Narcissist Self Image is Everything

The narcissist’s self-image is everything, and he or she will wager everything on it – doing things that are unlawful, dangerous and criminal to uphold it. This naturally put his or her business at risk – and the narcissist has no issue in twisting facts and setting someone else up to take the fall when the trouble happens.
The justifications that the narcissist is capable of making to pathologise his or her behaviour are incredible.
Narcissists are disordered; their brain wiring is maladapted to circuits that are not healthy, or humane. The narcissist can justify immoral, inhumane and criminal behaviour easily because their soul was sold to serve the one true master – The False Self – long ago.
It’s important to understand narcissists will believe, firmly, that the person they are setting up to take the blame is at fault. Their minds are highly adept at creating a self-delusional story that exonerates their “above reproach at all costs” ego. Once this story has been replayed through the narcissist disordered mind a few times – it is TRUE to the narcissist. That is the extent of the disorder – superiority and impunity are necessary for the narcissist’s emotional survival.
This can seem incredibly personal – until we understand that narcissists are operating out of horrendous childish survival fears. The narcissist’s unconscious drivers are entrenched in this defence: “If I am exposed as wrong I’ll be annihilated,” which triggers the narcissist’s biggest fear – the bottom line terror of the ego – the fear of NOT existing.
The narcissist believes he or she must be seen as “perfect.” However, the intense fear and defences conversely create the narcissist’s character as not just “imperfect” but also highly disordered and damaged.
This becomes blatantly obvious if the spotlight is on the narcissist for any accountability for his or her actions or non-actions. This is when the narcissist becomes the most unhinged, or the most dishonest and manipulative.
He or she will do anything to avoid personal fault and scrutiny, and if someone can be scapegoated, the narcissist will employ this tactic.
Read more on Narcissists in the Workplace and what to do in this article – https://bit.ly/38013uD.
Much love xo ❤️

Kindness

Kindness
Before you know what kindness really isyou must lose things,feel the future dissolve in a momentlike salt in a weakened broth.What you held in your hand,what you counted and carefully saved,all this must go so you knowhow desolate the landscape can bebetween the regions of kindness.How you ride and ridethinking the bus will never stop,the passengers eating maize and chickenwill stare out the window forever.
Before you learn the tender gravity of kindness,you must travel where the Indian in a white poncho lies dead by the side of the road.You must see how this could be you,how he too was someonewho journeyed through the night with plans and the simple breath that kept him alive.
Before you know kindness as the deepest thing inside, you must know sorrow as the other deepest thing.  You must wake up with sorrow.You must speak to it till your voicecatches the thread of all sorrowsand you see the size of the cloth. 
Then it is only kindness that makes sense anymore,only kindness that ties your shoesand sends you out into the day to mail letters and      purchase bread,only kindness that raises its headfrom the crowd of the world to sayit is I you have been looking for,and then goes with you every wherelike a shadow or a friend. –

Naomi Shihab Nyefrom The Words Under the Words: Selected Poems

Authenticity

Authenticity is not something we have or don’t have. It’s a practice , a conscious choice of how we want to live.Authenticity is actually a collection of choices, choices that we make every day. It’s the choice to show up and be real.The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen.Opening to vulnerability shows you your courage and human-ness.Vulnerability is the pathway to innovation, creativity, success and a wholehearted life. Stay open to what the universe brings to you if your plans don’t work out the way you wanted them to. When you shut the door to spontaneity and flexibility, you shut the door to miracles. Let go of thought, become still and alert, and don’t try to understand or explain. People think growth is an individual process. But true growth, the secondary change, change That is non-reversible comes from taking what you’ve built and sharing it with the world.In order that do that, yes you must work on yourself to get you to your truest state because that’s when you’re the most powerful and effective. But the nectar of growth comes from the ripple of your unique energy Which Continues to fuel your path but also Affects others and Their path. Growth then is a cycle.It starts with you.  ~ Mary Pieroszkiewicz   ❤

