Yes this is true.. After years of no contact , I received a message ” you can call, and text now” … This after I learned from 1 of our children that he had an ending to the relationship he began before he left our martial home .
I do not and never have blamed his ex partner in total , for it could have been any gal who took him for face value ..
I believe he had information that I was interested in a man, and thwarting this connection was of major importance , as I think the interesting man was starting his own ending and change
I tested close to 100% and it was Super Hyper Sensitive. I believe the numbers here are not high enough , as vaccines , stress, trauma etc create a sensitivity that’s being diagnosed, horrifically , and medicated as a DSM , ” something else”
This song came to mind when I saw this picture .. Sadly I have known the empty ” no where man” in brothers, lovers , sons and significant ” others ” and tried to love them through, or despite of there ” lost boy ” trauma .
The feminine unhealed energy and balance of masculine and feminine is self work, Chiron the wounded healer , and surrender to higher power and the greatest love ❤️from inside out begins when parenting oneself . Give all those basics that were not provided , for whatever reasons , and be gentle with oneself .
I used to hold that responsibility to open someone’s eyes to these truths , to unstick them, open them to change . A very holy , spiritual experience that is unique , but shared energy with so many , and I hold tight to that ” higher love ” regardless of challenges , that require a step back , I just stay focused , and allow the free will, and chosen destinations of others that has nothing to do with me or my input .
While I acknowledge the ” no where ” person, I cannot invest in any every determined to create negatively, by doing much harm .
It is not normal for a child to align with one parent over another who is ‘normal-range’, willing, loving, available. It should be something all family courts are alert to because it is a sign of parental alienation and there is pathogenic parenting going on here. It is child psychological abuse. To cope with the traumatic experience of being told terrible things about one parent by the other who also requires and coaxes that child to fear, loathe and reject their loved, loving ‘target’ parent, the child psychologically ‘splits’. It is a way of cutting off from the love they feel (that they cannot feel anymore) for the rejected parent. It seems counter-intuitive but even in abusive relationships, the victim seeks love and affection from the perpetrator. It’s Stockholm Syndrome, and ‘identification with the aggressor’ which I’ve covered in other posts. The alienated child is angry, rude, and highly critical of the ‘other’ parent. The experts should be wary of the child who has few if any good memories of the alienated parent, and has no wish to repair the relationship. Abused children want a good relationship with their abusive parent. This is hard to believe but true. The abused (alienated) child wants to downplay or deny any wrongdoing on the part of the ‘aligned’ parent, they don’t do the same with the ‘target’ parent. These are red flags.
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