Tag: trauma

The Inconvenience of your Illness to Narcissistic

It was soul snatching to become aware just how little support I had in matters of my heath . It began with pregnancy and only grew worse .

A fall and sprained elbow had to await his need to continue an evening out of dinner and drink.

Hours after my fall ,I screamed as I tried to move my arm ,I had thrown up in pain ; did he take me to the ER

A former Vietnam ” Mash ” Dr examined me and gave me a shot of pain medicine.

Certainly had complaints when he helped wash my hair , commenting on my long hair , stating I should cut it off ! as it’s too long and I wasn’t worth his time nor effort

Lots of that ; much shadow involved that did much harm to our family .

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Child Psychological Abuse , Childress

Stop using “parental alienation” in a professional capacity, it will only lead you to your destruction. Use Child Psychological Abuse instead.

“I am concerned the other parent is psychologically abusing our child. I am concerned that the other parent has formed a shared persecutory delusion with my child targeting me, that is destroying my child’s attachment bond to me… as described in these quotes from Walters & Friedlander.

From Walters & Friedlander: “In some RRD families [resist-refuse dynamic], a parent’s underlying encapsulated delusion about the other parent is at the root of the intractability (cf. Johnston & Campbell, 1988, p. 53ff; Childress, 2013). An encapsulated delusion is a fixed, circumscribed belief that persists over time and is not altered by evidence of the inaccuracy of the belief.” (Walters & Friedlander, 2016, p. 426)

From Walters & Friedlander: “When alienation is the predominant factor in the RRD [resist-refuse dynamic}, the theme of the favored parent’s fixed delusion often is that the rejected parent is sexually, physically, and/or emotionally abusing the child. The child may come to share the parent’s encapsulated delusion and to regard the beliefs as his/her own (cf. Childress, 2013).” (Walters & Friedlander, 2016, p. 426)

Walters, M. G., & Friedlander, S. (2016). When a child rejects a parent: Working with the intractable resist/refuse dynamic. Family Court Review, 54(3), 424–445. 

“I’d like a risk assessment for possible Child Psychological Abuse surrounding a possible shared persecutory delusion of the other parent with the child.”

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

Spiritual Profiling

“In reality, psychiatric diagnosing is a kind of spiritual profiling that can destroy lives and frequently does.” — Peter Breggin, Psychiatrist

“Perhaps worst of all, these diagnoses almost inevitably lead to the prescription of psychiatric medication to you or your child. Psychiatric drugs are toxins to the brain; they work by disabling the brain.”

 — Peter Breggin, Psychiatrist

The human brain is the most complex organ ever created. To disable it deliberately is a terrible act of violence. If doctors do not know that toxic drugs damage the brain it is beyond time to become aware. Doctors first do no harm

Trauma & Psychological Abuse

Some of the ways alienators will abuse and manipulate their children is by making them believe lies that will become foundational to their control.

Here are a few:

Your other parent is dangerous.

Your other parent doesn’t care for you.

Your other parent is unavailable for you.

Your other parent is a bad influence.

Which then leads to the abuser being the “better” choice:

I am the only parent who truly loves you.

I am the only parent who keeps you safe.

I am the only parent who is here for you.

I am the parent who sacrifices everything for you.

And results in the child having feelings of:

Betrayal (towards the alienator) for still desiring their “bad” parent.

Feeling guilty when they talk to or communicate with their “bad” parent.

Only being able to love and interact with their abuser.

Shadow of Mental Health

In my initial waking I woke to so much damage done by 13 years of denial of Intimate Partner Violence permitting my abuse to be openly exhibited , allowed to be secretive in his divorce .

Domestic Abuse does not adequacy cover the shadow side , the dark forces that have manipulated the nature and natural flow of human consciousness.

Closure is the process 🙏❤️

Blessing & Peace

Dona Luna

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