Tag: Men

Slavery via Marriage can actualize

This is an actual extract from a sex education school textbook for

girls, printed in the early 60’s in the UK. So goodnight don’t have nightmares 😂

When retiring to the bedroom, prepare yourself for bed as promptly as

possible. Whilst feminine hygiene is of the utmost importance, your

tired husband does not want to queue for the bathroom, as he would have to do for his train. But remember to look your best when going to bed. Try to achieve a look that is welcoming without being obvious. If you need to apply face-cream or hair-rollers wait until he is asleep as this can be shocking to a man last thing at night.

When it comes to the possibility of intimate relations with your

husband it is important to remember your marriage vows and in particular your commitment to obey him. If he feels that he needs to sleep immediately then so be it. In all things be led by your husband’s wishes; do not pressure him in any way to stimulate intimacy. Should your husband suggest congress then agree humbly all the while being mindful that a man’s satisfaction is more important than a woman’s. When he reaches his moment of fulfilment a small moan from yourself is encouraging to him and quite sufficient to indicate any enjoyment that you may have had.

Should your husband suggest any of the more unusual practices be

obedient and uncomplaining but register any reluctance by remaining silent. It is likely that your husband will then fall promptly asleep so adjust your clothing, freshen up and apply your night-time face and hair care products. You may then set the alarm so that you can arise shortly before him in the morning. This will enable you to have his morning cup of tea ready when he awakes.

Life is not a Disney movie . Discern 🧐

Dating and relationships are much different now than they used to be.⁣⁣
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Now, we must be discerning and evaluate people before allowing them to be part of our life.⁣⁣
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Love at first sight is a thing of the past, thanks to this era of social media and peoples’ attention spans being the same as a goldfish (that’s actually been scientifically proven).⁣⁣
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So, what this means for us is that we can no longer go on two or three dates with someone and try to form an instant relationship or plan a future with someone we barely know.⁣⁣
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Or try to form a deep friendship with that coworker because we went to lunch with them a couple of times.⁣⁣
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We need boundaries and self-protection more than ever. ⁣⁣
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Most of the people we meet are not compatible with what we want from our close relationships.⁣⁣
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Because we feel connected with someone after a few dates does not, in any way, mean that they feel the same way. ⁣⁣
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Because you may be intimate with them does NOT mean they are planning a future with you or intend to be exclusive.⁣⁣
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Don’t go all in with someone you’ve seen a couple of times just because of the excitement and butterflies. Life is not a Disney movie…we need to be choosy about who we allow into our sacred space.⁣⁣

Free boundary worksheets here:

⚔⚔⁣ https://bit.ly/BoundaryBoss

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Dar⁣
⁣#relationshipgoals #relationships #healthylove #boundaries

Masculine

The New Macho

He cleans up after himself.
He cleans up the planet.
He is a role model for young men.
He is rigorously honest and fiercely optimistic.

He holds himself accountable.
He knows what he feels.
He knows how to cry and he lets it go.
He knows how to rage without hurting others.
He knows how to fear and how to keep moving.
He seeks self-mastery.

He has let go of childish shame.
He feels guilty when he’s done something wrong.
He is kind to men, kind to women, kind to children.
He teaches others how to be kind.
He says he’s sorry.

He stopped blaming women or his parents or men for his pain years ago.
He stopped letting his defenses ruin his relationships.
He stopped letting his penis run his life.
He has enough self-respect to tell the truth.
He creates intimacy and trust with his actions.
He has men that he trusts and that he turns to for support.
He knows how to roll with it.
He knows how to make it happen.
He is disciplined when he needs to be.
He is flexible when he needs to be.
He knows how to listen from the core of his being.

He’s not afraid to get dirty.
He’s ready to confront his own limitations.
He has high expectations for himself and for those he connects with.
He looks for ways to serve others.
He knows he is an individual.
He knows that we are all one.
He knows he is an animal and a part of nature.
He knows his spirit and his connection to something greater.

He knows that the future generations are watching his actions.
He builds communities where people are respected and valued.
He takes responsibility for himself and is also willing to be his brother’s keeper.

He knows his higher purpose.
He loves with fierceness.
He laughs with abandon, because he gets the joke.

This is the Mature Masculine – the New Warrior – a re-definition of masculinity for the 21st century. By no means is this list complete. You are welcome to come and add your gifts to this community. –Boysen Hodgson http://www.mkp.org

Connections

There is an abundance of people who wish to connect with us.
We have more dance partners than we might ever imagine possible.
We can never be lonely on a planet with billions of people.
But we have to let them in….
If we close our heart, we create barriers to relationships, to loving experiences and indeed encounters.
Our disconnect with others mirrors a disconnect with ourselves.
Our lack of dance partners reflects back to us the feeling of lack we hold about ourselves.
If we believe we are lacking we will draw to us that which is lacking.
If we believe we are not worthy we will make this a reality in our life too.
Because we are powerful magnets.
We are magnets of attraction.
And, believe it or not, what we can conceive of we can bring into our lives.
If we want loving people to enter into our lives we need to become that person we wish to connect with.
So how do we want to be and what sort of person do we want to draw into our experience as the social being that we are?
Clearly, if we are gentle with ourselves we will attract those who are also gentle with us.
Likewise, if we accept ourselves for who we are then we will bring into our consciousness those who will accept us also.
If we stop harsh judgment of ourselves we will draw in those who will not judge us.
To the measure we hold a belief about ourselves is the measure of who we will bring into our lives.
When our conscious thoughts are loving towards ourselves we then open the door to attract that which we are.
A lacking sort of person will bring in those who lack.
But those who feel wholesome will draw into their lives those who are also whole.

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Blessings & Peace

Dona Luna ✌️🕊️❤️