health care was a $1000.

He said no .

Too busy , traveling , big timing , still paying the kids cell phone bills and lavish Christmas gifts and vacations . Using money he cheated me on .

Condemning me for not working , especially in letters to my lawyers , but not willing to support my effort to do so .

I’m so glad I received this degree , I chose not to use the more common ” psychic ” counselor, not here in Virginia .

I don’t think I’ll attempt 1 on 1 counseling but a pod casts or web page .. internet radio .

Just going through the motions of clearing up old business .

Peace ☮️