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Conflict Communications – Child Psychological Abuse

I regret I spoke truths sons were not ready for.. I regret they carry the anger , hostility, and fears of their Dad that allow them to target me and relay how worthless I am .

I regret I did not have an awareness in 2003 , as I began to wake , eventually understanding the gravity of decisions made when I wasn’t awake, or alert to schemes to separate me from anything normal in so many ways including the rejection of me , so Dad would be happy ..

I regret , but am surrendered after over 2 decades that I remain the monster in their closets , they are happy and secure in the love and family dynamic of a Dad who had to WIN, at everything , disregarding the abuses of each child and myself .

They have families, they have children , and their own destiny which they have allowed me to know doesn’t include me .

Personal Authority – Badmouthing the other parent .

I found myself responsible for speaking factual, unsavory information while medicated . My efforts to extract myself from his energy was ever present . Total opposites after the mirroring that he was everything , had and knew all in a non competitive way .. it was very difficult that person did not exist .

When a child hears one parent badmouth the other, or when both parents badmouth, they feel upset, anxious, angry, confused, and deeply uncomfortable. At first – unfortunately, they can grow accustomed to it. Children have attachment bonds to both parents they love and who love them. What the alienating parent is doing, with their badmouthing (lies, defamation, casting aspersions, insults etc) is damaging the child and ‘target’ parent’s relationship, whether it is wilful and completely conscious or not.

During divorce proceedings and post-divorce, parents might not be at their best. It is a highly stressful situation. Disagreements and misunderstandings can get blown out of proportion, and this isn’t helped by an adversarial legal system. But the children are also stressed at this time. What they do not need is their sense of vulnerability and anxiety being compounded by alienating behaviours such as badmouthing. It’s actually an unkind, abusive and sinister thing for a parent to do. To tell a child their other parent is unloving, unavailable, and unsafe and to repeat these aspersions until the child succumbs to them (just to make it stop) is child psychological abuse. It is traumatic.

There are subtle, covert ways the alienating parent can make the child feel they’ve lost a parent. Calling that parent by their name rather than ‘mum’ or ‘dad’ is one example. The child might start doing the same. The parent is devalued, demeaned and demoted to nothing more than a distant relative. The alienating parent may take some half-truths and exaggerate them. For example, ‘they’re lazy’ can become ‘they’re deliberately not working hard enough, so they don’t have to contribute to our financial well-being, and they’re lying about what they earn’, and ‘they don’t care about us’.

No party should disparage the other. Nor should any third party, especially within the hearing range of the child. Children should not be privy to what one parent thinks about the other. It doesn’t curb someone’s right to free speech, it’s just good parenting.

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Critical Mass- Inspired

Waking in 2003 to a lot of change , in a state of addiction via psychiatry, and the cover up of my abuse , I had absolutely no input in our children’s lives , etc , I was aware of the spiritual impact. I was a seeker of information on many levels , many topics , as I withdrew from the toxic RX , I studied on line .

I was thrilled to be so Blessed by so many teachers , showing up , and sharing their information on whatever subject I needed guidance with .. I learned to research ..I self tested and rebuilt my life.. albeit walking it back often! But I did not give up .

I realized that a light shone within me and I tried to let that shine that has been off/on .

I ran across a lady , Karen Bishop who wrote on a site ” What’s up on Planet Earth.

She spoke of the shift , around 2006/7 , she wrote of it only taking 11% of the World’s population to create a shift / change , and acknowledged that we had that .

Generations before us , over time laid the foundation , for the change that is happening currently .

#WeGotThis😘🙏🏼✌️

It’s a given that many have cleared generations of abuses , untruths , and much harm.. Not everybody has or will awaken to the positivity of change , and sadly I have acknowledged that , and that there are folks I many never see again..

I am ready, I am resting by grand design and I am rewarded for my efforts that have been ignored , destroyed as the attempt to strip me of possessions , in such trying times, indeed to depress me so much as to take my life… nope , not even close .

