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Care for Mother & Family with a new born
Hold the mother, not the baby.
Because the baby’s being taken care of—
fed, snuggled, and given all the love in the world—
by not only the mother,
but her partner, grandparents, siblings, cousins, and friends.
But the mother,
may have gaps in her mind from lack of sleep,
may be mechanical in her motions as she’s healing,
may feel more like a mess than a mother,
may be sitting in bed, crying, feeling overwhelmed in her body and life,
may be full of mom guilt because in her mind, “she’s not good enough,”
and she’s bleeding, wincing in pain, swollen and emotional.
And the mother’s that baby’s whole world and needs to be seen, so she doesn’t disappear into that postpartum fog.
So, hold the mother, not the baby.
A mother agrees that her baby matters more.
But she’s hurting, while she’s the person behind the baby,
in the background, making it all happen:
feeding her baby at all hours,
snuggling her baby close to comfort newborn cries,
and being that baby’s everything.
So, it’s the mother who needs your love.
And a mother will remember who held her up.
So instead of “I’m coming to see the baby,”
try saying, “I’m coming to see you 𝘢𝘯𝘥 meet the baby, too.”
Because the mother needs to be held more.
📸: This Mama Doodles
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Narcissist Abuse Family Style / Holidays
44 Million @ Risk of Eviction Under Present Laws
This report is pretty through and points out the facts and adversity of landlord retaliation and abuse as rent cost rise and wages stay low . It’s not a legacy I wanted for myself or want for anyone .
Change must come soon .
Move on
One of the lesser discussed outcomes of toxic relationships is how narcissists are often successful at convincing your friends and family that YOU are the dysfunctional, toxic one. Sometimes, they can even turn them against you.
So then, not only do you have to cope with the painful smear campaign, but you are also faced with the fact that your friends and family who sided with the narcissist have betrayed you, as well.
These are not your people. Maybe they never were.
Anyone who knows you – authentically – should not side with the person who is trying to tear your life down.
Sure, narcissists are exceptionally skilled at pretending they’re just regular people trying to live their lives, but these people knew you long before the narcissist came along…yet, here they are, siding with them.
If someone doesn’t know you well enough to know the narcissist’s accusations are false, then did they ever really know you?
I find that life is too short to change people’s minds about things. If flying monkeys and enablers want to believe the narcissist’s stories, then they have their own path to travel. It’s not our job to make them see the light.
Along my own journey, I stopped wasting my precious time and energy trying to correct the narrative or defend myself against accusations and the people who wanted to believe them. Let them find out the truth like you did (IF they ever do).
Some people love to eat up drama like a tasty snack.
Some people want to think they found dirt on you.
Some people want to get into the narcissist’s good graces for their own reasons.
And some people are just too naïve and gullible.
None of these people belong in your circle OR your tribe.
These are lost people who need to find their own way or remain unwoke. It’s not your job, and it’s not your project.
Save your precious time and energy for other, more important things…like getting through the smear campaign with the people who are truly on your side.
And if you have no one, get a dog, a cat, or a goldfish. Our tribe can be anyone or any creature who will have our back.
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Detox from High Conflict Families of No Love
Being raised in high conflict families, we are raised to be our own worst enemies and harshest critics. High conflict family environments do not operate from love.
These families are driven by competition, comparison and conflict. To gain any sense of peace in these toxic environments, we must go against what is in our best interest to fit in.
Cutting off from a family like this, requires going through a period of a “major detox.” We need time to detox from all the poison and brainwashing. This detox requires examining and understanding the totality and vastness of our family’s dysfunction. It requires grieving and a strong commitment to moving forward. It requires self love.
This detox period is the launching pad for the development of a healthier sense of personal power that does not include forcing, pressuring, controlling, criticizing or competing.
There are far better, and more empowering ways to do life than from the same type of dysfunction we were raised in.
Sherry Campbell PhD
Know Mothers who do this and wives who are challenged by Mother-Son
Ex is still bound to his Mom and I’ve had to consider his reasoning in destroying relationships with sons was to thwart and sever our ” living connection”
But then he saw himself as the superior ultimate Dad/Mom and imprinted them early on . Our family was never more important that his Mothers requirements .
Of course his causal connection celebrated birthdays etc with money not his presence and I declined in competition with his detachment of being and giving
I believe this was an issue with the next supply as he became toxic and detached when she became so ill she couldn’t work and he had the responsibility of paying for her health care . Mentioning in court these facts and even how much she spent on bras !
He is still owned and still selfish even as he steals from me . That’s clearly not going to heal in mid 70’s and mid 90’s
His partner, his confidant is Mom who allows him to have relationships and listens to his complaints and supports his ending said relationship.
Life With a Narcissistic Parental Alienator
Certainly seems alien
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Parental alienation is probably the hardest experience you will ever go through and screws you up mentally and emotionally. I know because I have been there too!
The alienating parent’s childhood trauma may have been triggered by the separation/divorce, and they fear abandonment, feeling worthless and empty, and losing control – so they rewrite the narrative, recasting all the roles. Good parent becomes bad. Victimizer becomes victim. They cling to the child/ren as the emotional attachment bonds with their spouse/partner sever.
I also know that although it was the alienator that put you onto this emotional rollercoaster, ONLY YOU can get yourself off. Every day that you sit on that ride experiencing pain, is another day that the alienator wins. It is another day that you are less able to help your children and your family.
Many of us need help to get off the rollercoaster, learning how to best support our children in ways to be more effective in dealing with alienators.
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Highly Toxic Parent
At their core, the alienating parent is afraid, jealous and cannot bear to think there could be time spent, let alone love given, to anyone but themselves. Their wounded ego needs revenge, and this will be inflicted on anyone (especially a ‘target’ parent) who exposes the truth of who they are inside (often triggered by separation/divorce – it can’t be their fault). They can’t bear it. They even hide from themselves. To deal with this, they try and control everyone and everything. They rewrite the narrative. They encourage and magnify any natural discord that happens in the course of childhood with parents. The children are coercively controlled, and weaponised. They’re not allowed independent thought or any positive feelings or even memories about the ‘other’ parent. But the child/ren loved you, and they still do, they’ve just been ‘indoctrinated’ to think otherwise. Once they remove their gas mask, their toolkit of survival, they can breathe. They can live their sovereign lives as they deserve. They can reunite with you. Please see more of my posts at:
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