The heartbreaking and frustrating thing for alienated parents is that we can’t force our child/children to see things from our point of view or, at the very least, to see things in a more balanced way. We crave justice. It is hard to resist trying to tell them right from wrong, to teach them that this (parental alienation) isn’t the way a loving parent behaves, that we love them, we want them in our lives, we’re not who they’ve been led to believe we are … If we push all this on them, we risk pushing them away. They don’t (want to) see their alienation or that they’ve been in any way complicit. They were acting in the only way they knew how to survive the nightmare situation their alienating parent put them in. It is a test of patience and love, waiting for them to wake up from this nightmare and see the light.


