Ex is still bound to his Mom and I’ve had to consider his reasoning in destroying relationships with sons was to thwart and sever our ” living connection”
But then he saw himself as the superior ultimate Dad/Mom and imprinted them early on . Our family was never more important that his Mothers requirements .
Of course his causal connection celebrated birthdays etc with money not his presence and I declined in competition with his detachment of being and giving
I believe this was an issue with the next supply as he became toxic and detached when she became so ill she couldn’t work and he had the responsibility of paying for her health care . Mentioning in court these facts and even how much she spent on bras !
He is still owned and still selfish even as he steals from me . That’s clearly not going to heal in mid 70’s and mid 90’s
His partner, his confidant is Mom who allows him to have relationships and listens to his complaints and supports his ending said relationship.