Dr Craig Childress, Family & Change

From Dr Craig Childress: 
“We are family.  All of us.
There’s not you and me – there’s us.
The only reason we see you and me instead of family is because we’re insane.  True.  It comes from our biological-mind (Sapolsky), we do things based on how we’re wired up.
Yet we also have the ability to over-ride the wiring – that’s our amazing adaptability – frontal lobe executive function systems.
We all came from Africa.  That’s where we are all from.  All of us.  All of us are on an unbroken line of ancestors, from our parents to our grandparents, to theirs and theirs, all the way back.  We are on an unbroken chain of life.
Many – many – many died in their pixelated journeys through time, they left no progeny, no children.  We are not descended from any of those journeys through life.  We are directly descended from the ones who survived.
We were one once.  We still are.  We’re not them and us, we’re family… of African origin, that’s our homeland, all of us.  Some of our family maintain their original beautiful hue and features, some of us have become pale and washed out from living up north in the snow and cold.  We’re still family, you, me, us, you’re tall, you’re short, you’re in a wheelchair, you’re gay, you’re straight, you’re non-binary, black, white, brown, yellow, purple, plaid, you are an absolutely beautiful child, welcome to the world.
They’re not the enemy – their family.  And… they are insane.  And… so are we.   Them and us, we are both insane, because we see enemies and not family… and because of that we do insanely violent and immensely cruel things to each other – to family.
That’s not right.  We shouldn’t do that.  We shouldn’t hurt them… and they shouldn’t hurt us.  We started in Africa and some of us left, we wandered around a lot and forgot who we are, where we came from.
Then we met each other again, and we got scared.  We had lost our connections as family, we didn’t understand.  We remained pockets of small family governed by our biological-mind.  
Then something changed 10,000 years ago.  We began our journey to transformation, out of our biological-mind and into our humanity.  It has been an immensely violent, sad, and traumatic journey.
We have reached the end.  We are the final generations of the rippling trauma of our transformation, our children will be free of our traumas – they will face their own – but their traumas will be of their own choices and decisions – conscious and aware and handled differently.
We have been insane for so long, the violence and trauma was so vast and deep.  It was a long-long journey of much suffering… too much… far too much.  Our violence and insanity was out of control.
We’ve spasmed our recovery in the French Revolution (1790s), the Trail of Tears (1850) and the Civil War (1860), and in the Holocaust (1940).  We are not so far away, we are still rippling the traumas of those who came before, our parents, their parents, and their’s and their’s.
I’ve watched the change, from Eisenhower and WW-II that I ripple, to Obama and Trump that are rippling our traumas still, our fears.
Our children are watching, are children are being traumatized in their childhoods, by economic uncertainty, a pandemic society of social isolation and fear, and social unrest and injustice.
We have two old-guys running to lead America.  I remember both from their entire histories.  I predate both in my cultural history, I’m Kennedy and Johnson, they’re 1980s and 90s.  They’re both old as dirt, they are from a different era, a different time.
They all are, all of our leaders are old.  That needs to change, and I suspect it will change once we clear pandemic.  There is immense motivation for change, from our children, to create something better – for them – which is their absolute right.
I support their voice for change – we need to do a lot about providing economic opportunity for them… for our children.  We need to do a lot about providing them with a safe, affordable, and top-tier education… for our children.  We need to do a lot to ensure that our children have affordable healthcare for themselves and their families… for our children.
These are not “them” – they are family – our brothers, sisters, husbands, wives, fathers, mothers, cousins, grandparents, and our children… most importantly our children – not your children and my children – our children – we’re family… we are not enemies.  You are simply insane.  That’s okay, we’re still family… with an insane member, you, who simply needs some compassionate help to find sanity again.  You’re still not my enemy, you’re just my crazy uncle Joe, or crazy aunt Mable.
First thing… stop being so mean.  Social skills, you learned those in preschool.  Use them.  Second thing… stop shooting people. Everyone, stop it.  Holy cow, everyone thinks that’s okay… no… it’s not.  Stop shooting people.
“What if they’re a bad guy and they want to take my stuff and hurt me?”  That’s crazy Bob, he’s the son of Mary and Joseph, no don’t shoot him, he’s family, let’s get him some help.  Don’t kill him… let’s get him some help, he’s family and he’s having a hard time.
Stop shooting people.
“What about Nazis in WW-II, can we shoot them?”  First off, there shouldn’t be Nazis, that should be a DSM-5.1 disorder; Pathological Anger and Pathological Violence. That should be a diagnosable psychiatric condition that receives treatment.
Craig Childress, Psy.D.Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857”

Bruce on Social Responsibility .I concur

You have all this social responsibility now that you imagine your life is being threatened by a virus that 99.5 to 9% of us will skate through, but you had no social responsibility when you ate, drank and smoked your hormonal and immune systems into malfunctioning vulnerability and you became diabetic, obese, asthmatic, arthritic, a burden on our collective and dependent on debilitating pharmaceuticals. You had no social responsibility when you mocked, and still mock, the people who spoke with knowledge about natural organic foods, natural lifestyles, exercise and vitamins, naturopathic medicine or how positive thinking and emotional peace affects your staying healthy and strong…But now you wait anxiously for that next savior vaccine to protect you because you’re weak and vulnerable mocking and cussing at people and pointing fingers at those who question unsettled science, planned media info wars, corporate run government lies and for profit oriented allopathic big pharma medicine establishment… I understand your fear, I truly empathize with your situation however your enemy is within you so don’t take it out on the rest of us as being socially irresponsible for questioning authority, statistics and mainstream news or your sanity too. Tough Love time.