Sad that folks come together to do much harm, have a boomerang headed their way , as they expose their hypocrisy and ignorance and lack of growth, in these days of rising , too often the choice is to descend ..

Inspired below

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Human Rights Education can Shift Medical Students’ Perspectives on Psychiatry

The 80’s known as the ” society of suicide “, has numbed many folks who have no idea what human rights are legally violated , championed by the law and justice system, the Pharmaceutical Industry ( of death$$$) as its invaded every aspect of life . Erasing families , choosing to use the 1 , scapegoat, fooling, repeating the trauma , true insanity by medicating a traumatized individual , and reducing them with toxins , altering their truth and character which is denied ..

This is progress as stated below, long past due and more folks are awake to the facts .. For this I am grateful . It’s past time to get to the heart of the matter .

A new study explores how training and education centered on human rights facilitates increased awareness and advocacy for change to psychiatry in medical students.
— Read on www.madinamerica.com/2023/06/human-rights-education-can-shift-medical-students-perspectives-on-psychiatry/

The Best & The Worst – Narcissist Teacher- Lessons – Growth

The effort to control , the silent aggression, the covert , full fact frontal abuse …modeled to 3 sons as ” normal ” …

The Narcissist Teacher – Thank you- Goodbye

Thankful for the lesson, the growth , and the conclusion of these harsh lessons … no more blocks towards my ” normal ” which is of peace and harmony even if it’s a party of one… I’m never alone or unloved or neglected in this exquisite , beautiful world that’s being being rebirthed, recreated in love 😻.

Comparisons 1st shot May 2023, age 71 .. 2nd shot early 2000’s

Unmediated , 18 years , never going back …

Medicated to the hilts . Early age 50’s , early 2000’s . Only partially revealing adverse ” side effects ” of being medicated by highly toxic , legal prescription drugs and disinterested family and friends , busy in their lives .

All this was reduced to the expression that was voiced years ago through a child of mine , made me ” grow up”.

Yes, I did grow , am still growing and more than ready to move forward , past the past that keeps a greedy , silent presence …no more, no way, no how ..

Change indeed , in so many beautiful mysterious and profound ways .

Pathogenic Parenting

It is not normal for a child to align with one parent over another who is ‘normal-range’, willing, loving, available. It should be something all family courts are alert to because it is a sign of parental alienation and there is pathogenic parenting going on here. It is child psychological abuse. To cope with the traumatic experience of being told terrible things about one parent by the other who also requires and coaxes that child to fear, loathe and reject their loved, loving ‘target’ parent, the child psychologically ‘splits’. It is a way of cutting off from the love they feel (that they cannot feel anymore) for the rejected parent. It seems counter-intuitive but even in abusive relationships, the victim seeks love and affection from the perpetrator. It’s Stockholm Syndrome, and ‘identification with the aggressor’ which I’ve covered in other posts. The alienated child is angry, rude, and highly critical of the ‘other’ parent. The experts should be wary of the child who has few if any good memories of the alienated parent, and has no wish to repair the relationship. Abused children want a good relationship with their abusive parent. This is hard to believe but true. The abused (alienated) child wants to downplay or deny any wrongdoing on the part of the ‘aligned’ parent, they don’t do the same with the ‘target’ parent. These are red flags.

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Child Psychological Abuse : I’m the only one who loves you

An alienating parent seeks to control the children to hurt the other parent. They lie, they twist the truth, they misinterpret events wilfully, and they say and do everything and anything to control the narrative so that your truth and your love become something the alienated child no longer trusts. This is why parental alienation is described as abuse (psychological, mental, emotional). What is even harder for you is that other people – even those who could support and protect – all too often do not recognise the lies and false allegations. Saying it rubs salt in the wound is insufficient in describing the injustice, grief pain inflicted. It is not the behaviour of a loving parent, but a fearful, controlling and/or vengeful parent who does this. It is a disordered mentality and yet this person will typically refuse counselling or collaboration. There are so many signs that should be fairly easy to spot. What we need to do is to educate those who can help us about how they can do their job and help us. Please see my red flag warning post and others for more on this.

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