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Tag: relationships
The Best & The Worst – Narcissist Teacher- Lessons – Growth
The effort to control , the silent aggression, the covert , full fact frontal abuse …modeled to 3 sons as ” normal ” …
The Narcissist Teacher – Thank you- Goodbye
Thankful for the lesson, the growth , and the conclusion of these harsh lessons … no more blocks towards my ” normal ” which is of peace and harmony even if it’s a party of one… I’m never alone or unloved or neglected in this exquisite , beautiful world that’s being being rebirthed, recreated in love 😻.
Conditioning & Traumatizing – Legacy for kids
Many women relate to being single married single parents , as I realized I was responsible for everything but a paycheck ..when I reacted to the psychiatric RX , the traumas of my life , our family was affected … however I became responsible for everything from a to z and after 20 years of trying to resurrect a family from those ashes to normalcy , ease and acceptance/ forgiveness is not my sole purpose in life .
I had no idea just how many families are adversely effected by psychiatry, toxic/addictive RX, a legal system that has aligned with the dictates of the psychiatric/ chemical companies for profit over families .
We cannot ignore the side effects of deep and profound trauma that is diagnosed as mental illness of varied labels and the consequences for the individual who does not know, accept or allow that transformation that re creation , reparenting , and surrender give us .
So having witnessed and experienced and researched , I know in my bones children deserve much better and it’s coming ..
( we are all seeds in gods hands )
No where man..( non gender specific )
This song came to mind when I saw this picture .. Sadly I have known the empty ” no where man” in brothers, lovers , sons and significant ” others ” and tried to love them through, or despite of there ” lost boy ” trauma .
The feminine unhealed energy and balance of masculine and feminine is self work, Chiron the wounded healer , and surrender to higher power and the greatest love ❤️from inside out begins when parenting oneself . Give all those basics that were not provided , for whatever reasons , and be gentle with oneself .
I used to hold that responsibility to open someone’s eyes to these truths , to unstick them, open them to change . A very holy , spiritual experience that is unique , but shared energy with so many , and I hold tight to that ” higher love ” regardless of challenges , that require a step back , I just stay focused , and allow the free will, and chosen destinations of others that has nothing to do with me or my input .
While I acknowledge the ” no where ” person, I cannot invest in any every determined to create negatively, by doing much harm .
No Where Man- Remastered – The Beatles
Society Forgot the Role of Mothers- Jordan Peterson
Pathogenic Parenting
It is not normal for a child to align with one parent over another who is ‘normal-range’, willing, loving, available. It should be something all family courts are alert to because it is a sign of parental alienation and there is pathogenic parenting going on here. It is child psychological abuse. To cope with the traumatic experience of being told terrible things about one parent by the other who also requires and coaxes that child to fear, loathe and reject their loved, loving ‘target’ parent, the child psychologically ‘splits’. It is a way of cutting off from the love they feel (that they cannot feel anymore) for the rejected parent. It seems counter-intuitive but even in abusive relationships, the victim seeks love and affection from the perpetrator. It’s Stockholm Syndrome, and ‘identification with the aggressor’ which I’ve covered in other posts. The alienated child is angry, rude, and highly critical of the ‘other’ parent. The experts should be wary of the child who has few if any good memories of the alienated parent, and has no wish to repair the relationship. Abused children want a good relationship with their abusive parent. This is hard to believe but true. The abused (alienated) child wants to downplay or deny any wrongdoing on the part of the ‘aligned’ parent, they don’t do the same with the ‘target’ parent. These are red flags.
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Child Psychological Abuse : I’m the only one who loves you
An alienating parent seeks to control the children to hurt the other parent. They lie, they twist the truth, they misinterpret events wilfully, and they say and do everything and anything to control the narrative so that your truth and your love become something the alienated child no longer trusts. This is why parental alienation is described as abuse (psychological, mental, emotional). What is even harder for you is that other people – even those who could support and protect – all too often do not recognise the lies and false allegations. Saying it rubs salt in the wound is insufficient in describing the injustice, grief pain inflicted. It is not the behaviour of a loving parent, but a fearful, controlling and/or vengeful parent who does this. It is a disordered mentality and yet this person will typically refuse counselling or collaboration. There are so many signs that should be fairly easy to spot. What we need to do is to educate those who can help us about how they can do their job and help us. Please see my red flag warning post and others for more on this.
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Lacy & Scott Peterson ( he’s imprisoned for her death and the death of their unborn son
Minnie Zola, Grandmother
I just discovered , this picture which seems to validate , that my Dad’s Dad, Warner , was a moon shine maker .
The clear liquid in the jar , equals addiction and money , and of abuse that left my beloved Grandmother , homeless, and without support , as the court found in his favor , dismissing her .. Her parents gave them the 120 acres , on which he grew corn, made moonshine , and reports of sacks of high value paper money.
He ran her away with just she could carry , fearing for her life, grieving at having to place her youngest children , and the rupture of her family .
She got nothing , but abuse, and his character assignations ..
While it did not destroy her, and her adult children and their children loved her, it altered each of them as born out in their lives, their health and deaths …
Indoctrination of Alienated / Psychologically Abused Child
These alienated children are so indoctrinated and enmeshed that they lose critical thinking skills when it comes to the ‘target’ parent. They can easily hurt our feelings and provoke a reaction from us by their words and behaviours, and we have to find the strength and calmness of mind to remember not to react in anger, not to make them feel guilty, not to talk about our feelings (hurt, anger, frustration). It only pushes them away, which is often what they’re trying to actualize because cutting off makes it easier for them when they’re under such emotional pressure. Be calm, be loving, be non-reactive. They will come up with the most unbelievable fictions. I was told once: ‘It’s not fair a parent is alone at Christmas’. This was the reason given that they never saw me! Do they forget we are parents too? No. But they ‘split’. They can’t deal with it, so they almost pretend it’s not happening. It gets buried. It is too confusing and too upsetting. That is because they do love us. They’ve been prevented from feeling it’s okay to love us and told all sorts of horror stories to make them reject us which they can perpetuate themselves. But deep down, they know the truth. It’s a matter of them finding it and setting it free.
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