Tag: abuse

Toxic Responsibility: Sherrie Campbell PhD

Pathologically selfish people prey on those of us who love to help other people. They prey on us as a matter of responsibility. Toxic people despise being responsible for themselves, so they choose people who they can manipulate into being responsible for them. This way, if anything goes wrong, they have you or someone else to blame.

Protect your heart. Protect your time and energy. It is not wise to be helpful to just anyone. If you put yourself in this position to help anyone who needs your help, you often set yourself up to be used, abused, and blamed.

Most healthy people do all they can to take full responsibility for themselves before they reach out to others for help. Toxic people do not attempt any level of responsibility, they pawn it off on those who love to help.

It is unwise to make yourself responsible for others. Not only does it stunt another person’s growth, but you exhaust yourself trying to satisfy the unsatisfiable. Hold the mindset that the healthiest and most loving thing you can do to help someone is allow them to take responsibility for themselves.

Slavery via Marriage can actualize

This is an actual extract from a sex education school textbook for

girls, printed in the early 60’s in the UK. So goodnight don’t have nightmares 😂

When retiring to the bedroom, prepare yourself for bed as promptly as

possible. Whilst feminine hygiene is of the utmost importance, your

tired husband does not want to queue for the bathroom, as he would have to do for his train. But remember to look your best when going to bed. Try to achieve a look that is welcoming without being obvious. If you need to apply face-cream or hair-rollers wait until he is asleep as this can be shocking to a man last thing at night.

When it comes to the possibility of intimate relations with your

husband it is important to remember your marriage vows and in particular your commitment to obey him. If he feels that he needs to sleep immediately then so be it. In all things be led by your husband’s wishes; do not pressure him in any way to stimulate intimacy. Should your husband suggest congress then agree humbly all the while being mindful that a man’s satisfaction is more important than a woman’s. When he reaches his moment of fulfilment a small moan from yourself is encouraging to him and quite sufficient to indicate any enjoyment that you may have had.

Should your husband suggest any of the more unusual practices be

obedient and uncomplaining but register any reluctance by remaining silent. It is likely that your husband will then fall promptly asleep so adjust your clothing, freshen up and apply your night-time face and hair care products. You may then set the alarm so that you can arise shortly before him in the morning. This will enable you to have his morning cup of tea ready when he awakes.

Epidemic of HateCrimesAgainstWomen&Girls

thetyee.ca/Analysis/2022/07/15/The-Ignored-Epidemic-Hate-Crimes-Against-Women-Girls/

Funded Landlords Repair Raise Rent

$650 2020.

$1000 currently

Minimum Surface renovation

I was evicted , very weakened by a high conflict 3 year rental that was very toxic .

Homelessness did not afford me catch up physically nor finically.

New laws and suspected legal representatives who take this as unworthy of being heard and further the abuses deserve factual education.

Conflicts do exist but pass in this small town. The very obvious denial by one department who failed on several levels with several request for help that was theirs to determine.

thetyee.ca/News/2022/07/15/To-Fund-Repairs-BC-Landlords-Raise-Rent/

Dad takes his life due to legal and grief over his kids

CW-Suicide

This is the final photograph of Phillip Herron 34, crying in his car, literally minutes before he took his own life.

He was a single Dad of three young children, struggling with escalating debt of over $20,000 and was desperately waiting for a Payday lending payment he’d applied for. But it’s paid in arrears, with a 5 week wait time. That wait drove him even deeper into debt, and when he died he had $4.61 in his bank account and clearly couldn’t see any other way out.

Like a lot of people, especially men, he kept all of this to himself, nobody else knew how bad things were getting. The poor man even had to tell his children that Father Xmas wouldn’t come this year, and in his suicide note he wrote that they’d be better off if he wasn’t there any more.

And now he isn’t.

We need to talk more. We need to be kinder. And we need to be a country that helps people when they need it the most.

Boys learn to isolate or anger as toddlers . It’s too feminine to allow emotions , tears ???

Be a Big Boy 👦

My Little Man 👨

He’s a child and worthy of expression of his feelings in a way that is not anger or rage but expressed in communication that is received compassionately and doesn’t project or target the other person .

Children deserve truth per maturation/age etc because they do get curious and asking around in peer’s can mislead or pressure an opinion .

Boys can be harsh and very physically intimating on impressionable younger boys and so they deserve to have a foundation that allows them participating in open , factual discussions per age and readiness .

Too late I realized that younger kids who hung out with our sons but had over 5 years life experience ; had much trauma at a young age sexually and other ways . This did not become fact to me until later in life as did the competition as I had our 1st child . I did not pick up on jealously and that would extend to lust for what I had in partnership . It was very unbalanced and I have had moments of clarity about the negative influences early on towards our 3 children .

I have grieved deeply about this and baby sitters and relatives that had our children when we were not there to witness and protect them .

This Dad could not take anymore . I’m not suicidal and I’ve had decades to surrender to the horrific cost of distorted alienating that is a living death when one has no contact with one’s children as punishment that continues Domestic Abuse/ Malignant/ High Conflict / Intimate Partner Violence that is non gender specific and is Child Abuse

New Supply

I did not have any idea that things were challenging to the degree they were in his new gal , new life .They shared a passion to target me given any opportunity and I was baited more than a few time much to my regret .

They had great fun and felt like winners and then the health decline and her awareness that he was not interested enough to be supportive , he was done . And she split .

So yes he can continue to infinity these brutal experiences as his health and. soul emancipation are ignored .

It used to blow my mind , how he never saw our family as scared and holy and worth his every effort to unite rather than alienate .